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Okay 25/F here with major realtionship issues. Recently me and my boyfriend of 7 years decided to have a separation, well more like I decided. So he moved out (we own a house together) and I have now been living alone for 3 weeks. The plan was for him to go get help and for me to sort out my feelings and then he would move back in after a month and then we could see how things went from there. So why did we separate? He is very controlling and jealous, he was constantly calling me names and accusing me of cheating, so basically calling me a whore. He say's he doesn't really think I cheat but he just gets mad and that he's jealous of my job, because they get more attention then I do. I am never allowed to go anywhere and have alienated every friend beacuse he thinks that you should not go out unless your significant other is with you. So there's no "girls night" for me. If I even go to the store he clocks me and gets pissed about how long I take. The longer we're together the less I cuddle, kiss or do anything with him at all. The only time I am intimate with him, I am being forced by him complaining and some sense of duty for the relationship. Basically it's aweful and his touch disgusts me now. Despite all his faults he loves me very much perhaps too much and he has always been there for me when I had tough things to deal with. He wants to marry me and have kids but I am not ready for that, I care about him but for some reason I can't seem to marry him. On top of it all I have formed this infatuation for a co-worker and my BF senses their is something between me and this other guy, if he even new about flirting then he would seriously go down there and beat him to a pulp. So our month break thing is almost up, and I still don't know what I want, he has been going to a Psychologist and he recognizes his problems and I appreciate his effort but I can't seem to make myself "feel" and he says that I just don't care, but I do I just can't explain what it is I feel. If I leave him he will serisouly snap, he already threatened to kill himself when I asked for the separation. I don't know what to do, if he really did change will my feelings all come back or did I fall out of love with him and is it too late? Or am I so focused on this other guy that I am not appreciating what I already have. I feel so lost right now. :( (link)
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I think how he acted before the seperation totally changed your outlook on him and his personality towards you. He has been so controlling for so long that you probably cant see him acting any differently. I dont think you lost love but maybe this relationship isnt working for you and if u cant be intimate or anything that might be a sign. If you have stronger feelings for the other guy than I think you should go for it but if you do..dont break up with your boyfriend and then automatically go to the other guy you have to wait a little bit so your boyfriend doesnt find out and get really angry and lash out at you or the other guy..i hope i have helped and i wish you the best of luck!
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my boyfriend gets extremely jealous whenever another guy compliments me, such as on myspace picture comments, and he sends them messages saying really mean things! ( i have his myspace password..shh haha) he told my guy friend to go to hell when all my friend said was "hey how are u youre pretty hot now". Is this jealousy a sign of how much he loves me or is he just very insecure? or both? (link)
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he sounds insicure to me and he wants you all to himself but its not like there goin to take him away from you...maybe he doesnt realize how strong your relationship is no matter how many times you tell him...i think u should talk to him about it and tell him how much you love him and no guy will take u away
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yesterday my boyfriend told me he was cheating on me which i was very upset about. i'm still with him and he is still cheating on me.he said he has been cheating on me for a year. i love him very much and he said he loved me too. but he said he wasn't going to leave the other girl and he said we could share him. i'm really thinking about breaking up with him. but i love him and i'm not sure what to do. should i break up with him or just keep our relationship still going? please help and thank you so much
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omg! break up with him..if he loved you enough he would want to be with you and only you I know you love him but trust me you can get wayy better and someone that wants you and only you.
-Meredith
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my boyfriend is on crutches now and i really want to do something sweet for him. we have only been together for a couple weeks so i've never been inside his house yet and i haven't met his parents, so i can't do something to out of place, you know? any ideas? (link)
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ok i was on crtuches and i always loved the simple things my boyfriend did for me when i was on them..he would brought me a card,food,and came over to watch a moving with him and it showed me how much he cared. He didnt do big things for me the little things are what mattered the most.
good luck and i hope he feels better sooN!
Meredith
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In your honest opinion...
How realistic is it to think that you will one day marry your first love? I don't think it's likely, but it happens, right? I'm 16 and he is 17. And I've never felt this way about anyone in my entire life. I just want to experience everything in life with him. We talk about getting married sometimes, I mean seriously talk about it. When we do talk about it he tells me that he is serious, that he wants to spend the rest of his life with me.
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I think it is awesome you found who you love early..now you dont have to go around looking for your souldmate. I think its awesome that you want to marry your first love!
have fun and good luck!
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My boyfriend and I have been going out for 9 months now and he said he loves me..How long do you have to be going out to know if you love someone. Or is it not time constrained?? (link)
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You guys have been going out for a long time and i think he really means he loves you! and no there is no time limit until you love someone. I have been going out with my boyfriend for 2 months and i knew after half the first month i knew i loved him so no there is no time to start loving him..only when you feel attraction and safe and you have fun with him. good luck!
