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Alright, these past two nights I've been crying myself to sleep because of my boyfriend.

I RARELY get to see him because we go to different schools, maybe once or twice every TWO/THREE months. :/ But we talk on the phone like every 2-3 days, and on the computer a lot.

So, a few days ago..Thursday, I was expecting him to get on the computer, but he never did..and I didn't call, because, I dunno. i just hate calling when he doesn't tell me to right at the moment..even though he told me I can call anytime. So, I don't know..I just started crying because I was so upset and stressed out from not seeing him anf stuff. Tonight, he hasn't gotten on, and I started crying again. I think a lot of you won't understand really, because you don't know how much I miss him, you have to know the situation better.

But..what do I do? Because, he hurts me a lot. I mean, this has happened multiple times. But like..a couple days after this goes on he finally comes online and says 'hi', and I CAN'T be mean to him..or tell him that he just made me cry. I don't know why, I just can't do it. It's like emotional abuse, and i just don't think I can take it anymore.

oh gosh, hun, thats bad, I was in a situation like that before only he wasnt my bf but we were SO close it coulda been. but see, what happened was exactley whats going on with you, ...i was attatched to him, I was his little dog, he could say stuff to me, but I couldnt to him, I was afraid to express my feelings towards him and i was like his little dog...me and him lived an hour away from each other and HE drove...I didnt drive, yet I would go down to where he lives every weekened just to go see a movie with him and that was that. He would never come up to see me, and he would get mad at me if i needed to change plans cuz he lived so far away...hunny your completley attatched to him just like I was...what made me get over it, was , I started noticing how he treated me...he was allowed to do certain things and I couldnt. and then he just start started fighting with me...we fought so much that I blew up at him and told him I was tired of being his little dog and tired of being tricked into stuff. We didnt talk for 2 months..I called him back on christmas just to wish him well and he said everything was perfectly fine, so i called him back on the 27th of december and he was the BIGGEST asshole...he was acting just like he always did...only going 2 months without talking to him...i realized I didnt need to be treated like him...I hung up the phone and that was that. I feel SO relieved that I did that...i know what your going through hunny you just see to be able to see what he is doing to you..until then, theres not much you can do....

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Hello!! I hope ya'll can help me! I'm sorr its so long but its a long story!! Okay here is my scenario. My birthday was at the end of January, and my boyfriend had already been planning our Valentine's date. He asked me if it would be alright if he gave me my birthday gift along with my Valentine's gift because it would make it easier on him, so of course i told him yes. Well, On Saturday (which was our Valentine's day because i had to work Monday) he took me to dinner, then he blindfolded me and took me to... a hotel. BUT before you judge, it was very romantic. He had his friends come and light the candles he had set up EVERYWHERE and rosepedals, the whole deal. And we had planned to have sex for our first time, not necessarily then but we had stopped ourselves a couple of times because we wanted to wiat until it would be special. Which this was. Okay, well moving on, besides all of this, he didn't get me like flowers or a bear or even a card. I spent like $70 on him with gifts and whatnot. But i wasn't too mad because i assumed he had sent me a carnation at school (Our school has sales where you can buy a carnation for someone for V-Day and writea message and then we got them on Monday 9*) Well i of course sent him one, and i waited but he never sent me one. I went to his house after work and i brought over peanut butter heart shaped cookies (His fav!) and still nothing. This made me really mad because he didn't even get me a stinkin carnation!! I got pretty upset and left. Now am i overreacting? I mean he did spend money on me but i'm the type of person who appreciates little things like a flower or a box of choc, he didn't have to go buy a hotel or anything, i just wanted a carnation :( Lol, AND he still hasn't given me anything for my birthday!! Shouldi be mad?

alrighty, well i can see why you would be upset, but i can see his point of view also...Your a simple girl. You like simple things like carnations, and if you had gotten one, you would be extremley happy because you know he thought of you :). Well his point of view , is he bought a hotel room for a night, which is a good $200 probably. Along with the Rose pedals...and roses are expensive so im guessing it was about $100 for the rose pedals, and then the candles...well you can only imagin being that candles are expensive, so he spent about$300 dollars on you or more, plus dinner. So I can see where he thought that it was enough. A lot of guys wouldnt even THINK of doing something like that. I can TOTALLY see how you just wanted a carnation. So I mean I dont think you should get mad at him or anything , but you are allowed to feel personally dissapointed, nothing that would make you 2 fight or make him feel guilty or bad...just be thankful :) Hope I helped hun!!!!

