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Hey y'all! Im Laura (my middle name is Ashanti) and I live in Texas, in a town about 20 minutes away from Houston! =) I love it so much - Texas is my home! I guess, you can say I've been through a lot. Ive grown up in a strong Christian home & had to adjust my life to that. But, although I am very, very religious, I have definitely done some stupid things in my life. When I was 8, my older sister Kira got pregnant with her long time boyfriend, but she was only 15 going on 16 and she was forced to give the baby up for adoption. I grew up in the shadow of my sister because my parents had no time to deal with me or my problems. I have never been to rich either. I grew up in my sister's hand-me-downs from cheap places we could afford clothes. I've had lots of peer pressure in my life. I have smoked cigarettes and pot, drank alcohol & cheated on a very good boyfriend. My parents never found out about this, but then again, they have a lot of other problems to deal with. Last year, my best friend Juliette died of alcohol poising - a sad way to die. Ive had many boyfriends who have come and gone, but now Im in a relationship (As of last week =) hehe Love you Mike! Enjoying my senior year before college. When I finish college, I really want to be a teacher or go off to live in a great city, Like New York or Chicago. I love to give advice and help people with any problems (except for sex - I never have had sex but I have thought about doing it alot.) So, if you need an answer or guidance or just someone to talk to, leave one in my inbox & I'll get back to you A.S.A.P (usually 2 days tops) ♥ always, Laura
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Me and my boyfriend kissed for the first time a while back, and now he keeps wanting to do it every day. I'm afraid if we keep kissing every day, we'll soon grow bored of it and move of to sex. I don't want to take things too fast. So what should I do?
You have to be honest with him - tell him your in it for love not just a physical relationship. Just tell him its going too fast, and you would like to maybe talk first before you start kissing again. Get to know eachother and make sure he knows it will be more fun if you wait for perfect moments to kiss! ;] My boyfriend loved it when I told him that - and he got it, too. I mean, it keeps the suspense going, you know? And passion - and thats what keeps relationships going for so long. Its really, really important to savor every moment of a relationship! A kiss is not to be casual! So, try giving him a hug & holding hands, then when you think its right, kiss him. The moment will be very special & romantic ♥ Laura
All my friends are very touchy-feely sort of people, we always hug each other loads and don't mind being close, both guys and girls. I really like this guy, but due to some unfortunate and complicated circumstances he is ignoring me (I haven't done anything wrong).
But the thing is, he is still the same with all his other friends, and I get very very jealous whenever I see him hugging his female friends, or walking with them in a two.
How can I stop myself being jealous? I don't have a claim over this guy, and I feel so upset whenever I see him like this now because I really do like him.
(It wasn't so long ago - a few weeks - that he liked me. But I didn't like him like that then, and now that I do...I haven't told him this yet but anyway...).
The jealousy is killing me!
I would either a) forget about him for awhile or b) tell him your feelings for him. The problem I think here is that he doesn't know you like him! Plus, boys can be kind of clueless at the whole `dropping hints` thing, too. Being jealous is not fair though, to him or yourself! Dont put yourself through that hun, you may be over-analyzing the whole hug situation. Isn't it just a friendly hug when he hugs them? If it is, then it was probably just a friendly hug when he hugged you. Tell him you like him or forget about him, if you think he wont reacct okay or things will be awkward after with you guys. Just say to him, I like you, and then see how he feels. ♥ Laura
Is Ellen Degenirus a lesbian? I dont know! Help!
Yes, and shes a great role model for all the lesbians & gays out there who are nervous about coming out. She is hilarious and a generous person, too. ♥ Laura
thers this girl I like iv known her for years how would I tell her I like her
Say, "I know were friends, but I think we should take it a step further than "just friends." Tell her you really like her and think that you and her would be a good couple for a relationship for reasons [and list some]. Do you like the same things? That could be one. Or maybe you get along really well with eachother or have been flirting alot lately. Be Prepared. Friendships dont always turn into long lasting healthy relationships. But, then again, sometimes they do. Let her know you DONT want to ruin your friendship if anything happened which it will. That way she cant use that as an excuse. Just let her know how you feel. If she knows you well enough, she'll know you are really genuine when you say the words to her. ♥
Hi, well my names Jen and im 15 and a freshman. In gym class i noticed this boy Matt and he went to my middle school but we never actually talked. But today in gym he said "Hey Jen!" and i dont know i was kind of happy about it. I saw him alot that day and i tried to say hi and smile alot but i know he is extremely shy and everything but he kind of smiled but looked down saying hi. Hes sort of geeky, but i dont think i really care about that but im not sure what to do? Thank you so muchhhh
You seem pretty confused here - but you shouldnt be. This sounds like a good guy, who really likes you! And, let me tell you that "the kind of geeky shy guys" are the best. Ive had a few of those boyfriends in my lifetime and they were the ones that I remember the most about. But, I admit it is hard to get past that shyness into their "charm." It takes time for both of you to open up even if your not shy. Try to focus on exactly how you felt around Matt - when he said Hi to you, looked at you, etc. Did you feel [well its very hard to explain but Im sure youve felt it before!] a spark? A connection between you both? If you did, try talking to him more & approaching him next time. You said you were happy when he said it, so do you like him or is it just a playful friendship? Ask all of these questions to yourself, then if theyre mostly one than figure out a choice! Try asking him to a movie or somewhere when you can talk/see him outside of school. That could open things up alot. ♥
I like this guy.. we hardly ever talk but I still like him.. what to do?
