Well....It all started when I was two...
Ha! Kidding (: You see, it's difficult to explain to someone, but it really is more of an emotional thing. When you're with someone, no matter who it is, and you feel comfortable with that person, it's easy to see if you belong with that person. IF that person happens to be another girl, chances are, there's an attraction between the two of you. I, myself have had feelings for women almost my entire life- even before I was old enough to understand what the term "gay" meant. Shocking? Maybe. But perhaps you just need time to explore your emotions, and figure out your own personal identity. I always tell people, "don't go looking for love, let love come looking for you," and I'm pretty sure that is the best advice I can give to you right now. Don't rush yourself into anything, and give yourself a little space, as well as time to think. Even experiment a bit, if you REALLY want to ;)

Happy hunting!
-Elliott.

Love is complicated. Especially, with the way you're making it sound. The thing is, you need to decide just how "exclusive" you want to be. From reading this, I gather that you would like your opportunity at this new boarding school to explore your dating and friendship horizons. Since you do you not know where exactly the boundaries are with your friend, the best thing you can do is ask him. Just tell him how you feel about the both of you attending different schools. Hopefully, you will see eye to eye and come to an agreement. It's always best to talk things through and know where you stand, so you don't have any problems. I hope things work out the way you want them to!

x Elliott

Well, from the way you tell it, it looks like you've got some confidence. That's super (: It's awesome that you can pick out specifics that are good qualities about yourself, regardless of how things are going. Just think, there are a lot of people who can't do that. Now, I'm certainly not going to tell you that you're too young for a relationship or go down that road with my advice. Instead, I'll give you my story. I'm 16 years old, and I had a girlfriend a few months before I turned 15. We dated for almost a year, then we were on and off for quite some time. We were absolutely perfect together, and I'm sure I was in love with her. But it ended horribly, and that led to some serious issues for the both of us. This is a very common story among thousands of teens all over the world, as you probably know. But, as I learned from experience, it's so much easier to imagine heartbreak than it is to deal with it. So, maybe, you should consider yourself lucky enough to be skipping all of that. Sure, it's great to have someone you're in tune with, but all great things must end. And I will tell you this, you're young, and you have plenty of time to find someone to be compatible with. And you shouldn't worry about "trying to hard", because really, you shouldn't have to try at all. Sure, you can go out and try to find love, but TRUE love always finds you. So don't get yourself down for being single. All it means is that the right one hasn't come along yet. Just keep being the adorable, charming young lady you've made yourself out to be, and it will all work out for you when the time is right. For now, just enjoy being single. It has it's perks!

Best wishes,
Elliott [:

Well, first off, look at it this way. You've been together for 7 months, now, and this could be a sign of things starting to get serious. I wouldn't rush him- or yourself, into anything. Take it slow, and passion will just take over. That's the best route to go! Now, for the rest of it, if he's telling you he thinks it is a good idea to wait until you become an adult, (in the eyes of the law anyway) then it's obvious he is trying to protect you from getting into trouble. That is a genuine thing for him to do, especially if he is ready. If this relationship is the most progressed either of you have had so far, then yes, it is possible either one of you can be scared. The first anything is always scary, because you can never be too sure how you, or someone else will react. Your best bet is to talk to him about whether or not you are both emotionally prepared and ready for things to go in that direction. Think how good the odds are of you both feeling the same way. If one or both of you are scared, it's probably best to take things slow for the moment. Just remember, the best experience you can get from doing something, is doing it when the time is right.

It's really up to you, sweetie. My last relationship started on the first of a November in '07, and we celebrated every month's anniversary. We ended up lasting a little over a year, but that's besides the point. Here's the thing: You don't necessarily have to have a different idea every time you celebrate an anniversary. Sometimes, just spending time together is more than enough celebration...No matter what it is you're doing! Here's something else to think about; The word "anniversary" means something different to everyone. For example, it is more common for people who are just beginning to date to celebrate their 2-and-a-half week anniversary, than people that have had more experience with relationships. People who are married might say an "anniversary" is the celebration of the DAY that they'd wed, while teenage kids, like me, might celebrate in months or years, and so on. The point is, how you look at it is up to you. Think of it as your own way of measuring time (:

Keep in mind that everyone's opinions differ. I'm a lesbian, and I know a few people who claim to be "bisexual". However, I don't think "bisexuality" exists. Here's why: I've been gay long before I knew the meaning of the word; but when it started coming up in conversations of dating, as I got older, I tried to date boys. It never felt right, but nevertheless, when I began to go after girls, I'd told all my friends I was bi. When I came to terms with the fact that I was gay, I gave it up. This has also happened to a few friends, who have turned the other way. So, basically, being "bisexual" is sitting on the fence...It falls after a while, and you either go forward or back. Some people explore because they are bored or want attention, but that's another story. The people who may be confused, however, eventually choose one or the other. And it's always been that way. Then again, that is just MY opinion. Everyone makes their own choices, the only "right" ones, are the ones that make them happy. (:

Well, for starters, you aren't doing anything wrong. You're actually doing the right thing by trying to get in touch with him. Now, you can't really blame him for turning off his phone, because sometimes, the BEST way to cool down(whether it be from an argument, or anything else to get a rage going) is to isolate yourself from what was bothering you. (In a HEALTHY way of course!!!) Maybe your boyfriend listens to music when his phone is off, or maybe he's drawing, or writing...What i'm trying to say is that maybe the thing that he does to calm down, is something you don't know he can do. A lot of the time, men are embarrassed about their hidden talents, and refuse to tell anyone. That could be why he doesn't answer your calls. What you should do, is sit down and talk to him- when you AREN'T fighting. Tell him how it makes you feel when he makes it hard to communicate. Like, REALLY make him understand. I'm sure once he gets the point, if he truly cares, he'll realize that he is wrong in that situation. And also that he should take more time to consider your feelings after a fight, as well as his.

Okay, okay, calm down. First of all, I am NOT going to tell you not to let a boy come between your friendship. (although that's what I should say, haha) But I am going to tell you what you need to do to make things work. See, the first step: Talk to that best friend of yours! =] Ask her if she wouldn't mind you trying things with the boy you both like, you never know, she may tell you to go for it...Which is really what a good friend would do, unless of course she has the same burning flame for him as you do. But if you don't want to jeopardize your relationship with your friend, you should definately consider talking to her about it. Especially if she's aware that you favor him as well as she does. Now the second step: Talk to that boy! See, if this guy knows that the both of you like him, he might try see if he can get his way with both of you, and if that's the case, you need to step down and ditch him. But on the other hand, he could be a genuine guy, right? You should at least let him know your friend has feelings for him as well, and right there you should be able to tell if he'll be faithful to you...And trust me: "faithfully" is better than "generally". If you know what I mean.

Hey there everyone =]
My name's Elliott, and I'm here to answer all of your burning questions! And since I'm getting to know you, I think it'd be a good idea to let you know a bit about me. I'm just a 16-year-old girl, and a Junior in high school. I'd say with my story, I have some experience in answering many of high school's most common questions(See my Favorite Categories). Generally, I love to play the guitar and the piano. Writing, whether it be lyrics, short stories
or poetry, well, I've always had a passion
for it =] I'm News Editor for my high school paper, and Poetry Co-Editor for the magazine- So if you have any English questions, be sure I'm the one you ask! Haha (: If there's anything else you're curious to know, then just go ahead and ask! I won't bite, i promise [= Ask for my cell number too if you want, I'll share.

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