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ok i like this gurl and i want to tell her and this is my plan but i want to kno if its corny or not. ok i was gonna ask her to take a walk with me and then take her hands and b like "i really like u and i was wondering if u could see me as a b/f?" abd then also if she says yes wat am i sapposed to do and wat do i do if she says no?

aw, i think thats cute! i would do it if i were you :) the worst she can do is say no, and you can say "alright, well i was just wondering, if you maybe want to hang out as just friends sometime?" and that should be good :) But I think its cute, oh, and you should make sure that shes flirtin with you and stuff like that, just so ur not going up to someone who hates you..you know? lol good luck sweety! byee

-Jenn
JSIMT

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Ok there is this New Guy that has been at my school for like 3 days. And he Sits at my table for lunch, and he also is in my Gym class and my S.S class. And i think he is cute but i don't know if i should tell him or not. Can you guys please tell me if i should your not.

You should definitley tell him hunny! Being new is hard, sad, and uncomfortable...Ive done it 10 times, and I know for a fact that it would feel AMAZING if someone said that to me, and It would make a new friendship :) hun you should go for it, plus! he'll be surprised by your boldness, and guys like a girls bolder side, so do it, it cant hurt! go for it ! good luckk

-Jenn
JSIMT

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how can you not have had a bf..i would think that you had a lot because your sooooo pretty,nice,and honest

lol awww thank youu , I dont know, I want one...but i always have trouble getting one...I dont know why, some of my friends say its cuz guys think they cant get me...but im so simple lol I just want someone to hold my hand and ill be SO happy, and i tell them...but they never say anything, so I dont know, maybe theres somethign wrong with me??? lol

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hi. im 13/f. i was just wondering how to get a bf. i mean, ive never had a relationship or kiss or anything. and i feel bad at school when i hear girls talking bout their bfs. i am shy round guys and...yeah. :( it sux. help please. please dont say "flirt" or crap. what can i do 2 get a bf?

lol hun ur 13. dont worry about it :) Im 16 and ive never had a bf and ive never had a kiss, never done nothing, dont get desperate, its not worth it, and i know i didnt realli help and im sorry i hate it when people dont answer my questions but im sorry!!

-Jenn
JSIMT

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My friend told my other friends that this kid likes me, but i don't like him. I like someone else. I don't want to hurt his feelings because i know how it feels. What should i do?

Just tell the boy that likes you that you arent really looking for a bf right now, but you do like someone else, and your sorry but you can still be really good friends with him if he would want too :)

-Jenn
JSIMT

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Okay heres the deal, I have this huge crush on this guy and he already knows and since hes known hes been extra nice to me (i guess hes trying to make me feel special or something which is nice but whatever)anyway he got mad at me because my friend called him like a millon times when I wasnt looking on my house phone and he knows my last name but thats all cleared up now because i talked to him and now were friends again. I have his cell # and home phone # so Im asking....Is it okay if I call him? ~Jacki

well it depends on how long ago it happened...and if i were you, i would just ask him , just say something like "Hey I wanted to know if you wanna do something sometime, if its okay if i call you* and just go from there, trust me lol I wanna talk to this one guy really bad but im giving him his 3 days of space before i call again because last time we talked he told me he likes me , so yeah , anywho! Dont just call him out of the blue,have a reason :)

-Jenn
JSIMT

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I love you I love you I love you I love you I love you I love you I love yoI love you I love you u I love you I love you I love you


HOw can I fix that

you cant fix " I love you" once you say it...its out inthe open. and I think i know what you mean...u said it to someone, and it screwed everything up or someone said it to you and screweed everything up....

