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Well I can help out anyone who plays or wants to play sports. I have been on softball, basketball, volleyball, soccer teams throughout gradeschool, highschool and college. So if you need help with anything regarding sports, let me know. And if I havent done that sport I might know something you could need help with! Also, my friends always come to me with their relationship problems, so if that's something you need help with as well, I'd be glad to help!

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19F - he's 24 - there is this guy that works at a company that my company deals with... i speak to him regularly for work stuff... at the christmas party we went out clubbing and made out... i REALLY like this guy, like seriously, as in get butterflies in my tummy when i hear his voice. when we were out he said i'm too good for him. we have spoken through work many times since then but havn't mentioned that night. i really wanna ask him out or something but i dont know if he likes me and i dont wanna make things awkward at work. what do i do? help!

Ask him to go out sometime, just to hang out. And if something happens, make sure you ask him 'why' it happened. See what he has to say about it. I know he said you were too good for him, but maybe he'll realize that you and him could make something work out.

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Theres this guy i like and hes pretty much like a jock cause he does lacrosse and football. and i do soccer, bball, dance, and I wanna try out lacrosse in the spring. hes in like most of my classes in my middle school, and i fell for him right when i met him.. cause of his looks, but hes also funny and nice, too. (although hes not the brightest crayon in the box heh) ANYWAY, im not the world's best flirter, especially with guys i like alot, cause then i feel awkward around them and such. but i dont mind in gym getting competitive, like we played this game called "steal the rings" and you gotta capture the person's flag on their belt so they dont steal your ring. and i beat him sometimes and hes always smiling when i do it. also the other guys, like they know im good at the game but like is it attractive? or does it kinda repel people. im not like "SOOO" aggressive, but im pretty good at the game and dont just stand there like some girls doo. hes kinda popular and im not popular, but not a loser either.

ppl kno me cause im smart, talented at stuff, funny, and nice. but sometimes it takes a bit to get to know me, since at first i may seem shy but if i get comfortable around you i can be totally more outgoing and fun to be around. arg, so im basically shy in most places except gym cause i dunno.. i guess i feel kinda selfconcious, well i mean i like myself, but it feels weird when ppl are like staring at you! so i always get some feeling which makes me feel weird like that sometimes, though i guess its just nervousness for no reason when im feeling kinda uncomfortable. but this kinda happens everyday and every night i tell myself that i will change and such but its always the same the next day! i mean it changes a lil.. but like.. yeah. how do i become more outgoing and stuff.. and basically make more friends in general? and how do i be myself.. like everyone says that as the answers to questions like this (sorry this is not all on the topic!) and its like hard..

Ahh! sorry this is mucho long!
Thanks 4 replying!

You and I are the same way. I play basketball, volleyball and softball. And my crush was in my gym class, so of course I was a little distracted haha But I still played the game. A lot of guys think it is a turn-off that the girl is competitive. But I know a lot of guys that like the fact that the girl will actually 'put up a fight' and is competitive. You can't change who you are, so if you try to become less competitive, you won't have any fun. Now, you said you wanted to be more outgoing.. To do that, go out more with friends. Try new things. Be open to changes. With you trying new things, you'll meet new people and eventually will make new friends. And the easiest answer to say is to be yourself. Still be competitive and athletic. Don't loose that. You like to have fun, right? Do what you do to have fun. If you need anything else, let me know. I will be happy to help you out!
~4evaurs_21~

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My boyfriend and i have been dating for 5 wonderful months. he is the best, and i cant even describe him. though the other day, he talked to me about engagement, which i am quite excited for. though me and him would have to keep it on the downlow for i am going to be 16 and he will be 18. he isnt going to ask for awhile yet(falltime or beyond that time, hes thinking), he just brought it up because he wanted to see how i felt about it. i actually feel wonderful about it and i feel very ready. i love this man with all my heart and have never felt this way about someone before. i dont have much of a family, but him and his family makes up for it. im not reallt needing advice, cause i know id say yes in a heartbeat, but am i crazy for being excited at 16 y/o and i know it will be easy to hide from my parents because i hide everything from them, but is this a ridculous decision?!? thanks alot

well, i would say it is kind of ridiculous. but at the same time i believe that you can fall in love at any age. i agree with some of the advice that was already said. that it may not work out in the end. but, you never know unless you try. who wouldn't be excited!! you'd have to crazy to not be! i would just say take it slowly and wait a couple years (without an engagment) and see if you are really in love with him. since you are young, there are other guys out there. you never know, you might change your mind. just don't rush into anything. you can talk about it or whatnot, just don't plan anything. and when you both feel that marriage is an absolute option, take that slow as well. you have PLENTY of time for marriage! :-)

i hope this helped you out. if you need anything else, let me know!!

~4evaurs_21~

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Hey everyone, I need help - FAST ! Please just read my situation and try to help me I'm in deep trouble I think.

