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ok my bestest friend tiffani is now going otu with anthony and i guess now it finally hit me i liked him ya know ...and i should have gone out with when he asked ya know now tiffanis happy and im happy for her i think ...and she knows i still like him ... and hes trying to talk to me to see y im not talking to him... what to do ?
Well, maybe if he's with her... He likes her. Maybe you should just be friends with him and see how their relationship goes. Ya know? I would just keep close to them both and see how things go... Best wishes -Britty-
hi im 18 years old and im bi, i have 2 people that likes me one is a boy the other is a girl i dont known who to pick? they are so cool. and thank you for answering my family history question it really helped me a lot!. :-)
Well, I think that you should go with the person you think you could be most compatable with. Maybe date them both for a while, and get close with them... And when you're sure which one you could work better with, then you should be with them... If ya need anything I'm here :) -Britty-
kelli u kno who this is, or atleast u should kno, but i'll continue anyways so other ppl can give me advice too...... i really like this guy who's 1 year younger then me. he says that he likes me too. the problem is, we dont go to the same school and i like NEVER get to see him! its hard to plan things because we're both busy ppl. we wanna try to date again when we go to the same school. but thats a looong time to wait and i dont kno what to do. i want to give up on it and try to like other ppl, but i still have feelings for him and may forever have feelings for him. what should i do, or try to do?? should i move on??
Well I mean, if you both don't think anything will work between you two... There's not really a point in holding on. But you should talk to him. Ask him if he thinks you two could possibly find a way to work things out between you too. Hopefully y'all will be able to work things out... And if not, keep your eyes open for other guys that could give you what you're looking for... Best wishes :) -Britty-
ok like me and my ex / bf have been on and off like 15 times and like after every other bf i go out wiht him again and lk im wondering will i ever get over him for the final time
like i know i like other guys and i like the ex to and now were going out again and this guy that i have gotten to like know alot me likes me and i liked him before but he said he will never like me and now he does and like im soo confused i dont know what to do and i dk if ill ever move on this there something wrong with me
Nothing is wrong with you... Alot of people go through that. Have you ever thought about being single for a while? By all means, I'm not trying to be mean about it. I'm just saying, I think you should look around for a while. Get out there and meet new guys. And maybe after a while you'll start to see what guys you know you would work good with, and what guys are just good looking... ya know? If you need anything.. drop one in my inbox... Hope all goes well :) -Britty-
SORRY THIS IS LONG BUT I REALLY NEED HELP Me and my boyfriend broke up on the first on August at night of course I cried I liked him but I was over him the next day I wasnt like in love with him Its just that I have a lot of time on my hand and have nothing to do I have to watch my little brother from the morning till 4 b/c my parents are at work then the rest of the day I dont do anything I just stay home for some reason and when I hang out with my bff she always acts like shes soo wonderful and perfect gets annyoing you know Im just wondering how can I like not think of him and just get over him and not feel bad that I dont have a bf and keep myself busy throghout the whole day? I mean this is really bugging me I dont wanna feel like I have a bad life I dont I just need some things to do to like keep me busy and not feel bad that I dont have a bf so please please please someone help me I mean really really help me thank you soo much and if you want me to rate then Ill rate if that will get me some answers thank you neone...sorry it was long but I really want to feel better and some ideas better then watch tv or get online please help me. ThankS
That must be really hard having to watch him all day, everyday like that. I think maybe you should have a friend or two over to help when you babysit. If your parents don't agree to that, explain to them how you feel, and how you agree to bbabysitting... but just think that you deserve some liesure too. Also, maybe you should get out at night. Go to a friends, go see a movie... Something to get your mind away from it... Best wishes -Britty-
Im 16 and hAve never had a b/f before i think it cause im afraid like ill get asked out and ill sey yes but then a dya or two later ill get scared and break up ive even tried becoming really good friends with them first so i get to know them better but i still break up what should i do
Well getting into, and getting out of relationships is part of growing. Yes, it is a little scary... But you need to go through it sometime. We all do. So I wouldn't worry, And keep your eyes open for a guy that you'll work with. But no one is rushing you... REmember that. Take your time, and find someone who is right for you! Best wishes :) -Britty-
my friend's parents dont think that teens know what love is so shes getting as many people as she can to tell her what they think about love and stuff like that. but she doesnt have that many people. if some of you could please help and tell what you think about love then please do. thanks.
