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hey thanx so much for the adivice i really am gonna try and find a new boyfriend. and i think ur rite i need to tell him how i feel and that i dont wanna lose him. ok well i dont really have a question i just wanted to thank u.

Ohh good im glad to see that you are looking on the bright side and i really hope everything goes well with you and him and that you find someone special soon =] Let me know how you get on and if you have any questions about ANYTHING any other time dont be afraid to ask me because i'll always give you an answer =]

Good Luck

Sarah

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Hi, This is kinda long but I really need help.
I been going with this boy for a month now and I was really feeling him. Like he made me so happy. But now I dont even know if he even cares anymore. Like I planned on having SEX with him. I was doing to show how much I cared about him. Like i was thinking I loved him. But He had said he didn't love me I understood, but he had said he was lost without me, i asked him did he mean it he said no! So now i dont even know if I still like him or if he likes me anymore. What do ya'll think i should do about this situation? Please help me!!!!

Well it sounds like this boy is messing you around abit. I would advise you not to have sex with him because he doesn't seem mature enough in the relationship. If he cant tell you how he feels straight he's not worth it. Relationships take time and seeing as its only been a month you need to wait a bit longer and see how things go, because your feelings could change. Dont sell yourself short, and as you said you dont even know if you like him anymore so if this is how you feel maybe its best that the relationship doesnt go any further. Hope This Helped Good Luck =] x

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i have guy friends that i talk to sometimes and my boyfriend gets mad easily for that and i DONt like them i LOVE my boyfriend and i dont know how to tell him that he just doesnt get it. Its really hard for my boyfriend to understand that i dont like them. help?

Firstly best thing to do is talk to him, if you have a good relationship then you should be able to be open with each other and get it straight that you love him and they are just your FRIENDS, because otherwise if you had any interest in your guy friends you would be with them not him wouldn't you? And try telling him that if he has girl mates then say the way you are with them is how i am with my guy friends. Compare the relationships to make him see and understand properly on what your trying to say. Jelousy wont get him anywhere. Good Luck Hope This Helped =] x

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First and foremost, may I say that I am not trying to be conceited. However, it is apparent that almost EVERY guy I know looks at me, sees I'm sexy, assumes I'm easy, and thinks he can get in my pants. This has become a real problem for me. I feel as though no one sees me for me. Nobody sees past what I look like. I don't want to stop being sexy, not that I even try. I think I have a great personality- I'm fun, I'm chill. I will NOT downplay my looks in any way. To me, that doesn't solve the problem. How can I get guys to see me for me?

Firstly not all lads are like that maybe you just havent bumped into the right bunch..When you meet new people give off the impression that you want to get to know them and if they respond in the same way you know your getting somewhere. If not then they are not worth it. You do not need to change your looks your right you shouldnt have to change for anybody but if you think it is making people act differently towards you let them know how you feel, give hints that you are NOT easy and make it CLEAR. Good Luck Hope This Helped =] x

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no matter how hard i try i just can't seem to get over my ex boyfriend. its been about a month n a half since we broke up. and i love/loved him with everything. i tried dating other ppl, but nothing works :( any suggestions on how to move on?

15/f

maybe you should sit down and think of all the bad pionts your ex boyfriend has, this will therefore, make the process of getting over him quicker, you maybe thinking that you are never going to get over him but i assure you, you will, through dating more boys, you may find one that you click with, then you will forget you even liked this ex boyfriend, also maybe telling your ex boyfriend how you feel and see how he reacts and you may be able to make it as friends. Also being with friends and doing something you enjoy will hopefully have your mind occupied by other things. But this sort of thing always happens and over time these feelings should fade just dont try to hold on to something when it doesnt exist because you will wish you didnt waste your time on that something. Good Luck =] x

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Okay, so I'm turning 15 in November, and I've had 2 boyfriends, both were my best friends at the time, and in 5/6th grade. Guys just don't seem to like me.

I've been told I'm nice, but I'm definately not pretty. Although I wouldn't say I'm butt ugly:
[this is my myspace, to see the picture:
www.myspace.com/stephanie_elizabeth121a

I would just like to know some tips on getting boys to like me more.

It seem that your worried that your looks are making it harder for you to get a boyfriend. At your age i wont be suprised if our boy crazy and really want someone to care for you and care about. There is nothing you can really do to make boys like you more than be yourself. Dont try to be someone else, be confident and presentable. Be strong and passionate about yourself. Most boys notice girls by the way they carry their self, dont change for anyone, boys will come when you least expect it, you just have to wait, but dont expect things to just come to ou by sitting on your bum. You have to try aswell and show people what sort of person your like and that you are fun to be with. There are so many boys out their you just have to wait untill you find your match. Good things come to those who wait. =] Good Luck x

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hi my name is tani, you answered my question called "i dont why this keeps happening" which was about my boyfriend trouble and i wanted to thank you for the great advice and if u dont mind could u give me some more advise about it. maybe the reason i go out with him is cause im scared he will be the only guy i will have a chance with and i dont want to let him go. no matter what we try to stay good friends and we talk about loads of stuff together, but its just so weird staying friends cause we frenched and have been so sexually close. (we havent had sex we just touch each other with our clothes on, nothin bad) and its hurts so much to see him with another girl. its like i want him when hes taken but i dont want him all that much when i CAN have him. i just dont know what to do. i mean i am keeping my options open im looking for other guys, im just so painfully shy thats its hard to meet new people. please help me.