Okay, so after school today my boyfriendwas at baseball practice and he had to get something from his locker, and kissed me goodbye and at the time I was looking in his bookbag for his cellphone. Then he left and I was looking at pictures and then my friend came and was like "You should see his texts they're dirty." So I was like okay so we saw a girl's texts to him, lets call her Ashley. The texts weren't that bad but they were like 'I wanna hump you' and stuff like that. So my friend said "Wouldn't it be funny if we told Ashley off?" I was like "No it's not our phone." So my friend said "yeah okay whatever." She wrote "ur a whore" and then she had to go but I said "Don't you think we should at least delete the message so that he (my bf) doesn't see it ?" She said "No because then we have evidence that he sent it ." At the time I was not thinking at all and thought that it would work . But now I realize that obviously he's going to know that he didn't send it.
Well, here it gets worse. He called my other friend that is a guy, let's call him Trevor. Well my boyfriend called Trevor and told him how he thinks I told Ashley that she is a whore. Then Trevor called me and made me confess that it was my friend and it turns out my boyfriend was on the phone listening to mine and Trevor's conversation. At least my boyfriend knows the truth, but I dont think he believes me because while I was in the shower he sent me an IM that what I did was a bitchy thing to do.

The problem is, I didn't write the text ! I mean I know I probably should have stopped her but I went along with it. Now my boyfriend is PISSED at me. What can I do?

I'll rate 5's for anything

Ok, so this can both ways here. He should not have been texting another girl talking like that. Those conversations should not have happened in the first place. Yes, you should have stopped her a little more, but he's at more fault than you. He has no right to be pissed. You have the right to be pissed since he's having conversations like that. You should sit down with your boyfriend and ask him about this 'ashley' girl and why she's sending him those text messages. See what he says then. Maybe you can prove to your boyfriend that your friend sent that text and that you tried to make an her stop texting that message to 'ashley'

I hope this helkped you out!


~4evaurs_21~

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should your boyfriend/girlfriend come before your best friend?

please explain too ♥ thanks.

no way should a bf/gf get in a way of a friendship!! Your friends will always be there for you no matter what...

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ok so this guy asked me out. and i dont know if i like him or not. he is really nice and cool and i dont want to hurt his feelings by saying no. but i dont know if i like him!

i dont really know him. i only hung out with him once. im so confused. i dont know what to do!!!!!!

PLEASE HELP!!! ill rate 5's for anything.

ok, dating him after only hanging out with him once, might be 'too soon'. I think that you two should hang out by yourselves and then eventually the two of you go out with friends and see how he interacts with your friends. By hanging out with him and having alone time, you'll see if you really like him. Then maybe you'll make up your mind on whether or not you want to date him. Just tell him that you would like to hang out with him for now and get to know him. and if something happens between the two of you, you're all for it. And if nothing happens, then you guys can be friends.

i hope i helped!

~4evaurs_21~

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Okay. To make a long story short, I've liked this guy andrew for about 6 months now. But for a while I had this boyfriend Ian...we broke up a while ago. Well Andrew has liked me A LOT for 6 months too and now my soposive best friend is trying to steal him from me. I don't want this. I really like...even love this guy and he's just...the most sweetest guy ever. I've had a really tough year this year and he just makes me feel so much better...he means the world to me and we wanna date eachother but my "best friend" likes him. he thinks shes annoying. but id feel bad datng him. WHAT DO I DO!?!?!

if this andrew guy really likes you then you have nothing to worry about with your best friend trying to steal him. now with the situation with you and your best friend - i think you need to talk with your friend by yourself and tell her about all the feelings you have for andrew. and have everything cleared up between you and her. then eventually the three of you talk about everything. this has happened to me before - i've been in your shoes. so that is what i did- i sat down with my best friend, told her about the guy i liked (that she obviously liked too) and i told her he likes me and we want to date. of course she got upset but we were still best friends and she moved on. Then she found someone to date and we double dated so nothing was bad or weird between any of us! I hope this helps you out!

~4evaurs_21~

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Next week I turn 21. No big deal really, I was legal at 19 were I live.

A while ago me and my boyfriend agreed for a whole bunch of reasons to not focus on our birthdays too much this year, just do something nice for valintines day. Which was totally cool with me. But now my girlfriends want to take me out for my birthday.

The thing is everybody, even myself, wants this to be a girls night thing. I don't even think my boyfriend would want to come to the place they have in mind, but I'm not sure how to tell him that I want to spend my birthday with just my close group of girls. What should I do?

first off, happy birthday, i turned 21 a little over a month ago... but anyways, you two talked about just doing something for valentines day so you can stick to that... but i think you should go out with your girlfriends and have a girls night out, because every girl needs a night like that!! well invite him first and see what he says... if he doesnt want to join then you can tell your boyfriend that you can see him the next day or even see him that night as well or - either before or after your 'girls night out' Talk it over with him and explain exactly what you would like to do on YOUR birthday, and if our boyfriend really loves you, he'll understand...

hope i helped!

