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Q: hi ive been shaving my arms and i stopped now because i dont feel comfortble due to rashes on my arms. ive tried everything from creams to waxing to shaving and even threadingg!!! there was one similarity beetween all those..my hair grew back spikey!! is there any way to prevent this..please hellp!!!
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all hair grows back spikey till it gets a lil longer. you could use nair. itsa kinda lotion u put on n wait then wash it off n it takes out the hair, it takes longer for it to grow back.

Q: im CC ( bi female) and me and my girlfriend want to kiss but we are debating who should start/ initiate the kiss and we are going back and forth saying "you do it" and "no you do it" so who should go first....

Girlfriend...
or CC....
both just start it doesnt matter most people never think about it before they kiss they just go for it

Q: 17/f

I have the typical scene kid look :S
Black hair with blonde streaks, side swept bangs heaps of layers and my hair is kind of cut in a mulletish style.
I am sick of not knowing what do to with my hair so I just leave it down everyday and straighten it. It's kind of boring. I need a new way to do it. Can anyone help?
you could tease the upper part, hold up a strand and use a comb and do it up and down the strand making it poofy and do it for a lot of your hair then hairspray it.
OR
you could put your head upside down and use hairspray then brush it crazily lol then put your head up and fix it a little.
OR
you could scrunch it when its wet and use hairspray.
OR
you could put it in a half ponytail but keep your part and dont use a brush.
OR
you could put it ina messy bun or pony tail and have all the layers that dont fit just hang.
- thats some stuff i do when i feel like doin my hair C: i hope i helped

Q: I've been really addicted to lemonade lately. For the last three weeks or so, I've been drinking 20 fl oz bottle lemonade a day....I'm totally hooked on this brand called "Calypso." They have multiple flavors, like Kiwi Lemonade, Mango Lemonade, Black Cherry Lemonade, etc.

Well, for the past few days, the lemonade has started to leave an awful sour taste in my mouth - and I'm positive it's not because there is anything wrong with the lemonade. The more I drink, the more sour it gets. I drank a whole bottle this morning and my mouth actually hurts. It's also started to upset my stomach. I can't even have a sip of it without setting my mouth off.

Could it be the acid?

I'm starting to get worried. Lemonade is my favorite food in the whole world. Does this mean that I'll never be able to enjoy lemonade again?!!!!!

people get acid sores in their mouth but usually on the sides of your tounge and they burn when they touch any acidy food or drinks. if you keep going on with it they can get pretty bad and take a while to go away. try and get addicted to a different kind of fruit like watermelon! lol

Q: ok so i got my hair dyed today, and i absolutly HATE IT!!! its like RED and my natural color is blonde. Is there any home remidies that could possibly get my old color back?!?! thx!
my hairs orange at the moment but im dyeing it bright purple in like 2 days iv just been lightening it with sun in i have very dark hair. wash your hair like 5 times before you do anything and use very moisturey shampoo and conditioner. then to lighten it you can use either lemon or sunin and to make it shineyer use beer, dono if thats what you ment by home remedies but you could also freshen your hair with the moisture shampoo and stuff then either dye it dark blonde or just go red. you wont get your natural color back no matter what you do untill it grows out or you lighten it enough. is the dye permanent or highsemi or lowsemi or will it just wash out ina day lol. well the ways i said up their is for permanent. any semi is you should wash it daily and lighten it with lemon but washing it to much messes ur hair up thoo. so wait it out and lighten it and make sure it gets a lot of moisture! have fun hope i helped

Q: I'm fourteen years old, and I'm a girl.

I've been dying my hair since I was nine.
I used Sun In, and my hair was like dark blonde w/ some red highlights, they were natural.
I did that for about two summers.

When I was thirteen, I finally died my hair brown.
And now it always lightens back up, because it's a semipermanent dye.

I want to get my hair stripped, but with that hurt my hair in anyway? and how much does it cost?
ive always dyed my hair too but i use dye that comes out in about a month or two, now im using sun in and im dyeing it bright purple in two days after i graduate. hair can only hold so much dye. id say let it go for about a month at least. stipping it hurts it more than anything right along with bleaching it. stipping doesnt cost much and is priced very different at every place. but its easier to do it yourself or have someone that knows what their doing. although if you do stip your hair it will kill it and it will look worse than it has ever before just dont do it. its a sign when the dye dont stick. my best friend did that and it ended up looking like hes eighty when hes 15. thats why sun in is the only permanent stuff i use everything else is semi. sooo just wait for your hair. its better to have it looking decent then have it looking ew. i dont know how to put it lol

Q: When I go to my hair stylist, how do I ask for this hair style ------->

http://i32.tinypic.com/21k9myc.jpg
you could bring in the picture. but they will tell you that is extensions. and if they cut your hair like that it would be so thin it looks bad. iv asked for that once and it was the worst haircut iv gotten. just get a whole lot of layers on hair ending anywhere from your jaw till above your shoulders but the best is right between. then tease it and get some long extensions and blend it and tease it some more. unless you have a whole lot of hair and its pretty thick you shouldnt get that. i have thin hair but a whole lot of hair and their wasnt enough. hope i helped youuu

Q: 15/F


I've been getting my hair cut from one stylist over the past few years. He's a very good haircutter - I've been pleased with most of his cuts.

