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ill try to give good answers.. unless you piss me off.
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My boyfriend and I love each other to death, but we're drifting apart..
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Thanks so much
you were meant for me- jewel
i cant seem to stop getting hurt by this boy. we dated for 2 years and i was in love. the first time he broke up with me it hurt so bad. he did it about 3 times and always came back to me. the last time he broke up with me i tried to make it work for a month and then gave up and tried to move on. about 3 months later he started talking to me again. of course throughout the time we didnt talk i still always thought of him and i still had a ton of feelings for him, i just was trying to get over him and it was working. but when we started talking again he had already gone off to college which is only about an hour from where i live. anyways for about 2 weeks we just texted and stuff until he finally asked me to come down. i said i didnt know if it was a good idea and he told me how he still had feelings and that he thinks he might still love me. so that weekend i went down tehre and it was amazing. he was soo nice, it was the good him the him that i missed, the him that loved me. when i got home that night i texted him and he didnt respond. the next day we didnt talk at all. it was strange because before he would text me everyday. so the day after i called him and he didnt sound like he wanted to talk? when we hung up i just started bawling because ive been through his whole i love you i miss you and then i dont like you thing tooooo many times. and i had this horrible feeling that he was going to let me down again even though he had said it wasnt going to be liek that anymore. but the next day he actually ended up texting me. just saying whats up, but i knew he was thinking about me. but i brought up going down there again adn he said "idk" like wtf does he mean idk? just before he was telilng me he still loved me he still misses me and now he doesnt know if he wants me to see him again?! at that moment i knew he was going to try to play those mind games with me again and my heart just cant take anymore from him..... yesterday i got on facebook and his status said he was coming home 2morrow. it just sunk down my stomach. like are you serious? you're coming down and he didnt even say anything to me? especially when i asked about comeing down ther again sometime.. i just cant do it anymore. i have so many feelings for him but i just feel like.... i deserve better?! what do you guys think?! i actually just like 20 minutse ago deleted him from a friend on facebook, and about 5 minutes later he called me. i didnt answer.. i think i need to just let it go?
you deserve so much better. i know your feelings are strong, but would you rather find a guy who loves you and will stay in love with you and treat you right? or stay with a guy who plays mind games with you and seems like he only uses you when he's lonley. girl, you can do better. and you will! let go. dont talk to him, text him, nothing. he's not worth it.
17 female
I asked this boy out named james and I really like him alot and every thing and when I asked him he said that he's trying to get with this other girl.I don't know who she is or anything james is a freshman he says she's in the 8th grade anyway here's the problem before i asked james out all i talked about was him i could tell my friends were getting annoyed with me but i still couldn't stop talking about him my best friend says iam obbessed with the boy but now if i just see his face i want to burst into tears i won't eat and iam normally a big eater so when i don't eat my friends know that there's something wrong with me.I didn 't even talk all that much today all i did was think and daydream about james and when i think about him i start crying my eyes out what's going on and what can i do about it please help iam sick of crying over this boy.
no offense. but thats kind of lameee.
i mean, its just one boy
theres probably A LOT of other boys who would love to get with you. you dont have to act weird around him. just smile and wave and stuff. i mean dont talk to him every second of the day. but just be like "hi james :]" getting rejected isnt as bad as you think it is. you have a lot more rejections in the future than this. so just move on.
Okay so what are some things that girls can call guys. Like guys can call us sweetie and babe and stuff but im not sure what were suppose to call them. (please dont say honey i hate that) ohh and is it okay for a girl to call a guy babe?
well, i call my boyfriend darlin.
i know thats kind of lame but i always have and it just kinda stuck. yes, it's alright for a girl to call a guy babe.
I am 15 and a girl and of course I like this guy. Lets call him Bob. Bob is so sweet to me and the other day I was having a bad day and he just let me hug him and hug him and then we walked to this room we both had tutoring in with his arm around my waist and mine around his. I could swear that he likes me.
And once we fake went out (LOOONG STORY) and I want to ask him out and be like "Remember when we fake went out? well I was thinking we could do that again, but without the fake." Or to just ask him to dinner or something but not SUPER obvious. Something like "Do you play pool? I found this great little place where we could go that has the best food."
I dont know but I really like him and I love being his friend and he's my best guy friend but I just want something more.
