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I am in love with a guy, but I think girls are sexy. What the heck?
Im a girl, and im 13. I am like in lvoe with this guy. But I am turned on by two girls kissing.l When ever I see a girl with big boobs or a round bum I get turned on,. I cdream about myself being with a girl and having sex with them. Am I a lesbian. Im a homophobic but I keep having these feelings please hlpe me!!!!
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I have heard before that it is very normal to be curious about girls when you are younger. When get more into your teen years things will start playing out more. Just ask yourself why you are a homophob, and what that means to you.
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I am old enough to be your grandfather and believe in telling things like they are; straightforward and to the point.Knowledge is both power and safety.
To answer your question: No you are not a Lesbian or homophonic. You are a 13 year old girl starting through puberty, who is feeling out her sexuality. This may surprise you but both boys and girls at your age start to learn about sex and sexuality by first experimenting with the same sex. One reason for this is it is safer. Parents are not concerned with two adolescents of the same sex being behind closed doors or having sleep overs.
It is way to early for you to put a label on your sexuality. Their is nothing wrong with experimentation with both sexes. The only caution I would offer at this time is you are to young to have full intercourse with a boy. Sick to whatever you feel comfortable doing with a boy such as finger, hand-jobs and blow-jobs. Full sexual intercourse is something that should wait until you are older.
Boys your age are also going through puberty. You are more mature than a boy your age by about 2 years. Boy often confuse lust with love and do most of their thinking, at least when it comes to girls, with the head in their pants. As I said a bit ago their are ways to satisfy their hormonal urges and yours, without intercourse and the fear of unwanted pregnancy.
Back to your question. Enjoy being 13, don't worry about labels. Let your body mature and catch up with the changes brought on by the hormones racing through it. For now just enjoy being the girl you are.
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First off, just relax.
Just because you're in love with a guy doesn't mean you can't be attracted to chicks too.
There's a chance you're turned on just because you're curious. A lot of people go through a phase like that around your age. They're just starting to feel attracted to people and they don't know how to filter out signals. Plus, society is full of sexy woman messages to draw in men, so it's easy for a girl to get confused.
You might also be bisexual, or even a lesbian who just got into a confused relationship with some guy. But I don't know you, I can't tell you the answer. You've gotta find the answer for yourself. How? By living. Talk to people, date people, think about yourself.
Just don't have sex yet. You're thirteen, anyone you sleep with could go to jail. Don't do that to them, lady.
Answers about your sexuality are hard to come by and take time. They even change a little as you get older. I didn't know what I was for sure until I was like 21. Just roll with the punches, and don't decide you're one thing just because. Try to love yourself for who you are, whatever your sexuality is, and find someone you know who you can talk to about this stuff without them going all weird on you. Good luck.
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