Well, this time I told him what I wanted but he misunderstood me and he gave me an atrocious pixie cut. It looks pretty damned awful.

I can't look at myself in the mirror without crying. I have never looked this ugly in my whole life. I've been wearing a wig so people don't see what I look like.


Here is the hair I have right now:

http://i56.photobucket.com/albums/g164/risingloafer/100_1901.jpg
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Here is the look that I wanted to achieve:


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http://i56.photobucket.com/albums/g164/risingloafer/100_1621.jpg
http://i56.photobucket.com/albums/g164/risingloafer/100_1632.jpg
http://i56.photobucket.com/albums/g164/risingloafer/100_1624.jpg
http://i56.photobucket.com/albums/g164/risingloafer/100_1642.jpg
http://i56.photobucket.com/albums/g164/risingloafer/100_1738.jpg
http://i56.photobucket.com/albums/g164/risingloafer/100_1737.jpg
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http://i56.photobucket.com/albums/g164/risingloafer/haircut03-05.jpg



I told him exactly what I wanted. I even showed him one of the pictures (the 7th one). I told him that I wanted a stacked, graduated bob that really poofs out.

He saw one of the pictures and he said, "Oh, I see! You want it super short!" Well, yes, the haircut I wanted was about jaw-length, but I DID NOT WANT A PIXIE CUT!!!!

I asked him whether the cut he was planning to give would puff out on the sides, and he said yes, so I assumed that we were on the same page. While he was cutting away, I was starting to see the direction that my hair was going, and I asked him again whether my hair would poof out in the end and he said, "Don't worry, this is just the underlayer. It'll poof out in the end"

Yes, the cut he gave me was stacked and layered but I DID NOT WANT A PIXIE CUT!!!!


He sensed that I was unhappy and he later gave me a phone call. He said that in a few months, he can re-do my hair free of charge.


So, what I need to know is:


1. How long will it take
the best thing i can think of is get extensions, CLIP ON tho from almost any hair cut/styling place. it will make you the happiest person ever, its the best thing for any, wrong haircut. i say about 2 months to grow out enough. for your description, print out a front, a back, and a side picture of it, and bring it all in. although i would say dont try and get the haircut again, get it as long as ur hair is at the moment whenever you get it cut. it would be even worse to get it the second time. for your hair now it looks pretty thin, so tease it up. hold a strand of hair and put a comb in it and go along your hair up and down for all your hair, then hairspray timeee. if that dont work tell me ill try and think of something else, im only 14 but i fix up a lot of scene kind of hair and i dye a lot of hair hehe mines always different. but just try clip on extensions do not ever get glued or sewn in extensions ever, just get clip. http://photobucket.com/image/extensions/Djdaneboy/Extensions2.jpg?o=12 their extensions http://photobucket.com/image/extensions/crystalclear1921/EXTENSIONS.jpg?o=49 thats a random person w and w/o them, see the difference! lol i hope i helped

Q: 14/f Ok, well i like this guy who rides my bus but he dosen't know i exsist. Recently, this girl that got her drivers liscence has been taking him to school and taking him home so i dont get to talk to him ever, and he is 2 years older than me so he isn't in any of my classes. Occasionaly he will ride the bus but it would seem weird to just be like "hey! whats up?" If i told anyone that i like him and he found out he might not like me or want to date me because i am a freshman and he is a junior. I never see him in school hardly ever...what should i do?
a fun way to play it, do something really out there and make him notice you. then just keep flirting and play hard to get, then start talking to him aafter like a week of it. ive done it altho like everybody notices me, ive began talking to a guy, who now really likes me but im just not ating him. idk whyy tho :/ . orrr your could be normal like everyone else and start it up with an awkward conversation. my ways funner. lol hope i helped ya.

