Wha's good every1? Chillen? Yeah. I made this page, jus so I could help ya people out.. You know, your day to day problems. You can hit me up with any thing, and I will try my best to give you my advice on the situation. Sorry that my picture up there isn't that great, they don't let you put big pictures on the website.. So yeah! My name is Crystal, and I am 17 years old. I work at York Graphic Services, it's a cool job. I love being on the computer. I like to go out w/ my friends, dance, listen to music, chill, go swimmin, go shoppin, go to the movies or jus watch them at home, be with my family, drive (I jus got my license!), Download music, Be online, talk on the phone, go outside, ride my 4-wheeler, stuff like that.. Jus a normal 17 year old. LoL. I am single right now, but I am trying to work on that.. LoL. But yeah, I like to talk to people, and help them out. So leave ya problems, and when ever I get online I will try my best to help. Thank you, have a good day.
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How do I tell my parents I want to date? I dont want to flat out say it
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Well, I don't know how you get out your anger, or your issues in life with your parents. Me, I usually write down how I am feeling. I am good with words on paper, and not face to face. Some times I can't find the words to say when I am trying to tell someone how I feel when I am TALKING to them. But when I write every thing down, it comes out nice and smooth, and there's always a good ending. BUT... If your not good at writing, then you have to be good at talking. So sit down and talk to them and tell them that your ready to date, and if they have a problem with it, then I don't know what to tell you. Maybe your parents feel as though your too young. But you can still do what you want to do behind their backs, you know that is always what I did. But some times I regreted it because I got into a lot of trouble with that. Just really be careful with what you do.. And make sure that you don't lie to them.. Cause in the end they will always find out.. TRUST ME!!
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Me and my friend both have questions:
My question: I just started going out with this guy that I have been with on and off before. We haven't seen each other all summer so we talk on the phone alot. Anyways, I don't know what to talk to him about! We both end up asking the other person what they wanna talk about and saying I don't know. Or we end up talking about "us" or something. Any ideas? I don't wanna seem boring.
My friends question: My dad is racist, and the problem is I like a guy who is partially black. When we're talking on the phone my dad always interrupts me and asks why we are talking. It's really getting on my nerves and I don't think my dad can get over this. What should I do?
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Ok to the 1st question. When your having a conversation with this guy, ask him what he did through out the day. Make conversation by telling him what you did, or things that you wanted to happen through out the day. You know, just be open and say what ever's on your mind.
To the 2nd question... WOW! I completely understand where your coming from about your dad being racist. Mine is some what like that too.. He is against interacial relationships. Me, I could care less. I have dated a lot of black guys, and he knows about it. The thing is, he knows now that he can't control what I date. No matter what he says about the guy, he doesn't control who I have feelings for. He can't control that factor of me. What he can control is me seeing these guys. Now if your dad is rudely picking up the phone like that, and saying those things, you should tell him that it bothers you. And if he asks why your talking to this guy, tell him that you have feelings for him. I have been in this position for many years. I actually haven't dated a white guy since I was in 9th grade, and now I am going into 12th grade.. My parents have tried SO HARD to push me to stop liking black people, they even moved me out of my school just so I wouldn't date them. But it didn't stop me. So now they know, just stand up for what you beleive is right. If this guy is worth fighting over, then do it. Eventually you will win.
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I completely accept that no one else can tell someone whether they are in love or not but does anyone else find it a little silly when people say they are completely in love with someone they have never dated or kissed, or dated for a week or so?
I almost find it offensive. I don't like that word being taken so lightly and thrown around. Does this annoy anyone else here, or am I being too judgmental? (link)
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I completely agree with you. I read all this shit on here, and there is a lot of 13 and 14 year olds talking about being in love. What they are feeling is just puppy "love".. And I honestly don't think they will expierence "love" until they get older. I understand where your coming from, and yes it does annoy me too. I hate when I read that these kids are loving this boyfriend and that girlfriend... They are too young to be in love. Well, some times I can't say that. My cousin has been dating her boyfriend since she was 14, and she's 16 now... And I know that they are in love, they are a prime example of teen love, and I can most definitly see them getting married. But I totally agree with the whole love thing, that the word should not be just thrown around.
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OKay I know there's a lot of questions like these, but I really need your absolute HONEST opinion about what I should do.
Me & this kid named Joshua met in May, and we've been very close since, we started dating the day we met because we had a lot in common, and we straight off the bat liked each other. We dated for about two months, until he broke up with me because he had feelings towards another girl. Which I was okay with, because I knew he'd come to me, our relationship was just too strong to be friends. We dated, again - I took him back because I just really liked him (not loved.)
