Okay everyone, my actual name isn't Maggie. In fact, it isn't even remotely close to the name Maggie but I use it as sort of an "alter ego".
I do this so that you can ask me any questions and not be worried that I'm actually your sister's boyfriend's best friend.
I am studying to be a therapist so go ahead and ask all the questions you want to. Topic doesn't matter: love, sex, friendship, passion, work, school, family. Anything goes here on Go Ask Maggie.
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okay, so i REALLY like this guy.. and he says he likes me.. and we are liked "together" but not going out.. like we are basically dating.. but we have a commitment like we cant date other people. and he comes to my house every friday and he like kisses me and holds my hand and stuff.. but he will hardly ever hug me at school.. is he just playing a gam? (link)
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No, I don't think he is. I used to have a friend who had a boyfriend who flat out refused to show affection in public. Alot of the time, this is due to the boyfriend's fears of what people will say about him (not about him and you as a couple but about him specifically) Sometimes, guys just don't like to show affection in public at all so dont be concerned
Maggie
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i think im pushing people away but i dont know why. ive only liked a couple of guys in my lifetime (im 17/f) and what happens is i really really like them, but then when they start to like me back, i begin to find them repulsive. for no reason at all. i dont understand. nothing about them changes at all, i just decide that i hate them. why do i do this?? (link)
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Groucho Marks had a saying, "I don't want to be in any club that will have me." As a psychology student, I believe that what it comes down to is your own insecurities. Perhaps subconsiously you are thinking "if they like me, whats wrong with them?" perhaps you should look deeper into how you feel about yourself and how your self worth is doing. I think that's what this is really about.
Maggie
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I have been going out with my boyfriend for a few days now and what are some things I could do to show him that I am a really good girl to be with and stuff that would make his day? (link)
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Don't go too far, considering the fact that you have only been going out for a matter of DAYS but you can always be nice and do cute things for him. You can send him flowers ONCE IN A WHILE or write him sweet little notes just telling him you care.
Just don't go overboard and be yourself. That was the thing that attracted him to you in the first place!
Maggie
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my bestfriend that's a girl just broke up with her boyfriend today i really like her and have liked her for two years i don't want to be her rebounder but i still want to go out(m13) (link)
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Wait on telling her what's on your mind. She's still probably hurting a little bit from this last relationship so you should give her time. Possibly even up to 4 months. If you've waited 2 years for her, I think you can wait a little longer. By waiting, you will give her a chance to get over things so that your not just a rebounder.
Hope that helped!
Maggie
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im only 13/f and i have had 3 boyfriends but never done anything more than hold hands and hug?? i havent even gotten my first kiss! is there some way i can get it soon or do i just have to wait?? i rate high! (link)
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I didn't have my first kiss until I have fourteen. I wouldn't be concerned. I know that it seems like everyone is way ahead of you but trust me, years later, you will find out that they actually weren't. Don't rush things, it will all work out naturally.
Maggs
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okay so i met this guy hes soooooo freaking nice to me, we talk all the time. and he told me he liked me and stuff but last thursday he hooked up with this BEAUTIFUL girl. and then on homecomign i hear he has a girlfriend and hes all over like every freaking girl.im the type who gets jealus real easy. but we made up or whatever and he came over again yesturday we didnt hook up like usual we just kissed. hes a senior and im a freshman. and i dont know why i belive him when he says he likes me. but hes soo nice. and he told my friends he liked me andd stuff but he is considered a man whore. people even tolld me its funny that i think he likes me, but i cannot help it. (link)
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Personally, I think that the whole senior-freshman thing isn't very good out of the strating gate. He's obviously looking just to hook up and have a good time so if your looking for something more stable and someone that will only have eyes for you, he doens't sound like your man. Sorry
Maggs
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we're goin to the movies on friday and i wanna get close to my gf. any tips? i'm gonna kisser too. (link)
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Okay, this one's simple.
-Being nervous is okay. She is probably just as nervous as you are, if not more.
-Don't plan ahead too much. Sure, you can have that ideal about kissing your girlfriend but don't expect that everything is going to be just as you imagined it. Just see what comes naturally. If you want to kiss her and she wants to kiss you, it will happen.
-Hold her hand and cuddle with her and do all of that mushy gushy stuff that girls love and that guys hate to admit they love.
Hope my tips helped! Have fun!
Maggs
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wow....so this is going to sound strange, I'm sure but you did say you were up for all types of questions, right? Good. Okay so when Im having sex with my boyfriend, sometimes, his....um his penis gets so enlarged that its too big for my...you know...my hole and then sex hurts. When I tell him it hurts and that he should stop he does it harder and gets more turned on and like...um...like...grabs on to my boobs and hurts me more. It's notlike he's being abusive...hes just...horny. What do I do?
-Bruised Beaver- (link)
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Bruised Beaver,
Don't be embarassed. This happens to alot of women. Sometimes, two people genetically ust aren't made to be together. You need to sit your boyfriend down outside of when your having sex and explain to him that when he pushes harder while his penis is enlarged it is painful for you. If he is really a good boyfriend, he will understand.
Also, there are certain drugs that men can take so that they still get erections but their penises don't puff out in that way that it hurts you. If you still want to engage in sexual intercourse and your boyfriend is willing to take these drugs, consult your doctor. Good Luck!
Maggie
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I'm 14 years old and a girl and i'm having so much trouble deciding whether or not i should tell this guy that i like him. i'm very afraid of rejection and even though i dont like to admit i know that i will care what people think about him and I being together. What should I do? (link)
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Dear friend,
I have been in that very same position on many occasions and it sucks. Ask yourself these questions:
1.Do you like him enough to disregard what other people say?
2.Does he ever hint around about liking you back?
3.Do you guys spend alot of time together?
4.Can you put aside your fears and go for what you really want?
If you answered yes to most of the questions then I say go for the gold girlie! Go find your man and tell him how you feel. Think about it this way, if he does like you then you'll be able to have a relationship and if he doesn't. it will all be forgotten in a matter of weeks. Trust me, I learned the hard way.
Always go for what you want!!!!
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first off i dont have an upper lip. well i have one but it really thin. my boyfriend has told that it is dificult to kiss me because he has some big lips. anything i can do about that? and my second question for soemreally when i kiss my bf i get all nerves and scafred that i will mess it all up since i barely see him and i want to leave him wit a good impression. anything i can do? and is there a way for me to slow myself down when kissing? thanks some much.
and any tips on making out would be apperiated.. where can you or should you put ur hands will making out with a guy? (link)
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Okay, so I think that you can't really do anything about your upper lip. When you kiss your boyfriend try sucking on his lower lip to draw attention away from your upper lip....guys like that anyway.
Maing out is tough to judge. It depends on where exactly your making out with someone to know where to put your hands. Here's my chart:
Standing:
Guys- arms around lower waist/butt area
Girls- on his face or around his neck
Sitting:
Guys: Arms around her waist or gently caressing her face
Girls: around his torso
Laying On Top Of Eachother:
Well...I think you can figure that out for yourselves.
Hope my advice helped!
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