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Hi,im 11!!Ive got a huge crush on this boy named Jesse,He keeps staring at me,everytime i ask a question outloud,he answers it,are those signs that he loves me or what is a way to make him fall in love secretly!Thx!!,TDS (link)
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You can't make anyone fall in love with you. They have to do it on their own. Go up to him, make small talk and jokes. Hang out with him. If he makes excuses to touch you, like play hitting or stealing your things, he totally likes you. Just play it cool. ;]
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so im in highschool and im a freshman and i like a guy who is a sophmore but im scared to say hi to him because i dont want his friends or even him to look at me strange or reject me how do i say hi or even speak? (link)
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Well, you see, you need to make yourself known. Don't be shy! Just make it casual, start up random conversation. Even something that could be made up. Like asking him if he's a certain person then make jokes. Don't be afraid! Trust yourself!
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I'm 16/f, he's 17/m (obviously...). He's from a town about 20 mins away in a different state. Let's call him Jake. One of my good friends Carrie has known Jake since they were in diapers, and she brought him to one of our dances last year (just as friends). He had a gf at the time, and I didn't really think much of him then. Four months ago, she had him and his friend Eric go to her birthday party, which I also attended. He acted much more like himself this time around, and I thought he just seemed like a really fun guy. (I believe he was single by this time, and Carrie ended up going out with Eric.) About a month later, she had another party, which I went to, and so did Jake and Eric. After the party, I developed a bit of a thing for him. He was just soooo so funny and really sweet and unlike anyone I'd ever met. Eric plays football, so Carrie asked me about a month after the party if I would like to go to one of his games with her. Of course, I said yes. So I went, and we had to pick up Jake on the way. After the game, I was basically sold. I fell for him COMPLETELY. I gave him my number that night (I amazed even myself with that) and he gave me his. He texted me maybe once or twice. A week later, I went to the next game, and he was there. We hung out at Carrie's house for a little while after, and I fell for him even harder. Then we started texting every day. He was always the one to text me first, and he would say the nicest things to me. A week or two went by and he told me that he liked me, and I told him that I liked him too. He said he wanted to get to know me better, which I completely understand. It's been a month since i've seen him, and we still text every day. He's an absolute sweetheart to me :) Next week, he's coming to my school's dance as my date (matching colors and all). I'm really, really nervous cause it's my first real date with a guy. Things seem to be going pretty well, right? Well there are a few problems. One, his ex. He broke up with her, and things did NOT end very well. I just have an odd feeling he still has a bit of a thing for her. Two, other girls. Girls FLOCK to him. He's the kind of guy that is sweet to everyone and always puts other people before himself. Some things he says to other girls make me jealous, and I'm really afraid he's going to end up giving me the slip and asking out one of these other girls. I don't really know what I'm asking, but any input whatsoever would be greatly appreciated. And if you want any more info, just let me know :) I just don't exactly know how to feel right now. I don't want to get my hopes up really high just to have them shot down. (link)
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I'd say that he really has something for you. If he just wanted to use you, he would have tried already, you know? I think you should give him your trust. He may be very sweet, so I doubt he'd ever cheat you out. The fact he tries making you jealous is also a way for him to see how much you care. In a way, jealousy can show how interested you are in someone. Take it slow, keep observant. :D Sweet guys are hard to come by!
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female / 17 okay sorry if this is long
okay so i kinda still have feelings for my ex i still love him but he is a big asshole and i dnt even no why i love him but i just do.. i want to get over him ASAP! not even kidding i'm so done with him and i know that i will never put myself in the situation that i was in again we went out for about four months anyways so i want to cut him off completly but i want him to feel bad and feel like if he needs me back i want him to think well damn that girl really did love me... so i have a plan when we were together he wrote me these letters that said how much he loves me..and i still have them should i just walk up to him and just be like here cross my name out nd put ur girls or i was going to say here you go i guess everything you told me was a lie and ripp it up in front of his face should i do that? i mean i dnt see any other way for him to want me back soo what should i do? (link)
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I know what you're going through. You feel like its not fair that you hurt and he doesn't. Truth is, the BEST thing you can do is ignore him. Completely. Don't do anything dramatic, it proves you care enough to go out of your way. If he talks to you, just tell him you're done. You don't want his bullshit anymore and you deserve better. That will give you more respect and the fact that you wont be offending him will bother him the most. He wants to get a rise out of you.
