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Hey I am Nicole and I love giving advice. I am great at giving advice about your love life and pretty much anything else. If you ever need a helping hand or feel like you just need to talk to someone I will always be willing to help out.
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Hi, I'm a 15yo guy.
Er, there's this girl I really like. But I keep getting mixed signals from her.
Sometimes she's really nice to me, and calls/texts me. And sometimes she just doesn't.
I want to tell her I like her, I just don't know how, or if it's the right thing to do.
TELL HER. I know its probably annoying for guy but most girls are use to guys telling them how they feel. If she texts and calls you its for a reason. I personally wouldn't talk to a guy I didnt like. If she doesn't like you at least youll know and wont live with the what ifs
So, I start highschool this year. And I'm nervous.
I am kind of shy right now, and I really want to meet the -RIGHT- Guy..
And tips?
I want to become one of those obnoxious girls that get along with anyone. But I'm scared of looking/feeling dumb.
And suggestions on what I should do?
Or any freshman stories to share?
Just need to calm the nerves..
As cheesy as this sounds everyone is nervous. Dont worry though! You'll meet great new people and adapt. Try joining after school activities to meet new people. Also dont expect to meet "the perfect guy" right away. Watch out because some guys,especially the older guys will just want to use girls. Just be yourself and youll meet a great gut eventually. Also dont change! You'll see plenty of people start drinking and doing drugs to be "cool" dont go with the crowd. Stand out! I almost lost a friend because of drugs so dont go down the wrong path. High school is a blast! So enjoy freshman year(:
So, I'm 16, going on 17 this year. I'm a Junior. I have never had a girlfriend before, but I have failed with many. But this, I've never felt this horrible. I recently got rid of some personal problems and started to feel motivated and powerful, after being depressed for a while. So I started talking to this girl I like, who recently broke up with someone. She clearly knew that I really liked her, even the teachers could tell. So yesterday me and a good friend of mine took her out to eat. I skipped for the first time, and was the only one skipping. We all spoke about random things and personal stuff. It was a good day. Then today she tells me she likes HIM. She asked if it was weird, I said no. Then she told him right in front of me. I had to hold everything in until class was over. My friend is kinda stuck, he keeps saying sorry to me and I just tell him to take advantage of the opportunity. I've never felt like this before. I probably came off as selfish, desperate, close-minded, cocky, and weird. Now just seeing her is going to be torture. What should I do? Has this happened to anyone?
Something like this happened to me before except I pushed my crush into the arms of one of my best friends. To be honest it was devastating and it was torture. Lucky for you you've found this great new confidence. This is just a small crush you'll find another girl(: Don't give up and don't stop looking she's waiting for you to come to her. Keep talking to people and soon enough you'll find someone. Also don't feel resent towards your friend. That's what I felt and it didn't help. Try to move on. Good luck(:
There is this guy who was in my english class tenth grade year, I thought that then he was flirting with me, he would always laugh at my jokes and we would work on english work together in class and help each other out. He had a girlfriend, then so I thought he wasn't. This year, senior year, we are in another class together and I think he is flirting with me again... yet, he has a girlfriend again... he did something for me that required sending me something over text and I think he did that for me was so he could have my number but since he texted me that, he hasn't texted me since. But he brings up times back in 10th grade, he gets papers for me, when he's stuck on something he will always ask me for help but he covers everything up by trying to be rude about it. Like when he needs something because he can't figure it out, he'll put on a fake angry face and go "get over here this second, I can't figure this out and if you don't help me I will hate you forever" he always also tries to say he's better than everyone. My best friend sings, he is a boy, and I say all the time how much I love this song that he wrote. Well this boy said he could probably sing it better. He's not rude but he's cocky, it could be because he's the all-star jock that all the girls love and I am the band geek that is friends with all the band and a few not musical kids like this jock. So, I think he tries to be angry toward me to protect his image but I feel like behind it all, he's majorly flirting. He always adds a few more seconds to his stare or a charming smile where the glistening star shines on the teeth on the tv shows after he plays being mean. I would never pursue him because we're in two totally different social circles and he has a girlfriend. But is he flirting? I don't know what to do..