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for about ten months now.. we are both 16 and i dont think he fully appreciates me..
We get into the STUPIDEST fights and he calls me names constantly.. I really do love him but I often find myself thinking about how much fun I could be having with someone who would appreciate me soo much more and treat me like a princess.. I dont think my boyfriend realizes how special i am. I dont want to break up with him though because he was my first everything- sex, real kiss,.. and weve been through alot with eachother..
what should i do? (link)
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sounds like your bf is taking you for granted. He for sure shoundnt be calling you names and soon it could lead so worse things besides name calling. you should talk to him and tell him the way he treats un is unacceptable and unless you are treated like his gf and with more respects than you want nothing to do with him. Give everything some times and i hoped i helped ha.
good luck
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=/ Well, I just wanted to know if you were in my situation, like if you'd be mad.
I really want to see that movie Click, and my boyfriend promised that he would take me on Thursday, because we both don't work & we had it planned out & everything (it being our 2 month, I thought it'd be cool to actually do something like that we both want to do), I was REALLY excited. Todays July 4th obviously, and my boyfriend knows I'm home alone doing absolutely nothing until I have to go to work tonight at 7pm.
He just called me and told me that he's going to be going to the movies with his sisters today to watch Click. And, I'm really upset because not only does he KNOW i'm by myself & I really wanted to do something especially today because of it being July 4th, but we planned everything out to see that movie on Thursday.
I just need to know, if I'm getting mad over something stupid. But I think the least he could've done was invited me to the movies with him. =]
Thank youuu in advance!
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wow...I think you have a reason to be mad..i mean you had plans to go see that movie with him for your 2 month. And you are alone on the 4th he should invite you. I agree with you!!
good luck!
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so ive been dating a guy for a couple months and he just recently said something really mean to my friend while she was working causing her to run of work bawling. i dont want a guy that talks shit to my friends. is it wrong to break up with him for it? please answer.. (link)
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No,sounds to me like he is a real jerk. Your friends will last a lot longer than relationships and if he doesnt respect your friends than he doesnt respect you
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Hi I'm Adam and 16 Years old. heres my question:
I like (ok love) this girl. I have tried working some kind of relationship out with her but she didnt want it. Shes not dating anyone and she likes me as a friend alot. I want her so bad though. Shes the only one I want and nothing will make me change that. What is there I can do to make her go for me?
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Well sorry to say there is not much you can do. Just wait and see..if nothing happens then it wasnt meant to be but be patient..she might come around.
*Meredith
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i have an amazing boyfriend that i really love. but my best friends think he is a pot-smoking jerk even though hes only smoked pot once! and just because we got in a fight a while ago they are convinced hes out to hurt me and just wants to make-out..but the thing is i LOVE making out with him..today my best friend said he was ugly and she often compares huge losers to my bf and she makes me cry..no matter what i say she doesnt believe that he is a great guy even though he is..how do i show her that hes not like she thinks and also get her to stop insulting him?? ive tried telling her it hurts my feelings but she keeps doing it. (link)
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i understand about the whole bf thing and you love them. It sounds to me like your best friend is just looking out for you and is having to re-trust him again because of previous expierinces with him hurting your feelings. I think she is stil angry about that fight yall had long ago so insulting him sometimes helps. She doesnt mean them she just says them to get the anger about him off her chest cause the last thing she wants to happen is you to be hurt. I think she believes now that he is a great guy. Trust me she cares a lot about you and loves you like a sister and you have no idea how much ou mean to her..your frienship it what keeps her going everyday. But maybe that frienship with you and her isnt working...i dont think you should let her see this cause it can hurt her cause your friendship means a lot to her. And she never told you this but you are considered her sister and sometimes when people ask her how man sisters she has she says 3..fill in the blanks..hope this advice can help.
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(im 14)Well my boyfriend and i have madeout many times and he puts his hand up my shirt and thats all we've done. i really love him alot and whenever im with him i kinda feel lustful...and i often find myself wanting to do much more than what we do but NOT sex..well one time i was jokin around and took my shorts off jokingly and asked him if he wanted me to keep them off and he looked SHOCKED. he was like ur so innocent and i like that..i cant see u doing anything..but what if i get so horny that i WANNA do something? would my boyfriend break up with me because im not the innocent sweetheart i seem to be? (link)
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well I know I am the same way. I seem to be the same way on the outside I am very sweet and innpocent so no one expects me to be wild and crazy and sexy. I think if you are lustful towards him then you should show it because you don't want to hide your true emotions and your true self. I don't think he would break up with you just because you have the same emotions as he does but just because your a sweetheart you shouldn't show them. I say go for it!
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