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Well everyone thinks that my 7th grade science teacher is Lesbian she talks like a man and dresses like one and her fb pages looks like it. Sheee even looks like it. Also she isn't in a relationship and she likes rock music and electric guitars and well guy stuff. Plus me and my friend just got on her profile and looked at her pictures and she looked well lesbo. So I was just wondering do u think she is? how else can u tell...?...it feels akward being around her.

Well, first of all, don't feel awkward being around her. If she is a lesbian, there is nothing wrong with that. :)
If you think she may be interested in you or your friends if she is a lesbian, don't think like that. She is a professional. Unless she physically touches you somewhere, there is no need to worry about it.
You can't really guess if someone is a lesbian or not, and there is no way to tell. Sometimes girls that are lesbians dress VERY preppy. All depends on if you want to be a guy in this senario.
I'd say, don't judge someone just because they dress like a guy or talks like a guy. It could be just the way she is :)

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Ok I'm 15 f never had a boyfriend and have great friends and a normal person in rankings in highschool haha well anyways I did this group thing in the summer and I became the closest I ever been with a guy and I still like him to this day but I blewit in the summer I didn't take every chance I had I could have kissed him but I felt like I was waiting I don't know what's wrong with me but I just have a lot of feelings and usually everything is my fault like my dad is trying to book a flight for me and some friends but there's this other girl who butted in and I told her the dates when we were going and now her dad is callig my dad and she's 14 so she can't fly without a parent or whatever. I just told my dad forget bout her and he said it's your fault do it urslef. And it made me realize can't do anything right I'm stupid I'm an average grade student and I mess things up a lot I just want to be happy because I've been crying like every night because I want to be with a guy that I like and I think things way to much I expect more but I'm not getting anything I just wanna be happy I regret a lot of stuff I'm so alone:(

First of all, never regret everything. In the moment you may feeling sad and worthless all the time, but what good does it do if you fret on things?
Remember, that that guy could have kissed you as well, it isn't all on you.
You are just scared and you haven't figured out how to open your walls yet.
Your dad shouldn't have said that to you. A lot of the time, parents say things wrong. You can't change them, but you can work through it.
People make mistakes, sometimes a lot of mistakes, and you can either fix them or you can go through them.
I am in your same position at the moment, and I cry a lot. Though i found another way to make myself not cry, you should do the same. Busy yourself with something else that makes you feel at ease. Draw, listen to music, talk to your friends.
If you are really alone, you should think about talking with a counselor. (maybe at school or talk to your dad about getting you into therapy). I know it seems like you will be considered crazy if you do it, but you aren't crazy. A lot of teenagers have therapists to help them work through things so they don't have to go about things alone.
Don't forget you are NOT alone. People are out there like you.
If you need to talk, just message me on my email. You can find it on my advice column.

Good luck.
"People always ask me what went wrong, thinking everything that happened is something easy to talk about. I promised myself that if I ever told anyone, I’d say, maybe everything went wrong. Maybe everything went right. All I know is, there are people and then there are those who walk around like Robots. Doing everything society wants them to do." -my book: defying pain.

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15/f

I get surprised really easy. If someone comes up behind me and just taps me on the shoulder I jump, if they put their arm around me a yelp a bit from surprise, if they poke me in the waist and I'm mid step I actually go weak in the knees sometimes and they have to catch me. Depending on how bad they scared me, I may or may not scream. It's not really loud unless it's on the worst scares... Either way though, it has to be annoying to the people around me. And it's a bit annoying that I can't stop it. It's just a natural reaction.

You see, my friends, especially the guys, try to scare me like this all time time and they just laugh and keep at it like it's not annoying but funny to them. So I don't know if my friends just find this to be an endearing trait so I'm ok or what.

Well you can't really help that you get surprised easily.
But, yes, they are just having fun. Don't take it personally.
If you WANT it to stop, just prepare for someone to try and scare you. Just tell yourself "I'm gonna turn around and someone is gonna poke me." and it shouldn't seem so surprising.