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female/ 17 okay soo i think that my ex still likes me? im not sure tho i mean i can honestly say that i love him still and we havent been together since like july he moved on so fast its sad :( i broke up with him because he told my best friend she was sexy soo if he wants to call her sexy and not me then why was even with me? right? anyways we are still friends and like i feel like he is flirting with me even though we are not together and he has a girlfriend and whenever i meanchen her he avoids it do you think he still has any type of feelings for me? i want to stop loving me but its like i cant because he was my first boyfriend and ya... how can i stop loving him i need help i reallly just want to give up on him and everyone keeps telling me how bad he is for me and that i deserve better ? what should i do? (link)
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I think he's trying to get control of you again. I mean, we all have those opinions about other people while we're dating someone else.. but not to the extent we tell the people we're with. I think if he was truly sorry and didn't want to offend you, he would have told you long ago. It's possible he realizes he was an idiot. But I honestly think he wants you because he's /not/ with you, or maybe he knows you'd still go back with him and have feelings for him. My advice to you is talk straight forward with him. Don't let him push you around. It's your life, what ever you decide is your choice.. just be careful.
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18/f(me) 20/m (bf)
So I have a boyfriend who I have been with for about 2 years & 4 months. We don't go out much, but we see each other often. I know this is bad but I tend to lie about where I'm going to my bf and hear me out. My boyfriend doesn't have many friends and he doesn't go out much. He doesn't like me hanging out with guys and always complains if he goes along with me when I hang out with my friends. So I don't say theres guys there and I saw I'm at a girlfriends house. I feel bad but if I told the truth he'd flip. Also, he won't let me go to the club and I understand where hes coming from, but I offer him coming with me because if I were to go to the club it's not to get guys to hit on me and what not. I can't dance but I like to. Plus, theres other stuff to do there like pool,darts,tables to sit out and a lounge. Also, I wouldn;t dance with a guy, I would go with girlfriends or my bf. I see nothing wrong with this, but maybe thats just me. I don't know what to do anymore. And to top it off, I might be going to a college like an hour away from home and he'll be staying here. I don't know whether or not I should call it quits or take a break or just see what happens if I do go there and if it doesn't work out then break up. Any advice would be greatly appreciated :] (link)
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I'd say you need to talk it out with him. Tell him you feel trapped because you don't have any freedom to see your friends, and explain that he should trust you with other guys. It's really all about communication. People getting jealous is natural, but also unhealthy to a point. I'm sure if you talk it out it'll all be okay. I go through the same thing. It's more about being insecure on if the other person feels the same about you. Make sure you explain how much you care.
As for the college thing, you can still come home every once and awhile. But, my advice is, take it one day at a time. Don't think too much ahead. Enjoy what you have. :D
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Hello there.
I was just wondering... what are some fun ways to kiss? Like one example would be to put an ice cube or gum in your mouth and pass it back and forth. BUt i was wondering what are some OTHER fun ways to kiss someone else? I am trying to get some new ways to make kissing more exciting for me and my boyfriend, just so we can play around with it.
I rate high for GOOD answers! =D
Thanks
Beth. (link)
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Try pop rocks!
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I've known this one guy that I like since I was like one day old. And i mean one day old. I am now 13 and I am totally in love with him. When we were about six we had a "wedding" but I honestly don't know if he likes me back. Please help! (link)
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You've known each other so long that you should be able to approach him about anything. It may be awkward, but just ask. There's not really a way to tell if someone likes you or not, so just ask. It's quick, it's efficient, and it saves time and energy. Sometimes guys have a hard time telling us girls how they feel for fear of rejection. That's where we go in and just push the subject so it's easier! Make sure you make it clear you definitely still want to be close, even if he says no.
Good luck, hun!
