Heya, I'm Ellie =]. Sure I'm your average Teenager! I believe in hard work, I believe in being optimistic and never giving up =]. I get pretty crazy sometimes, and I'm loud and not always Missus Perfect - but I'm outgoing and I generally stick to the rules... Unless I don't like them, In whcih Case, I may just invent my Own :)
When Im older I definitely want to be in the acting career, so watch out :D!
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Well Hi, I was wondering if i should go out with my ex-boyfriend again? I broke up with him for a dumb reason but he still likes me and i feel bad. (link)
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If you still like him then Go for it :).
I went back out with my Ex, and it worked. Well, he went out with me again. We went out at first for three months - broke up, missed each other for about 7 months and now we've been together for eight months total. so Getting back together does work: theres a common stereotype that it doesnt work but its not always the case. It depends if you like him or not - if you do, dont let someone you miss walk out of your life if theyre important to you. But, if you dont like him, and just feel guilty, dont ask him back out, Cos, youll end up getting sick of him, or not liking him more:) and you wioll probably break up again :).
It depends how you feel about him:).
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Ok so i was with this boy for a total of a little over 2 years kinda on and off. When we were about 7 months into the relationship he cheated on me and I took him back really quick. I felt like I couldnt be without him. We were together for a while when I went through his email and found emails from these girls. He had been talking to girls on the internet |not from his school, the one from the dirty websites| I told him the next time I found something like that it was over. Well he ended up doing it 3 or so more times. And everytime I took him back. Then almost 2 months ago we breakup for like a day and get back together. And I find out he was telling this girl that he wanted to be with her. He claimed he talked to her the one day we were not together, but you dont get those feelings in a day. We break up and this time I really don't want to be with him anymore. He begged and begged and I said no. It got to the point where he tried to kill himself 2 times. Everyone tells me I'm being mean because I wont talk to him or be his friend. He hurt me very badly. It was like 2 years of lies with him. What do you guys think? Am I being too mean? (link)
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Your not being too mean.
Im in a relationship like this. Not quite as bad, theres a little more trust, But Ive been cheated on and still am, and Im just glad for you that your out of it. The best thing that could have happened to you is you not liking him anymore; I cant stress that enough. Because you liked him he hurt you so much, two years of that is wearing, not fair on anybody, and quite frankly you needed to get out of it. I need to: and you cant let him have your ehart again and trample on it again.
He needs to move on, your not being mean: you just had enough of a bad situation, and for things to get better you just cant talk to him, cos when you talk to someone whose trying to gt over you ti gives them false hope and its harder for them to get over you :). so This is good for him, too:). it Just might take a while for him to get over it.
Toodles:)x
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Now, I'm not trying to stereotype here so please don't assume that.
But, I was just wondering:
Would a teenage guy's friends really make fun of him if he was in love with his girlfriend? What I mean is, would his friends mock him for being in love?
I just seem to see it all the time in the media. And yes, I know, you shouldn't believe all that the media tells you. I just wanted to know really if this happens.
Sorry if this is a dumb question. I'm just curious that's all.
And I'd really like to hear from a guy. That's who I'm directing this question to. I don't think it would help much if a girl answered...
Thanks! (link)
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Im not a guy, but, a guy is in love with me.. so hopefully this answer will help a little bit :).
A Guys Mates, I know nobody ever believes this, cos, you think it cant be true! But, His Mates, are JEALOUS. XD If Mates Make fun of a guy, Its because They're Jealous, because they think he's getting some/Are Lonely themselves/Know they cant get anybody. Those are all the people thats ever made fun of my boyfriend. (Not many People Make fun of him although, Cos i think his attitude scares them:P). But, it varies. It depends how many of his mates are lonely or not XD! Lots of my guys mates have girlfriends, and surprise surprise, those are the ones who never make fun of him, and he talks about all our relationship issues to. Guys falling in love are less stereotypical than girls falling in lvoe cos The world Expects a girl to be in love, but the world expects a boy to be a player, and thats portrayed in the media and stuff. But it happens just as much in boys as in girls and ti really varies on who the guys mates are :).
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Sorry if it's in the wrong cat.!
Right, I'm wondering whether I've done ''too much stuff'' or not.
The first time I made out..like with tongues with a guy was when I was 13.
First time I kissed someone properly w/o tongues was when I was 12.
Since I've made out with about 10 or so guys. And had about 5 boyfriends.
I've had my hand in a guys pants..but like just in his trousers..not boxers =/
And I've played very flirty with a few guys.
Is this too much..?
I'm 15/F
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15/F
Me too :)
That's not 'too much' at all. I myself have had only one long term boyfriend but we've covered all the bases pretty much apart from actual sex - but most of the people I know have done alot of stuff with alot of guys. What you say you;ve done doesn't seem like 'too much' at all. It sounds like you enjoy having fun and, good. Rightly so. You're young and now is the time to be experimenting with this stuff! If it comes naturally to you, then it's not exceeding the limit at all. It doesn't matter how far you go as long as you make the decision happily, or however many times. Just don't ever get into anything that depresses you and still carry on with it... it won't do any good :)
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Please help =]! It was my first time the other night, and I knew sex is supposed to hurt first time, at least, or at leat be uncomofortable. However, when it got to the point, it was so painful it became unbearable. Please help, could someone please give me advice on how to prevent it being so painful and help my understand why it was =]?