-Jenn
JSIMT

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im 14 going on 15/f. ive never had a b/f but ive had this one crush for 2 yrs. now! Were good friends now and lately all of my friends have had b/f. i kinda feel left out, but being single is fun 2! i kno this sounds wrong...to me it does 2, but lately all ive wanted 2 do is grab my crush and just kiss him! i think i have a problem...what should i do! please help!~

Dont worry about it, I was doing the same thing you were...your getting desperate even if you dont mean to be or even if you deny it, you really are getting desperate, I was too but I held back, im 16 and ive never had a bf. and its not cuz i cant get one its cuz I dont really want one, i dont NEED a guy to make me happy, just think about that :) it should help! love ya babe byee

-Jenn
JSIMT

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Okay. so theres this guy that i like(d) whos a year older than me. i dont really know him but my friends have introduced me to him before and ive just seen him around school and hes really cute n funny.


well i kinda got the feeling that he might have liked me bc if i would see him walking down the hall he'd always look over at me or kinda try and find me i think-- but never came up and talked to me. well i told one of my friends i liked him so they told him and i didnt think it would go farther than that but he said he liked me too ((or he thought i was pretty)) and my friend asked if he would ever go out with me and he said he would think about it...well a couple of weeks later after a lot of aggony and i still never really did talk to him he said he wouldnt ask me out bc he didnt know me well enough [and he told my friend that] soo yeah then another one of my friends started to talk to him about a month later and he said he still liked me but he wasnt going to ask me out bc I WOULDNT GO UP AND TALK TO HIM. yeah i know i kinda started the whole thing but arent guys kinda suppose to come up and talk to the girl or is that just me?? :\ im really confused and i feel kinda stupid...please help

Just go up to him now :) confront him. or get his number an call him or his screen name or something, write him notes, ask him to hang out, just do SOMETHING that shows effort in talking to him, sure, itll feel weird but once you break the ice, itll go SOOOOO much better for the both of you, Youll have each other :) just be funny. use one of the cheeziest lines...AKA my favorite lol "Hot Penguin" then they say "what??!" and you go "Oh nothing, just trying to break the ice" , man gotta love that one :) JUST BE YOU AND DONT BE AFRAID!!! GOOD LUCK BABE!!

-Jenn
JSIMT

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Sorry its long!!! But ill rate you if you answer.

Over the past 11 monthes i have liked this one guy. His name is Craig. And we dated a little while a few monthes ago but some stuff happened and we broke up for no reason. So he got over me, but i never got over him. So recently we went to a party and we played football. well the entire time he kept tackleing me, but none of the other girls. And he didnt want me to leave. Then my friend asked him if he liked me and he said he never thought about it. I really want to tell him i like him to make him think about, but i dont want to A. risk our friendship, and B. get rejected. What do you think about all of this and how should i handle it?

Well first off. Craigs a hot name :) haha, and second off, look for signs that he likes you. When you guys were dating, im sure there was that vibe there....if you start feeling that vibe again its a total go!, but if not, start showing him little by little...flirt with him back if he flirts with you, but one thing you NEED to avoid...is jumping to conclusions...its the worst thing to do, i know its hard to avoid but try too, because if you dont, your just going to get yourself hurt even more than what you would if you didnt jump to conclusions. If you get to the point and cant take it anymore and just wanna KNOW whether he likes you or not. comfront him. or have a friend do it for you. just flat out say * Listen, I like you. a lot....and i dont know if you feel the same way, but theres nothing i can do about my feelings. you cant make yourself not like someone.* or just ask him. I hope I helped! If you need anything else just e-mail me :)

Good luck!

-Jenn
JSIMT

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