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Hello, my name is Sarah and I'm a sophmore in highschool. I've been through many exhausting and depressing trials with friendship and drama and know my fair share of heartbreak. If you have a problem I'll be here to answer so don't be hesitant. :]advice
i just graduated and im very worried about my old friends because im going
to high school next year and im scared that i not gonna see my old friends anymore..='( how do we keep in touch with ur old friendsand stay close to them? is it possible that if am lucky u get same class with my old friend?
When I graduated from junior high to highschool, it was frightening. And what you fear CAN come true. But, in place of old friends that you lose in touch with come new friends and so on. Some people may fall away and new may fall in. It's just how highschool goes for most of the time. If you and your friends want to keep in touch you could always join some sort of club that you know would be together, or join a same sports team.
All I'm trying to say is that with highschool comes a lot of changes, or at least it did for me. Some friends find their own new clique and you find your own, if someone is a real and true best friend they'll find a way to stay with you, same classes or not.
-sarah-
"i think ill sport some sunglasses at the bowling place tonight"
What does 'sport' mean in that sentence?
Wear. o_O
Okay so ive got this problem. theres this guyi think i like now. hes a freshman and im a sophmore. i met him like a month ago but we never really talked til just recently. but its not like talking on the phone or anything, its thruogh text messages. he came and sat with me at lunch otday but didnt really say anthing bc hes really shy. he supposidly drinks a lot and has done a lot with girls, except i find it kinda hard to belive, bc hes so shy! i think im really stratin to like him, but idk if its the person through the texts i like, or him, i mena theyre the same person, but he just acts different. well i think im really startng to fall for him. like i like him a lot, do you think i shuld tell him i like him and hope for the best or should i sit it out until he strats talking to me in person? thanks... i rate!
Did you ever think that maybe someone else is making the text messages? Just a suggestion. I think you should try to get to know the ral person, you can't build a real relationship off of text messages.. I mean, words aren't the only part of the relationship. Maybe if you go on a date with him you'll see his true side, if he really is a bad drinker and does a lot with girls. If you really like him be sure to set boundries and if he can't follow them than he's not worth it.
I was having a semi-asthma attack on the phone with my boyfriend, and if you've ever had an asthma attack you aren't able to talk without hurting yourself. My boyfriend was asking over and over if I could breathe, well obviously not? I wouldn't answer because it hurt for me to talk and I finally answered with "No!" Then he takes it all defensivly and was like "Sorry! I was just trying to help, but you keep shutting me out." I wasn't shutting him out was I? I was just trying to be able to breathe... Any Advice?
Explain to him the situation, if he's a good person he'll understand that it's a medical condition and that you couldn't breath so you had to struggle and yell out "no". I think if you talk to him you guys should be ok.
I really want a boyfriend.All the boys say how ugly I am and that they'd never go out with me! I have brown hair and blonde highlights, brown eyes, a few light freckles, I guess you could say I'm thin, why don't boys like me?? there are girls at my school who look just like what I described and the boys go NUTS for them. It's because they're cheerleaders. I don't want to be a cheerleader, but i want a bf. Should I become a cheerleader?? Can anyone tell me why boys hate me???? I'm not mean to them at all!!!
why should anyone be this desperate for a boyfriend? Maybe you are trying to hard.. I mean, have you ever thought that maybe all the guys around you.. are only looking for a bj? You don't want to be one of those girls.. and you don't want to be a cheerleader just to get a fucking guy.. ok? ok.. I'm guessing your in the jr. high area.. Listen, hormones are probably driving you to feel this way.. *sigh* I haven't ever had a boyfriend.. and really, knowing that middle school relationships almost NEVER make it, and only a handful of highschool ones do makes me think that it's probably better to wait for someone right when I get older..
okay well my best friend is always telling the people i like that i like them!! and she's always mean and like, yeah you have no friends, haha im just kidding! and then she says that the kid i like, matt, would never like me. and its really annoying.
