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heyy, im Rachel and im 15 w/ blonde hair & blue eyes. im a sophmore at RMHS [soon to be junior!].
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I keep having these sexual fantasies where I'm sexually dominated - the guy hits me or forces me to have sex; mostly, they revolve around rape. These are my most frequent fantasies. I'm a very strong-willed girl in my actual life, and what I can't get is, why is this the most surefire way to turn me on? Would this scare guys?

heyy! well it could be just b/c you might want the guy to be in more control of the sexual stuff...and i can't be sure exactly why this turns you on, but raping is much different than just having sex. you probably know this but raping is when you really don't want to do something sexual w/ someone and they FORCE you to do it. but if you're enjoying it and you agree to have sex but let the man take over...then that's a different story.
your question was a toughie, and i really hope i helped.. let me know if you need anything else!
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ok, i love my gf ya know? i mean... ive been though a lot of shit for her, one time i almost DIED for her. but i kinda like fell in love with this other girl inspite of all that ive been through with my gf...i mean, i cant really see myself with my gf after high school, and me and the other girl have already made plans to live together and stuff like that after high school.. i just dont know whats going to happen, or who to choose, help me out here!

hey! well...i think its a bit too early to be making plans for that, b/c things change. who knows where you're going to be or who you're going to be w/ within the next 5-10 years. i made plans w/ my ex to get married and have kids...and we broke up this summer. doesn't mean we wont get back together again, but he moved to Kansas a little while ago..and things change.
but i say follow your heart! i know that might sound cheesy, but its the truth. who can you see yourself most w/? you have to ask yourself a lot of questions to make sure one or the other is really what you want. and i suggest that you dont plan things for things after high school just yet.
so you just need to think about who you can really see yourself w/...and who you honestly like more.
i hope i helped! good luck =)

xoxo love always,
♥ Rach

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RACHEL DEWOOOOOOOOOOODY

yes. i think you know i have a problem, you know. you know i dont know if i like him or not. do i? do i not? you and eric are like the old married couple already. oh and i think pig might be homosexual. since he probably liked being put up some random girls shirt.

G'BYE

TOODLES

LOVE YA

yeah. you BEST give me some GOOD advice.

-LOVE, you know you. aka. you betcha--partner.

hahaha i love you Elle =)
i say you do... =)
b/c you're always talking about him and its cute cute cute.
but its up to you. if you really think that you have feelings for him, then go for it darlin'!!
love you! ill talk to you at lunch today xoxo

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ok here it is....ive had my fair share of g/fs n well just about everytime we end up breakin up a few months after n almost hatin eachother...now im almost scared to be in a real relationship...theres sumthin more in a real relationship than just friends wit benefits...however its also takin a bigger risk of breaking hearts...i dont like bein put in break up situations...but im also tired of juss hookin up wit other girls...what should i do??

hey! its understandable that you're afraid of break ups and you dont want to go through that..everyone has that...and its not cool. but if you really like the person and they're a good friend, then you guys will continue talking even after you guys break up. a true friend will do that, they wont let your friendship get ruined just b/c you broke up.
and i think you should just wait it out, and wait to see if a good girl comes along for you, im sure theres someone out there! most of the time, when people "hook up" w/ others, they feel like they're being used...and thats not good either. so i really think you should just wait until a relationship comes along =) and like i said, if they're a true friend..they wont let the break up hurt to the point where you guys dont talk, and you two will still be friends if she is a good friend.
well i hope i helped, best of luck!



xoxo love always,
*rach

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Hey! I feel so terrible. I am extremely jealous of my younger cuosins. Ok. They get all the guys just because their boobs are bigger. All my friends want to hang with them rather than me. i dont know what to do anymore. I cant get a boyfriend and it seems like no one likes me.
Maybe you can help... should i change myself from goody goody to ...? idk.

hey! ok well first of all, if those people are like that...then you shouldn't be hanging around them, b/c you can definitely find better friends than that. anyone who is like that is shallow. you could also ask your friends why they would rather hang out w/ them than you...
and about not being able to get a boyfriend, if they can't like you for who YOU are, then they're not the right one's for you...and you don't need them. and also, you don't NEED a boyfriend..if one hasn't come around that is right for you, then don't worry about it. he'll come along soon! i promise you that. b/c i know what it's like to feel that way...w/ both of the problems you're having. i used to hate the fact that everyone else had bigger boobs than me, but i finally realized--that i need to be myself. and if people don't like me for who i am, then that's too bad...
and i also used to be upset b/c i couldn't find a guy that was right for me and then i just kinda "gave up" and moved on...and tried to not think about it, and then finally this one guy came along...my present boyfriend. we just love each other sooooooooooo much, w/ all our hearts...and i seriously think i've found the right person to be w/..hopefully for the rest of my life! but who knows, God might have other plans for me...but i truely do love him. and i'm positive that can happen to you too =) also..you can pray...i did that. i prayed that i could find someone who could be there for me when i needed them, someone who could make me soo happy. and i got my prayer answered w/ the most perfect guy!
it might take a while...it took a while for me. it might not happen the next day, but it could. and it might not happen in a couple weeks, but it could...it might take a couple weeks, even a couple months. but God will always make sure that he's there for you, and he will answer your prayers. just be patient hun, that's all i have to say...and DON'T CHANGE FOR ANYONE! be yourself =) i hope i helped, good luck!! =)


