My column is supposed to be a place where people can feel free to write down what's been bugging them, things that they really need help with. It's an open and free site, where no one should be discriminated or made fun of. Now I know I may be young, but you will find that I can be very objective, but also emotionally able to put myself in your position and to help in every way possible!
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Hey, im a guy in hs. And theres this girl in my class who is soooooooooo hot... i mean, oh my god. I dont know why, but i cant keep my eyes off her, and i dont know how the other guys in class dont even look at her. she is a cheerleader, perfect, tanned ass, legs, nice stomach, big tits. I just want her so bad and i want to do her.
But she is so hot that i just wanna go crazy and do something nasty to do, like grab at her outta nowhere. Dude, wtf, like, should i? or what. Damn.
Smack her in the face or no? (link)
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Dude...i know you're a guy in high school with too much testosterone...but keep talking about girls like that and I might smack you! I mean tanned ass, big tits...you want to do her? That's disrespectful, and so inappropriate! It seems she looks perfect from the outside..but have you even bothered to get to know her? I can guarantee if you go up to this girl and tell her all you've told us, she kick your ass! She's a woman, and you've got to treat her right. You want to get in her pants, you've got to work for it. The only place that comments like 'big tits' and 'tanned ass' will get you laid is in a strip club, or a place where they got a lot of bimbos! And come on, you don't want to set yourself so low. By the way you wrote the question you just wrote, you seem like a real ass, which I'm sure your not. You're worth something real. So get to know her, control yourself, and I wish you luck!
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19/m
I am gay, and I cannot find a good guy. I have had some decent boyfriends, but we always brake up because we end up being too different. I am not a party boy, I don't smoke (or do any kind of drug for that matter, legel or illegal), I dont drink. I just want a guy I can be myself with, and not have to worry about growing apart from. How can I meet a guy like that? My last boyfriend was so amazing and so sweet, but he wanted to party and drink and I told him that I wouldn't be able to date him if thats what he wanted to do, so we broke up. I just want to know how I can meet a nice, gay guy who is like me. And please, do not suggest any online dating websites (I tried online stuff before, and it was a disaster). Any ideas on how to meet a guy like that? (link)
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Hello! From what i just read, you want a guy who is like you! Who doesn't drink, and doesn't smoke...
but honestly, don't you want to find someone who is exactly the opposite of you? Isn't it about finding your other half, not your exact half? Shouldn't he be everything you're not? It's about finding someone you love, despite all the flaws, it's about compromise! It's not finding someone who does everything you do to make it easy. Relationships are never easy! And by trying to make it easy for yourself, you skip out on all the good stuff that real relationships bring! You might want to re-think that part!
Another thing, i don't understand why every time you asked where to find a boyfriend you had to put gay? Just because you're looking for a gay guy, doesn't mean it's going to be any different from finding any other guy, or girl. You already mentioned that you're gay...I think people can figure out that you're looking for a gay guy! :)
Then let me say that I am glad you're very open with your sexuality! I know you don't like online stuff, but maybe give it another chance, you might be surprised! Or go to the places where you've found your other boyfriends! Go back to the places you've been before. Maybe ask some friends to hook you up with someone! Anyways, don't stress yourself. You're only 19, you shouldn't be in any rush to find someone! Life's goal is not to be in a relationship! Go on and live a little before you drown yourself in all this boyfriend stuff!
Good luck!
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im 18/f and hes 19/m :)
ok so long story short, i really like my bestfriend. I've never met anyone more like me in my life and we both thinks its the most amazing thing. Im so lucky to have found him and im really falling for him. Anyway, two weeks ago i was nervous and hopeless about a future together with him, thinking that he couldnt possibly have the same feelings for me as i did him. Anyway, i got an unexpected phone call from a mutual friend of ours telling me that i dont need to worry and to stop stressing. i asked her why and she told me not to say anything, but that my best friend likes me alot and thinks im insanely beautiful. Hes came out of a horrible break up after 5 years 6 months ago, and says he wants to be a single for a little bit longer. But he does like me alot and wants to be with me when hes not so terrified of relationships. he also told her that if i ended up dating anyone else that he would be extremely upset and know that it 'wasnt meant to be'. but to be honest i dont want anyone else but him, and im willing to wait till hes ready. Again i have to pretend i dont know any of this, as he told her that he wants to tell me personally, but she knew how upset i was going and had to.