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I need a surname that sounds really good with Isabel. My friends have chosen Isabel Varus, Isabel Caruso or Isabel Caverly but I'm unsure of all of these. I'd like some suggestions because to be honest I don't really like the above mentioned. I will rate.

Isabel:
Blessing(s)
Withers or writhers
Jamie or jamey
Little
righting or rights (wrights)
whiting
living
brainey
braithers
:)

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i want to quit my job because my boss is a racist bt my partner is not letting me do it

I'm not sure why her or she isn't letting you but for one:
your partner isn't the boss of you, and tell them that.
Also, as long as you plan on getting another one soon, there shouldn't be a problem.
Just start looking for a new job. You can also file a complaint to the HEAD of your company to let them know that you are working for a racist person. That's a good idea to start with. They will have to deal with it because it goes against your rights if they ignore you. No one should be treated unfairly.

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K so im going out with one of my friends cousins and hes a really nice guy and we both love eachother a lot but its a long distance relationship he lives in new york and i live in canada i met him when he came here to visit my friend and we had an instant connection and since then weve been chatting and talking to eachother on the phone but about a month ago he left to a different country for his brothers wedding and he said he was gonna go for 2 months and then he would come here to see me but now hes gonna be gone for a few more months because his sister decided to get married too and weve been chatting and talking on the phone while hes been there but just not as much as we use to we talk maybe once or twice a week and we use to talk everyday before he left i just dont know wut to do i really love him a lot but it just isnt working out for me i mean he hasnt talked to me for a week now and he doesnt seem to be bothered by it but i am plz help wut do i do.

Well first, quit worrying so much. It sounds like he doesn't see his family a whole lot, he probably is just spending a lot of time with them. Or maybe there is bad reception? Something. But it isn't because he needs his space. If he needed his space, he would tell you.
Just gently bring it up to him. "So, we haven't talked in a weekk...what is up with that? :)"
Have YOU tried texting him. A long distance guy always used to message me when I was on facebook, but after a while he would stop so I could message him first. You both have to put in the effort to keep your relationship going.

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hi im an 11th grader from california i was in a program called alc (alternative learning center). ive recently moved to rockford in Illinois and i dont want to go to a public highschool and i cant find a program like i was in california, or any other type of homeschool i need help please.

Go to www.k12.com and you will find programs in your area. Also, your highschool near you might have programs that are different from regular highschool. I am in a program on education2020.com (no www) provided by my school.

Good luck!

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I am a female graduate student, in a program where the vast majority of students are female. Last year, I met one of my classmates, who I thought was a nice person, only to find out she is mentally unstable and a total nightmare. Long story short, she is manipulative, controlling, obsessive, paranoid, insanely perfectionistic, a pathological liar, and highly insecure. She comes across as very sweet, but what people don't see, is that she is the total opposite in reality. If you do one tiny, miniscule little thing to get on her bad side, she will literally give you hell.

I lived with her for several months, during which time, I inevitably got on her bad side. She did not talk to me, pretended to be nice (nauseatingly so) to me in front of other people, broke one of my things, hid her silverware and the kitchen trash can in her room, literally hoarded her groceries in her room, accused me of stealing her mail, lied to the landlord about me...Well, I finally left, and it's the best decision I made all year.

But, I can't stop thinking about her. I used to be friends with a couple of girls, who she got to side with her, so now, things are just not the same. Everyone adores her, but no body knows her, and it pains me to even think of it. She is literally mentally ill, but she is the total expert at hiding it, and makes everyone else look bad in the process. The thing that kills me, is that she has a throng of people who think she is such a little sweetheart, when in reality, she is a venomous snake, and they just can't see it. But I saw the red flags early on.

Anyway, I think about how much she has hurt and bothered me all the time. I can't stand seeing her in class, and it pains me to see my old friend (who is a nice person), so close to her, and so distant from me. This has negatively impacted my well-being, my studies...it's this constant gray cloud. Any thoughts and advice are greatly appreciated.