xoxo love always,
*rach

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OKay! Don't get me wrong, I LOVE MY BOYFRIEND, but sometimes it feels like we aren't as good as we used to be. I dont' know, I mean I dont' want anything to happen to us. It's just, he's been away a lot and stuff and I mean, it feels weird, because it's not like I miss him even that much anymore. I dont' know! It is just different and I really don't like it. Please help me out. How do I relit our flame? And is this normal? I'll rate HIGH and leave FEEDBACK

hey! well i really don't think anything is wrong..it seems pretty normal, but i suggest you talk to him! let him know that you don't want things to get messed up or change in any way between you two, but that sometimes you have different feelings about certain things. i really think you should talk to him...and i'm sure he'll understand! =) i think the best way to "re-light your flame", is just to talk to him and let him know how you feel and you guys can talk about it and work things out. when you talk to him about it, i'm sure you'll feel soo much better about everything! it doesn't sound weird or abnormal to me at all. i hope i helped, good luck! =)


xoxo love always,
*rach

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OK. Ive known this guy since the 7th grade. Im now in the 10th grade and off and on through out the years, ive liked him. In 9th grade we got much closer. Of course he has a girlfriend that goes to another school that he never talks about.He was with her in the beginning of 8th but then they split and he went with some other girl. My best friend knew i liked him and at the 8th grade dance, she got me to dance with him. It was so great. I guess in 9th grade although they dont go to the same school, they decided to get back together. Well in the spring time he told he has liked me ever since 7th grade.He actually said " i love you" i was confused why he never told me and he told me he was shy even though ive told him to his face my feelings for him.But whatever guys will be guys. Well lucky me, when he told me, it was a period when i didnt like him and i was with another guy(not official). i had just lost all hope in ever being with him, i moved on. He told me he was going to break up with his girlfriend to be with me. When i started to like him again...i think he switched schools or something. i havent heard from him since a little before spring break. i kind of just ignored it. then one night i realized that i think i love him... and from that night on i havent been able to sleep because of him. hes the thing that i think of when i wake up and fall asleep. whenever i try calling his house and cell, no one picks up. i really just want to see him. id give anything for just one glance.
what do i do? should i keep on trying to call?

hey! wow thats a toughie. well...i say try and keep calling. if he still doesnt answer, maybe wait a little while and ask around to see where he's been and stuff. maybe other people might know which school he goes to (if he switched) and where he is and all. i hope i helped..best of luck!! =) i'm sure things will work out =)


xoxo love always,
*rach

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Hey! You know how I wrote about my friend having a baby? Well..... her mom wants to give her an abortion..... and my friend could die from this.... and my best friend from kindergarten doesn't want his girlfriend to have a baby, and while she has been pregnat.... I have been having sex with her boyfriend.... and i now know that if she has this baby it could die because of me... what do I do? Should I tell her?

hey! wow umm...thats a toughie. first of all, what you did was wrong..having sex w/ your friend's boyfriend that is. but i think you should definitely tell her, just for the sake of things...and the whole abortion/her having a baby is really tough. b/c like you said, her boyfriend doesn't want her to have a baby, and her mom wants her to get an abortion, but she could die. i say talk to a doctor and her mom about all this, and all your opinions and whatnot, and try to figure something out. but as for having sex w/ her boyfriend, i think you should definitely talk to her about it...but the baby isn't necessarily going to "die b/c of you" b/c you can't help that..so if you do feel up to telling her, go for it. i don't really think it's a good idea to keep that from her...i hope i helped, good luck!


love always,
*rach

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Before I wrorte that my Best friend, and the guy I've known since kindergarten are going out.... and I didnt want them getting home.... but they did, and know my best freind is going to have a baby! What do I do?????

