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I can't do anything right:(
Ok I'm 15 f never had a boyfriend and have great friends and a normal person in rankings in highschool haha well anyways I did this group thing in the summer and I became the closest I ever been with a guy and I still like him to this day but I blewit in the summer I didn't take every chance I had I could have kissed him but I felt like I was waiting I don't know what's wrong with me but I just have a lot of feelings and usually everything is my fault like my dad is trying to book a flight for me and some friends but there's this other girl who butted in and I told her the dates when we were going and now her dad is callig my dad and she's 14 so she can't fly without a parent or whatever. I just told my dad forget bout her and he said it's your fault do it urslef. And it made me realize can't do anything right I'm stupid I'm an average grade student and I mess things up a lot I just want to be happy because I've been crying like every night because I want to be with a guy that I like and I think things way to much I expect more but I'm not getting anything I just wanna be happy I regret a lot of stuff I'm so alone:(
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First of all, never regret everything. In the moment you may feeling sad and worthless all the time, but what good does it do if you fret on things?
Remember, that that guy could have kissed you as well, it isn't all on you.
You are just scared and you haven't figured out how to open your walls yet.
Your dad shouldn't have said that to you. A lot of the time, parents say things wrong. You can't change them, but you can work through it.
People make mistakes, sometimes a lot of mistakes, and you can either fix them or you can go through them.
I am in your same position at the moment, and I cry a lot. Though i found another way to make myself not cry, you should do the same. Busy yourself with something else that makes you feel at ease. Draw, listen to music, talk to your friends.
If you are really alone, you should think about talking with a counselor. (maybe at school or talk to your dad about getting you into therapy). I know it seems like you will be considered crazy if you do it, but you aren't crazy. A lot of teenagers have therapists to help them work through things so they don't have to go about things alone.
Don't forget you are NOT alone. People are out there like you.
If you need to talk, just message me on my email. You can find it on my advice column.
Good luck.
"People always ask me what went wrong, thinking everything that happened is something easy to talk about. I promised myself that if I ever told anyone, I’d say, maybe everything went wrong. Maybe everything went right. All I know is, there are people and then there are those who walk around like Robots. Doing everything society wants them to do." -my book: defying pain.
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Hi, I'm old enough to be your grandfather and I hope I can pass along some wisdom to you.
First let me assure you that you are a pretty typical 15 year old. The relationship problems and confusion you felt are very, very typical for someone your age. Some teenagers handle these situation better than others. Some teenagers learn and grow into these situation faster than others. Give yourself some slack here and give yourself some time to adjust to what has become an ever changing part of your life.
As for flying without a parent. Having worked for an airline; only those children under 12 must either be accompanied by an adult or pay a higher fair to be flown as an unaccompanied minor in the care of the flight attendant. As anyone over the age of 12 pays a full adult fare and flies just like any other adult passenger. Your friend needs not be accompanied by an adult. Check with the airline you intend to use to see if your friends father may be stretching the truth here just to keep his daughter from going.
As to relationships and being alone. You are at what one would call an awkward age. Here is a lot going on what with puberty and the physical changes in your life. The new social structure and what is expected of you in school. You have added your own expectations that you may not quite be ready for. You will get there and when you do you will forget all about this time. When will you get there. It could be next week or next month. It will come sooner if you stop trying to force it. So relax and just enjoy being you.
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