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So, there's this guy....
I'm 16/f, he's 17/m (obviously...). He's from a town about 20 mins away in a different state. Let's call him Jake. One of my good friends Carrie has known Jake since they were in diapers, and she brought him to one of our dances last year (just as friends). He had a gf at the time, and I didn't really think much of him then. Four months ago, she had him and his friend Eric go to her birthday party, which I also attended. He acted much more like himself this time around, and I thought he just seemed like a really fun guy. (I believe he was single by this time, and Carrie ended up going out with Eric.) About a month later, she had another party, which I went to, and so did Jake and Eric. After the party, I developed a bit of a thing for him. He was just soooo so funny and really sweet and unlike anyone I'd ever met. Eric plays football, so Carrie asked me about a month after the party if I would like to go to one of his games with her. Of course, I said yes. So I went, and we had to pick up Jake on the way. After the game, I was basically sold. I fell for him COMPLETELY. I gave him my number that night (I amazed even myself with that) and he gave me his. He texted me maybe once or twice. A week later, I went to the next game, and he was there. We hung out at Carrie's house for a little while after, and I fell for him even harder. Then we started texting every day. He was always the one to text me first, and he would say the nicest things to me. A week or two went by and he told me that he liked me, and I told him that I liked him too. He said he wanted to get to know me better, which I completely understand. It's been a month since i've seen him, and we still text every day. He's an absolute sweetheart to me :) Next week, he's coming to my school's dance as my date (matching colors and all). I'm really, really nervous cause it's my first real date with a guy. Things seem to be going pretty well, right? Well there are a few problems. One, his ex. He broke up with her, and things did NOT end very well. I just have an odd feeling he still has a bit of a thing for her. Two, other girls. Girls FLOCK to him. He's the kind of guy that is sweet to everyone and always puts other people before himself. Some things he says to other girls make me jealous, and I'm really afraid he's going to end up giving me the slip and asking out one of these other girls. I don't really know what I'm asking, but any input whatsoever would be greatly appreciated. And if you want any more info, just let me know :) I just don't exactly know how to feel right now. I don't want to get my hopes up really high just to have them shot down.
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Heyy...
i understand your insecurities because he sounds like an amazing guy. But just remember that YOU are the one hes going on a date with not other girls. YOU are the one he texts everyday. And he's even admitted to liking you, you have nothing to worry about. Girls may flock to him, but your the one he shows attention to and likes. Concerning his ex,I wouldn't mention it or bring it up at all, because he broke up with his ex for a reason, and he is obviously ready to move on. Him liking you is proof of that! So don't sweat it. Just be yourself, and don't be too clingy-don't show him that your jealous he talks to other girls or anything. Instead, make him realize that your the only girl he wants. Don't worry about his past-focus on building a future in which you could probably become exclusive and date:) Best wishes, hope your dance goes great!
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Hey there,
He sounds like a very sweet guy. So, I think if Jake had a bad break up with his girlfriend, I doubt he still wants to be with her. He has probably moved on and doesn't want to think about that day again. Guys have feelings like girls and if someone hurt him, I doubt he still wants to be with her. I believe you are just having a worry moment inside of you and you should try and brush it off, for it sounds like he is definately more interested in you.
Other girls flock him? That just shows he is a really nice, fun, outgoing guy. You aren't actually dating him officially are you? If you are just taking him to a dance as a date, it really doesn't mean he has to be stuck on you all the time. It sounds like he is still a free guy (one date doesn't mean you are together). If you do want him though, you should keep him close (continue texting/talking to him), try to have one on ones often (talking and getting together), and let him know the night of the dance that you would like to be more than his date that night. Casually ask him nicely and be sure to smile. If you don't ask him, he may just as well ask someone else out. Not asking him is getting your hopes up. If you like a (single) guy, you don't let him go... you work for him. Never be afraid to go after something you want in life, the results are often amazing <3
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I'd say that he really has something for you. If he just wanted to use you, he would have tried already, you know? I think you should give him your trust. He may be very sweet, so I doubt he'd ever cheat you out. The fact he tries making you jealous is also a way for him to see how much you care. In a way, jealousy can show how interested you are in someone. Take it slow, keep observant. :D Sweet guys are hard to come by!
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