Hey Tani, firstly your welcome =] Secondly well you should'nt feel like he is the only one you have a chance with. There are soo many fish in the sea and you never know when you will catch one you just have to wait untill you get a bite. I think maybe you like having him as your boyfriend because you like the fact that someone cares about you especially if he is also like your best friend. But i know what you mean by wanting him when your not together and not wanting him that much when you are. This happens to quite alot of people. I think its probably because your so close to him you feel you will loose him as a friend if your not with him as bf, i suggest if you do love him as a FRIEND rather than a BOYFRIEND then stay good friends and tell him how you feel. You need to be open with him and tell him you are reali afraid of loosing him. Also many friends kiss and end up in a relationship but then end it because they are too good friends. Then again you could like him really but i cant tell you how you feel or what exactly to do because i am not you and only you know how you truly feel, but if it hurts you that much seeing him with another girl then maybe you like him really unless you just dont want him to go off with her and forget about you. If this is the case then you have to distract yourself hang out with your girlfirends, make new friends and meeting a new guy will DEFFINATELY help you get over another lad.

I see you say your painfull shy, we all go through this i use to be so so so shy but i met new girl mates who where confident and introduced me into lads and that completly changed me i became so confident and now i am happy with how i am and its easier to meet new people. Girls are more easier to talk to so try making new friends who make you feel good about yourself and who you get along with well and they will introduce you to new friends girls AND boys, you just have to push yourself to be social. Hoped this helped let me know how you get on and if you have anyother questions just ask me! =] Good Luck! x

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Any guys out there???

What makes a good girl kisser?

Having a lot of experience?
Kinda rough and lip biting?
Or softly touching lips and tongues?

Any advice you could give to make girls better kissers???

Well i am not a guy but still here is some of my advice..Soft/gentle kissing is usually good but then sometime passionate is too, experimenting is the best way, some people are good at kissing and some are not. Experience could help. Tongues is also a good way to kiss its more passionate as long as you dont stuff it down someone throat if you start off gentle and get into a more intimate kiss after a while then that is good. There are many techniques, biting lips, kissing the upper lip or bottom lip only, french, ect just experiment. x

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Alright so my friend and I just recently found out that this guy basically played both of us. Us being us aren't just going to sit around and let this go by . Were going to get back. However we dont have any good ideas. Any suggestions?
thankss :]

Watch the film "John Tucker Must Die" Classic!! =] x

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Ok.. I am new to this thing. So i dont know exactly what Im doing, and I cant believe I am doing this! But I need help. Me and my boyfriend had sex, used a comdom. I am just a couple days later for my period BUT I am having really bad stomach pains, my lower back is killing me, Im having vagina pains, feeling sick in the middle of the day and bad headaches. Could I be pregnant?..

Well i think the best way to find out is to get a pregnancy test straight away! It could just be your period starting but if you are not sure then i advise you to get a pregnancy test..
Good Luck x =]

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Ok I live where all the girls are major sluts and the guys are sex fiends and I've never even kissed a guy [[I mean I have kissed on the mouth but not french or anything]] and a guy I really liked is getting into me and he wants to makeout with me but I gave him an excuse because he's REALLY experienced with girls. I want to makeout with a guy and everything but not him, I dont want look stupid or anything so I already know I'm NOT [[I wont change my mind]] going to but I dont have anybody else who will help me!!! My sister wants to get someone to help me but there is no use for her with all the people she knows, anyway I dont know if you know what Im talking about but I would appreciate your advice!!!


-Stacy f/14

Stacy, it's good that you are aware of how the people around you act and that you are being sensible. It sounds to me that you like the thought of a "real" kiss but just havent experienced it and you want to experience it? If this is the case all i can say is dont do something just because everyone else is doing it and make sure you find the RIGHT PERSON, someone you actually like and who isn't trying to get a bit. It takes some time to find someone and all you can do is wait for that person. You can have fun but just dont do anything you dont want to with people you dont like. Make new friends and those friends could lead you to someone special, sometimes things happen when you least expect it. Dont feel in a rush to do anything, it doesn't matter that you haven't properly kissed a guy yet there is no rule saying you have to! =] I hope i helped if you have any questions feel free to ask, Good Luck Stacy x

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girls are so complicated cuz when i try to do somethin they always complain and whenever they are sick ill talk to them all night but they say i didnt talk long enough? and whenever they misss me i do whatever i can to get to them but they say i didnt try hard enough even though i got there and i even brought flowers a chocalate? sometimes i dont get girls or should i say some girls?

what should i do?

Well there are many fish in the sea, every girl is different, maybe you are just running into the wrong ones. It sounds like you try your hardest but these girls you talk about dont seem to realise that, maybe you could talk to them and tell them how you feel?

Some girls can be VERY complicated i know but then some can be perfect for you. As long as you know you are doing the best you can do is wait and see what else is out there and who will appreciate you for who you are and what you do.

Hope things go well, Good Luck =] x

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ok i like this boy and we have been going out off and on this entire school year. At first i really like him maybe even love him then we go out and about 2 weeks later i end up not liking him. then we break up and about a week later i decide i like or love him again and it all starts over. i dont know why i cant stay in love with him or why i can stay away from him. please tell me whats going on!!

Hmm this seems like a tricky situation. Firstly you cant help your feelings and who/when you fall for someone. I think your problem is that when you first went out you probably spent a bit too much time together and got bored of each other so thats why the relationship stopped, because you were bored. Then if you stopped spending time with this boy all together then you maybe started to miss him..so that meant you wanted to spend time with him again and realised you do still like him. Its like a circle really. I think all you can do is wait and see what happens, if its meant to be then it will happen, wait and see how you feel and if you do realise you do like him overall make sure you spend days together AND days apart so you dont get bored with each other. But if yo dont like him maybe you could just stay good friends? I hope this helped =] If you have anything you want to say dont be afraid to ask =] x Good Luck

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