so anyway that was a couple of weeks ago that i found out about that, and since then we havent been able to see each other due to his band being on tour. It wasnt till yesterday i started doubting his feelings for me again, as he didnt really text me or anything much, but when he did he would say some really sweet things. anyway yesterday he texted me (coming as a complete surprise cause he barely texts me ahhah) and told me "listen to invincible by tonight alive. then text me back, i will say no more"
so i listened to the song and immeadiatly began to cry.
the lyrics are as follows:
i love you in the light, i love you in the dark
and my mind has been made up
because you threw the spark, that set my heart on fire
now the stars are falling from the sky,
there on fire and falling
straight into your eyes, your eyes.
i am invincible, as long as i love you
i am invincible, theres nothing we cannot do.
missing you everyday- its not enough for me.
we make it so hard for ourselves so easily
and its funny the one same thing that makes me crazy
is the same thing that keeps me sane
my minds a million miles away
but nothing ever changes, no never change.
cause i am invincible, as long as i love you
i am in invincible, theres nothing we cannot do
your arms are my home,
and ive been homesick for oh so long
so bring me back home
back where i, back where i belong
cause i am invincible,
i am invincible
i am invincible, as long as i love you
i am invincible, theres nothing we cannot do
i am invincible
i am invincible as long as im in love
im in love with you
I then texted him back saying how i thought the song was amazing! and i was speechless. he then responded with "i thought you'd like it :) it came on in the car just then and im chillin in the back seat and thought of you :)"
do you think the song meant anything in regards to his feelings for me? is he trying to tell me something? etc etc
any advice appreciated :)
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Sorry, but OF COURSE IT HAS SOMETHING TO DO WITH HOW HE FEELS ABOUT YOU!! I mean, he said that he heard the song and thought of you!!
Look, I'm a girl, I understand that we tend to obsess, A LOT about the guys we like. If he doesn't text us back immediately, we start to panic and stuff like that! You heard it from a friend, u trust that friend. U and your best friend seem like soul mates, and he's not going anywhere anytime soon! Don't rush it! Let things go..so they slowly fall into place! Relax...you have feelings..and it's almost certain that he has feelings for you too, so chill!!! Stop stressing on whether he likes you or whether he doesn't, why he's not writing you or calling you. He's on tour dammit, and although I'm sure you're always on his mind, it's hard to keep in touch with family while on tour. At least he is writing you! If you keep obsessing, trying to plan the whole thing so it's perfect, it will never be! I wish you and your best friend happiness, and I hope you two take your time to fall in love!
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Okay so I love my best friend with all my heart we've been best friends for 5 years. She's like my sister. In the past 2 years I haven't had a botyfriend close but never closing the deal with one guy that I loved we kinda just drifted. It took all until when school started to get over him. So I started looking again. But it seems I can never actually get the guy for some reason. My bestfriend goes through them like she's had atleast 5 real relationships and even though they end up breaking up I am still so envious of her that she can atleadt go through it. I've had a couple boyfriends but not recently. I'm not really a girl that needs a boy to depend on but we all know they are nice to have sometimes. I get pissed at her
sometimes and its so hard to explain that I'm jelous I guess. I have told her this much before but it doesn't really help
because she avoids a lot of stuff when I'm spilling my
feelings. I ask her why and she says its hard to deal with your
problems when I can't even deal with my own. I don't know
what exactly I'm asking. Advice just advice aboout anything
maybe what to say to her to make her understand I don't
know.
Maybe I should mention our looks. I'm not ugly. I get alot of comments about how pretty i am. dirty blonde hair. More blonde though. Long like middle of my back long. Blue eyes porcelain like complexion or so I've been told. I'm not fat. I have c cups and I am porportionate.
She has I smaller waist then me. A cup size bigger then me. Brunette hair that she always wears in a bun. And hazel eyes. She's pretty too and people always mistake us for twin sisters.