In about July I started having extreme feelings for Joshua, he made me so happy, I thought maybe I was falling in love? I was really unsure, so we were still dating, & he broke up with me again, and he didn't tell me why. Then we dated AGAIN & I broke up with him because I thought I felt feelings towards my best guy friend. Now we're just pretty good friends, we talk a lot, & I just found out that while we were dating, he was telling his best girl - friend that he loved her, and calling her baby. That makes me extremely mad, because he's hurt me so much & I've never done anything like this to him before.
My question is: Should I still remain friends with him?? I don't think I'd ever be able to date him again. But he hurt me so many times in the past, I'm just unsure. If you were in my situation would you be friends with him, or would you never talk to him, again?
Thanks =)
I'll rate you a five just for answering my question. Sorry it's forever and a day long. (link)
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Ok, here's my opinion. I think that you should do what feels best. In that situation, I would maybe talk to him every now and then, but not a daily basis type thing. That is really messed up what he did to you, but if you's are really close friends then stay friend's with him. Just don't get too close... You know what I mean? Don't start dating him again, because obviously he's a player! But, do what ever feels right!
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I really im in love with this boy, but he has 3 g/f`s. yea, he's a big player. i have tried and tried to get over him, but i just can't. I dont think he would really like me, because he likes darker girls like mexican girls. What should I do. (he has no clue i like him, and I wouldn't want to tell him, because I'm embarassed he'll reject me. :\)
Thanks! i RATE 5'SSS! (link)
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Well sweet heart, if he has 3 girlfriends the boy is nothing but a dog... Yeah, you like him.. But I sugguest you get over him. He is a man whore... And if he only goes out with darker girls, then damn... Lol, that's messed up. I think you should just stay away from him.. Because say you do tell him that you like him, and then you become his 4th girlfriend... Um, then what? Lol, your just getting your self into a big mess... and your heart will end up broken..
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okay first off im sorry this is long... okay im 13 and i have been going out with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years.. i know thats long lol.. anyways .. this year we're going to be going to dif. schools.. he'll be in middle school and ill be in highschool.. hes in 6th im in 7th...well .. i love him more then i could explain. but my boyfriend.. eric thinks ill find someone else at the highschool... i know it could happen.. but it wont because i love him.. and hey who knows he might meet someone else.. and im just so worried things wont work out for us.. what do u think i should do..? i rate all 5's !!! THANKS! (link)
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Well hun, first of all.. Your too young to be in love... Every one thinks that their in love when they are young. You really wont be in love until you get older. And there are really good possibilities that you will find someone else in high school. The chances of that happening are like 9 out of 10... So, who knows. You can stick with your boyfriend, but you will probably end up meeting someone else. If you really "love" him, you wont break up with him.. But, it's completely up to you ya know. Just go with the flow.
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Alright well a little while ago I found out that this girl I know gave head to my now boyfriend 5 days before we started going out (we have been going out for about 8 days now) even though it was before we were going out for some reason its still bothering me. Any suggestions on how I could make it not bother me?
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Well, I don't think your stressing over nothing... Were you and this guy talking those 5 days before you started dating? Because what if he is still messing with this girl, and you don't know about it. That would bother me too, because you know, you just started dating, and then you find out that he was messing with some other girl before you.. ? Ya know, that would piss me off... But you do what you have to do, you ask him if he has feelings for her, and see what he has to say. Look at his reaction, analyze what he says to you... See if he's real... He sounds like a dog to me girl...
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Alright, so there's this girl, and I love her. I mean, I really LOVE her. During the school year, I didn't really care, I liked her as a friend, but everyone was convinced that she liked me. Even my best friend once said to her, "You know, you really look like (my name)'s girlfriend!" But then during the summer I realized that I really did love her, so I told her that, she said she like me as a friend. But I couldn't stop thinking about her. Then, a month later, I emailed her again saying that I couldn't get over her, and she said that what she had previously said, she honestly didn't know, her current relationship was pretty much over. So I knew there was hope, and I was sooo happy about that, but I still felt like I needed more. So I asked her to the carnival there as friends, and that was pretty cool. We had a pooled fund of tickets, and we ran out of all of them except for one... whe shared cotton candy... etc. So I'm nearly positive she likes me, but she just won't admit it to herself. How can I convince her? Thanks! (link)
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Well, you can't convince any one to like you at all. They have to go with their feelings. If you think that this girl likes you, then you go ahead and do what you gotta do... Maybe she's playing hard to get, or maybe she really doesn't have feelings for you at all.. Ya know, you got to let it run it's course.. and see how it all works out. You shouldn't push your self on her either since she claims that you's two are just friends ya know. But good luck any ways!
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