Confront him about it or if your not up for the whole awkward conversation let it go. I fell for a guy exactly how your describing this guy.....long story short WORST MISTAKE EVER. Guys like him love flirting I guess it gives them a sense if importance. If you don't think you will develop feelings for him then I would say keep flirting back and just have fun but he has a girlfriend and I'm the type how dosnt appreciate boyfriend stealers(not that you're one) so just stay friends without all the unnessary flirting. Good luck(:
We both are in a relationship from 5-6 months, and I know he is my perfect guy, although he loves me a lot but keeps on telling that how can I look better and be better at everything, so is he satisfied with me? Does he want to be with me? and how can I become perfect for him, I really want to....
Maybe he simply wants you to look/be your best, but if he is critizing everything you do then it's time to talk to him. You don't need to change for anyone because you should already be the best to them if they love you. One of the biggest mistakes people make while in a relationship is to try and change their partner. First of all you can't change how a person is and if you don't like how they are then you shouldn't be with them in the first place. Talk to him you say you guys love each other so everything should be fine:)
I am a 16 year old female. I am going to be a senior in high school. When I was back in jr high, I had a favorite teacher and it was quite evident that I was his favorite student. We were so close, he was like a second dad to me, how I saw it anyway. Other students were jealous that they didn't get the treatment from him that I did, so badly that the only thing they could come up with is that we were "together". Honestly, from an outsider looking it, it would look as if we were dating. But he would have no intention of dating a 7/8/9 th grader which was what I was in jr high. I am now in sr high and we still stay in contact.
-He comes to my school to watch over some teachers and we'll steal quick glances at each other
-He'll tell me he likes when I visit him during the school year on my walks home
-I'm the only student that during my years of having him and now not having him that is able to call him by his first name
-He asks me for my opinions on his teaching lessons (about what would interest the kids because I had him and he knows that I would be honest if his lessons were boring)
-He asks me about my personal life and he talks to me about his which is something he never does with other students
-One time when I visited him it was during a practice with the kids so I sat there at his desk and saw how the kids were doing and then I went back again with my friend the following week and he didn't let us sit in but he let me sit in alone the week before
-The first time I visited him was after Christmas break with a friend of mine and she asked if he liked his late Christmas present and he said "I love my fantastic Christmas present" and she said after we left that he hadn't looked that happy in a long time.
-The following week, I went alone so he would let me sit in and listen and after every kid had left, he exited his office and was walking out the door to drive home when he saw me standing at the door, he acknowledged that I was still there and asked if I had a ride, if I didn't, he could drive me home. He never offers kids rides home, ever.
He's the only teacher that I still make an effort to see because he was a very important person in my life.
--what do you think about us? more than just student teacher?
I really need to know if you think we are "wrong" because I am going on an 11 day school field trip out of the country and he is the head of the arts, which is what I am going for, so I will be with him everyday. So, are you like everyone else and think we're together or something?
I don't think your together. You clearly have feelings for him but I don't know if your interest is more then friends. If it is all I can tell you is to continue being friends and stay in contact but do not try anything. You are underage and it could ruin his life. If you feel like you can't handle what you feel anymore talk to him about it. If he dosnt feel the same way you can always stay friends. If you don't see him as more then a friend but a second dad then forget what everyone else thinks. Ignore their opinions it's your life. In him you have a life long friend don't ruin it because of others. Once again if you do like him do not try anything he will get in trouble and you'll end up hurting yourself too. I hope I helped at least a little sorry if I took a long time to respond. If you ever need advice again I'll always be here.
So, this is a long one.
I had a guy track me down on Facebook and send me a long message about how I tortured and bullied him in school.
But most of what he said I don't remember, and a lot it couldn’t have happened. I had a rather severe anxiety disorder throughout my early teens, a few years are just emotional blurs to me, but some of things he claimed I did - like speak up in class to embarrass him, or make up a nasty song about him - it’s really near impossible for me to have done. I didn’t speak in class. I started to cry or throw up when I had to make presentations. I wouldn’t speak aloud to people who weren’t my friends. I stayed inside at recess and shelved books in the library... What I DO remember is coming home violently crying because of what this boy had a habit of taking things from me and flushing them down the toilet - to the point that my mother called the school, and had my desk moved away from his.
