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what makes guys like girls? like what do most guys find hot and not?! (link)
Guys love when they can tell that your being yourself. They like when you've proved that they can trust you. Guys usually like long straight hair. Girls that aren't to girly, but are still classy. They like when there down for pretty much anything, but still have the brains. They think when your confident and belive in your self; that that's hot and sexy, but when your concided and over dramatic, its really not attractive. They like when your open to talk about pretty much anything. Guys find perfume sexy and cute acceserrys. guys don't really find loading yourself up with make up and all that stuff very sexy, cause its just not all you.

anythingg else, just askk .


16/f
Does veet really work for shaving "Down there"? (link)
Nooo!
bad idea.
Even if you read the lable it tells you not to use it on any area other than your legs. It could burn and irrate it .

hope i helped.d


does anyone know some good sites?
ty for anything. (link)
luniapic

or piknic.com


okay so this morning i woke up with my right eye crusted shut. then it was draining a clear liquid and was red. later i took a hot shower and put in eye drops. now my eye is white like the other eye but it wont open as wide as the other one.
is it pink eye or just and allergy problem?

and if it is pink eye, i have school tomorrow and i hate my glasses so i wear contacts. would it be okay to wear them? if i do what would happen?

also on tuesday i have softball tryouts and i cannot play with glasses and i cant see with without them. what do i do?

please answer asapp.
i will provide feedback! (link)
I really woould go to the doctors.
pink eye is much more servere.
it really could just be conjunctavitus. Call the doctor and they'll give you something that will clear either pink eye or that away! I wouldn't go to school tomorrow if it still looks that way, it could be very contajious.

hope i helpedd.


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I don't understand your question.
im sorry.


So the boy that I recently was talking about to see if he liked me has asked me out...Of course I said yes but there is just one problem...I am his first girlfriend. Can you guys please tell me like how to act towards a "beginner" because I don't want it to seem like I'm moving to fast or to slow... (link)
That's always special!
Well i would start of slow, but not slow enough that he gets bored. Make it fun and exciting. Keep it to the basic, holding hands, going out after school, kissing, cute little texting. I would NOT pull the I love you thing on him, untill you feel you both feel that actually love lol. it scares people sometimes. Tell him he's handsome or sexayyyy or everr gorgeous =D And if you really wannt to work out, let him know that you really like him and your not gonna deal with any babyshit and this is a real relationship even though its your 1st. Guys are gonna be Guys 1st realtsionship or there 5454654. So just work on it, keep it to an easy pace.


anything else just MESSAGE ME =D


yea i kno the group thing is a great idea, but i finally got over the date!!!!! all we did its the movie and i cant wait to go home so..... every one of my friend kno that he likes me and i dont like him, but i think he thinks that he got a chance with me, also im confussed abt my feeling with his bro, i meet him at the same place i meet him, but the first time i saw his bro i feel like i like him alot, and on sun we all gonna hang out,and how should i act infront of his bro???? i mean i dont want any trouble, i realli hope that me and his bro coulde work out but just stay as a normal friend with him, i dont even want to look at him for a long time, thats how i feel abt him, plz help me!!!! (link)
Ohh tough situation!!
buttttt .
you can go hang out sunday, and make sure your not flirting to much in front of the one you don't like,there isnt much you can do about it..but if you get into conversation..let him know that you think the other one likes you but YOU only have "friend" outlooks on him. Let him know or even the other guy know that you really don't want to start drama or to make him feel bad but you like his brother. Or if you really don't want to start a conversation like that if it makes you feel unconfmy or something just be around a lot of people. Don't make it look like your trying to avoid anyone because it will just make the situation worse. Brother's talk, so becarefull what you say.
tell you this, if you need anything else.. let me know.. let me know how sunday goes too .

=D i really hope im helping.


Ok so how do I know what color I would look great with for my hair. I might go Dark Brown/Black or I might go with Light Brown with Blonde highlights. Other then dying it and seeing for yourself kind of thing, is there a website where you can photosnap for free? (link)
Well i have a friend that has the same hair color you do, even with blue eyes.

its safe to dye your hair even when you like to swim in pools. I'd definitly would't go swimming beofre you dye yur hair, but pool's wouldn't be a concern, just use hair treatment conditioner and your hair will stay soft.