hey again, well you really need to be there for all of them, and let them know that you're there to help and all...there's not much else you can do except that hun, since she's already pregnant. good luck!! =)


love always,
-x- rachel -x-

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Hey!, well here's the deal. My friend has been going out with this guy for about a month now and they have been keeping ita secret. Too bad i didnt know until about a week ago when i admitted to liking him, but not infront of her. Now that i like him, i found out they go out. And then to top it all off, she asked me if i liked him. imediately i responded no, lying. but he and i have gotten kinda close(in my opinion) and i tlod her last night. And i am afraid they may break up making me look like a whore. Then to top it all off, i dont know what to do with my feelings about him.
Hope you can help

hey! you should talk to your friend, and let her know that you lied b/c you didnt want them to break up. and tell the truth-- tell her that you like him, but you don't want to ruin anything that they have together. and as for your feelings for him, if you don't want to break them up then just stay friends for now! people aren't together FOREVER, so you might have a chance..but like i said, you can still be pretty close friends w/ him...just b/c your friend and him are going out doesnt mean you can't be friends w/ him. and it's not your fault that you didn't know about them going out, but let your friend know that you don't want to ruin anything w/ anyone. and also, i doubt you'll be called a "whore" if something goes wrong..that's not acting like a whore, so its all good! but like i said, just talk w/ your friend about everything and don't lie b/c that'll just make things worse..and you can always stay good friends w/ him! =) i hope i helped! good luck!!!!! =)


love always,
*rachel

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14/m
what are ways that i can pull my girlfriend aside from all our friends and get our first kiss? like what are ideas that i can do? what are things that i can bring up the romantic event once i pull her aside?
Background: she has been getting annoyed with me for absolutly no apparent reason, sometimes just because im around-we go to the same school, and are in the same classes, and hang around the same group of friends. sometimes i get the impression that she gets annoyed whenever i pull her aside for a while just to cuddle with her, or talk by ourselves, its like she thinks i am hogging her from everyone, when really its just some of our friends are so obsessive with her (they are almost all girls, we have like 2 or 3 other guy friends) and they (a few girls) like obessess with her and shit. so how can i pull her aside without her thinking im trying to hog her to myself?? thanks for the help!

hey! wow ne girl would kill for a sweet boyfriend, idk why she's acting that way =\ well, ask her to go to the movies w/ just you 2 sometime..and then you can talk alone and stuff. i dont think you're "hogging her" ..its normal. you just want to be w/ your girlfriend and maybe she's trying to show she's lost interest? i doubt its that bad, but just try talking to her about it and maybe you could call her when you know that she's not w/ anyone and she's at home w/out any friends and all that and just explain to her how you feel and let her know that you arent trying to hog her away from her friends and that you do want some time alone though. i'm sure she'll understand! =) i hope i helped, good luck!!!!!

xoxo love always,
*rachel*

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I need some advice on love. Well i like this guy (but i dont know him)and i the only thing ive said to him is that i was srry for running into him in the hallway. How do i get this guy to notice me if hes in a completly different world from me?

haha heyyyyy kt! i love you =) well, you need to talk to him babe. if you want him to notice you, then get to know him! he's a nice guy trust me, i'm friends w/ him and i've gotten to know him...and he's really cool. so go for it! =) i know you don't really want to talk to him but if you want to get to know him and notice you and stuff, then bring up a convo. just a simple one like "hey whats up!" or something like that..its a good start. then you can start talking to him about other things, and just ask if you want his sn..i know you know it but you said you deleted it or something so i can always tell you again =) well i hope i helped!! love you sweetheartttttttt


xoxo love always,
*rachel*

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Alright well theres this girl i think i like but i have never met her before.And she likes someone else. Also im a very shy person what should i do?
12 Male

hey! well just stay friends w/ her for now b/c since she likes someone else, you shouldn't get your hopes up too high b/c that would break your heart if she doesn't like you back b/c of the guy she already likes. and if you haven't met her yet, then i think you should meet her when ever you can b/c sometimes people can be so much different online than they are in person and whatnot. being shy is okay, you'll learn to open up soon! =) but my suggestion is that you just be friends w/ her b/c otherwise you are going to have a tremendous heart break...and that wouldn't be cool =( so meet her some time and see how things go! but don't try to take her away from the guy she already likes, just wait it out and be friends until things start to change and you get to know her more =) i hope i helped, good luck!!!


love always, *rachel*

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Ummm well lets see i say your advice column and i was wondering if a 5 inch penis is big.
12 year old male

hey, um hun, don't worry about what size ur penis is, you're fine the way you are.