In high school we never had a single class together and were in different academic streams. But in grade 11, he tried to make himself useful to the drama club, the rest of the stage crew holding a meeting on how to politely kick him for his incompetence and arrogance. I defended him. Sure, he’s was a bit of an ass, but he was obviously trying to be useful; we should try and create tasks for him. But the senior stage manager decided to ask him to leave. I wasn't there, and we never spoke of it.
I haven’t responded to him. I didn’t know what to say. Maybe he is confusing me with someone else as well. It doesn’t seem worth it to argue with him and tell him he has a whole bunch of it dead wrong. Maybe I should message him and say like "I’m sorry you had a tough..." What do you think?
I would talk to him about it. I had a similar experience I remember this girl that always use to bother me and I would complain to my mom about her. Then 1st grade is a blur to me. All I remember is the girl avoided from 2 grade on. She actually seemed scared of me but I don't remember doing anything to her. Maybe you did something your mind blocked out or maybe the guy is really confused. Either way I would talk with him to sort things out. Who knows you guys could actually become friends:)
Hello! My name is Fiona I am 12 years old and have a problem!
When I am waiting for the school bus all the other girls around my aqe are mean to for no reason. I've already asked 2 of 5 of them why they do it. They're answere was: person 1: You're annoying, you are weird. person 2: You look ugly and you're gross sometimes.( Sh e didn't get to finish all she wanted to say.) i'll a agree that I'm a very energetic but I'm generly very friendly. Please help me!
Fiona
Some people have nothing better to do in their life than bother other people. Also more than likely they have low self esteem and making fun of you gives them the feeling that they are better than you. I'm sorry to tell you but some people in life are just like that. You can either 1 ignore them 2 try working out your differneces or 3 take action there is no need to start a fight or anything but sometimes you have to defend your self. Insulting them back works great or even better just be nice to them. They insult you and you smile and walk away.Never show them that your hurt or mad because that's what they want to see. Good luck :) I hope I helped you
okay so im quite close with this girl, she's always got her defences up but she really opens up to me and vice versa, well i told here theres this guy i really hate (he threatened to beat me up/kill me etc) however the main reason i hate him is because he hurt my other best friend. recently the girl im close with has been hanging around him more (its not that she sets out to spend time with him, its just that whenever she's out he is too), I've sort of hinted that it makes me uncomfortable, but I have not blatantly said it. anyway she takes pictures with him and puts them up as her fb profile picture. I'm not sure weather im being childish and petty in that the fact she spends time with someone that dislikes me that much (and vice versa) i think that she may be doing it to annoy me but im not sure..
I think you should talk to her about it. You say you guys are close so I'm sure she will understand. She's probably not doing it on purpose trust me. Oh and also when you talk to her don't just tell her oh don't hang out with h because I know that I hate when people do that. I feel like they are trying to control me. Good luck :)
So, I was talking to my crush and I told him I was mad that we don't walk to class together anymore. So, one day I came out of the girl's room as he was coming out of the boy's room. He kicked my backpack, asked who I was waiting for, I told him that I was waiting for my friend. He walked out the door, my friend came out, we walked out the door and he turned around, looked in front of him, turned around to look at me and my friend again and said "hurry, I'm waiting for you!" I picked up my pace, caught up with him and we walked to our next period together. Does that mean that he likes me?
Depends on his personality. I know some guys friends of mine that would do that. Like if they see me sad they will come over and see what's wrong and sometimes I walk with some guy friends to class. It dosnt mean they like me we are just friends. So if that's how he usually is then sorry to tell you but no. If he dosnt do this often then yes :) good luck!
I am 16 f, my best friend is 16, f, my other friend who is best friends with the boy, is 17 and f, and the boy is 17 and m. All of them are seniors, except me.
My friend and I were talking about this boy and low and behold an hour or so later, we saw him driving by right where we were standing. My friend is best friends with him so she chased him down the block and I followed. We met up with him at a corner when he was out of his car and we talked for a few minutes. She invited him back to my house later and he came over. When he came over we chilled for a few minutes, then went outside. It was strange, though, I was getting signals he was kind of into me, every time he made a joke, he glanced at me, when I talked, he looked straight into my eyes, I caught him looking at me a few times, he told my friend to text him (which I did and we talked for 45 minutes or so.) Yet, when he left my friend asked him which one, me or the other girl that was there (my best friend) and he said he found my best friend to be very cute. He also thought I was cute but I'm not his type, but he then fixed himself and said he actually thinks it's because I'm not as old as him. Then my friend asked if he would ever date me and he said sure, maybe. We made plans to hang out again with my other guy friends, this would be our third time hanging out.
