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Hello, my name is Kutt. I am 14 years of age, and I feel like giving advice to anyone who needs it. For, I have been given alot of advice, and for this knowledge, I want to pass it down. So, if you have anything to ask, ask me! Now, my other friend is sharing this account with me.



My Name is Savanna. I am simple, humble, and will not be as idiotic as my friend here to give out any personal info what so ever. But, I am willing to always help those in need. I am wise for my years, believe it or not, and have seen some things that no teens should see. I give sage advice, in fact, Kutt up there is one of my very first friends to whom I have given advice. I will probably not be as active as my dear old friend, but when I am on, I will help who ever I can.



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okay there is this guy that told me he liked me first and then i said i liked him. we talked for a while and then summer came along. we havent seen eachother at all yet i and i want to before i leave for vacation in a week. I asked him to do something and he always just says i dont know. then when im talking to him online i feel like im annoying him becuase he doesnt really talk, but then again most guys dont. Then the other day i was on his myspace and i saw a comment from this girl and it was like yah so were gunna chill soon? and he commented her back and was lik yahh im free after sunday. and then i couldnt remember if i had told him i was going on vacation next week or not and thats why he said it. but i have been played over by like 5 guys already and really dont want it to happen again. soo how i can find out if he is or not? and how can i get him to hang out? im so confused about everythingg.

I'd straight out ask him. I'd ask him if it's really worth it to try to have something with him. Because what you've said now just sounds like he's messing with your heart. And I know you don't want to hear it. Even if he had time to hang after sunday, he would have mentioned something or other...

But really, don't get yourself so tangled up about him...Just ask him, I mean, if he still likes you it should be okay right? Wouldn't you want to know how he feels about you, so you don't feel like you're being lead on?

And if worse comes to worse, and he was just playing you, there are many other guys out there that will be perfect for you...Normally with liking a guy, you find out what you like about the guy while you try to get to know him...Then if you both do go into a relationship, you look for what you like in that relationship. If the relationship doesn't work, that's okay. You know then what you're looking for in a relationship, and you learn from all your previous experiences.

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Hey everyone.

I recently met a really great guy named Collin about a week ago. Ever since we met, we've hung out together 2 times. He seems amazing & we talk on the phone every night. Problem is he's 23 years old & I'm 16. I know, I know - big problem. It sucks. I never thought my parents would ever make such a big deal out of something, especially age - since they started dating when my dad was 21 & my mom was 16.

Everyone in my family thinks it's a HORRIBLE idea. They all tell me it makes them feel sick that he's even wanting to be around people my age. He's in college & he's an all-around great guy that just seems to be interested in me. We're great when we're together & we don't push things on each other. It's just like a relationship where we have mutual feelings.

I have no idea where to go from this point on. Both of my parents said they don't want me to see him anymore. [I never in a million years thought they would EVER tell me I couldn't see someone.] I know if I sit down & talk to them, and try and change their minds, they may. I just have no idea what to say.

My eldest sister, whose 29 years old is super close to my parents, so she's of course giving her opinions on the situation, and they're all bad, like "She shouldn't see him!" & "I don't want to meet him - he's not coming to my wedding!" & all of those negative things.

Please help.
Although I will want to hear all of the reasons why I shouldn't continue a relationship, please give me some ideas to where I could continue it. I don't think I could end it right now, it just seems way too much for me.

Thanks in advance.

I am truly sorry, but I don't think I could give you any reasons of why you should continue that relationship. I can see where you're families concerns would come from. He is to old for you, and I am sorry to say that. At this point in life, he is. If you truly like him, and he truly likes you, tell him to wait a few years. Like, when you're 20 and hes 27... and then the age isnt THAT big of a deal. Thats what I would do. Hope I helped...

~Savanna

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so ive turned 18 most of my friends are in relationships and im not i feel really low sometimes because im not like ugly or anything or fat i keep thinking why do i not have a bf! Ive just never found anyone i could say yeh ive been in love with him,all i keep thinking about is my x and he was very mean to me im still a virgin and im getting old now someone please help! i mean also there was a x i still kind of like but i duno if he still likes me.

I honestly know how you feel, but don't let it stand in your way. As the others have said, you're still young! Don't worry about it. You have a whole life to live, and much time to get a boyfriend and such. I honestly wouldn't dwell on it. Get some of your single friends together and go out and party! Have a good time... And don't worry about not having a boyfriend. You'll find the right guy soon enough.

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My best friend is kind of going through a hard time... She really loved this boy and they broke up earlier this year. She's still not over him. Sometimes, she gets really upset and cries and I comfort her and talk to her. Especially when she justt found out he was going with this girll to the 8th grade dancee. She's been upset lately. I don't mind it at all, what are best friends for, right? Butt, what can I say to her? I tell her how great she is, how any guy would be lucky to be with her, boys are dumb and he made a huge mistkae that hopefully he'll realize with in time, and a bunch of other stuff. But what else do I say?? What advice to I give? Ill rate 5's!!

Well, I would say at this point, don't say, do. Try and get her to do things that would get her to take her mind off of things. Get a few of your friends together and go have a good time! One of my close friends just recently went through the same thing. If you keep them busy, they tend to forget faster. While afirming her self esteem is ALWAYS important, you need to not just say, but do. Hope that helps!

~Savanna

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My boyfriend tends to lie to me about stupid things..like money. If he has 100 bucks he tells me he only has 50 and such. And I have caught him in his lies so many times. He told me that he woul d stop because he didn't know that i cared that he lied about stupid stuff like that.But in my opinion if he lies to me about small things than he's lied to me about more important things.What should I do to get it through his head that I don't appreciate him lying to me all the time.

