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Would it be safe to say im in love if...
he's always on my mind
i danced with him and every time i think about it my heart literally skips a beat
i cry when i think about him leaving me for a different school next year
i think you get the picture....
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Wheb your heart skips a beat like that, either you've got some serious heart problems, or you're in love. I'm going with the second answer.
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today my friend was over at his grandmothers house which is only 5 houses down and after school we went for a walk with my dog. well he grabed my hand and pulled me or should i say dragged me and my dog into the woods. he slung me down on the ground he pulled his dick out and wus rubbing all up on me with it. he wanted me to give him a blow job but i didn't want to thats just nasty. so he was like forcing me too then i pushed him against a tree then he looked like he was about to slap the crap out of me i was so scared. i don't know what i should do i want to tell my mom but then she will never let me near him again but i don't want to be friends with him anymore and if i tell her shell like be all overpertected and she already is. so what do i do i'm so scared and confused.
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My official answer is "you REALLY need to tell your mom about this." But you sound like you've already decided not to tell her. Your only option left may be to tell the police instead. He definitely commited a crime. He threw you on the ground (assault), and he touched you with his penis, without your permission. (sexual assault)
I still say to tell your mom, though.
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My ex-b/f and I play this game where we ask each other any question and we have to answer truthfully. We found out we loved each other and all that stuff. Yesterday he asked how I felt when he hugged me and I poured my heart out then he says, "By the way I'm in love with someone else." He's going out with this girl who hasn't attended school until 3 days ago. Now my question is did he set me up? Did he try to hurt me or is he really that stupid? And I how do I cope? I love him and he has just ripped my heart out. (link)
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Remember, just like myself, he's a dude. We do some pretty stupid things sometimes when it comes to girls.
If he's only known this "new girl" for three days, then he doesn't know her well enough yet to really, really like her, and he doesn't know if it's truly worth breaking up with you or not.
I doubt he tried to "set you up", unless you gave him a GOOD reason to do so.
How to cope? I'm not going to answer that one, because I'm sure one of the females on this board could answer that better than I could.
This may require you to be patient; you should know in a week if he's seriously in love with this other girl, or he's just lost his mind over the new girl. If he comes back to you, and is sorry for doing what he did, take him back. Remember, we're stupid sometimes. ;-)
BooDog
Abilene, TX
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Me and my boyfriend have been dating for about three months. We havent kissed yet, but i think i want to. How should i tell him?? (link)
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Whew. This is hard. Three months and no kiss? Not many people have experienced this before.
I wouldn't tell him; I would just do it when the moment's right. But me sure to make it a small kiss--no long kiss, no tongue; because something has obviously shyed y'all away from that first kiss.
BooDog
Abilene, TX
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I am a 14 year old male.
i have asked this girl (anne, 14)on a date.
I have decided to take her to the local fair this Friday?
but i have never been on a date before.
I don't know where to begin!
I need a good ice breaker that will keep us talking the whole time.
I appreciate all advice.
All help is good.
also: should I end the date with a kiss?
I don't relly know how. i have never been kissed. (link)
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Let me throw out a few things here.
1. There's no such thing as a "Magical Icebreaker". And you don't have to be talking the ENTIRE time.
2. The fair is an EXCELLENT first date. Movies are bad, because you never have a chance to talk. Fairs allow you to talk if you wanna talk, play some side games, ride a few rides, etc.
3. Your one requirement is this; do whatever you can to win her a prize. You do NOT have to win her a six-foot teddy bear; the smallest, rinky-dink prize on the midway will do just fine. The idea behind this? She'll appreciate the effort, and everytime she looks at her prize, she'll think of you, smile, and remember how much fun she had.
4. The kiss; Jack from "Will and Grace" said this to a straight guy many years ago; "If you don't kiss a girl on the first date, you're a gentlemen. If you don't kiss her on the second date, you're gay." I still follow this rule myself.
Don't feel pressured into trying to give her a kiss; if the situation doesn't feel right, then don't do it! But on the second date, you gotta plant that kiss, or face just being "friends" forever.