Well I use to believe that people could not fall in love at an early age... I thought we were too immature to. (I'm 14, 15 friday) But you see I had this boyfriend... And at the begining of our relationship I believed that. Ya know... No such thing as early love... I just thought I was learning things and getting ready for love. But, my boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years now, And I realize it is love. Even if it's not 'true love' and he's not like the guy I will spend the rest of my life with. I still love him. I know this because we are best friends as well as boyfriend and girlfriend. He has respected me very much in this relationship and has ALWAYS been there for me no matter what. I just think it takes time to know what love is, and yes I think teen agers may confuse love with crushes... But I still believe in young love... Sorry so long..> THought a personal story may have helped... If you need anything drop one in my inbox... Best wishes! :) -Britty-
ok me and my b/f have been going out 4 a while and i trust him with everything but recenly we have been talking about sex and he wants to and he said that if im not ready that its ok and that he will wait as long as i want to wait but i like wanna have sex with him but im kinda scared still so if any one could help me it would be greatly appcated
You have a great guy if he will wait. I think maybe you should wait until you aren't scared or anything. Until you are positivly ready and comfortable. And he would understand, you aren't in a hurry. Take your time and do it when you're ready. Best wishes -Britty-
Ok well i like this kid, but i dunno hes a year older than me, im 13 hes 14.. i know that doesnt matter cuz ive went out with ppl b4 that were that age n i had no problem with it. But hes goin to the high school.. n im still gunna be in middle school.. n i duno he might find new girls. N i think now he kinda wants to be friends w/benefits for now or maybe he wants to go out with me.. but i dunno?! He seems like a player tho, n hes gotten alot farther than me.. i've only got til like makeing out n hes done like everything but sex. Im afraid he might use me, even tho it doesnt seem like it. Shud i give em a chance? Thanks i rate good! x0x confused babe
Well... I wouldn't go for it. Any guy that wants to be friends-with-benifets is BAD LUCK. If you go with him, you'll just be setting yourself up for a huge downfall. And you can see that. So you're gunna dedicate your time and emotion to him so he can kiss you and his high school girls at the same time? I wouldn't go for it. Friends with benifets is bad news. Hope I didn't offend you. If ya need me, drop one in my inbox... :)
-Britty-
ok well i like this boy named pat i lik him allot i have liked him for awhile and i have gotten ovr n e othr person i liked before wit him..wen im wit him its lik everythign is different and for once i dun havta change or always get dressed up im just happi wit him..it seems lik he likes me too or at lesast all my frneds tell me that..i usualli just sit hea and lik flirt wit him and i try not to make a big del or to movre to fast or w/e but tonite it was soo hard we were in my room flirtng for such a long timee and lik im just confused i guess because we had 43243 hcances to hook up but we didnt and like i lik him sooooooooooooooooooooooooooo much u hav no idea..and wen he wasd leaving he was lik ohh im not leaving without my hug and all this shit and it mite not seem lik ne thing btu it ment allot to me and i luv being wit him i reali do the onlii problem is..he is soo shy lik realli realli realli shy he has had lik 2 girlfriends and hes reali cute and hes 13 and everything and he has onlii hooked up wit one girl once..and itsj ust lik .. its relali realli hard to change a persona nd i deff dun wna changfe him i luv the way he is its just that lik hes soo shy that lik nothing reali can happen and tonite my frineds asked him if he wnted to hook up wit me and he sed he dno and that its hard to xplain and all this shit everyone thinks he likes me but its hard to tell sumtimes for me lik others i beilev it but he sed that he wudnt pull away if i kisse dhim but that mite just b becuz not mani ppl wud reali pull away frm a kiss..wat shud i do plzz sumone help me..im afraid to make the furst move..i meen this kid is great but wat if he goes around seyen i lik raped him wen i kissed him or he didnt wna hook up and i kissed him its lik a girl asken a guy out theas not reali a problem its just weird..if he reali realli liked me he wud make the furst move or asked me out..i wna go out wit him but i wud just hook up i reali realli like him its just lik i dun wna make the furst move that much..but i dun even kno if he wants to..im not usualli the one asken for advice im usualli giving it but its like no mttr wa ti tell myself to do its like theres always somehting bad that cud happen and i kno life is about taking the chances..but the truth is ... im afraid to i guess * thnx for reading . . . KaT *
Well, This position may be kinda sticky. Maybe next time you two are alone, or on the phone, Talk to him a little bit. Get to know him a little better. I think that you should ask him if he sees something between you two more then friends, or tell him that you like him. He'll never know unless you tell him. NEVER, And I clearly understand that you're afraid of rejection. Who isn't? But ya know, Maybe if he's super shy you should tell him how you feel. You never know, Maybe he feels the same for you? I really encourage you talk to him about things thought. If ya need anything, drop one in my inbox. Best wishes :) -Britty-
ok lik have my own column but i cant seem to answer my own question my ex is having alot of trouble movin on and like he asked me how to move on and i told him u cant frce it and like idk like its weird idk if im moved on either but i like this other but them again i like my ex too and my friends dont approve of me goin out wiht my ex soo yea a little help please
First off, It's not what your friends think. It's what you want. Pick the guy that you would be most compatable with. Meaning, will treat you better and could have a closer relationship with. If you don't choose to go back out with your Ex, tell him that meeting other girls is a great way to move on. If ya need anything drop on in my inbox :) -Britty-
13/f
i havnt gotten my first kiss yet and im scared i will do it wrong or something. if we like french kiss how do you do it? i dont want to do it wrong and be embarrased. please help
Well, I dunno maybe someone else who answers will be better at explaining how to kiss. But I can tell you that when it happens... It just happens. I was so nercous for my first kiss, and I wasn't even planning on it and then this guy kissed me and at first I freaked out. Then I was like hey... its not bad! Maybe watch some love movies that there's kissing so you see how it happens.. If no one else tells you how to kiss... Drop one in my inbox and I'll try my BEST to explain how to ya! Hope you find what you're looking for! No worries :) -Britty-
ok britty i get it u have really good advice i told her she should really try to forget him and shes trying i dont think its working bc she always talks about him still... should i just have her and robert hangout more?