We told him next time, my best friend might not be there and he was cool with it. But when he was talking to my friend, he had asked if my best friend (the one he likes) if she had gone home and talked about her for a few minutes. I'm so confused..
What's his deal? Why was he giving me more of the signals then he was my best friend, when he was more attracted to her?
Don't deicide so soon on how you thinks he likes more or not. Hang out with him again an ask him in person. Most guys prefer it that way than your friend asking for you,you seem more mature. Also this dosnt have to do with you question but from what you titled your question it can seem like you're jelous of your best friend. Try no to be, be happy for her. It may seem to you that she gets all the guys but that who you see things. It's not what really happens. Your jealousy towards her will harm you friendship and will only bring bad things. So try to be happy for your friend when she gets a guy and support her that what true friends do. Hope I didn't offend you or anything an I also hope things work out.
so theres this boy in the year abouve me in school an i like him quite alot. at first it was just the usual crush but now as time has gona on i actually love him, but the thig is hes got a girlfriend and no matter how hard a try to forget about him i just cant. i cheeck his facebook 5-6 times a day and even if it just says he friends with someone new i have to look who it is, my friends say im obsessed with him and i al ways use to just tell them that they were wrong but there not i think i have some sort of obsession with him that just wont go away, ive tryed liking someone else but it dont work. what shall i do ?
I know what you are going through forgeting about a guy is not the easiest thing to do but you just have too. I had to forgot about a guy and the only thing that helped was time. I didn't completely cut him out of my life because he is my friend. But I told myself to stop making all these ilusions in my head he dosnt like you and never will. I know that it is so hard to hear this but the only way you can forget him is understanding that you two will never be. There are many fish in the sea so don't
Worry about just one. I promise you one day the right guy will come you just have to wait. Also to try forgeting him join a club do a sport something to keep you busy do you won't be thinking about him.
14/m
So I like this girl and we talk a lot on facebook and she said she kinda likes me. She said she noticed I was shy and I admit I am because I don’t really talk to anyone new epically girls in particular. My reason for not talking to girls usually is because I don’t know what to say. So I guess im asking is there a way I can get un-shy?
I am a girl and I use to be just like you I am still a little shy but not as much as before. What did I do? Well I simply had confidence in myself and don't never ever ever change your personality to empress someone. If they don't like your personalitiy then they are not worth your time.hope my advice helped! :)
15/f
ok. i have a crush on this guy but i'm really shy i don't know what to say to him so i never talk to him. two months ago i had my friend set up an "interview" with him so i could find out what he likes. he found out the real reason behind the interview and now he just ignores me. i don't know why. why do you think he ignores me? what should i do?. i asked if he was mad at me and he said no. and it sounds weird because i'm not dating him or anything. but he's really close with one of my old friends he always sits next to her and talks to her and touches her and has her give him bak rubs. is it ok if i'm jealous about this? i probably shouldn't i don't own him or anything. but i can't help it. am i wrong to feel this way? please help me i feel so helpless
He is probably mad at you ( yes he is mad even though he says he is not) becuase you didn't talk to him in person. Most guys hate it when girls send other girls to tell them oh so and so likes you. It is ok to me jealous i'm mean you can control your feelings but try your best not to get jealous and or mad at our freind it is not her fault. Hope my advice helped.
at parties how do i get guys to want to dance with me? yuh know like when they want to get a girl to dance with them they just go behind her and start dancing .. well they dont do that to me and then there dancing with my friends and im dancing alone how do i change that
There are three simple things you can do to attract guys. One be confident in yourself ,stand up straight ,belive in yourself. Guys do not want to be with a girl that dosn't beleive in herself. Two try to flirit so then the guy or guys will know that you are into them. Three be yourself guys don't like girls that are fake. I hope my advice helped you out. :)