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Ok this Sat.im going to a semi formail dance with my best friend. But here's the thing .. idk how to slow dance, ive never done it before. What do you do? And where should I be looking, in his eyes, or just like around. Im soooo confused , pleaseee help. PS, i really like him so im prob. gonna be nervous

heyy sweetie
well try not to overthink things because that can really mess you up- thinking back on my first slow dance i didnt think much of it, i put my hands on his shoulders, kept my focus on us, and followed his lead.
i hope that helps a little
good luck!!! xoxo

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warning --this is extremely long =\
ok well im 14/f in 8th grade.
ok so the summer before 7th grade like changed everything. theres this boy, chris that i never really talked to until that summer. i dont kno how it started but one day we just started talking online and he told me how he used to like me and everything. after that we just kept talking throughout the whole summer, and that's when i started to like him.
we continued to talk online, but we never actually hung out. then one day, i told him i liked him. he said he liked me too but i kinda just shrugged it off and we didn't go out or anything.
so then 7th grade started. we hardly talked for the first couple months. then i remember in october, there was a halloween dance, and my one friend, who was really good friends with him at the time, was like oh you guys should dance together.. we didn't. i was stupid and just like stood there. i'm also REALLY REALLY shy, so talking to him online for me was easy, but to his face, i got like speechless. i know that after a while though, i'd become more outgoing around him. but that never happened..
so during november, he asked me out again. except it was online and through my friend. i, for the second time, was stupid, and said no. i regret it to this day. like the time before that, he didnt actually ask me out. but this time, he was, and it was soo weird for me cause he would've been my first boyfriend, so i just like freaked out and said no. i regret it soo much. i just wonder how things would've been =[
anyway, i think after that, he had this thing with like kicking me in the hall. lol not like to hurt me.. but yeah soo that was like our thing for a week or two, but then one day i went over to him to kick him and he was like "im not kicking you anymore" i dont know what exactly he meant by that. i dunno if he meant this is stupid, i dont want to get in trouble [cause one time a teacher yelled at us lol] or that he didnt like me anymore. but i duno
after that we continued to talk online still. but it was becoming more me iming him first and he didnt talk as much, it was usually me talking the most .
the rest of 7th grade was just a blur. towards the end he went out with different girls, and rarely talked to me. i still imed him online, but he acted like he didnt care.
i know this sounds weird, but i became kinda like stalkerish online. i like imed him everyday. i regret it alott .i guess i was just desperate for him to like me or something.
the summer was like that too..so then 8th grade started and i dunno what happened. we rarely talk except if he asks to borrow a pen or something. he's only in one of my classes. one time in like september i kinda just like let out my feelings when i was iming him. he told me that im shy, which i know i am..i think thats why he doesnt like me.. he liked me in 6th grade because he didnt know me, and now he thinks he does, but he doesnt b/c im not always shy.
anyway, i havent spoken to him online since september or october. i talk to him in school rarely, but its not even talking its like, him asking me for a pencil and me being like "here" ughh. i just wish things were back to the way they used to be. like the day before 7th grade he was like i cant wait to go to school tomorrow cause ill see you..=[ i miss that.
now we never talk. AND he has a girlfriend..they were going out since october but broke up in february like, twice, but not they're back together. i doubt it will last..
i mean like sometimes i'll catch him looking at me. i duno. i still like him so muchh. he probably doesnt even remember or care, about what happened between us. i just wish he would realize what it means to me. i dunno wut to do. how should i talk to him? i want us to atleast talk more again. i know i should get over him but ive tried and i cant. should i say something to him in class, and what should i say? should i try iming him again? or would that be weird since i havent imed him since september? im desperateee=[ thank you so much

heyy

well i dont think i have exactly what your looking for but i've been in the SAME postion (actually right now lol-everything you just said matches me more/less) so your not alone but anyway deffinately i/m him because i i/med "my" guy lol for the first time after september and just carried it by the usual (hi, whats up, how did you think you did on that test?) how i started talking to my friend again i just simply stopped him for two seconds and said- hey we never talk anymore. i dont know if the guy you like will catch on but mine did and we started talking.