Talk more! Get to know him and let him get to know you, that should break the ice a little bit. Its hard when you like someone, but then again you dont know too much about him, too. Maybe ask him if he has Instant Messenger or an E-mail address or if you really want to ask him for his phone number. He might be really shy - Lots of guys are - and needs YOU to make the first move. So, make it simple, like a question - whats up? So, are you going to the hockey game/dance/play etc. tonight? That will open things up and hopefully get him talking! ♥ Laura
I've always felt that there was no need to be in a relationship at my age(14) but i was just asked out and i think i have fallen in love. but my mother tells me there is no way you can fall in love so young. do you think its possible to fall in love at such a young age? if you dont think so what do you think i should do, i dont want to dump him or anything, but i dont want to waste my time and energy
if there is no point to our relationship.
I think life (ESPECIALLY when your young) is all about taking chances and to, for once, not think of the consequences of things, but rather the enjoyment we will get out of it. I think your mother is going to protect you from getting your heart broken, but it has to happen sometime & she can't shelter you from love forever. I think that you can fall in love at any age. In fact, the purest love seems to be when your young because your so care-free. Love is not a waste of time or energy. It just sometimes fades. But, even though you may end up better off without your boyfriend, Im sure you wouldnt trade all the good times you shared w/ your Bf. I think you should keep the fire burning as long as you can! Why not? ♥ Laura
i know its stupid .. but i need help!! i have never been french kissed before and i think im ready, but i dont know how to do it! do both you and your boyfriend put your tounges in each others mouth or does one just put theirs in the others mouth? and how do you know whos tounge goes on top or bottom? I REALLY NEED HELP!!
Its not stupid at all! The first time I knew I was going to be french kissed was at a party and I wish I was more prepared but there wasnt much time I guess! I was 13 - enough said. Well, the first thing that helped me was to first, calm down. Take a deep breath and just look at it as something like math or anything you can learn and learn from your mistakes. I dont have a boyfriend right now, but when I kiss a boy, it just feels natural. You'll see when you first kiss someone - its almost like you've dont it before. Freaky, right? Okay, usually the guy makes the "first move" by leaning his face into yours. Pretty simple! Then, you just softly kiss and play around with your tongue - its really not hard as it may look or seem. Just play with it! Move it around. It doesn't really matter whos tongue goes on the top or bottom since it will switch up pretty quickly. Another thing is just have fun! Dont expect it to be perfect or extremely romantic your first time. You might laugh in the middle or y'all might bump heads! But thats ok =) ♥ Laura
my friend wanted to know if getting braces affects kissing ???
While there are many rumors and jokes about kids' braces getting stuck while they were kissing - on TV and in movies, this is not exactly true. It might be; but still is extremely rare. I know people who had braces and kissed, and their braces never got stuck and nothing else happened so I think your friend will be ok. ♥ Laura
I'm 13 years old and I've never had a boyfriend. I'm blonde, blue-eyed, nice, sweet, smart, 128 pounds, 5 feet 1 inch. i have no idea why absolutley no guy wants to go out with me. please help!
Hi Sweetie! Let me tell you, I never had a boyfriend until I was 15. I know it may seem like having a bf is a really important thing at the moment, but your 13! Dating gets funner when you can actually drive places. Also, its not about looks or personality even! Most of the time at 13, guys like whoever puts themselves out there! So try getting noticed and make them get the idea that you want a boyfriend! Im sure you'll find a great guy if you speak up & maybe make the first move =) ♥ Laura