I don't know if that helps. Please and thank you! (link)
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Darling, what do your looks have to do with this?? You can't compare you two!! You both are beautiful and amazing in your own way, that's what makes you so special. And of course you're jealous, I totally get that, but it's not your friends fault that she gets a lot of guys, but it's not your fault either. What, do you expect her to just stop liking guys for you? That's not fair is it?! It's none of your faults...it's the guys fault!!! I totally understand that it's nice to have someone. Of course it is. You can me the biggest bad ass, independent woman in the world, but it's still nice to feel special, be treated correctly, being told your beautiful by someone other than your best friend, being loved...
But what you must know is, that if those guys are too stupid to like you, then don't waste your time, they don't deserve you. You deserve a guy who see's you, who listens to you, you treats you like the queen of the world, and you thinks you're the prettiest thing he's ever seen. And I know that sounds impossible, but there are guys like that, trust me! Just keep searching...there's someone for everyone! :)
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me and my best friend are thinking about trying out the whole friends with benefits thing because neither of us are ready for a relationship yet. but from stories i've heard, friends with benefits doesn't usually work out. what do you think? (link)
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Oh dear god...so you an your friend wanna try the old FWB, Friends with Benefits! Honey, that is the oldest male myth of our time. The FWB never works!! You can't just fool around and not have any feelings. Yeah, maybe for some time, but then later, there will be feelings! The FWB just comes with too much emotion, and it can never be casual! Someone will always want to go serious in the end. And I'm speaking from experience here. I thought the FWB would work, so did my other friend. We had both broken up with our boyfriends, but for some reason, we couldn't let them go. So there comes along the brilliant idea of the FWB. And it worked....for some time. Fooling around was fun, made you feel alive...but soon enough, we fell in love. Now, me and my ex and her and her ex are together again! Which is not a bad thing, unless you don't want a relationship. So my final answer, is NO! Friends with Benefits always leads to:
1) End of friendship
2) Start of Relationship
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His name is Justin. He's absolutely beautiful. I met him six or more months ago through some friends. We had something for each other, but I had a boyfriend at the time so it went nowhere.
Now I've been single for awhile. For I was dumped for an eighth grader (I'm 19). Anyways. He and I got together and ended up hooking up a few times. Which is fine by me because I'm still a little shaken from my last relationship. Yet, I can't help but fall for him.
He constantly tells me that I'm not making a good choice by falling for him, because he's a 'monster.' He calls himself this because he's unstable. A year ago on his birthday, his girlfriend was shot in front of him outside of the mall in a mugging. He is still absolutely devastated. He thinks that dating someone will be a betrayal of her. I understand this completely. He even said he prefers we no longer have sex because he doesn't want to hurt me, or have me change for him.
I'm completely confused and torn in two. Do I continue to follow? I know him a lot better then he thinks. Or do I just.. drop it? And how? I don't think I've ever been so stuck in my life. (link)
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Alright..see, here's the problem no. 1. You said you understand this completely. But how could you?? How could you even begin to understand what it's like to have someone you love killed in front of you, on your birthday! Has that ever happened to you? It's such a horrible thing, and thank god it's never happened to me so both of us shouldn't even pretend to understand what that's like. It destroy's the person, imagine replaying that scene over and over in your head, seeing her die over and over again because you can't help it. It's human torture, so you're lucky that this guy isn't mentally insane! But what you do have to understand is that it's obviously hard for him. Of course he feels like he's betraying her, of course he's devastated! But I don't think you should leave him. I think you need to stick with him through this, be with him, help him move on. BUT as a friend. The last thing he needs is a girlfriend, what he needs the most is a friend. No one should have to go through something like that alone. So that means, no more sex, no more hooking up, no more making out and what ever else you two do, because you'd be cheating yourselves and it would never be going anywhere. Give it a shot, do it right, help him get over her, and then, go for it with all your heart!! So then even if it doesn't work it, you can at least say that you gave it your all!