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ok so there is this guy i kind of like. It's not a big deal i just like him a little bit. But still, i want him ti like me. He is way nice and so so funny. We have two classes together and we sit next to eachother in one and talk like the entire time! I went to a dance with him and we had a really good time. But, i think he likes another girl. I know some people who says he does. I can't help but be jealous! i don't want to know a way to make him like me because there really is not a way of doing so. I guess i just want to know how to act around him to let him know i'm available? I guess that's the way to put it. I just want him to maybe be a little interested. Have him know i am a fun person, and we could have something good. It sounds pretty lame and stupid but help!! (link)
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Trust me when I say, he already knows. You went to the dance together, you talk a lot. He knows you're a good person. If he didn't think so, he wouldn't talk to you. Okay, to hit the nail on the head here, guys are clueless to girl games and clues. Sometimes it's just so easier to walk up and tell him, or write a note or something. Telling him you're available and interested will save you the stress from wondering why he doesn't notice you, or if he even cares. I can almost guarantee that he probably does, but doesn't know how to say it. Confidence is a very big key in catching a guys eye. SO! GO OUT THERE AND MAKE MAMA PROUD! ;D
Good luck!
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So, I absolutely hate Valentines day. I've been single for all of them, and they make single people feel lonely.
So, I'm going out with a group of friends, and most of them are single too. If I do meet someone in a bar(that's where we go) on Saturday night, what are some good flirting tips and such to get a guys attention, but not be all over him. There are a lot of cute single guys in places that we go, but I'm too shy to just go up to them but sometimes they join us, and I have no idea what to do...
I'm getting tired of being single, but I don't really know how to get guys to notice me a bit more. I'm not that ugly, so I've been told...but I guess it's more a lack of confidence.
So yeah, any tips? :P
16/f by the way. (link)
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Just be yourself, yeah sounds corny and over said, but it's true. Confidence definitely plays a major key. It's like saying "Yeah, I have flaws. Do I care? PSHH!". Never appear to be conceded though, that's just.. annoying. Never the less, keep conversation open, and don't seem too interested, if that makes sense. When a girl comes on to be very interested, or clingy.. it's kind of mirroring that she's insecure. That goes for girls and guys. Honestly, I think you'll do fine. You seem like once you're there and meet the right guy you'll know what to do. Trust your girl instincts! And I've found if you don't look, they come to you.
As for Valentines Day. I don't celebrate it. Like my friend once said, everyday should be a Valentines Day if you're in a relationship. It's really no big deal. Think of all this as an opportunity! Being single is sometimes a lot more fun then you think.
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17/F
Okay lets start here, I recently started hanging out at my sisters house a lot. Well this guy started coming around and i didnt really draw any attention to myself because thats stupid.. well apparently he noticed me anyway because i heard he said something to my brother in law about liking me. So I got his number out of somebody phone and casually started texting him.. i asked if he was at my sisters and he said no blah blah.. well just to play it cool i was like ok thanks well he kept the conversation going. we've benn talking for like a week now and last night i was at my sisters and he acted real chill and didnt say anything really. so i got home and was like so im a stranger huh and he said he didnt want to draw attention to us cuz yes it would make people mad.. so i was like whatever.. my mom knows the whole situation and was like don't worry he was watching you and stuff but my question is what can i do for him to give me more attention? like i really like him and i wanna do everything right. please give me ideas anything is better than nothing.. I'm stuck and i dont know what to do.
thank you
mac (link)
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Well, you know he's interested, so just go for it. Don't wait around till he makes a move and talks. Make him want to talk to you more, by not being shy and starting a conversation. ;D
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alright,
so me and my ex boyfriend broke up about 5 months ago. he was the first real boyfriend i had ever had, and i was the first real girlfriend he had ever had. We went out for about 6 months, and then we broke up. after a little while, i told him that i wanted him back, and he said he wanted to wait untill next year. It has been about 3 months since we talked about that, and i want to know if i should start talking to him again. Right now, me and him dont talk at all. What are some ways you think i could get him back?
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Okay. Well, first off, you should never wait for a guy. No matter how long you've dated, if he doesn't want to be with you now, he probably wont later. If he wanted to be with you, he'd be with you now. But, I guess it depends on the reason why he wants to wait till next year. Is he busy? Is he seeing someone? If you guys don't even talk, then how did you keep the connection alive I wonder. Or is it just because you have dated him before for so long.
Yours and his relationship will never exactly be the same as it used to be. So I would guess you should open the connection again. Start talking more, and try getting that closer connection you used to have. Maybe when he sees what he's missing, he'll come crawlin' back. ;D
Good luckkk.