goodluck and i hope i helped! xoxo

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Okay. This is going to be a longer entry but i'd really love the advice, i need some help on this one. So there's a guy at my school. this is going to sound incredibly typical, but i really do like him a lot. I have for a long time, i think its been about 5-6 years. We were together on and off for the majority of last year, but we had some conflicts and he said he didnt want a romantic relationship over the summer, but maybe once school started up again. This school year is almost over, and he's basically told me and some of my friends he liked me. We flirt with each other a lot, but every once in a while we just kind of stop talking, like for a week or so. I dont really know why, except that he's kind of shy when it comes to me. But with other people he's totally out there, and doesnt hold back at all. Recently, another girl has started to like him too. She's apparently really obsessed, and i do mean obsessed. She writes poems about him and basically freaks out everytime she hears his name. she follows him around and he's all she ever talks about. He knows about all of it, and has no interest in her. i feel bad for her, but at the same time i'm kind of annoyed. she found out he liked me and watches me all the time. her friends question me, him, his friends, my friends, and other people about our feelings for eachother all the time. One of this girls friends asked him if he liked me and he said if he liked me he'd ask me out. I was disappointed at first but just earlier that week we'd been flirting like crazy and his friends were telling everybody about how he talks about me so much and how much he likes me. I'd love to talk to him about it but the truth is i'm totally shy. I really need some advice, either on what i could do to get over my fears or what some of that stuff means. For those of you who read this far, thank you so much. Like i said i really need some help. ♥

heyy
well what he said about asking you out could have been just to get that girl to shut up, or he could be waiting until the perfect time , or maybe hes just as nervous as you are. thats what im guessing because guys confuse every girl- lol. but maybe to confront him you can write a note to him or get one of your friends to ask him.

hope i can help and good luck! xoxo

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ok.. so heres my question.. i am 14/f and i like this guy, and i know he likes me.. we might go out in the near future.. but hes 16.. and we dont see each other alot, except on weekends when he picks me us and we go to the mall or movies or something.. are we too far apart in age? or is it common for people of our ages to go out?

No0o
i don't think 14 and 16 is that far apart in age, and hey- if you guys get together and are happy, who cares about 2 years anyway? Demi and Ashton arent close in age! Of cousre they arent teenagers and if this guy was like 18 or 19 the age limited would be pushed but my answer is no its not too far apart - and it is common, especially where i live for people 2 years apart to go out-so anyway goodluck! and i hope i could help

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Ive been going out with my boyfriend Jon for about 7 months i met him last year when i started at a new highschool weve always had a relationship that we get into little arguments about nothing but they never last very long.now were going out and we still get into little arguments alot id say like every day 2 or 3 times.Its kind of like the arguments that the couple had in the notebook theyd be yelling at each other but theyd still kiss and say i love you,lately weve been talking about the way we act and why we let each other get to each other so bad.I know we both care about each other alot everyone tells me how much he cares about me that theyve never seen him so happy with any other girl..but these fights why do you think they happen?is it a bad thing?if it is how can we just stop arguing?

hey sweetie
well all i can give you is really my opinion

Maybe you get into these fights because of (maybe) jealousy?Maybe you two aren't cut out for eachother. You can do better and be better off with someone else who you dont fight with so often? I think it could be a bad thing only because- wouldnt you be happier with someone who you get along with 10x better? I don't think there would be a way to stop the arguing because you will still stick with your opinion which will build up on you and eventually, in the end, come out. Everyday you fight? Thats a little much. Please don't be offended or mad about what i said and the advice i gave- i try to be straight foward. and i hope everything pieces together. Good luck with jon.