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ok i'm 17/f (almost 18) and i tend to fall for younger guys. the past 3 guys that i've liked (i went out with one) have been 15 and young 16. i'm a senior and they're all sophomores (one should be a junior). to make it better, my brother is a sophomore as well, and is older than one of them (the one i went out with). my friend says that going out with sophomores would make me look like i'm easy (which i'm definitely not...i'm waiting until marriage). is there any way that i could get myself to stop liking younger guys or is there nothing wrong with it? thanks so much :) (link)
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Age doesn't matter when it comes to love. I know your friends MUST be giving you hell about your taste for sophomores, but ignore them the best you can.
Just a reminder, though. I know you're saving yourself from marriage, but you may be over the age of consent and you're dating guys under the age of consent. (Age of consent is different for every state.) Parents who don't want their younger son dating an older woman may start making up stories, etc.
All I'm trying to say is this; if you want to date younger boys, then dammit, date them! You just gotta be very aware of the age of consent problem.
BooDog
Abilene, TX
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okay this question is for the guys.. well i have this bf and yes we really like eachother but hes a kinda shy guy and what i mean by that is that we arent really very close very often.. so i was just wondering would me kinda being all over him (like grab his hand and be close to hima nd rub up against him, the little things) every now and then help him warm up to me and maybe get a little bit more on the touchy feely side.. i mean i dont want to do anything stupid to make him wonder why hes going out with me but i want him to get used to being closer, and i wasnt sure if it would seem right since i am the girl and i would be making the moves.. well give me some of your GREAT advice! pleeeaaasssee! (link)
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You definitely have the right idea. He might run if you get to agressive, too fast. (And to him, too agressive would be normal pace for some, even a slow pace for others.)
But, more important, is that if you are moving too fast, he may not tell you due to his shyness; so you MUST pay attention to his body language. If you go for his hand, and he pulls back, don't force the issue. try something even more subtle. Putting your head on his shoulder may be a good place to start. Just take it as slow as possible. No, wait . . . slower than that. ;-)
BooDog (A Male Dog)
Abilene, TX
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Ok, so i have this crush on a guy but its like an on and off thing were i like him one minute and the next i dont but when i heard someone saying how hott he was i got so jelous and everything so does this mean that i really do have a crush or just like a teeny teeny crush on him?
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teeny teeny crushes never, never cause jealousy. The crush is full-blown, ten out of ten. You're getting jealous like you were his girlfriend. Act on the crush NOW, or regret not trying--cause some girl's gonna snag him away, and you're gonna get all depressed, crying, yelling at yourself "why didn't I do something earlier!"
Go get him!!!
BooDog
Abilene, TX
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(16/F)
i have been spending A LOT of time with my b/f and i haven't been spending as much time with my girlies. i want to hang out with my girlies more and spend time with my b/f just not as much. how can i tell him, nicely, that i would like some space to spend time with the girlies? thanks in advance.
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Whatever you do, don't use the term "some space" or "more space". It sounds like you're blowing him off, when you're really not. Just tell tim that you want a couple more "girls night out". He can go hang with his male friends for a while.
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Theres a girl at my school that i realy like Im 13 and i asked her out about 3or4 monthes ago and she sayd "i dont want to ruin our frendship by going out so for now that a no"
i dont no wat to do should i ask her out again-does she even like me?-wat should i do? (link)
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When a girl says this, she usually has no interest in you in a romantic way, yet she cares about you a lot because she doesn't want to hurt your feelings. So, she definitely likes you--but not in the way you want it to be.
Save the humiliation, don't ask her out again. But stay friends.
BooDog
Abilene, TX
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Hey my name is J.B. I am 17 year old male and I really like these two girls at my school. I have asked one out several times but she is always busy. The other girl is not dating anyone else and is also (in my oppinion) the most beautiful girl in school. Im not sure she even notices me. I need some help.
P.S. I love to write poetry and i have used her as inspiration a time or two. (link)
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I definitely say that you need to completely forget about the girl who's "always busy". This is a method girls (and guys) use to say no, but don't want you to feel rejected. She's probably wishing that you would quit asking her out.
And if she's really always busy, she would say something like "I can't go out this Saturday night, but I'd love to go out next weekend." i.e. She would say something to let you know that she was interested, too.
If you're not sure that the most beautiful girl in school notices you, then you got one choice; MAKE her notice you. Do whatever it takes to make yourself stand out from all the other seventeen-year old boys. If poetry makes you stand out, then dammit, use poetry. ;-)
BooDog
Abilene, TX
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ok um, the girl i'm with as of current LOVES it when i kiss her neck, are there any other spots that make girls go crazy when u kiss them there?
