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hey well im a 15/f and i was wondering what a inter faith realtionship? cuz there's a show on mtv called true life and it says in the info interfaith relationship and i was wonderin ewhat that is.. i know it sounds stupid bt could someone please tell me what that is thnx byee!!

I was watching that too!
It means that the man is a different religion and the woman is a different relationship too.

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Ok, im 13 years old and female and i have this "boy" friend that likes me and i like him to but the problem is he doesnt no i like him back. i hate using friends to tell people i like them for me because they always make me look stupid and we cant pass notes because the teachers have eyes in the back of their heads. How can i tell him i like him without running up to him and telling him straight up o and how can i get him to ask me out to? i really need to know before monday because after that i wont be able to get to a computer for 2 weeks!

thanx,
pennsylvania chic

Say it like as a joke or something. Or like call him for something about school then talk about friends and stuff. And be like who do you like? if he say i don't wan to say or either way if he says you or doesn't say you say guess who i like, and then he will be like who? don't come out and say it, but make him guess and then say want me to tell you, and be mysterious and say think about it long and hard or something or you can just say you!

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16/f

my freshman year i got accepted to one of the top performing art schools in the nation for vocal performance!! i was so excited!! ever since i heard about it ive wanted to go....My dream ever since i could remember was to be a singer...when i attended school for the first few weeks i noticed that there was a music male teacher that i would always catch looking at me....about 2 months into school, he told me to stay after class because he wanted to enter a song id written in a major record label contest. I walked into his room and he told me to sit on the piano bench and he'd be right back. So i did as he said and got my music out and waited. When he came back he shut the door and locked it he said that he locked it "because he didn't want to be bothered with the janitors" so i didn't think anything of it, kinda thought it was wierd (music rooms are soundproof) but anyway, he sat down next to me and placed his hand on my upper thigh and said im so proud of the progress your making in my class, you're deffinately going to acheive your dream and go somewhere with your talent" he put his arm around my shoulder and acted like he was grabbing my music, and he pushed it off the side on "accident" so i bent down to grab it, and as i bent down he grabbed my butt. and i told him to stop. but then he sternly said, "if you want to pass the class and win the comptetion you'll let me do what i want. Trust me, you want me on your side. I can give you everything you want." I sat back down, giving him another chance, hoping he would stop, but it just got worse as time went on. Long story short, he ended up raping me.
When i threatned him that i would tell, he just said "do you really want to leave this school?? you're parents would take you out of here and you wouldn't get ot pursue your dream anymore." and after i thought about it i realized that i wanted to be a singer more than anything else, and this school would help me out so much. So i continued to put up with it...
This situation has been continuing on and off for about 2 1/2 years now. I haven't told anyone, becuase i don't want to run the risk of anyone finding out becuase then i wouldnt be able to go to this school anymore. I just really feel like i need to talk to someone, but i don't know who to talk to. I don't feel comfortable telling my boyfriend, bestfriend, or anyone whats going on.
What should i do? I want to continue achieving my goals, and the school helps out with this alot, but at the same time i want the abuse to stop. I'm sorry this is so long, thanks so much for taking your time to help.

That just made me cry, this has gone on to longm you need to do something. Well first of all I don't care how scared of him you are but you need to tell your parents or the police! I know that it doesn't seem like a choice, but if you don't this is all of the internet. I looked up idgurl572 in google and it came up with all the questions i asked and answered, also if you search that category's like the police "might" do they may be able to find this. Has he raped you once? or continually? And if he's raped you your probally not the first. You may feel like this is your fault, but it's not. There are other ways of pursue your musical talent! You don't have to go to that school, I know that it is a good advantage but for what? Your bady, or spirit, your childhood. If you do decide to leave that school don't leave without telling the police about this, Don't go to anyone at the school even te principle cause you can never trust anyone that is on the inside. If you don't feel that the local authority will do anything skip them and so to someone higher, also if you call a an anonamous hotline tell them, go to these sites:

http://www.webmd.com/hw/health_guide_atoz/shc99rap.asp
http://www.rainn.org/?gclid=CN3nkPHH3IkCFSMjSAod0kcsFg

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well i realy love this boy at school and i dont know if he loves me aswell so should i move in or be coye

from
Squid

Well at first are you sure you are in love with him? Or doing you really really really like him? If you want to get his attention do not change yourself at all! Just talk to him. Ask him about school stuff like who is his Math teacher or something, that might spark a conversation, and then take it from there. If you are to scared then write him a note. But don't come right out and ask him if he likes you if you aren't a name to name basis you know what I mean? Get to know him and he needs to get to know you and then yalls relationship might just take off!

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