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I really liked this guy in the summer and i regret not taking all my chances with him as in kiss. well no its what feburary and weve just grown apart we never dated we just had a group in the summer and we went to the same school but just last week he transferred and all i do now is think which i have been doing... i have asked questions about him before getting over him and i gave it time its just not working..his school is kinda local but ill probally wont see him for a while unless the group gets togther and he shows up for once. well i dont know its like i go through what i could have done everyday in my head and what if he were still here in my class what i would be saying... because now ive become a little more open to guys but im still the awkward shyness kinda person. I have a school dance coming up and before he transferred i asked him the next week he told me he was transferring and everything just stressing at the moment and how he would like to go with me but hes leaving the school and he said maybe some other dance you would be a really fun date. well now i have asked my good guy friend who goes to a diffrent school and im going with him (he was from the group also) but he doesnt like the guy i cant stop thinking about.and i just feel like i onyl want to be with the guy ive liked for too long i just dont feel like i belong anymore like at all... i dont know what to do ive gave it time and ive tried so hard its just im not happy and whatever please help sorry this is long :/ i just want to get the best answer oh and its still awkward so im not the kinda person who says stuff straight up i just think too much. (link)
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Who says you can only see him when your group meets??? Tell me, who says that?! You can meet with him, only him, anytime..weekends and holidays! Let me tell you, my boyfriend is moving to HOLLAND! Yes, HOLLAND so I will literally never see him again!! I understand how you feel. You've tried getting over him, you've tried focusing on other people like your best guy friend but it just stresses you out more, and just makes you think of the guy more...and I understand that you look back and you wish you had done something, anything, you wish you had kissed him...but you shouldn't be hung up on the past..focus on the future and the present, that's whats in front of you! And you've tried to forget him but you can't...honey there's only one thing you can do: You gotta be with him! Ask him out, be in a relationship, make it work!! You've got to want it, and then it will happen!!
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So there's this guy Matt. He has a good friend, Bentley. I've liked Bently since the beginning of this school year. He has a girlfriend but he had no problem letting me know he liked me too. Long story, Short? I just feel like he's trying to play me. He hasn't even talked to me in a week so I don't know. Anyway, I've known both of these guys since I moved here 5 years ago. Matt is a junior and Bents a senior. I saw Matt in a suit last week and I never noticed how cute he was until then. Thing is my older sister, an ex real good friend, and another good friend of mine has dated him before. Another good friend of mine just started talking to him recently and she told me she felt bad for him. She lead him on and then dropped him. He seems so sad all the time. I don't think he's a bad guy like everyone assumes. I think I'm starting to like him but there are a few things I'm concerned about.
•He and Bentley are good friends.
•He's already dated my sister and two friends. Something obviously went wrong with them. I don't know.
•He knows a lot of people I know. If me and him went for it he would be the first person I've ever dated in my town. I've purposely not dated in my town because its small and things get out and I'm an extremely private person. I have secrets that I don't want getting out. But if I were to date him I know I would have to let go of a few of them. I don't want to tell him and then he turn around and tell his buddies. I want to be able to know that everything I say is between me and him only.
I don't know whether I should go for him or not? If yes, a lot. of of people might question me. I don't care I do what I want with who I want whenever. I care about what my sister might say. If I did this I was thinking I should keep it quiet for awhile but then eventually I'm gonna have to tell her. I'm completely lost in this situation. Any insight would be helpful :)
Please & thank you.
P.S. I'm 16 and he's 17 (link)
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You are right! You shouldn't care about what anyone has to say, even your sister. You are free to date who ever you want to date!! Yes, maybe your sister will object, or she'll try to get you away from him, but she'll be speaking from her experience and she'll only be trying to protect you. But even then, you should follow your heart. I get that there is so much speaking against it. So many things could go wrong, people could find out and judge you but you know what, at least you two will be together!! You need to stop thinking about what could go wrong, and start thinking about what could go right! Forget everything, forget that he's been with your sister, forget that people say he's a bad guy forget it all!! Now answer your question, do you want to be with him? That's all you gotta know!
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There's a really cute guy in my German class, he's really funny and nice, I like him but I don't know if he likes me or if he's even single. What should I do? Thank you
Also I'm 14 and a girl. (link)
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How does no one know what to do anymore? I mean, GEEZUS! :P
There's this thing called communication!! How will you ever do anything if you don't communicate. Talk to him, become friends, ask him if he's single, add him on Facebook, get his phone number! You guys will either grow close, and start dating, grow close and stay friends, or you just won't grow close. It's as simple as him. JUST TALK! That's how it all begins...
