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Q: My boyfriend and i would like to do something. We never know what we should do and we just want to have fun. what are some ideas of things that we can do, he hurt his hip so we can't walk and can't use his right arm cuz he hurt it. Please help us out.....
NO SEX!!!!!!
(or nudity for that matter)

Theres the Cinema , you sit down , it's fun , romantic, no arms needed. i think it is perfect in this situation.

Q: i've known my boyfriend since i was in eigth grade, im about to go to 11th anyways i've always known him as the guy to have girls all over him, and ive always known him as the guy to be allover other girls, he says he loves me and i believe he does he is a good guy but ibeen hurt so many times before how do i know if he says what he means

I think you should casualy ask your boyfriend if he would ever lie to you in anyway. You could try to ask him that whenever he lies if he does anything e.g twitching, scrathing.

Q: Okay, it's simple. I have liked this guy for a year and a half and considering he likes my best friend, its pretty clear he is never going to like me (we're also going to different high schools). For a while he knew I liked him, but I finally gave up and made him, along with everyone else, think I didn't like him anymore. We are best friends now but I still have really strong feelings for him, although I keep them well hidden. What am I supposed to do? I don't want to say I love him, although I've never felt like this about anyone and I've liked plenty of guys. I just need good, clear advice to help me through this.

ok, I think you shouldn't tell him straight away that you love him , it could be too fast , try general questions to find out if he likes you , then if he does then try to show your feelings slowly, if not then i think it would be better off inside so you don't lose the friendship between you and your friend.

Q: is it wrong for a 13M to have been never been kissed.

no not at all. you are just waiting for your time to do it with the person. the first kiss is important. hope i helped.

Q: my boyfriends birthday is coming up sooon and i dont know what to get him iased him what he wanted and his response was me all he wants is me, but i wont feel right if i dont get him anything does anyone have ideas on what i should get him? i cant think of anything creative please help
15/f

Just give him a big card. I would give him money in his card, and chocolates. hope i helped.

Just be yourself.. if you pretened to be something then they fall for you they are falling for something that is totaly different from yourself. if you be yourself then they would fall for you and it be alright and perfect as they fall for the you that you are. i got this from school=
the you'll you see is the you you'll be

Q: if your boyfriend and you are making out and he is doing all the touching and kissing and you just sitting there getting all the pleasure what should i do in return? also if he trys to kiss you once but you turned away your face because you were shy what can you do you make that person want to kiss you or should i make the first move on him with kissing?

If you think it is the right time to be kissing him then i think you should start it. Don't turn your head, if you dont want to kiss him you put a figer on his lips. and say something. in return just kiss him but your own way, when, how. hope i helped.

Q: I was at the canteen (a place at school where you buy food) and i was in the line and in front of me there was a year 8 boy, who i fell in love at first sight with. I really like him but he only seen me a couple of times. I really want to know his name and get to know each other, but I dont know how! Please help!

Try talking to him or meet his friends, if you meet his friends then you can go over to them and say hi. or a friend of yours who knows him coulsd be with hima you could go over to say hi then. If you like the boy just go say hi. You just need confidence to face him. hope i helped.

Q: school starts on wed. im a 16 year old female and i been with this guy for a yr. on and off. but now its over i cant be with this again and again breaking up again and again it hurts to much and its to stressful. SO anyway, I STILL LOVE HIM i dont no how to stop or why i do but i just do. and when i see him in school i dnt no what to do. i no he loves me and always will but im confused. should i play like i dont care and i've moved on? or should i flirt with other guys in front of him when i dont like it? or just be me and make him notice my pain? but the twist is i dont want a relationship..i need advice on my feelings..

I think the best thing to do would be to be yourself. flirting with other guys would get him angry then he would stop liking you. ignoring it and moving on could be better but there is no point if you still like him. follow your heart you do what would be best for yourself. hope i helped.

Q: Hi everyone. 16/f.

There's this guy who I know from an extracurriculur (that's a hard one to spell) drama class. We never get to talk in class much, but I had to give him my email as he had to email me a script he'd wrote 9and he didn't have enough copies) Well, he emailed me almost immediately and told me he couldn't get the script until he went to his dads place, and then he started asking me all these questions about myself. Well, we've been emailing back and forth quite a bit.. and now I'm not used where to go from here. He's a bit older than me.. 19 turning 20.. but I can't help but hope he's somewhat interested. What should I do now? Just keep going as it is or make a subtle move? And do you think he's just being friendly or there's something there?

Thanks everyone.

I couldn't tell you if he is being friendly or theres something there, what u should do is ask him if he does like you. if so keep giong if not then you could be friends. y u asking for advice when you should follow your heart and what it is telling you. hope i helped.

