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confused!!part 2
ok not too long ago i put a question up about my b/f but after breakin up with him i took him back and everything is goin fine except...my dad dont like him cuz hes blak and he wants me to dump him..but i dont know what to do?
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well, you should always respect your parents, unless they are being extreamly unfair. But if you sereosly like him then I say why not ceep him? (hope this help's)
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i think you should try to sit down and talk to your dad and explain why you want to be with this guy, and its your boyfriend...not your dads.
hope i could help.
peace.
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Keep him! Don't put up with your dad's racist values. If your dad is slightly open-minded, try and get you, him, and your boyfriend to spend some time together. Maybe your dad will change his mind. If this doesn't work, tell your dad that you're not going to dump him, no matter how many times he asks you to. Don't yell or get mad, even if he does. If he still doesn't accept this, just completely ignore him. He can't force you to break up with him.
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Just live for your own life, not your dads. If he wants it, then let him know that this is YOUR life, you do what you want with it. And then go right ahead and carry on. He cannot force you to stop seeing him, so why let him persuade you?>
-Steven
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Um, tell your dad that that's rude and really prejudice and that if that's the only reason he doesn't like him then his argument is politically incorrect. If you like him, keep dating him.
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If you don't want to brake up with him tell your dad you like him, tell him how you feel about him, your dad should understand. hope i helped.
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Ask your father why he doesn't like your b/f. Maybe he's got more than a racist reason. The point is to make him justify trying to make you two break up. If he says that it's because your b/f is black, ask him if he's racist. That's a pretty nasty question to answer even if he says yes. He'll probably say no, which will give you a bit of leverage to make him feel bad about it. If he says yes, then tell him that you aren't, and he's your b/f. He has to learn to cope with people who aren't racist, and perhaps being around your guy might help him to see that there's nothing bad about someone being black, apart from having to put up with the everyday BULLSHIT of being stereotyped, and descriminated against.
If your father throws up something else, then you'll have to react to it however you think. Maybe it's because you've broken up with the guy before, and he doesn't think that you should've given him another chance. Anyway, I don't know your father so you'll have to work it out yourself.
So in the end, never dump a guy because of what someone else says about them, unless you know it's true, and you agree that it's bad news. You obviously don't, so keep with him.
-K
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