Please any advice at all is welcome. Thank you for reading this! I'm sorry it's kind of long.
yes do ittt !
that would be so cute the little non fake part.
aww, yes sweetie, make sure he doesnt say no :]
It was the night of my year 11 prom n i was a bit tipsy so i slow danced with a boy who has fancied me like mad for about two years. Then when it came to the end of the evening i said bye, went home and thought nothing of it. He then started textin me n sayin that he loved me n that he wished the dance didn't have to finish. But because i was "slightly tipsy" i got in on the act and started flirtin with him, so he then thought that i fancied him. Then the next time i saw him was at a mates party and ayou do at a party i was a bit drunk and he asked me to go out with him.And i said yes. For some unknown reason. This was three weeks ago and he constantly texts me sayin he loves me n he tells me to my face that he loves me but i just don't feel the same way about him. How can i tell him that i don't like him as a boyfriend but just as a mate, without making it sound too harsh? plz help!
just tell him that you like him as a friend, and when he asked you out you were drunk and you werent thinking.. you never meant to say any of that. thats what i would do !
OK so my best guy friend, well all my girl friends say that he likes me, and they say I like him too, which is true. But im way too scared to tell him(for reasons .. i just cant) and i wish he would just tell me ! what should i dooo?
PS-im going with him to a semi formal dance this saturday.
just kind of like, ease into it.
give him hints.
dont come right out and tell him.
just be like "you've heard what they're saying right? about us liking eachother. then kind of grin and turn your head away" always works.
so i've been dating this guy and he really likes me. he talks about wanting a really serious relationship as in wanting it to result in something for the future. hes 18 so i can understand why but the problem is im 16. i was in a year relationship all of my freshmen year and i enjoyed this year by being single. i really like single as a matter of fact i prefer being single but i really like this guy. he really likes me too and i dont want to break his heart and i dont want to lose him. but i feel like im not as happy as i used to be cause i cant party as much as i used to i cant talk to all the guys i used to hang out with all the girls i used to or anything like that. i really dont want to waste two more high school years by being in a relationhip when i should be having fun. what do i do? should i break it off or give it time to see how things go? what would you do?
just think, could you see yourself with this guy in the next.. year? or can you see yourself having fun like you want to be doing?
My mom is making me get braces soon and i think i have a choice of colors. What color would you pick and why?
Thanks
i would pick green because its my favorite color.. or teal because its closest to green.
alright, so my friend was about to makeout with this guy, but then she froze and had NO clue what to do and just stood there while he started moving his lips. and she's saying how it's not fun andit's probably just gross and stuff. -time for the question- do some people just really stop and have no clue what to do right before a makeout? any sites to help please?? and is it really gross, or fun?
Some people, do but its pretty self explantory. umm.. i guess its gross if he is slobbering all over your face, but no its not gross.
http://www.virtualkiss.com/
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Of course, I have been asking myself over and over what I should do about this situation. It's my lack of experience that keeps me from coming to any concrete conclusion. Do I love him? Yes...I think. Or do I? You tell me: What is love? I care about him. I have fun with him, but when we fight (which is frequently when we are separated) I immediately feel like leaving him. Sometimes I fantasize about being with other people, but then I have always had a tendency to fantasize about being with people whom I don't have any chance with. My real fear (and probably the question I should have asked) is that one day I will find someone who wants to be with me who is someone I wouldn't mind getting to know better, and if I wait until then to decide to leave my current boyfriend, then was I just using him this whole time? How can I hurt him when I care about him? But if staying with him is depriving myself, then isn't that hurting people too?
love. love is something that you cant answer.
its a feeling.
but the best way i can describe is it is when you see something you automatically think of him. you smile when you hear his name you get goosebumps when your near him. you smile at him knowing that your going to be there for him for as long as you can. thats love, well in my dictionary it is. now tell me. what do YOU think you should do. deep down in your heart. what do you think you should do
I'm about to turn 21, and I've been with my first and only boyfriend for about a year and a half. He adores me and I believe that if we were to stay together he would love me until he dies. Unfortunately, I am not so secure in my feelings.
There are some down sides to the relationship:
A) I am a dedicated student while he seems to have little ambition. He dropped out of college and works at a fast food place.
B)Because I'm in college we are living in two different cities.
C) He is extremely insecure. He gets unreasonably angry with me when he knows I've spoken to another guy. He has also told me that if we ever break up he would be too upset to want to get back together.
D) Because I haven't had a previous relationship, I often have doubts. I'm not unhappy in the relationship, but sometimes I wonder if there is a better match for me.
Should I end a relationship I am comfortable with for the possibility of one that is 'ideal' for me?
i personally think you shouldnt be asking us.
you should be asking yourself.
but, since you are ,why dont you answer the following questions:
1) do you truley love him?
2) can you see you guys together in the next 10 years?
3) if so, do you see him as a good father or a good husband?
4) do you feel like you "you deserve better"?
and last
5) would you end this relationship for another guy.
i would definatly like to hear the answers.
if you want, leave one in my inbox.