hope i can help

xoxoxo3

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well..i guess i should start from the begining to give a good backround for ya'll to work on. well it all started back in 7th grade when this boy started bugging me. he was a new student so i tried to be nice but he was kind of annyoing and he would keep bothering me about stupid things so i ignored him most of the time. so in 8th grade, me and him actually became really close after a dance that we had at school. a lot of people thought we were actualy going out, we were that close. anyways 9th grade comes around and at we were still pretty close but not as much as we were before. now it's 10th grade and i don't really talk to him at all. now i don't know if ya'll get this but i really really like him more than just a friend and i have since 8th grade. me and him have the same lunch EVERY DAY but he sits at a different table and its weird because everytime i look over at him, he's always starring back at me with his gorgeous smile. i probably haven't talked to him in a few months. but i really want to change that. and every single day..i tell myself that i'm gonna go up to him at lunch and just sit down with him and just be there with him but i get wicked nervous and i chicken out. the same with calling him too. i just chicken out. does anyone have any advice for me on how to get my best friend back?? thank you soo much

p.s. i rate 5's for good advice =]

Heyy
well i thought of a few ways for you to start talking to this boy because im sure you can take it from there:
you can have a friend bring you over with her to join him at lunch or in a conversation
you can write him a note
pass his locker and start up a convo
catch him when hes by himself and start talking

well good luck
and i hope i can help

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I'm turning 14 and for my birthday I'm having a dance. I've been going out with guy for a while now but we don't go to the same school so we haven't had any dances together. What are some good love songs that would be good for a first dance. I need as many as you can give me. This would mean a lot to me. This dance is really important. Thank you so much! I'LL RATE YOU!!!♥

heyyy i have a few really cute suggestions.

some are:
Pussycat Dolls- Stick Wit you
Yellowcard-Only one
Startingline (thats like the best band ever some of their songs are: ) Best of me, Nothings gonna stop us,This Ride
Mariah Carey- Always be my baby
Jojo-baby its you
Ryan Cabrera- On the way down
Frankie J-obsession(no es amor)
Story Of the Year-until the day i die

hope i can help
good luck! xox

oh yea another great starting line song is The Drama Summer! Collide by howie day, you and me by lifehouse, and beautiful soul by jesse mccartney are good songs too!

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Please help me out. I have a huge problem. My best friend and I both like the same guy. Well him and i are not THAT close, but usually he talks to me and I talk to him most days. Well today and yesterday he is acting like he likes my friend. You know, the going up and talking to her more than usual... stuff like that. He's been doing that for two days now and.. he hasn't really talked to me anymore. I'll say something to him... and he'll ignore me or just not give me a considering answer like he'll say "I dunno" or "Sure". So why isn't he talkign to me, and what do i do? I'm going to be crushed if he likes her... Please help me out.

heyy sweetheart!
To me this sounds like he could be confused himself. Personally I'd be one to say mixed signals from guys stink and if it were me I'd back off for a little while (a day or two) and see if he comes onto you. Maybe he is in the middle of thinking about a family problem when he indirectly answers or maybe he doesnt want to lead you on. This doesnt mean he likes your friend but if he does please dont be mad at your friend. Remember to keep your options open too so it wont seem that hes all your into .(and I like to play hard to get). When you do talk to him of course flirt but be concous
that your not all over him. Give it a little time and be sure to get back to me! I love follow-ups!!
hope i can help and please come back for any more advice!

xoxo PinkRainbow

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Every guy that I like only thinks of me as a 'good friend'. What should I do? Should I act different, telling them that I like them doesn't seem to make a difference. I don't like being just everyone's friend,...I want more than that...

0o0h sweetie, no you shouldnt change yourself at all! Trust me one day the right guy will find you, if the other guys dont like you- it's too bad for them! Deffinately don't change because you want to be yourself and you don't wan people to like you for something your not. One day, you'll see, a nice boy will like you for you and you will be glad you didn't change.

I hope i helped! xoxo

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