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He told people that he simply just doesnt want to go to prom. Today he told some people that he doesn't want to go to prom with me, but wont ask somebody else cuz he doesnt want to hurt me. Later he was flirting with me. What could possibly be going through his mind? Like i just dont get him anymore. We are really good friends, he always tells people that he thinks im cool.and we talk all the time. I cant help that im kind of hurt by his comment. As flattered as i am that he doesnt want to hurt me, i just dont see why he doesnt want to go with me. Im going with someone else now but still, id rather he tell me this himself. (link)
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Let me tell you this honey. Boys are stupid and confusing in every way!! As good of a friend they may seem, you need to always remember this: Guys are assholes and they will always let you down! Now I'm not saying that you shouldn't trust guys, or that you shouldn't be friends with guys. I'm saying that you just need to remember that so that when they really are assholes, it won't surprise you! Talk to him, demand to know what the hell is wrong with him? This ain't the old ages no more girl, we got rights to. And right now, your right is to march your ass up to him, and ask him what all this is about? You deserve an answer. And you know what, good for you that you are going with someone else! But I understand that it hurts...so go talk!! Be the man, if he wont! Someone hast to be
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17/f Me & my bf have been in a relationship for about 3 years. My bf has cheated like 3 times since we have actually gotten together (june 10) this next newest time : Since my boyfriend went to go hang out with his ex and not tell me we've been having problems. I told him some really mean things so then he stoped feeling bad about what he did and started being an asshole saying he was going to move back to texas where he's from so I stoped being mad about what he did so we could just be happy. weve just been having problems now & today bc I wouldn't just "suck his dick" hes mad and needs to smoke so I write him a check to go get money to smoke & hes still being mean & hes like he can't wait to leave, im sucha lame bitch , that he hates me, fuck me, & I just sit there cause idk what to say, i say I don't deserve that but it just hurts & i start to cry so I go upstairs & hes like thanks for doing NOTHING, but I just don't know what to do , I don't wanna not be together & him leave, but I know that he keeps hurting me and I don't deserve that, I just don't want to make the wrong choice & i know only I can make the right one . I just need some unbiased advice ?! (link)
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You are absolutely right! You do not deserve this!!! It's that one part of you, that loves being in a relationship, that loves love, that's the part that's holding you back! And as frustrated as you might think you are, you already know what you need do to and all you're looking for here is for people to tell you to do what you already know you should do so that you can feel better about yourself when you finally do it. So I will tell you, that he's not worth it. But the choice is yours, I can't make it for you. You're in pain. The decision isn't hard, it's painful. You already know what to do, otherwise you wouldn't be in so much pain!
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Okay, to start off my best friend she use to be a really, really nice person and a great friend I trusted her with everything, but she replaced me as her best friend, and she changed completley and it's really sad, she's hanging out with a girl who is such a bad friend, my ex best friend pierced her nose because her friend got her ear pierced for a bar, she's just not the person I once knew, and my boy friend who I have been dating for a year, he liked her first but she turned him down because my boy friend was to depressive and weird, which is ridicoulous, my boy friend he is an amazing person..kind, friendly and he treats me really good, but recently he wrote a not to my ex friend resolving feelings he once had for her, because he started to hang out with her more, not intending to his feelings came back, he wrote her the note to resolve everything, so he could just be mine. He did this the day after or before our 1st anaversery..:/ She told me before he could and he was so scared of losing me, now after things resolved from that, she seems like she wants to be with him, twice now they have been caught huging and today my ex best friend faked crying so my boy friend would hug her, which makes me feel like she wants him, we fought all the way to his house (my mom takes him home after school) and he almost cried over it, he feels like I really need to start trusting him because his past girl friends broke up with him because they blamed him for cheating when he never did. I don't know what to do, since I love him so much I don't want to break up with him, but my friends who tell me what they did, makes me worry that he still wants to be with her, when he told me many many many times that he just wants ME. :/ I hate being so parinoid, what should I do? (link)
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Look, I totally get that you feel this way, and it's called jealousy! I absolutely understand, I get jealous every time my boyfriend talks to another girl. It's especially hard for you, because he used to have feelings for your ex-friend. But look, SHE'S the one trying to make him like her. SHE'S the one who wants him, not your boyfriend. And yes, he might hug her, and stuff, but he doesn't know what you're ex-friend is up to, boys are stupid like that! He's got you, and he's told you that he only wants you and I mean he wrote your ex-friend a letter resolving his feelings so he could be with you. Honestly if he has never let you down in the past, you should shut up, trust him and love him for god sakes!!! You've got a sweet, caring boyfriend who wants to be with you, so let him!! And about your ex-friend, she obviously doesn't really care about you, so why should you care for her. She found another friend that she thinks is better than you. She doesn't deserve you, and if she's willing to cast you aside, she's not the kind of true friend you want :)