I met this guy, and I had a one night stand with him. I am 19 and he is 23. The problem is, I did not want to have sex at all. I just wanted to kiss, but he kept pressuring me to go further and further, and I eventually gave in to everything.
While we were having sex, it hurt so much. I was crying and telling him to stop but he kept going. I tried shoving him away but he didn't stop. I could have probably easily punched him in the face and made him stop, but for some reason, I didn't. I lied and told him it was hurting because I had been raped as a last attempt to get him to stop. He still didn't, and I eventually just sucked it up and let him finish.
Throughout the whole ordeal, he said some pretty mean things to me, the worse being that he had to pretend like the sex we just had was the best he'd ever experienced, just so he'd be able to finish himself off. And you know what I said? NOTHING. After I laid on the bathroom floor crying for awhile, I laid in bed with him, staring at the ceiling for 3 hours while he slept.
I do not have the slightest idea why I let him use me. I usually am smarter than this, love myself more than this, have more integrity than this. I am numb all over and wonder what the heck happened, how did I let it happen. Please, any insight would be appreciated.
Maybe you were scared.
Maybe you just didnt know what was going on.
If you need to talk to anyone. you should go to a therapist. im sure they can proffesionaly help you. but the best advice i can give you right now is to just calm down and think it all through. i would say talk to him, but that would NOT be a good idea.
my crush asked me to the halloween dance today. I accepted, but now im petrified. Im just really scared. WHAT IF EVERYTHING GOES WRONG... i dont know... what if ... geez, right now im freaked enough to believe that aliens can ruin this dance. i want everything to be perfect, but even still, in the mean time, how can i get rid of this... dance phobia thing ;)
what if..
dont say that!
everything will go fine!
just go with the flow.
talk to your friends
just focus on what you want.
13/m I experienced love this summer and I hate it! No, it wasn't infatuation! I know infatuation, this is true love! Maybe I should start from the beginning:
It all started in science class. Or teacher was getting pissed so he decided to assign our seats boy/girl/boy/girl. Of course, I was paired up with the hyperactive freak, because that's just my luck. Immediately, I think to myself, "It's going to be a loooong year."
But she wasn't so bad after all. Time passed, we became friends. The teacher let us change seats, but the people in the front had to sit in the back and vice versa, and it still had to be boy/girl. For simplicity, we just sat next to each other all 3 times that happened.
Everyone made fun of me for it. I'm a geek and proud, and so obviously none of my friends had girlfriends yet either. Actually, only the jocks that girlfriends, and that was because of popularity and "Is she hot?". My parents and sisters were always having fun teasing me. One opf my best friends just liked embarassing me just for being friends with a girl: "Hey, (her name), you know what? You look like (my name)'s girlfriend!" Immediately, we both denied that and walked away. He just grinned. Immature!
As time passed, I learned to love her without knowing it. I didn't know what was happening---I was hoping really hard that I would be placed in a group with her, I was really depressed whenever she had to go... and over the summer I ultimately realized what life was like without her, and I realized that I needed her and that I loved her. So I told her how I felt.
She had recently gone through a painful breakup (I was jealous, she had already gotten a first kiss) with someone who had been one of her best friends, and didn't want to repeat that. Also, she got into a big fight with the popular kids and jocks and they'll do anything to get revenge on her or anyone close to her. And... she's still not quite sure how she feels about me. She said she was thinking about me when she was on vacation for 2 weeks... that's a good sign...
Asking her out really didn't work to well... and now not only have I been tormented by jealousy, rejection, love, and sadness, everything has started to remind me of her. It's been like that for weeks. The carnival? I took her there once. Billy Joel? His "The Longest Time" perfectly describes how I feel. Homestarrunner.com or even Monty Python? They remind me of her. I can't go through life just remembering her everything I do...
Last night I was at a friend's Bar Mitzvah party and I only knew two people there: my sister and the guy who was having the Bar Mitzvah with his brother. The guys who were having the Bar Mitzvah were surrounded by girls during the dances... from The Twist to One-Two Step, there were two girls for every guy, except for me. I wound up dragging my sister onto the dance floor for one of the slow dances... I was thinking the whole time, "Why can't this be the one I'm in love with? Why am I stuck slowdancing with my sister and doing that old making-out-with-yourself routine?" And furthermore, at one point the DJ had us play Musical Guys, where the guys were the chairs and to settle a tie on a guy, the first one to kiss the guy on the cheek gets to stay in. Two people sat on my leg. One of them just voluntarily got out because she didn't want to kiss me. Neither of them did. I can't blame them. But then I'm looking around the room, and some guys are literally smothered! Am I just doomed to be a hopeless single freak? Help me... please!
you sound like a great guy.
you should love me instead.