Well, there really is no way to get it through to him. I would keep impressing the matter upon him, and try to get him to realize it. But as you said, if you lies to you about little things, than he probably lies to you about more imporatant things. If you catch him again... As harsh as it sounds, I would dump him because nothing good ever comes out of liars.

~Savanna

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OK here goes....I dated this guy for a year and half exactly. I broke up with him bc i basically opened my eyes and seen that i wasnt being treated the right way and i sorta found someone who really cares about me but i really still care about my ex. He was my first love and i dont know how to make the hurt go away. I mean i dont want to get back with him but i do want the hurt and pain to go away. How do i make it go away.

There really never is a way to move on from your first love... You will most likely carry a little piece of him for the rest of your life. Sad, but true. What you can do though... Is do constructive things... Try to get your mind off of it. It's kind of like, say, when you hurt you leg. The pain is there for a while, but then you do something else and forget about it, and soon you never even knew it was there. That's all I could really say.

~Savanna

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I'm asking this for a friend. He wants to move from TX back to FL but he doesn't know how to tell his alcholic father that. Plus his Dad throws everything back in his face. Any ideas?

Well, there is never a good way to tell anyone you want to move out. I personally would try and sit my parents down and have a mature conversation with them. Tell him to explain to his dad why he wants to move out. I would honestly see that as the best option... and hopefully his dad would see that and agree.

~Savanna

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Okay well, in the past I have had a good amount of boyfriends. Im turning 16 and I have had about 6. I dunno seems like a fair amount. Anyway, in the beggining of my relationships everything is great, I usually like them a lot and everything is just... well great! but then I lose interest in the guy and it usually occurs the second week of dating. And I quickly try and avoid the "boyfriend" at school or say i am busy for dates because I feel uncomfortable, like I dont understand! They do not do anything wrong and they are great people it's just weird. Although my last boyfriend and I lasted 3 months and I only started getting that feeling the 2nd month (I know i am horrible at breaking up with guys and I really wanted to make it work so I kept telling myself you like him a lot dont break up with him, wait it out, but whatever that was a failure) it feels like I am never going to find a soulmate that it right for me cuz then I will get a stupid funny feeling saying oh no you dont like him, break up, run away! It's harder than what it seems. And I am actually really scared because how am I supposed to fall in love and have kids and get a husband!?!?! :( this is like something i am terrified of and have been terrified of for a long time. Help please =/

Well, honestly, I wouldn't be scared. You said you were 16, which gives you AMPLE time to figure things out. You're young and probably just like to play the field... You don't like being tied down to one person, or at least that's what it seems like. If you like someone, give them a chance, but don't bring their hopes up that you will be with them for a long time. Just explain to them how you feel if you don't like them any more and move on... just be gentle. And don't worry about Marriage or kids... At the VERY least I would say you have AT LEAST 3 years or more before you even need to begin thinking about that kind of thing. So just calm down, relax, and enjoy yourself for the time being!

~Savanna

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i went out with this persn who lives in the same town as my cousin. I met him online though and thats how he asked me out. I never met him becuause i dumped him befor we got to meet. wen my mom found out about this she got really mad, and she told all my aunts and stuff, and she told me she never wants me to meet him. His best friend is my cousins bf though, so if i ever meet my cousins bf, then my ex will probly be there too, and we're still friends so i kinda do want to meet him. wat should i do? should i just avoid him?

Well, I honestly wouldn't avoid him, and I could tell why your mother would be worried. There are a lot of scary people out there, and they are not always who they say they are. If you see your cousin, and her b/f's friend, you can't very well prevent that, but I would be up front and honest with you mom about it if you ever do meet him. I would just never go OUT of your way... Cause that could get you in a lot of trouble... But if you just meet him because he's with your cousin, then it wouldn't be like it was intentional. I would tell your mom, and she might be a LITTLE mad... but she will respect the honesty, and hopefully understand that it wasn't on purpose.

~Savanna

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Ok i'm a 13 year old girl. My boyfriend is 16!
I don't know what i should do about that cuz he's 3 years older then me. And he's never kissed a girl... so should i stay with him or should i dump him cuz he might do something with me??

My opinion is...
I think 13 year olds shouldn't be going out.
You are way too young still. Wait a couple more years.
And plus, he is 16? That's kind of scary, and your parents know? If they don't, then this can turn out bad. You should dump him, because he is old for you especially you are only 13.
Be glad you are still a kid, and don't rush things like this.

(It also sounds like he is desperate if he is 16 and is going out with a 13 year old. But eh, that's just what I think.)

-Kutt

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ive known robbie since the 8th grade. we used to chill alot, but we stopped for a bit. now that we are going to be juniors we have talked. in may i saw him at the carnival and we were talking. he started IMing me after that and we talked alot. since june hes been texting me alot. we`ve been talking a real lot and when he was away for a week and a half we talked every night either texting or on the phone. i know its sounds like a stupid- non serious thing but we`re older and its just idk. we hungout on the 4th and hookedup. we like eachother and he said hed want to go out with me after we chilled. but.. im scared.. i know he already likes me but we`ve only chilled like twice, and thats fine but we are going to a concert tomorrow and im scared hes going to think im like chubby or grosse. idk i have no confidnece and im just so scared about him. hes not snobby or anything but yeha im a pretty girl but i feel he can do alot better and it just scares me. what should i do when im with him at the concert tmra to make sure hes like serious and stuff?

Well... I wouldn't ask him. Some people take the direct way... But I've seen it cause more problems than it helps. I would say just go and have fun with it! Have confidence in yourself, put on a little extra make-up (not enough to look like a clown, of course) and put fourth a little more effort than usual... Then do little things to show him you're commited. Just see how the night goes, than talk to him about it later. That's honestly what I would do myself.

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