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My friend and I both like this guy, and he only likes me back.
So, my friend's name is Rhianna and the boy we like is Elliott. We're all 13. I've liked Elliott for a long time, and Rhianna met him once and fell for him. He awful nice. I know this being a friend to him for about a year or so. He wouldn't want us going out to corrupt Rhianna and I's friendship. My problem is Rhianna doesn't know Elliott likes me. She doesn't even know I like him back. She has a lot of relationship problems so I'm very careful with her love life, and try to help her as much as possible. As far as I know right now she doesn't want to date. I know it's wrong to do it behind her back, if I were to, so how do I tell her? Gently!
Something like this happened before. Her boyfriend Kyle dumped her for me, and I, ignorantly, went out with him. She told me she cried a lot after that happened cause I was favored over her. That's why I'm so worried about this situation! I like Elliott A LOT. I think more than she does, because I've known him longer. But I'm not going to go off and assume things. She says she likes him a little. Do you think it's wrong if I date him, if Rhianna says it's okay? Am I a bad person?
I know what most of you will want to say. Don't let a boy come between your friendship! It's not worth it! Or, Elliott will understand if you say no and don't want to jeopardize your friendship. I KNOW this, and if something goes wrong I'll do anything to keep our friendship, even if it means losing the guy in the end. I'm asking how do I try to make it work.
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Okay, okay, calm down. First of all, I am NOT going to tell you not to let a boy come between your friendship. (although that's what I should say, haha) But I am going to tell you what you need to do to make things work. See, the first step: Talk to that best friend of yours! =] Ask her if she wouldn't mind you trying things with the boy you both like, you never know, she may tell you to go for it...Which is really what a good friend would do, unless of course she has the same burning flame for him as you do. But if you don't want to jeopardize your relationship with your friend, you should definately consider talking to her about it. Especially if she's aware that you favor him as well as she does. Now the second step: Talk to that boy! See, if this guy knows that the both of you like him, he might try see if he can get his way with both of you, and if that's the case, you need to step down and ditch him. But on the other hand, he could be a genuine guy, right? You should at least let him know your friend has feelings for him as well, and right there you should be able to tell if he'll be faithful to you...And trust me: "faithfully" is better than "generally". If you know what I mean.
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