Hi. I have a slight problem. There is this guy, his name is Steven. He is my sisters-bestfriend's-brother. My sister said that him and I would look cute together because we have the same type of personality. I've only talked to him online, never in person and he has a wonderful personality! What really turns me on about him is he is friendly, loves God and doesn't smoke, drink nor do drugs. I started talking to him like three days ago, and from the conversations we've had, he's called me georgeous and said I was awesome several times. (He's seen pictures of me.) I really want to meet him, and we're planning on going on like a little group date thing with two of his friends, and two of mine. (My sister and My sister's best friend.) But I'm really nervous and I'm not sure when it's going to be. I really like him and I think he likes me but I'm not sure. He lets me call him Stevie and is just a really sweet guy to me. I don't know what to do about it. I always anticipate talking to him and am really happy when I do. But, what if he thinks I'm ugly in person or have a horrid personality or something? I'm just kind of scared and don't know what to do about it! Can you please just overall assist me in my situation? Thank you very much,
MKS
dont be scared! if your sister is gonna be there then its all gonna be good. if he thinks your pretty online then hes gonna think your pretty in person! dont be scared im sure you'll have a GREAT time.
So theres this guy ... i know what your thinking .. But hes really really cool. IM a freshamn and hes a sophmore and he doesnt have many friends becasue hes new this year. Ive talked to him a couple times.. but nothing like.. really talking. And he also rides my bus. Today I rode the bus home just to see him becasue i usually walk home. But I noticed that a few times he look back at me and i pretended i wasnt looking witch.. i probly shouldve smiled at him or something. But .. I have study hall with him and i wont have it with him for another 6 days but he sat alone and my friends in that so i sat with her.. but do yooh think i should get her to sit by him with me ? I mean.. he looked so bored.. he even fell asleep ! .. But in Spainish he sits on the other side of the room and in the other class i have with him he hangs out with these sophmore girls and i only know 2 of them but i dont talk to them that much. I dont think id be able to go up to talk to him by myself and i dont think i can tell my friends i like him right now because my friends are weird.. lol.. and like a lot of people think hes gay (not literally) and stupid becasue .. well.. he kinda is .. But i get it caz i can be that way too sometimes. So like... Theres a dance tonight that im not going to so what if he hooks up with someone ? And if he doesnt .. WHAT DO I DO ! Hes in my lunch every other day and study hall and 2 other classes of mine. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE HELP !
on the bus talk to him be like hey ive seen you around school.. then just start a convo with him its easy like that. dont be scared hes probably just as scared to talk to you as you are to him.
Ok, here's my question. I REALLY like this guy that I met in math class last year. He wrote in my yearbook last year "can't wait to see you next year!!!" Do you think he likes me?? I don't see him this year so I can't do anything. I asked a couple of friends to say hi to him because they have classes with him. I've never ever felt like this about anyone before. I really miss him. I think about him constantly day in and day out. I WILL rate high for any good answers!! thx
if you see him in the hallways, just talk to him! be like hey! i havent seen you the whole time schools been started! if he has a sn ask him for that. if he goes to a football game talk to him then.
these two guys (one is my X who i never liked) think that i am a slut now because of a note that they misunderstood or something. i really dont care about theyre opinions but now theyre telling the whole school im a slut and thats theyre away message! what can i do?
im not trying to be sarcastic.. but put on your profile *their names* you guys are stupid. you need to go back to *boldness*kindergarten*boldness* and learn to read.
no, forget that. who cares what they say?? they are OBVIOUSLY losers or they care ALOTTTT about you to talk about you that much
hah, say "OMG YOU LIKE ME!? YOUR TALKING ABOUT ME AND YOU KEEP LOOKING AT ME AWW HOW CUTE! TOO BAD I WOULD NEVER GO OUT WITH YOU! then say something about how they probably have a small penis anyway.
lol im so cool.
haha thats what i would do.
..seriously
Ok so here it goes!!!! Today was registration at school! i was new 2 the place. I was aproached by another student.He was so cute so we was sitting down talking for ages!!! and the next thing i know we was the last 2 left in the room and it was time for me to register and he was going to afterwards. I think i fancy him but im not sure if he likes me i feel stupid because ive just met the guy! well he was only speeking 2 me no one else. Thing is hes in none of my classes!! just the school. will i see him again!! he never said bye 2 me because i came out before him...then i just went. ive never felt like i felt a connection with him! someone please help.
chill out. your gonna forget him when you start school anyway you fag.