Q: 15/f

ok so there these two guys L and D. theyre best friends. so errm i like L alot. i've liked him for over one year now. i've never really talked to either of them because of some issues i've had with one other friend and it's complicated but i know that L likes/d me back (just trust me on this) and that D might like me as well.
so the problem is that L always makes me a bit sad and he's always ignoring me when i try to smile. but then, when i dont look he always looks like he's completely in love (my friends told me)
or when i ignore him, i still see that his looking at me when hes walking by mme or smth.
so i've ignored him a lot lately and he looked at me alot. so i think i mad ehim feel bad. and now hes hanging out with this other girl alot and i also saw him smiling at her once. i know theyre like best friends and i've never had a problem with him talking to girls, but now im starting to think he likes HER. but only since yesterday because they where sitting next t eachother cuddeling a bit :(
and i like him so much. he slike this hard to get guy, dresses quite emo and really sexy.
but im never too happy when i see him and always scared to look. and he always playes "games" with me by looking and then being pissed because i didnt look back and ignores me. and he often just wants to be cool. the good thing is that i can tell that tho.
he's really complicated and also drinks and smokes and is often a bit mean to his friend D.
for some reason al that turns me on :(
and there is his friend D. he's like the sweetest guy i've ever seen. and i always get a smile on my face when i see him. i know he's really nice to everyone.
i wish i could just like HIM because i know he'd be perfect, but for some reason im attracted to L and everytime i wanna get over him i think : "what if something could happen between us after all"
it's shiiiit.
please help me. and dont tell me L is a playa because he's actually not playing with me as in he doesnt really like me.
but he's 16 and never had a gf.
the sad thing is im JUST like L. how he ignores you and acts pissed then loving, to you, i always do that to other guys. ive never had an actual "bf" so im lovesick, its how most lovesick people get. i fall for any guy then i remember how much this one guy who was my best friend made my life hell because we liked eachother. so i think every guy is like that, i start flirting with a guy then i act mad at him then end up cuddling with him and talk soooo much then usually cuss him out when i leave and never see him again. this all reminds me especially of last night. in every possible way except put me in L's position and the guy i was with in yours, he was 16 im 14, he liked me. i say hes just like me an emo messed up kid in a lovesickend world, altho im not emo, just start talkin to him even if he ignores you say awwww please talky to me, ina cute lil voice lol. i say hes just like me i end up hating every guy i see and start to love within the day. but he is not a player at all. he will be the sweetest guy you meet if you get to really know him. just tell me to redo it if you dont get it, im really outa it right now. i hope i helped

Q: My hair is medium lenght and it is dark brown. All of my friends say i should get one but i dont know what kinds are out there and what if after five or sixs mounths i dont want it anymore what do i do? Also do i have to do a lot with my hair in the mornings? dose it hurt to get a perm?
i got one in sixth grade before. it does not hurt at all and you can get any kind of perm just bring in a picture or whatever and they can make curls as loose os as tight as you want them. most perms last 4 to 6 months anyways but if you get tired of it just straighten it or chemically straighten. pretty much you can pick what kind of curls and about how long for it to last. you cant wask it for the first two days tho. at the time i had medium brown hair too when i went in to get my haircut a perm looked funner so i judt got a perm then they trim it. now my hair is two toned red and black i love it. anything else just ask.

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You only get the chance to live once so take advantage of it! i have a pretty hard life but im getting through it day by day yet struggling. im going in to highschool next year, with none of my friends and the teachers already hate me. I am bipolar but it has only taught me to be stronger. All people can make your life hell you just have to fight back. i used to be suicideal, but iv found the light i still have many hard times but i get threw them nicely i have ways to take my mind off life n not think about things. im recovered and feel so accomplished. i hate doctors im running from them, i deny to being suicideal their testing me alot but i gradually stopped without them putting me on depression meds so why cant they stop. iv ben on alot of meds tho but not certain kinds thank goodness aha. tho Ive helped many friends through very hard times that I had experience in.Ive saved a few of my best friends from suicide which is the best thing ever to save the people you love from thse thing that screwed you over, although some are still struggling. Im here to help anybody.I love dying my hair its my personality and its not the browns and blondes. Im up for anything, I am a fighter but I never really do it physically. The people you love die helpless and most have never done anything to help fix the cause of their death. Ive been a cutter but ive realized how much it hurt me and other people and I gradually stopped :) great accomplishment. I am a very artsie girl. I love to paint canvasses and pictures and draw whatever. Id be gone without my skateboard and guitar. When you dont really know me people call me a poser I tell them to fck off, I wear and act how I want while their following eachother like robots I have the time of my life. Once you get to know me youd realize im anything but a poser or hypocrite and the people who call others it I guess thats all they do for a living. I end up in the middle of all the drama which I hate so much I say what I think and stick to it. Im in for the ride of a life time. im in love with the gothic culture and clothes altho i still dont think im gothic although I wear black daily. Love me of hate me, if you hate me join the club, I dont really care what people think of me what im doing is right. im going tryout to cheer for football next year since they wont let me play im doing it to scare the shit out of everyone ill change the whole meaning of a cheerleader. il try out an hope i get on, i get along with almost anyone just depends if ur a bitch to me. i do what i believe in and i dont let anybody or nothing get in my way. what i live for "do what you love be who you want learn from mistakes and then die loved" ive been through so much by now the worst thing ever is im loosing all my relatives one by one and im starting to loose it. I hate breakups so its better to be extremely close and be loved than be close be loved then broken again. ive been heartbroken to many times :( and I cant trust any guy their all the same kind of jerk, except if their just a friend. I have been through almost everything possible, which is wayyy to much.Im not just your average girl at all. I dont know anybody like me and would rather be unique anyways. im talkative when im in the mood, when im pissed my friends cheer me up alot but its all in my head from there, where they cant help. i love my friends idk what to do without them idk what will happen this year on my way to a lonely highschoool. i type alot, i noticed, il edit alot out later. buh byee

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