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I am seriously doubting everything right now. Idk what is wrong with me I'm just not happy with anything... advice?? (link)
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Alright! We all have these phases...where we doubt everything, where we wonder why we are on this earth, why we are living because living seems to be so hard! These phases mostly occur when something bad has happened recently. Are you going through a break-up, family problems, school problems, or are you maybe just having your period? Whatever the reason, this phase will pass! The beauty of life is that it is so difficult! Imagine how boring life would be if everything were easy, if everything were perfect! You see, without the bad things, there are no good things. Without feeling horrible, people won't ever know what feeling good is like! How can you be proud of what you have achieved when achieving it wasn't even difficult in any way. If there's no obstacle, how can you be happy that you've over come it? See what I'm saying? You need to know what not being happy feels like, so when things do turn around, you know how to feel happy! And how you take this plays a big role in when your outlook on life will change for you. You need to find that something that keeps you going. A goal, an achievement, a person. Something that you can hold on to. You need to open your eyes and see that nothing and no one is perfect, but that's exactly what makes life so perfect! But honestly, you say "Life is hard", and that just tempts me to ask "Compared to what?"
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Hey I was just wonder if there are any way to tell if a guy likes u? even if they don't flirt or stare alot how else can you tell? I really need help thanks(: How do u make a guy like you without looking like your trying?
Thanks(: (link)
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Honey let me tell you this! Men, are very complicated and stupid creatures that have jet to be figured out! They make it seem like they like you. they will flirt and stare and talk to you and tell you the sweetest things and make you fall for them and in the end, they don't like you in that way. Or they completely ignore you, make it seem like they hate you, when they really love you! The truth is you can never tell. You try to show them you like them and hope for the best! Maybe just talk to him, that's all I can suggest! Try talking to them more..become real good friends. Ask to go out to the cinema or not, you'll notice when they don't feel the same way through whether they say yes or not to cinema. By how they decline, if they use some lame excuse or something..you'll figure it out!
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Anyways so I'm 15 f and the guy who is leaving my school for a public school and he's 16 a sophomore m anyways aha I really like him like I can't stop thinking about him and I'm nothappy without him and this might sound creepy but I'm serious. So during the summer we had a thing and in school itjust was awkward but I still liked him and I don't know why or how we stoped talking and how it got awkward I have no idea he had a class with me and now he has a different class with me and I still cant get over him. And I've tried a lot! So I asked him to the sweethearts dance coming up last Friday and he didn't respond until today! He gave me a note and it said all these sweet things but he said he can't go he's transferring to a school( it's not to far away) but when iread it I got so excited but then my eyes started to water... I'm losing him and he's like the only person who makes me happy at this moment. Im going to cry and cry if I don't see him he makes my day brighter and I don't know what I'm going to do he doesn't want me to tell anyone he's tranferring like next week! But he's like not the most attractive guy but some how he's a stud! And I'm afraid I'm going to lose him. This sounds so creepy but i don't know I'm lost without him please I just wrote a note saying all this stuff I'm going to give it to him tomorrow:( please I don't know what to do I will not be happy for a long time unless we still talk I get so jealous even when were just friends!!! Please help sorry this is so long!:( I'm just pathetic (link)
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Ok, first of all, did you just call yourself pathetic? Really? Because you're losing a guy that you like, and because you're sad, you think you're pathetic???!!! If that were true, every girl in the world would be pathetic! So, stop right there! God, this is what I hate so much. I see so many girls posting questions and they say: "Ahhh, I know I'm so pathetic" and, "I can't live without him", or "I am nothing, I know that I'm a loser" What is wrong with women, has it gotten this far?! You know it really hurts to see women your age, any age put themselves down like that. It's horrible enough when other people call you pathetic, but you calling yourself pathetic? My God!!! Anyways, look, I know exactly how you feel. My boyfriend is leaving for Holland in the summer, yes HOLLAND! So I will basically never see him again, but for you, it's not even close to being completely over! You said he's schools near by, and you know there's this thing called 'meeting outside of school', you know 'going on a date'! You can still meet on weekends, or after school..whatever! You're only half-ly losing him, think of it that way! For me, I'M going to lose my boyfriend, and I have the right to not be happy for a long time, you don't! It's as simple as that..