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I'm having a problem with my boyfriend not picking up my phone when I call later. Like I emailed him, and he stated he was busy talking to some people at work and he wasn't at his desk to answer me(something that was not work related) He admitted he was wrong and apologized. Than the next day I call him, and he doesnt pick up his phone, he calls me back 20 minutes later. Later on in the day, I text and he was saying his phone was on viberate so he didnt hear it. Than Today I called him, and he called me back an hr later. The problem is if i was to do the same thing once he would be very upset. He has been doing this three days in a row. Right now I don't even wanna deal with him, but i feel so sad, I wanna cry. How do I get my mind off this??? Please help, I need some cheerful advice!!! (link)
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Don't just assume he's lieing! I mean, if he didn't want to talk to you, he wouldn't have called back, right? :D
So, just stop calling him for awhile, and see if he calls you then. Meanwhile, focus your energy on something likkkee.. listening to music, writing, hanging out with friends, or anything else you like to do. :] Remember, no need to get upset over something you're not too sure about. 8D
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i feel like me and my boyfriend always do the same thinggsss. like, we go out to a movie or the mall or something, then we come home and make out since theres nothing to do at my house :P. im getting bored . and no, im not asking for like sexual advice, cause im not planning on going much further anytime soon. but like i hang out with him once or twice a weeeeek and i just need something else to do with him. advice? thankkss (link)
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I have the same problem sometimes!
You should try hanging out in groups, or whatever. I mean, alone it's a bit harder to find other things to do. But in a group of friends, there are tons of possibilities.
Try planning ahead of time also. Maybe you can go other places, or sit at home and do something simple, like play a game. :] Or, just ask him what he'd like to do. I'm sure he might think of something.
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The situation I'm in is so complicated I myself don't understand. I met my best friend (who is a male) at a party when I was 14 years old. I was introduce to him because I wanted to dance with someone so my cousin's boyfriend at the time went to look for a partner for me and he found him. At first, I liked him so much.Me and him talk on the phone and went to other several parties with him. The problem was that my mom sometimes when she felt like gave me permissions to go to the parties and sometimes she didn't let me go. Then if she let me go I could only stay til' 12am (which sucks because usually he would get there around 10pm) and didn't even get the chance to dance with him or anything. Anyways, I enter high school and he went off to college. I realized we were better off friends, and only talked to him several times on the phone. When he had breaks, we will come see me and spend time with me and my family. One time he told me he liked me, I liked him too but the problem was my mom and myself. I was having really bad anger and mental problems at the time and spend almost all my teen years in psych hospitals. Anyways, I didn't want him to know that side of me, so I decided to tell him that we were better as friends. Years passed by and sometimes he will come see me. My sisters and my mom became really close to him, my mom even calls him "son". There's was one time that I wanted to wait for him until he finished college and then give it a shot. But then my medications increased my appetite and I got bigger and bigger. He noticed every time he came to see me and tell me "you are getting fat", "what's wrong with you?" "are you OK"? So I decided to give up and stay friends with him because I noticed that he wasn't liking me like he use to anymore due to my physical changes. About a month a go he wrote me on messenger. We talked everyday about random things. One day my best friend (a female) told me she wanted a good boyfriend, who goes to college and is a great person, fun at the same time and serious. I decided to introduce him to her through messenger. They talked for several days and I was so happy my best friend was meeting someone finally and that my other best friend was going to meet another possible girlfriend. I played the part of cupid basically. I was happy, yes but at the same time felt jealousy towards her. But my happiness was greater than my jealousy so I ignored that feeling. And anyways, I have a boyfriend now of three and a half years that I supposedly love (that's what I thought I felt) and care about, we even live together. Yesterday, we went to my mom's house for thanksgiving dinner. Here was a chance for my two best friends to meet in person and get a chance to know each other more. But things didn't go right. They had no connection what so ever and completely ignored each other. Then to screw things even more, my cousin shows up and Joseph remembers her from the party back in 2004. She is the type to flirt with anybody, and give it up the same night. Basically she is a whore. And the only reason why my best friends weren't connecting is because in the first place he just wanted a "one night stand" and my best friend is a virgin and only wanted to get to know him more and he didn't want that so he completely ignored her. Then like I was saying, when my cousin showed up they started to talk and have a conversation. Knowing my cousin I knew where she was going with this. I was so pissed off that I started to drink and trying to get drunk because I couldn't believe what was going on in front of my eyes. Then my mom and my grandma notice what I was doing and wanted me out of the kitchen because they didn't want me to do something stupid. I just wanted to hit her so bad. One thing is my best friend (who I love to death) but the other thing is my cousin (who I hate to death, don't like her for ****). And anyways he came to my house to spend time with me, my sisters and my best friend not meet my ******* cousin. Anyways, then I realized I was jealous and that I still love him, and that I want him bad. I can't believe I didn't took care of myself and not wait for him. What you think should I do with this situation? My best friend is hurt, my cousin is a ******* whore who took my best friend to her apartment (not to play Bingo) after 2 hours of conversation (what a ******* whore), and my boyfriend and family are suspicious of me being jealous of my cousin. What should I do? (link)
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Wow.. Well, for one thing, you should start to be honest with yourself. Do you like the person you're currently with? Or would you rather be with the other guy? And for your cousin and best friend, just.. mind your own business for now. I mean, it's their life, therefore you can't really tell either of the what to do. Although you can confront your cousin and tell him that it bothers you that he was hitting on your best friend, and should refrain from doing it again.