Q: I like this guy he's 19, I'm 16 but we both like each other a lot. you see when my parents got married his father had married them. And i didnt no that the pastor had a son. so since the wedding our family and theirs has been spending time together, i just got out of a bad relationship and was moving on. so when i met him after so many times we spend every night together and have grown close. Although dispite the age difference we both are falling for each other, and hes a Christian "good boy" so he'll keep me out of trouble, so i wanna be with him, but im scared about what people will say if they find out. I mean what do you think should we make "it" official or will it create problems? Thanks in advance!

If you realy like each other then go for it but try keep it a secret and simple for a while, if you aren't conftable with people saying stuff about you 2 then you should ignore or tell them to get lost. as love is love and no-one can ever change that. hope i helped.

Q: I'm going to the movies tomorrow with my BF. I really wanna make out with him but idk how and i find french kissing discusting (Ive never done it but still just the thought of it creeps me out) Is there anyway to make out WITHOUT using the tongue?

PLEASE ANSWER THIS! I RATE HIGH!

Just kiss him like a peck if he wants to do more he would do so . try snogging it like french kissing but no tongue, hope i helped.

Q: im really nervous to have sex with my boyfriend it'll be my first time and i feel really ready cus i really do wanna finally lose my virginity but im not sure sumone please tell me what i should do?!?! thnx

If you aren't going to do this because you love him, then you aren't ready, your virginity could wait till you feel it is absalutly ok to do it if your boyfriend feel the same, how do you know he is ready ? hope i helped.

Q: somebody help!

i really like my b/f. i think i love him. i know ppl say oh you dont know what love is when your 13. but i cant talk or breathe around him. and when he touches me i get chills up my spine. heres the problem. ppl r always tellin me hes cheatin and i dont know who to believe my b/f or my best frends?i mean i want to believe him but i think it mite be true because whenever we go to this dance place these same girls are all over him and he doesnt do anything he like ignores me.....i dont know what to do. i have tryed to break up with him but wen i try i cant i think im in love...plzz help

from confused!!!!!

I already had the answer half way of reading this, I had fallin in love with a guy for a couple of month i wasn't even going out with him. that is love, you could be 5 and in love. ask your bf and tell him people say he has been cheating then ask him who the girls are that are all over him. u r in love but if he is cheating u need to realise he isn't the right person for you. hope i helped.

Q: I`m single and ready to mingle but there is a fiew problems. I get really nervous around guys and they tend to try and use meh (I dont let them) I`d really like to get a steady boyfriend cause I`m going to be going into highschool and its like a fresh start. This past year i had 6 boyfriends and none of them were steady. Also I am trying to get a job to help out my family. But I get nervous around people I dont know.. Any tips?
14/f

all you need to do is get used to there company, then you will be able to talk to them fine with no problems. don't just go out with someone coz u feel like it, i only go out with someone if i really like the person, maybe you nshould do the same, if you get someone, thell him you don't want to rush and you aren't that type of person. hope i helped.

Q: How can i be more affectionate with my bf. He thinks i dont like him as much as I do so yeah what kind of stuff can i do to make him more convinced? (nothing that involves taking off clothes) I RATE REALLY GOOD! So please give good advice.

try kisses, hugs, holding hands, there are lots of ways to telling someone you like them, ask him for a date top the pictures or something, try to go out with him alot more. hope i helped.

Q: ok not too long ago i put a question up about my b/f but after breakin up with him i took him back and everything is goin fine except...my dad dont like him cuz hes blak and he wants me to dump him..but i dont know what to do?

If you don't want to brake up with him tell your dad you like him, tell him how you feel about him, your dad should understand. hope i helped.

Q: I really like this guy. Whenever he IMs me it makes my heart jump. He know a WHOLE lot about me and my life. I think he knows to much though where hell think that im not good enough. Also I dont know if he likes me back. I have 2 classes with him tis year and Im scared ill embaress myself in front of him. How do I know if he likes me? Also hes a different race. Like not mexican but like sometin around there. My family doesnt really support mixed races but I really would like yo go out with him. I really dont care what they say but if I ever go out with him should I tell my family right away?
BTW>Im 13/f...8th grade

If you really like this, if he is your friend, just ask him if he likes you as a girlfriend. if not then don't ask him out, if he does then ask him, if he does say yes to be your boyfriend just tell your family and doon't take a no just say i really like him and things to make your family feal ok about him being with you, hope i helped.

Q: i want to make my boyfriend a CD for our anniversary with a bunch of love songs on it. can you please suggest some good songs to use? please include the name and the artist. Thank you!

mariah carrey - we belong together,
whitney houston - i will always love you,
bryan adams - everything i do i do it for u,
cher - beleive,
my heart will go on,
phil collins - take a look through my eyes,

that all i could think off the top of my head, hopefully these songs are satisfying. i not the best speller so u might have to change some things, if they aren't correct.