If your gonna dye your hair i wouldn't go blonde, if you went blonde it would have to be your eyebrow's to, and that process doesn't always work out for people with darker hair. i would go with a shade or two lighter or really light highlights, like a frosting highlights, nothing to streaky looking. Need anything else :D


well there is a guy i meet not too long ago from a friends bday party, at first i saw him i didnt realli pay attention, but i kno i dont like him anything more than a friend, but recently he ask me on a date, cause i own him a favor so i accept his date invitation... and then he told me to meet him at at a place for a movie , i waited for abt 20-25 min he did not show up so i decided to get something to eat, then i called him to confirm that if he is commin or not, he did not pick up his call then 5 m ins later he call me back, i told him that i will meet him up at the theater ard movie time so i hung up ,,, did i do the rite thing???? what should u guys do if this is ur situation????? im totally confussed of my feelings. but something for sure is i dont like him at all as a couple he is even ok for a friend, i barley kno him realli




thx guys! (link)
Next time your in a situation like that, make sure he really comferms that plans, ask him to let you know if he's going to be late or not. BUt the thing is, if you don't have any feelings for him, and barely know him as a friend to save the awkward moments you could always make it a group thing. and if he doesn't like the sound of that, then its just not gonna work because you don't really like him.

need anything else, just message mee.


My boyfriend and I have been together a long time. It's pretty serious. I moved to college last August, so of course I don't see him everyday like I used to. I see him two, maybe three times a month. Which isn't too bad.

Anyway, we've hit a few rough patches recently, and I'm trying to do sweet little random things for him in hopes that maybe he'll start doing the same for me. Basically, I want him to know that he's loved even if I'm far from home.

I leave him a comment everyday on facebook and myspace just telling him to have a good day and stuff.

Any other ideas on nice things I could do for him to show that I love and miss him?

I'd prefer things that don't involve a lot of regular mail because I don't exactly have money for stamps. Thanks! (link)
Welll .
your doing great so far.
but nighttime phone calls would be sweet =D
and when you see him, you two can make the most of it, sometimes even the littlest things make a guy so happy. Little dates, going for ice cream or a romantic walk. You could always make a scrap book of all the times memories and pictures you have and write a little poem or note for the last page and give it to him next time you see him.

hope i helpedd .


okay i plan on getting the sidekick id for my birthday and i want to know if it has a camera and pros and cons. Did you like it or not??
Thanks. (link)
All the sidekciks uaually have a camrea.
the only pron of this, you have to be somewhat gental when your flipping them open or if you drop it. The other thing is, there kind of big so just make sure you'll be comfertable bringing it places =D but there great if your an AIM*er or a textt addicttt .



I'm a 42 y/o single man. Less then a month ago my best friend died in an accident. I have not been able to come to grips with his death. I have recently been having thoughts of ending my life. This happens whenever I am alone, especially at night. I have lost loved ones before, including my parents and brother all within a year of each other, but I never felt this type of despair, or loneliness. I am afraid I may eventually give in to my suicidal urge. Can anyone help me? (link)
No one should go through a time like that alone.
you should being staying with someone that will guide you through this *phase* of greif. If you don't feel right doing that, call someone when you get those strong feelings, someone who will listen. There is a number you can always call its 1800SAMARATINS. They will be there to listen just listen to you and cope, if you dont feel comfertable calling. You can always go se a recomended counsler. Also think of your friend, im sure he wouldn't want you to feel all this awful, he doesn't want you to feel that sudden urge of suicide. Its not fair for you to ruin your life. Think of him as safe and healthy ware he is. Its stil your time to live, so maybe start writing your feelings down? if there is ANYYTHING i can help you with or you need anything else.

JUST ASK .


hey, Ok thank you so much for your advice but i have a few more questions.