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So Ive had the biggest crush on my best guy friend for a long time now. It really seemed like he liked me back but recently he's been different and today he was talking about a girl he wanted to ask to prom... He's like my best friend but how can we talk on the phone or text EVERY SINGLE day, and him not develop more feelings than friendship?? It actually broke my heart when he talked about the other girl... And I don't know what to do... I havent felt this shitty since when my last boyfriend dumped me and this guy has been the first guy since (almost a year) that i can talk to and not miss my ex... Please help me:( I hate this...I'm 15/F hes 16/M (link)
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This is probably the hardest thing you'll have to do....but you need to tell him! Otherwise, it'll just hurt u more, when he looks at other girls, talks about other girls..see to him, you're his pal, his buddy! The thing is, guys are stupid, they don't see when girls like them, at all! Or, they choose not to see it..let's just say guys are extremely complicated! But remember, if you do tell him, 3 things could happen: No.1 The feelings are mutual, you too become the cutest couple ever! No.2 The feelings are mutual, but after some time, it doesn't work out, you break up, but you can't go back to being just friends after being so close, so the friendship is either over, or will never be like it was before. And No.3 He doesn't feel the same way, things between you turn awkward and the friendship is ruined.. now there is an option 4(but that hardly ever happens): He doesn't feel the same way, but you two put it behind you and return to being the best friends you were before...the reason why that never happens is because even if he doesn't feel the same, you still will, and being with him will probably hurt you and because guys freak at commitment and love and he'll just act weird around you, even if you somehow put your feelings aside, he'll always be scared that you could still have feelings for him! So, the question is, is he worth all this risk? Is your friendship worth risking? And sadly, that a question only you can answer!
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Well I like this guy and I'm hanging out with him next weekend with some friends. We've been talking a little bit...and sexting lol. but like no pics or anything weird just lots of winky faces and stuff haha. Besides like being myself and blahblah what can I do for him to really notice me and just be like damn? And what should I wear? Like i want something sexy but not to look like I'm trying to hard. Helpp thank you :)
I'm 19, he's 21. (link)
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You shouldn't do anything! He should just look at you and be like damn! Not because you are wearing something, then you are being something your not! Just be yourself, it's the best that you can be! Just wear something that you are comfortable in, but it shouldn't be something you wear around the house, but not too outgoing either...
you'll find something!
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okay so im a girl who knows what she wants when she wants and recently i met this guy. he says he likes me and i told him im bisexual ive always been that way so please no one say i am confused cause im not i like them both. so i like him and he says he likes me to so then he tells me hes not lookin for a relationship...what should i do? (link)
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One thing I really think is great is that you know what you want and that you are in fact bi and very open about it shows be how confident you really are. And this guy had obviously nothing against you being bi and thats great. And you told him you like him and he apparently feels the same way. But look, here's i where I think you are taking your confidence a little too far. He may like you, but that doesn't mean he wants a relationship, and he told you this. Sometimes people just can't deal or don't have the time for a relationship, it's just the way it is. There's nothing wrong with that, meaning there's nothing wrong with him! I think what's wrong is that you expected him to want to be with you. And that's normal, of course, but when someone doesn't want it, then you should respect that. And if he's that stupid, to not want to be with you, then he's not worth your time. You deserve someone who's ready for a relationship and someone who treats you with respect and someone who loves you more that you love them. What you should do, is leave him. He'll realize what he lost once your gone :)
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Heres the thing. I really really like my best guy friend. We've been friends for such a long time and he's helped me through so much including a really bad break up last summer.... Over winter break and before he would text me everysingle day and it honestly felt like he liked me but I was too scared to say anything about it. After winter break his friends and mine started to joke with him saying we liked eachther and what not and when I would talk to him about it he'd say stuff like "wow" or "tell them theyre being stupid" never "that's not true". Lately though he doesn't act the same. I have to start the conversation every single day but then later in the conversation if I don't reply he'll get mad. And he always seems really into talkingto me. I felt like I was being annoying though so I apologized to him. What he didnt know was that that ex that was horrible to me