Hello!
Well you can't do much to make people realize that you are the better person of the two. But heres some advice.
You can't do much so just try your best. You are done with her, you aren't in her nightmare anymore, you aren't living with her anymore, so just find new people. I'm sure not everyone likes her or thinks she is all that great.
Try talking to people. Don't spread rumors or anything, just tell them what she did to you and who she is, because fake people are not appreciated even in college.
Try to talk to the friend that is super close to her but so distant from you. I know how you feel when that happens, numourosly to me as well. If she doesn't realize what she is doing to you, then you don't need her. You sound like a great and wonderful person, don't let people walk all over you.
Good luck.

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Im a girl, and im 13. I am like in lvoe with this guy. But I am turned on by two girls kissing.l When ever I see a girl with big boobs or a round bum I get turned on,. I cdream about myself being with a girl and having sex with them. Am I a lesbian. Im a homophobic but I keep having these feelings please hlpe me!!!!

I have heard before that it is very normal to be curious about girls when you are younger. When get more into your teen years things will start playing out more. Just ask yourself why you are a homophob, and what that means to you.
Good luck
xx

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what does it mean after a couple of times a guy kisses you on the lips and says right after you pull back "get the picture". does it mean that he likes me?im 14 and i'm a girl

Yes it means that he likes you. Usually when someone says "get the picture" they mean that they want you to open your eyes and see what is in front of you; or in his case, that he likes you.
Best of luck.
xx

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I am a 14 year old male in high school and I'm pretty sure everyone thinks that I am gay.

Around 6 months ago my male friend and I were discussing Lady GaGa and the "hermaphrodite" thing. I jokingly said that if people say she has a penis it must be true, then my friend said "Well people think you are gay, does that make it true?". I was shocked, I then said "Pfft, people don't think I'm gay" which he then said "Yeah they do. Everyone does".

In year 6 a girl asked me out who I rejected, I then went out with my previous next-door-neighbor who lived in a different state which no one believed. I then went out with some slutty chick and dumped my girlfriend for her. This chick was a huge slut and she wanted to have sex which was really weird for me at the time. So at high school I hardly ever talk to girls and just hang out with my small group of friends.

I'm a pretty shy guy, I get really quiet when I am introduced to someone who I haven't talked to much which is every girl at the school. I am pretty bad at starting conversations with people that I don't know well. I am fairly ugly but my slut ex-girlfriend said that I am "not ugly but not hot". I have really big lips which I think could contribute to the gay thing possibly.

So I don't talk to many girls, I have been asked out twice. First time I knew it was a joke because that girl was wayy to hot so I said no. Second time it was an ugly girl who my friends hated, I said no. This was all last year. This is the year where I have realized that everyone thinks I am gay. About 3 people have come up to me and asked if I was gay, and when I deny it I'm pretty sure they don't believe me. The ugly girl who I rejected told this openly gay guy to yell "Hey James, Hey James, Hey James" at me repetitively which I pretended to ignore. There is also this girl who used to like me who I never made a move on.

So what do you think I should do to prove that I am not gay? Ask out some girl? I am ugly so I don't know if I could. Please help me.

Obviously you are not ugly because girls seem to take interest in you. No, but the next time you get asked out just say yes.
The way to deal with being called gay is to just tell people you aren't, make jokes about it, and then, if they still don't believe you, ignore them. If they want to be immature just leave it at that.
Best of luck xx

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So my boyfriend's little brother and I go to school together. Everytime I go to his house or I see him at school he takes special interest in me and what I'm doing. He likes to play with my hair or if I'm wearing boots he plays with them and any type of jewlery I wear he takes it of and puts it back on me. I've seen him do it to several other girls but not the way he does it to me, oh yeah and he likes to touch my face a lot. The scary part is that I have more in common with him than I do with my boyfriend so I ask this...Do his feelings for me go far more then friendship and if they do, What should I do?

Yes, it seems like he does have a little crush on you. I think it would seem wrong if you broke up with your boyfriend for his little brother, but talk to his little brother about it. Tell him how things are.

Best of luck. xx

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