I have prom in june but i also want the extensions in september for my sweet 16 and i want the extensions for both. i know they are expensive but its ok. lol.

i want my hair longer for once. (link)
My sister did the same thing for her prom.
depeneding on your location im not sure completely, but she got REALLY good like stick in clip on hair extentions, they looked gorgeous and she can use them whenever without worrying about them falling out. If you don't like the idea of that, then i'd be okay to get extentions just ask the person who's doing them if you can get them touched up a couple months before your sweet sixteen. Hair salons always have an answer =D


I want hair extensions but I am just wondering how much they usually cost and how long they last and where I can get them if I live in Deer Park New York?

I want them to last from now until september 12th for my sweet 16. If i get them now will they last until then? and last through prom? (link)
Hair extensions can be very expensive and i wouldn't do it now if yu wanted it to last till september, i'd do it in like july or somethingg.

if you need anything else, just ask =D


what are some really cute and original ideas i can do for my boyfriends 16th bday. im not sure if hes having a party and i might take him out to dinner but i want to do something really special! all ideas welcome and please as many suggestions as you can think of!

im gonna give him 16 kisses but i need more than that :) thanks so much!!! (link)
Wellll .
if you two have picture's together, make a scrap book and the last page of the scrap book you could write him a letter of all your feelings for him.

if that doesn't sound good to you, just askk me =D


Is hair fudge bad for your hair ? (link)
Fudge can't be good for your hair, but i wouldn't recomend putting it in. It wont damage it, but it will be awful to get out.

need anything else, just ask =D


I'm not fet but I'm not skinny I want to get abs but how do I? (link)
Crunches,push ups,exersising diffrent ways, if you can get a gym pass. There's just diffrent ways of getting abs, if you look it up on google there will be hundreds of ways
!

hope i helped..
need nything else, just ASK .


Just recently I've been having my fair share of bad relationships. I find a lad, i really really like him, and then as soon as were together i dont want it anymore. The last guy lasted 2 weeks and i couldnt stand to be around him. It jst made me feel ill (horrible but true). I am really starting to worry because i dont want this to keep happening. I came out of a 2 year relationship last year and i am over it but im wondering whether im having problems commiting because im that scared of getting hurt agen... please if someone has been through this themselves then give me some hope of it being ok lol! thank you =] (link)
i know EXACTLY what your talking about.
and your right,your most likely just scared of your next commitment because you've been hurt before and you don't want it to be like that again.

don't trust your future guys fully, let the relationships be easy and let them come to you, let them prove they can be there for you and not hurt you. You'll get over this eventually, i know it seems forever while your ging through it, and its hard to understand.
but you can do it =D

need anything else.
just askk .


So im 15/f summer is coming and bathsuits love them. but im confused about where to shave. down there you know. like i have no idea where you do shave. and how so it doesnt come back all bushy.

Then another one, im so nervous that i will get into it with a guy and he will be going to finger me or whatever, and he feels the hair or sees it and like goes ew and stops and tells people or never talks to me again or nothingg. what should i do? (link)
Its really okay to shave your pubic hair.
Guys do like it clean, but if you have somethinggg down there, thats not to much; a guy doesn't care. Just make sure you shave in the shower, it doesn't hurt that way, be gental, and just watch what your doing, if you don't wanna shave it all, jjust shave your bikini line

need anythig else? Just ask =D


what are some really good gifts for boyfriends? especially for a bf's 16th bday? hes not too into clothing but im buying him a shirt-is that ok?? and chocolate covered strawberries (his fave), a CD of songs, poem+card, the thing is hes not that into clothes so what other gifts could i get him?? hes very into sports but hockey and football will be over. and i might do a collage too idk and for something else im giving him a scrapbook

hes a strong Christian but in love with his Bible so i cant get him a new one, loves hockey and football (but i kno nothing of sports) and music but he lost his iPod(and i cant afford to buy him a new one) he also loves movies but always has seen the latest ones out so i couldnt buy him one and PS2 games but idk which games he would want/like or has.

thanks so much! i appreciate it tons! :] (link)
Those are all really great present's =D
while you do all that for him, take him out to lunch or just do something random, but straight from the heart. He's not a cloths kind of person? It doesn't matter, guys love anything coming from someone they love. Your already doing sso muchhh !
its great..

but if you need anymore idea's, just ask =D




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