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I wouldn't worry too much, loads of people have a problem like this :). On your first time (I should know... mine was, well, it wasn't really a first time because we didn't get anywhere) its likely that you're far too worried or tense for it to either be easy to get in - or it could cause lots of pain. You need to be properly aroused... did you try lots of foreplay? If not, try it. You need to be sufficiently aroused for it for easy .. well, 'entry'. If next time this happens again, take a time out. Have a few weeks or maybe even a month or two to get your bearings and experiment with your partner with other things. Hopefully, due to the fact you say he's a nice guy, he'll understand. Then when you try again hopefulyl you'll be alot more confident and entry will be easy and less painless. It will hurt, or it may hurt, but not so much that you have to give up. Don't worry - relax! And it'll go smoothly.
:)
Faye.
Good luck.
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ok well me and my bf have been dating for 5 months we didnt kiss until we had been dating for 3months and now we do it alot but he will touch me all the time whether we are kissing or not and i absolutely love it! but idk what to do to him i touch his tummy when we arent kissing and play with the hairs and what not but when we are kissing im clueless i just need ideas for both PLEASE HELP! (link)
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Callm!
I didn't kiss my boyfriend till 3 months either (and it was ridiculously disastrous - wanted the pavement to swallow me up - but it got better!) and now I've been with him 11 months. I'm alot more experience for it too. When I kiss my boyfriend, I find we both like it better if I go for the full on grab his face - like place your hands on either side and then move them, go for the hair - keep moving them, it sounds like it might feel stupid but it won't if you're kissing enough ;)... then try get to his shoulders, just a touch, or something - grab his shirt at the back! This sounds like full on passion but you can easily do it more gently and slowly, even casually. If I'm at school with my boyfriend I'll just play with his hands or the fabric on the back of his shirt ... and its always fun to tickle now and again! I normally rest my hand on his shoulder or something and lean on him when hugging him. If you're just watching a movie play with the hands - idly tug his shirt or just put a hand on his chest or stomach or something. If you're lying, try and get it so you're curled around eachother because that always has a nice effect.
I hope something I've had is vaguely useful :) Oh - and for some reason I touch my boyfriends mouth with my thumb when I touch his face with my palm - and well, he doesn't object. He'll put it back if I pull away - and remember it doesn't hurt to stroke a bit.
Could work on yours too ^^
Bite his ear! It'll surprise him ;)
Faye
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19 f. There is a guy that i work with that i really like. I get butterflies in my stomach just thinking about him! The problem is that even though we are good friends and always talk, i dont think he thinks of me in a romantic way. I really really like him! How do i get him to notice me? (link)
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This sounds stupid, but everyone I've told this to agreed that it made a difference :) I think it's really sweet yuo found someone you like, and I'm sure you deserve him :). He may think of you ina romantic way - he may not - but whenever you look in the mirror I want you to say to yourself 'I am fuckign gorgeous' and then I want you to believe it. When you're around him try flirting :) When your around him remind yourself how attractive you are and it'll show in the way you speak and act towards him even if you dont realise it. Confidence is also very sexy and attractive :) Be confiodent around him, and I'm sure he'll start seeing yuo in a rather romantic light :). Try make him smile, or laugh :D A girl who can make a guy laugh isa special thing indeed and I'm sure he'll notice :D
Good Luck :D
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ok well i'm my boyfriends 1st girlfriend and he's not my first but the only on i actally cared about and & none of us never tongue kissed before ... like he tries 2 but i break a way cusz i feel like i dont know wat i'm doiing becuase i dont!!!!
all we do is tap and yeah i want 2 go deeper and us tounge but i dont kno how??? & our friendsz keep asking if we did it yet and itsz so embarrising 2 saii no since i really want to. so how do u tounge kiss?????
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Don't worry about tongue kissing :) It's really quite easy, and you're bound to be nervous on your first real kiss! In the end, you'll find it will just happen :). But as your kissing.. just gradually open your mouth, and help his along too! Tongue kissing only works best when your mouth are significantly open xD. Try not to bite if you can... but at the same time it will be your first tongue kiss so things are bound not to be perfect! Just rest assured knowing things will get better and this will help that :). After your mouths are open, you just put your tongue (not forcefully) into their mouths, and freestyle! There should definitely should be some touching of his tongue and yours.
Good luck!
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15/f/freshman
kay so i have a boyfriend and we've been dating for about 3 months. it's not that long i know but is it bad that like i don't tell him everything and i know things about him but like not everyyything? it seems like everytime i see someone being a couple they know everrything about eachother and tell them everyyyything. i'm kinda shy and new to the whole actual dating and going places with a boyfriend so i get kinda nervous around him but it's gotten way better. also we started "dating" like a few days after we met so i think we're still developing in our relationship a lot. thats not bad right? and i love him but i'm not "in love" with him you know like it's a friend love but a little more then that.
another question, like i said i get nervous and like can't think of what to talk about around him because i'm so afraid that i'm going to sound dumb. i'm really insecure. how do should i attempt to break that shell?
i don't know, i think it might be better now that i have lunch with him next semester, so anyone who helps, thanks a ton, i mean it =] (link)
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These things take time =] You went out with him because you were attracted to him right =]? Things will work, you've been going out for three months, Hell, I hadnt even kissed myf irst boyfriend at three months. Hehe -- but honestly with time, it will become so much better. Make sure you try and make interesting conversation, ask him questions about himself :P! Do not be afraid to meet up with him and talk to him :) He is with you because evidently you're a brillaint person he wants to be with, so you should have nothing to worry about :).
Watch a movie with him, this way you wont have to talk so much or meet him with friends.
In time it will get better
Good Luck
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