~*~rachel~*~

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My boyfriend and I have been going out for a while. We tell eachother everything. The other day I was talking to one of our friends and he was saying that there was rumor that my bf kissed another girl. Should I ask him or should I leave it because I trust he wouldnt do that?
Female 13

hey! well i think you should definitely confront him about it (when the time is right of course) and just casually bring it up. don't make it sound like you're mad b/c you don't know if this rumor is true or not. but just talk to him about it and since you guys are bf/gf, then you definitely should tell each other about these kinds of things!!! cheating is wrong and if he did kiss another girl, let him know that cheating isn't right. but i hope that you can keep his trust and know that he didn't kiss another girl...like i said, just talk to him about it and you can work things out that way. i hope things work out!! i hope i helped, good luck =)

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Thanks soo much for helping me out!!!!!!! You are awesome!!!!! but i have another problem. my ex boyfriend broke up with me about 2 or 3 weeks ago. and when he broke up with me he told me he wanted to be really good friends. so i was like ohk. and at first we were really good friends and stuff. but now he makes fun of me and hes kinda mean to me...do you think he really doesnt like me anymore and just said he wanted to be friends when he broke up with me or do you think its cause he still likes me and hes just doing that to get my attention????

hey! no prob. !!! well guys can be like that sometimes..he might be trying to get your attention, but then again, you never really know w/ guys. so i think you should just bring this up w/ him and be like, "whats up w/ you being mean to me and stuff and not being as close of friends as we used to be?" --or somewhere along those lines, and if he continues to be like that, then maybe just stay away from him for a while...he'll come back around if he really does like you still. and when you feel that things have changed and he hasnt come around to you first (which he'll probably do anyway) then come to him and start a convo and see how things go! i hope i helped, good luck!!!! =)

xoxo love always,
--rach

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Female,16
The guy i like is really shy about girls, hes never had a gf before, and we are really good friends. ive liked him a long time, and i figured it was just time to tell him. I guess he really had no clue.. yesterday i talk to him alone after school, and said you know i like you and he was silent scuffing his feet and half smiling and he said THANK YOU.. tell me what is that suppose to mean? thank yOU!? and then he said wow this really caught me off guard i i.. and his friend walked by and siad lets go, i need a ride home, so hes said well i guess ill talk to you later and left...do you think maybe he jsut didnt know what to say, usually he'd say oh well lets jsut be friend or somthing like that but he said thank you, and its such a neutral comment... plus most people i know think he likes me.. so do you think maybe he was jsut caught off guard and didnt know what to say or what?

hey! it might be b/c since he's never had a gf..maybe the fact that now he knows that you love him, he's thankful for that...and maybe he does like you, ya never know. but i think you should ask him, b/c it really sounds like you two have a chance! but it really does sound like when he said "thank you" it sounds like he meant that for one, he's thankful that you like him..and he probably took it as a compliment. so like i said, you should ask him about it and talk to him more about everything..good luck!! i hope i helped =)


xoxo love always,
*rachel*

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Hey..im a girl thats 14 years old....Okay i think i like one of my good friends. I wanna go out with him but i dont know if it will ruin our friendship and i dont want to ruin our friendship. He sometimes acts like he likes me but I dont know if he does. We thought about going out one time but we decided not to. And even though we are just friends and never gone out...we've made out and touched each other and stuff like that before. i dont know what i should do..and all of my friends and people that know both of us think that we are going out because we act like it...i guess. i need HELP!!!

hey! if you really think its going to ruin the friendship, then just stay really good friends..b/c if you are unsure of ruining anything, then thats something telling you that maybe you should just stay friends. i've had this happen to me, where i liked someone but i wasnt sure if i wanted to go out w/ him b/c of ruining the friendship. and i finally realized that if i was that worried, then maybe i just should stay friends b/c when you really like someone, you don't even think about the friendship being ruined b/c you know it WON'T be. this is b/c if this guy you like is a really good friend, even after you guys break up..you both will still be friends, being that you both are so close. and so that's important knowing that a good friend can and will do that...so pretty much its up to you, if you really have doubts about the friendship, then keep it as friends..but if you want to try more than a friend, go for it! i'm sure everything will work out =) i hope i helped! good luck!!!! =)

xoxo love always,
*rachel*

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to put it simply.. about 5 guys like me a lot right now and are fighting over me... i cant just pick one though because i feel a connection
with every single one of them. i dont know what to do.. do i pick one of them or just try to find someone other than them so i wouldnt be "picking"?? please help me

hey! i suggest that you just stay friends w/ all of them for now, and then maybe later on you can work out something where you can go out w/ one that you find you really like. but its up to you, if you want to stay friends w/ all of them right now til you find the one you like a lot or b/c you dont want to ruin anything..then thats cool! i hope i helped, good luck =)

xoxo love always,
x3 rachel

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i want a boyfriend, but there is no one at my skool that i like except for one person, but she's a gurl so that's never gonna happen. Anyway, i need a way to meet cute guys and actually get to see them often enough to be able to date. how can i do that?

hey! well do you go to any parties, or church (i know that might sound stupid, but hey there are some pretty cute guys at my church haha!!) and um...maybe around your neighborhood or something? also, your friends might have cute guy friends that live around you and stuff..i really hope i helped, i couldnt really think of anything but i tried! good luck =)

xoxo love always!
x3 rachel

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