Well did you explain to her why? I mean it's going to be her decision. Maybe you should get them to hang out more, but don't force them to. Maybe go to some social events or something to get her introduced to more people... Hope all goes well :) -Britty-
this will most likely be my only guy question i ever ask...but here we go. No guy had ever liked me until 8th grade (Last school year..), and then for some reason, 2 guys did, at the same time. they both rode my bus and they were both awesome. I liked them both, but i think i liked one more than the other. I wound up going out with the one that i liked less, because he asked me, and i liked him, so i said yes...why wouldn't i? I know i really did like him, because that whole time we went out, i felt guilty, because i still liked that other guy, but i wasn't sure anymore if i liked my boyfriend. One day, i heard that he had kissed another girl, so i told the other guy that i liked, who is his friend, to ask him about it. that weekend, i got an e-mail from my boyfriend. he said it was just a friendly kiss, and if other people were going to consider that cheating, "maybe we shouldn't go out anymore." at that moment, i realized i did like him, and i cried. but in my reply to his letter, i told him i wasn't angry. 2 days later, he was going out with another girl.
(we went out from nov. till about the end of feb.)
i told you that, to tell you this.
even though i refuse to admit it, i think i still like him, because he's so funny and everything. i have dreams we're still together, and it just bugs me. and the thing is...i STILL like that guy i liked while i was going out with him. i'm really confused, and i don't know what to do.
if you can make any sense out of this, please tell me what i can do!
sorry so long!
Well I say move on. Maybe hook up with the other dude because your Ex seems like he has no respect for you. Just a friendly kiss? Are you gunna believe that? He'll never commit to you, so I say move on hun. Good-luck :) -Britty-
hey my bestest friend tiffani likes this guy who is almost 19 years old and shes only 14 like me... i keep telling her that she has no chance bc she is a minor... and to add another problem this guy mike is tiffani`s brothers friend...but he doesnt know they talk and if he found out he would kill her and me for not telling him ...and she really likes him and im trying to hook her up with this guy robert that i know who is only 15 (dont u think she has more of a chance with a 15 yea old than 19?)i do but neways she knows both of them and she likes them both but mike just got kicked out of his house and tiffani cant get a hold of him and she is going crazy bc of it! what should i do to chill her out? nothing is working! please i need help! and she isnt the kind of person that can easily forget people...i need yall`s help! -katie-
Well I think she should try to find someone younger. Not because I don't think she has a chance, she probably has a great chance because alot of older guys go for younger girls... alot. But you have to be careful and watch out because it's usually for the wrong reasons... Do you see what Im saying? I'm not sure if she would understand so maybe bring it up once... And if you still have problems leave me an update in my inbox... Good luck :) -Britty-
hey i thought i liked this guy anthony so we started hanging out and we got to know eachother well one night at my friend rickeys house who is also his friend we all met up there he said he liked me alot and he kissed me hes not a bad kisser or nething but i mean i dont think i like him that way ... i and i told him that and hes starting to like my bestfriend i think because whenever im over there he calls her and talks to her and everything it seems whenever im with her which is like everyday he calls her and talks to her.. she tells me everything he says about me which is quit alot but not bad stuff ya know... i dont now what to do because i still want to be good friend with him ... help me figure this out !
