Greetings people! Name's Greg, I'm 27 years old and a very proud member of the United States AirForce. I am currently stationed at Peterson AFB here in Colorado Springs, CO. but originally from Mississippi. I can offer fantastic advice on most any subject, but I'm particularly good with relationships (in any capacity), cooking, and social settings. Any questions are welcomed!
E-mail: greg.yarbrough@peterson.af.mil
Gender: Male
Location: Colorado Springs, CO
Occupation: Airfield Management, United States Airforce
Age: 27
Member Since: December 12, 2006
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I'm a 28/f.I used to always tell my ex that I never wanted to go back to school. This is mainly due to low self esteem as a direct cause from his abusive behavior. I do have a job just not a high paying one. Well we broke up about 6 months ago because he was being a complete jerk. This last couple of months I've been working on my self esteem and I'm even going back to school to be a personal trainer! I have not seen or talked to my ex in all this time. Well recently one of my ex's friends paid me a visit. He was asking all sorts of questions like how the job was going. I told him entuisiastically I was going to school to be a personal trainer and he got this shocked; almost worried look on his face. I have no idea why- but I wouldnt be suprised if my ex is getting him to get info on me. What do you guys think? And why would he look worried? (link)
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27/M here (I'm gonna start opening with my age since there are so many teenagers here). I'm no psychologist, but I have seen a trend in men our age that links with abusive behavior being that some men use abuse to belittle and subordinate women to make themselves feel better and in control of the relationship. Now that you two aren't together anymore (and good for you!) he's probably sending his henchmen out to check on you to make sure that you're not progressing with your life and he's still in a "better place" than you are. The worried look from his friend, I would imagine, comes from the fact that you're taking control of your life, getting into school and progressing well. That's certainly not something an abusive ex wants to hear.
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OK, my question is simply this: How do you get a guy outta your head? Now, believe it or not, I am 30 years old! I have a huge crush on this guy that I possibly can't have, but, he is all I think about constantly. How do ya just get over it & stop liking someone? Thanks. (link)
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I would have to reinforce BitsandPieces' fantastic answer; try and occupy your thoughts and time with something else. I, like Bits, am closer to your age (27) so I can completely relate and empathize with your predicament. And who's to say that you can't have this guy in the first place? Women tend to have a built-in fallicy that some men are out of their league, so to speak. The truth is, most of us want the "everyday girl" who's down to earth and well...normal! I can't stress enough, men give bonus points to women who aren't afraid to approach us, who knows, the flattery may impress him and you can work from there! Take it from me, courage is a very large turn-on...not to mention it saves us the trouble :)
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guys what pshysical features do u like in a girl... give example of types ionno like straight hair or curly hair.... blond or brunett... ionno eye color body type.. stuff like that
and also what qualities do u like in a girl like personality
thanks a bunch (link)
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It's cliche, but beauty is in the eye of the beholder. You can't put a label on physical attraction, but it's a common misconception that the first thing we look at are breasts and/or butts. Entirely not true (for the most part). Eyes are important and believe it or not, hands. The condition of a woman's hands is a sure sign of if they take care of themselves. As for personality: fantastic sense of humor, loyalty, intelligence, and above all, honesty are key.
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ok...so i know what physicly turns guys on about a girl...but theres not much i can do about that. In a personality, what is it that guys look for. Only in a personality, Because i know the physical stuff.
Thanks!
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Personally, I am attracted to women who have an incredible sense of humor and quick wits. If a woman can make me laugh then that's the biggest turn-on, even above physical attractiveness. Secondly, being decisive is very important. If I ask "Where would you like to go out to eat tonight?" don't reply with "I don't know, where would you like to go?" Loyalty is very important as well. Finally, and most importantly, is honesty. If a woman wants to blow off a date with me to have a girl's night, tell me just that. Don't say "I have to work late" or some other lame excuse. Men are much more appreciative and forgiving to women (and I'm sure vice-versa) who are honest.
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15/f
K, well I've liked this guy named Jeremy for about a year and a half now. We are really good friends, but nothing happened between us at all for about a year because he had a girlfriend. I noticed a change right away in our relationship once he broke up with his girlfriend. He flirted with me a lot more, and just gave me more attention.
Anyways, at the beginning of the year, I told him I liked him and he told me he liked me back and thought I was cute. Well, that same weekend he went and made out with 2 girls. Ever since then, he's been known as this big partier. I have gone to a couple of parties with him, and I know that he just wasn't in the mindset for a serious relationship.
Then, as we got even closer in the last few weeks, he told me that he was ready for a gf and that he wanted to hook up with me in my hot tub this weekend. Now, I've always imagined making out with him so of course I was all ready to say yes.
But now, I wonder ... he might just be leading me on again, and telling me he wants a relationship so that I am more willing to fool around with him. I don't want to just be his make out buddy. So -- what do I do? Do I risk being used and just have fun this weekend, or do I tell him that's not such a good idea? (link)
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Guys that age can be ambiguous about how they approach relationships. They are either really loyal and serious or they are prone to cheat and be players. I know, I've been there! Eh, actually we're like that at any age, but no matter. Given what I know of his history with women from what you've said, the fact that he told you he's into you and then hooks up with two other girls and THEN comes back to you doesn't speak very highly of his intentions. It's your call on how you want to deal with this, but be very careful and don't expect much. Take care of yourself first.
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k well. me and my boyfriend recently broke up. i felt no physical attraction to him and he really didnt have a romantic side? how do i set those aside to be with him and how can i change those so he does? (link)
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If you have no physical attraction to him, and you feel you have to change his traits, then you really don't need to be together. People can't change other people's personality, and typically guys your age (I'm assuming high school) don't know how to express romanticism. Physical attraction isn't a superficial thing, it's personal preference. If you're not attracted to somebody, don't date them :-)
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I am from tn.He danced with me at our school dance and he asked me for the last slow dance. We are always flirting with eachother and joking around. but he says he doesn't like me but his friends says he does. He talks to me every day almost. I really love him what should i do????
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Ah, I'm originally from Mississippi! Good to hear from a fellow southerner! Anyway, to answer your question it depends on how old you two are on how you should approach this. I'm assuming from "school dance" you are in high school, so guys that age don't really know how to innitiate relationships most of the time. Us southern boys usually take time to "feel out" women to see if they are just flirting or if they really like us. Be pro-active about this. Don't be afraid to ask him out to a movie or a party; let your feelings be known. We love it when women make the first move! It seems to me that he is into you, so your advances should be welcomed.
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ok Xmas is the 25th and her birthday is the 30th
so far i got
::::for Xmas:::
-silver cross necklace from tiffanys
-i took a bear i gave her a few weeks ago and got one of those buildabear voice box things in it sayin "i love u blah blah blah"
-a framed collage of pictures of us together
:::for B-day:::
-while she is gone, decorting her room
---decorations:: 153 sticky notes on her wall that say 'i love u'... 153 hershy kisses on her bed... 153 rose pedals in a path that lead up to a framed letter im writing to her... candels everywhere, and some outlining the path to the letter. and her door is closed with a note on it so when she comes in she read (one for every day we've been toegher) cuz on her birthday we will ahve been together 153 days.
---then a charm bracelet from tiffanys with a charm that says "i (link)
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Quite honestly, I think you're going to be okay with what you have already. You've only been together for 5 months so I wouldn't think she would be expecting much more than this. However, if you want to go over-the-top, cook for her! Women love a man who can cook (I've used cooking to impress many women). Find an impressive recipe on FoodNetwork.com and follow it, you can't go wrong. Even if you mess it up, she'll appreciate the effort. Good luck!
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