is trying to get me back and I knee I cant go back with him but I wanted to! I can't go through all the details just know I CAN'T go back to my ex, I can't put myself through that kind of pain again and it's takn me a long time to realize this... Even though i still want him. And my guy friend is the only person I can talk and not think about or want to talk to my ex... What's up with that?? I told my guy friend this. And I told him I'm not really sure what it means and he just laughed and was like "you're crazy. I havent noticed you being annoying at all. And hun I know you can handle him by yourself you don't need me as much as you think you do" and yeah... I still text him every single day and we hang out every weekend (in a group most of the time). He's so amazing and He makes me so happy and I can't stand not being around him... He asked me last night of it was weird that he danced with this freshman girl at our last dance/thought she was really hot. And it kind of almost broke my heart... Hahaha even though I talk about hot guys with him (and he does get mad about that haha) I felt myself getting sooo jealous. I don know what to do. I know I'm gonna break down today and text him but I can't keep doing this but I can't handle things without him! (guy friend is 16/m ex is 17/m both juniors. I am 15/f sophomore) by the way he HATES my ex boyfriend. (link)
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Honey, I honestly don't see your big problem! Except for the fact that your ex wants you back. Yeah, that must be crappy, but it's your decision. You get to chose whether you want your ex or not! Listen, you've got this real amazing best guy friend, the kind that girls like me just dream of and he cares about you. He takes care of you, you tell each other everything and you have an ex who's dying to have you back. Tell me, wheres the big problem in that? I'm somehow realizing that you keep talking about how your scared that you're annoying, and that you need your friend so much, and how you wanted to go back with your ex although the relationship was bad and that u can't handle things without your best guy friend. It seems to be that you have some serious self worth problems. Your convincing yourself that you are nothing without your best friend, and how you can't do anything without him when you really can! I'm sorry, but what's wrong with you? Even your best friend is telling you that you don't need him as much as you think you do. Stop thinking that you can't do anything or be anything! I mean seriously! I'm not saying stop hanging out with your guy friend, or stop texting, I'm not saying that at all! But girl, you need to learn some self respect. You are a strong and confident woman who can make her own decisions and doesn't need anyone to tell her she's great or not annoying or that she can do things by her self. And you gotta just be happy you got the great guy friend, not every girl has that. so stop with the unnecessary drama! You don't need your ex! And you shouldn't have a best guy friend because you need one, but because you want one. It should be a choice, not a necessity! Your 15 for god sakes, you've got your whole life in front of you. And if you ever want to make it, you've got to believe in yourself. Trust me, you'll do yourself and your guy friend a favor, if you learn to be confident and independent! It's sad to see a woman who thinks so little of herself, it probably hurts your guy friend too! You deserve the best, you can be the best and you've got to believe that!
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I met this girl at church three and a half months ago. She is a good person and we are so compatible. I love her a lot. I have some issues with her not calling me until the late evening, not answering my texts or even remember my birthday! She doesn't work and her kids are at school. Plus, she is always busy to see me. She never commits to a time and if she does she rarely follows thru. I feel that new relationships require time together not once every three weeks. What should i do? Am I asking for too much? By the way she just left a abusive relationship before we met. now when do see each other she treats me and makes me feel special but I am hurt because I don't see her often.
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What you must understand is that this woman you like, comes from a horrible past relationship. Coming out of an abusive relationship is lucky, and great, but those memories from that relationship hardly ever go away. She's probably still haunted by all of it. And if there are kids involved, then of course she's going to have to take care of her children. Yes she may not have work, she may not always call you, she rarely follows through but what do you expect from her? Her life is hectic, she has a horrible past, she has no job, and she's a single mom raising children. To me that sounds pretty damn impressive. Yeah, alright, she hardly has time but do you blame her? Look, her life is a mess. Maybe it's too soon to start the 'relationship'. Maybe it's a better idea to become her friend first, be there for her, support her, help her. Wait until she's got her life together, wait until she's ready and not afraid of being in a relationship anymore, wait! Because if you want to start a relationship, you want to start it right. And if you start one now, with they way she is, it's not gonna work. So, it's either you move on, or you wait. So the real question here is, are you willing to wait, is she worth it?
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