Just tell him how you feel. Tell him that you really want to be friends, but you don't want a relationship with him. Maybe he'll understand? :) -Britty-
i am very confused and i dont know if this kid likes me or not! we didnt talk since school ended n then this 1 time he was online and we were talkin and gettin along fine and then he got offline and randomly called me and i was really suprised. the next couple days after that he would get online and we would talk for a little bit then get off and call me but i went away on vacation so he couldnt call so that ended that. but on the phone we talk about a lot of stuff we never used to bcuz i guess we both just changed or somethin and he says like he never knew how kool i was. also he asked me before randomly who i liked these days. and i told him i might b movin but like i do have the chance to move or not and he said it was stupid and to decide not to move and he was givin me ideas and reasons not to move so i dont know of any1 can translate if he likes me or not or what i should do and say to him because i relle like him
oh yeah it says to include my age ok im 14 and a girl
I say get to know him better. Hang out with him, maybe go on a couple 'dates'. Ask him to the movies or to your hosue and rent a movie. Talk to him alot. Then I think you'll see if he likes you or not. Good Luck :) -Britty-
Okay..See..I have moved away,but before I did...I was in love with this guy,but we had problems in the past..and i still love him but he is back home..and he tells me he still thinks of me often,but he is with someone else..well..he tells her he likes her,but he tells other people different...I gave him a picture and i talked to him tonight..he said he looked at it all the time and he misses me like crazy and he is always thinking about me..but he is with someone else,and she like hates me and i don't care too much for her either,but I still love him..please help me!..what should I do?
You should ask him if he likes you why is he with someone else... And if he says stuff about you being far away and not seeing you often... Then I think you should move on cuz he won't commit to you. Just talk to him. :) -Britty-
Alright. I have this guy bestfriend whom I have known for 2-3 years. I used to move a lot when I was younger, and this is the first time I've actually remained in one city. He's the most person that I am closest to. We used to date but we broke up, then that's when we became best friends. He moved to Austin awhile back, but we still talked everyday. I got a boyfriend that I'm in love with which I've been dating for like 6 months now. My best friend came back down from Austin for the summer. When I saw him I got mixed feelings for him, but I brushed it off. Then, he finally told me he had strong feelings for me. He's always had feelings for me. But I don't think the feeling is mutual. I love him to death, but I'd rather be with the boyfriend I have now. My best guy/friend has been chasing after me all summer. Finally, he's realized that he should just stop trying because it's getting no where except more drama and tears for the both of us. I suggested that we should just be friends, but he came out with "It's hard to be friends when I am madly in love with you. It hurts too much." So, we talked it out... and the only resort came down to completely NOT talking anymore. Basically from best of friends to nothing; not even acquaintances. I don't know if that will work out. I love him, but not in that way. I would like him as a best friend, but he says we can't do that. He says that we should stop calling each other and whatever. I don't know if this is really going to work. I just want everything resolved. Advice anyone? [If anyone understood this paragraph]
I understand... You need to call him, write him a letter, see him... One more time to tell him that you really care about him, and you don't think that just because you want a friendship between y'all doesn't mean that he has to stop talking to you... And that you're still there for him when he changes his mind. Good luck :)-Britty-
Im 16, and a while ago I was involved with this guy who was 18. He was a senior at my best friends school, and he was gorgeous and popular etc. I met him because he works at My gymnastics school
Now me, im invisable in my school. Im shy and no one notices me, I hide behind books and avoid talking whenever possible, but im different at gymnastics. My teammates are my best friends and im outgoing etc when im with them
When we met, I was seriously depressed about being invisable, and only my best friend knew. Now she went to school with the other kid, but she wasnt popular so he didnt talk to her.
Anyway, one day my best friend was working with him, and he told her he really thought i was pretty and kept asking questions about me and this pulled me out of my depression
-he saw me when i was invisable
Then a few weeks later we actually talked, like hed call etc, and he eventually broke my shyness and i ended up at his house in his bed making ut with him. That went on for a while, wed keep hooking up till he tried to get farther to fast. I told him to stop and he respected that then not much later he blew me off because i wouldnt sleep with him
After that I pretended to get over him quickly, but I still saw him at gymnastics, and when i worked with him hed be all over me, or when id be working out and hed be coaching, hed coach when my teammates were on the beam, but stop and watch when i was etc. He played major mind games with me, and I played them back. I went out with this other kid he goes to school with just so hed be jealous (which he was and he also checked up on me) and I made him think I hated him on perpose, though I think if id showed him I liked him I could have had him back.
Then he got fired. I took it as fate. Someone was trying to help me get over him, but it wasnt that easy. HE alone saw me when I was invisable.
Either way hes going to college in like 5 days, and I miss him so much and I cant get over him and it hasnt gotten much better over time
What should I do?
I think you need to try to get over him. And honey, don't be shy. Don't make yourself invisible. Get out and make lots of new friends. Maybe join a new club? Meet people with the same intersts. But yeah, This guy abused you. He wasn't with you for you. He saw a beautiful, vulnerable young lady... I really advise moving on... Best wishes :) -Britty-