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How do you get over a guy that you have went out with and still really like him. I've gone out with him 5 times, and has broken up with me everytime. He seems like a jerk sometimes, but he has his really good moments that make me feel special. Please help! (link)
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First off, if you broke up more than once, you probably don't have that good of a connection. Seeing that communication is a big part of relationships, you have to understand that if you can't work out your problems, then it's not going to last long. Any guy can say sweet things. It's a rare guy that actually means it.
So, my advice is, really think about if it's worth being together if you might break up anyways.
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ive know this guy since the 6th grade i am now a junior in hs. so its been a while. I used to like him back then and he knew it i guess he just didnt like me so w.e i moved on. We lasted like 3 yrs without talking simple because we didnt go to the same school anymore and i never see him around. He goes to the same school as my besfriend and he asked her to say hi to me. Well weve been talkin and w.e but idk if he has feelings for me or if hes just trying to mess wit my head im kind of falling all over. =/ i dont want to get my hopes up but i mean i would like him as a friend what should i do?.. (link)
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He says he likes you. Guys don't usually play mind games like girls do. I would know, I'm a girl. ;D But yeah, I think that if you really like him, that you should just trust him for now and go with it. What will it hurt to try? :D
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16/f
I have this huge crush on this one guy and I don't know what to do about it. People tell me that they think he likes me, but I don't really know for sure. He doesn't go to my school, but we talk online and stuff almost everyday. How can I hint to him that I like him more than a friend? Would asking him to go a movie be too forward of me? Or should i wait for him to ask me? I'm not sure of what i should do. (link)
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I believe it would be best for you to ask him to the movies just as friends and see if anything happens. You could try hinting to him that you like him and see what happens if it seems he like you, go for it and ask him out. If you guys have fun go and try doing other stuff together.
And about hinting to him about you likeing him sometimes its best to be straightforward and tell him that you having feelings for him.
Well good luck and hope this advice helps.
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So there's this guy, and he's my neighbor; but his sister's are bestfriend's with my brother. So it makes him a total no-no. But I just can't help myself but to like him. I'm in eighth grade, but he's in tenth. Everything about it's wrong. Do you think I like him because I know he's off limits ? What should I do ?! (link)
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Basically age doesn't matter. What you should do is try to stay good friends maybe now you and him won't work out. But eventually if its meant to be you may find your way together when your both are grown and more mature. Right now its the whole you want what you can't have. So listen to your heart and do what you think is right.
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16/f
Okay, well i went to a party last night and the guy that i am "talking" to was there to. We have been "talking" for about a month now. We talk on the phone every night and we see eachother in school and say hi and stuff. Well last night, he was like "come on, let's go outside for a while." so i was like "okay." Before he said this my friend came up to me and said she talked to him and he said that he might ask me out tonight. So, we were walking around outside by ourselves and he said "i think we should go out." Then i said "yea." After that he said "Sound good?" and then i said "yes!" and he was like "alright" and he gave me a hug. Was this asking me out? I mean, my friend told me that he was gonna do it so i figured it was even though he never really used the words "will you go out with me?" So, i just wanted to know what you all thought. His name is brandon and mine is renee. Thanks! (link)
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Yesss. Haha. He did ask you, silly. Same thing happened to me before. He basically told you his opinion on it, you agreed, and it basically certified you're going out. So congrats. :D
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