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All these other answers that everyone else is giving are as right as can be (cheek, neck, ears, forehead, etc.) but the important thing to remember is that every girl is different. While you're kissing her whereever you're kissing her, pay attention to how she reacts; usually it's very subtle, like leaning whatever you're kissing closer towards you, etc. Just pay attention.
So, the best thing to do is to try just about every spot imaginable ;-) and see how she reacts.
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Well, me and my boyfriend have been dating for a long bit now. and everytime i see him i get mad at him, im bipolar so i think that might be the reason. and then again my parents are divorsing soon and ive been really upset about it, and really everything makes me mad lately. what should i do, no medicine..just i take it out on everyone lately (link)
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All I have to say is that your bipolarness has nothing to do with you lashing out at your boyfriend. Bipolar is a pure chemical imbalance in your brain, and the mood swings associated with Bipolar last for days (2-3 straight days of depression, 2-3 straight days of euphoria.)
Considering that your parents are divorcing, and that you're mad at everything lately, it sounds to me like you're dealing with very, very heavy stress right now.
Talk with your closest friends right now. If they don't know about your parent's divorce, tell them. Let them know what you're going through. They know you best, they know how to best help you through your situation.
And my strongest advice (but only if you're comfortable doing this) is to talk with one of your parents about this.
Good luck.
BooDog
Abilene, TX
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Ok there is this girl I really like, and she has brought up the subject that she really likes me too, but im not a hundred percent sure that she does,is there any ways that i could find out if she really does ? (link)
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Dude, I don't understand. SHE brings up the subject that SHE likes you, and you're not a hundred percent sure? Are you worried that she has some kind of odd ulterior motive? Or is there a self-esteem issue here, like you can't comprehend that she likes you?
Sorry, I can't answer this one.
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all right, I'm sure that i'm not the only one that has this problem. First of all, I'm male and straight. I have friends that are girls, who I become friends with, but then I might want to date later. I like being friends with a girl before I ask them out. I've dated girls before that I haven't really gotten to know before asking them out, and then we might last for a month or two. The girls I become friends with, I really like, but then they may say comments like " I wish I had a boyfriend that was like you." Here I am though? IF I bring it up about us going out, they say we're too good of friends to risk that. They ask me questions about guys and other stuff, but I'm starting to feel like I'm their best gay friend, but I'm not gay. What should I do if this happens again?
P.S. For you smart arses out there- I'm not effeminate either. I have a deep voice, drive a land rover, play football, hockey, and lacrosse, and dress in subdue clothes.
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You thought normal crushes were complex, now you really got your hands full!
My no means whatsoever are you the only guy that has this problem; if any straight guy with female friends says that he doesn't have a crush on one of them, I'd have to call him a liar of an extreme magnatude.
Unfortunately, I don't have an answer for your current situation, and I don't think one exists. Because friendships are so complex, and the only person who knows how to affectively deal with this is you. Only you know if you want to jeopardize a friendship, cause you can't go back to being "just friends". trust me! And only you can know if you can handle this type of rejection. Because this type of rejection hurts much, much more. Trust me on this, too.
All I can tell you is this; if you like a girl BEFORE you become friends with her, do not let the relationship move into a "friend" stage, whatsoever. Try to move it straight to the relationship stage to avoid this problem.
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my boyfriend used to be a big druggy before we went out. i'm a huge anti-drug person! he told me the day before he asked me out that he had quit! i was very proud of him and all, but resently someone who didn't even know we were going out told me that they saw him smoking a cig about a week after we started going out! so now he lied to me and is doing drugs (which i really hate!) the other person who told me could have made it up, but my bf has lied to me before! what should i do??? (link)
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I'm not concened about the "lie" part here. I'm concerned about the long-term chances of this lasting, since he does srugs and you're anti-drug. Now, some may say cigs are not a drug, some may say they're a light drug, but that's not the issue. The issue is that YOU have a problem with it.
If it's true that HE asked you out, and not the other way around, then you're in good shape-- because he really, really likes you. There may be a chance that you could be a positive influence on him. Don't dump him over this; draw him closer to you, be someone he can trust. But be careful! Sometimes you can't change somebody, no matter how hard you try. And all that trying may just break your heart even harder in the end.
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