~4evaurs_21~

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There is this guy (let's call him Bob) and he's really really cute. I just met Bob a few months ago but he's very sweet and whenever I'm with him I get goosebumps and butterflies in my stomach (majorly) I don't know if I should go up to him and tell Bob I really like him or not. And he also dated one of my friends but they broke up, and I don't want her to be mad at me if I date him. What should I do?

well, if you and Bob are good friends and you think there is some really good chemistry, then the least you can do is tell him that you are into him. i understand that your friend dated him, but you are not acting on your feelings. even if it would make you feel a little better talk to your friend that dated Bob and tell her your feelings towards Bob so she won't hear it from someone else. And if you tell her make sure it's only you and her together. if this helps, let me know... i know where you are coming from...

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lastnight 8 of us went to my friend stephen's house and then chili's and a movie and this guy robbie that likes me invited me and so at the movie he sat next to me and put his arm around me and he told my friend that he was sure he liked me last night but then today his AIM didnt work and so he had to put up away messages for me to read bc i was like hey and i didnt know his AIM wasnt working. so then his away message was like im sorry then another was like i just feel like we have nothing in common. then he signed off. and then i was talking to my friend and she said that robbie is not good at talking with girls and now he is thinking about if he likes me or not. and then i was talking to my friend eric and i was like i dont think robbie likes me anymore. hes like he likes u. and then he was like he just isnt good at talking with girls but i talked to him about it dont worry. so now i dont know what to do like if he likes me or not/ if he doesnt he shouldnt lead me on and like put his arm around me?

I definitely think this Robbie guy likes you. He could be shy to talk to you so maybe you have to start it all of with him. He could also not know what to say around you and might be scared to say something stupid and you might react differently. I think you should try talking to him, get to know him a little better and then make your decision on whether or not you wanna try anything with him. Then once you get to know him a little more, you will see if he does like you for sure. Just try and make the "first move". - hope I helped ~4evaurs~

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Ok. My recent exboyfriend & I both work at the same place. That is how we met but now still have to work together despite us breaking up. It has only been about 2 weeks since we broke up and he's been telling everyone at work that it was mostly him who wanted to break up. I know this is kind of dumb but this bothers me because I was the one who had to bring it up(us breaking up). He never said anything to me about wanting to break up. And so he knows that it was mutual yet he's telling everyone that it was mostly him. He's the type of person to be boastful about things so this is just another added bonus. Should I confront him about it and how this bothers me and risk our friendship or just let it go and let him have his fame & glory?

I did the same thing. I worked for about 3 months and finally started dating the guy from work. After we broke up for good, he would bring up a girl he was dating and she would sit there while our shift was going on. I worked in a fast food restaurant that was in a food court. So she would sit where I could see her and she would try to make me jealous. They would make out in front of me and everything. I was so upset with him, that I confronted him. His parents loved me and so did his sister(his sister worked with us as well). Even his parents told him to not do that to me. I never wanted his 'rents to get involved, but they did. All I'm saying is that I made a bad decision on dating a co-worker. I found that out the hard way. I didnt like working there anymore because I felt uncomfortable around him and we never worked together on the same shift.
Anyways, I confronted him about it and told him it didnt bother me and that if he wanted to try and make me jealous or whatnot, he needed to grow up.
I think you should confront him and tell him he needs to get his story straight. If you need any more advice on this, let me know, - Im here!
~4evaurs~

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it seems every guy i like is chubby or overweight, i hate skinny guys and fit guys ya know? is there something wrong w// me

There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with you. Everyone has different tastes than you. I prefer the athletic type because Im athletic. Its all based on what you do and what you like. But no, there is nothing wrong with you!! hope i helped! ~4evaurs~

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Hi! I'm 14/f and I kind of like this guy friend of mine. We'll call him Dave. Anyway, as I said, I kind of like him...that way. And he recently told me that he likes me, too...that way. Except I'm kind of afraid of him asking me out because it would be my first real boyfriend, and I don't know what I would do with a boyfriend! It would be SO awkward going on a date to dinner or something with Dave, and I'm not really big on huge public displays of affection. And I think he has a few friends who don't really like me all that much. Any advice?? (I rate!)

To tell you the truth, I was the same way. But the first thing I did was go to the movies, that was kinda an icebreaker. Then just had conversations on the phone with the guy and got to know him better. I found out what he liked what he didnt like. My advice to you is, talk with him, in person or on the phone, see what he likes and go from there. I'm the athletic type of girl and if a guy I like is interested in basketball, a good date would be to a basketball game and then you can kinda go from there. You can kinda think of more ideas once you have some info from him. If you need anymore help, I'm here! ~4evaurs~

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