And my other best friend is ALWAYS up on the guy i like. and if i stop liking them, she loses all interest. its REALLY annoying.
have you tried telling your friends they annoy the hell out of you? Talking usually works if you want to know what the hell is going on.
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A lot of people at school thinks my life is perfect. it is far from it. i wont get into too much detail and make this too long but i have a few good friends that i love but there are so many morons that get mad because i get good grades or whatever. i just wanted to know does this go away in high school? or will people still asume my life is great because i get good grades?
thank you
people will always be jealous.. that's probably why they are mad. I feel that way sometimes.. I mean, I will have this crap grade and they'll be making a 100.. it sorta makes me feel bad about myself, maybe you should consider how that feels. You're probably jealous of a few people, and without realizing it you are probably mad at them for it. Be understanding, it's hard but you gotta understand life. It's too short to get caught up with what other people think of you.
ok.. so i totally screwed up talking to this guy i liked at skool... see im fine when i talk to guys but i get tooooo shy when i like them. so the plan didnt go so well to tell him that i like him.. and now i feel so embarassed because i was soo shy and im all mad at myself and stuff... soo tomorrow i was debating on weather or not i should go to school and i want to but i dont kno wut i would do or say so if i do go to skool and run into him what do i do or say? or should i not even go to skool? pLEASe HelP!! i rate high!
Go to school, you have to confront him sooner or later anyway, so.. why not sooner, than later. As for running into him things will run their course, let him do the talking for the moment unless you have something to say.. I know that was sort of vague advice, but I think you'll have the most success with it. If you need anymore help look down at my link. :)
!Sarah
hey sarah, must say i love your advice, i want to ask this girl out but she's a liberal democrat and i'm conservative republican all the way, she doesn't go to church and i do, i don't know what my parents will do if they find out, or even what her parents will do because my parents are very firm and trying to change their minds is like talking to a brick wall... what do i do?
I think that if you really like her, your opinions shouldn't really stop you from going out. There are plenty of other things to talk about than politics, and I am a democrat and have a lot of conservative republicans as friends.. I'm kind of forced to considering I live in a red state.. Your parents should know that people can have peace despite their differences and that they should be accepting of whomever you decide to go out with, unless they could get you into trouble of course (drugs, sex.. etc.). So my advice is simply this
-ask her out
-don't hide it from your parents, simply tell them that you two can get along despite things and that they should be able to too.
-see how things go from there, because even though people can be accepting of eachother, sometimes it is hard to relate to someone or get along with someone well if they are VERY different from you. but as an saying goes "opposites attract" all depends on the person..
You'll never know if you don't try. good luck. :) and thanks for the nice comment. If you need any further advice I'm always around.
~Sarah
i'm running for class of '07 student council in two months and some other leadership positions! and i need to start being extra nice to everyone (im usually nice) how can i do it without sounding or looking too fake??
Smile, introduce yourself to a lot of people, make new friends with people you usually wouldn't.. and head for the little man, that's where all the votes are.
For the past 6 weeks of school, my best friend that I just met this year (let's callher Amy) has really been acting funny. I know it's because she started her period, but It seems odd that she's been so mean and nasty to everybody for the past 6 weeks in a row (usually your period doesn't last that long..). ALL of my other friends (C, A, A, C, and me) have noticed it too! She speaks for all of us when she tells people off.. telling them that we hate them, don't want to talk to them, and wish that they were dead. She tells me what I'm supposed to be and how I'm supposed to do it. She tells me all of this beauty stuffI'm supposed to do which works for her but I try it at her house and when I get home I get a bad, bad, bad allergic reaction to it (almond oil) and she KNOWS that I am dreadfully alergic to nuts. She always talks about how much her clothes cost and how she thinks that her way is always best. We try to talk to her and she still keeps doing all of these things. I've stood up for myself and my friends (all of us together) many, many times and she still won't stop being like this. What should I do?
Tell her to freaking wake up. If she is really bugging you maybe you should give her a break to realize she's being a complete ass.. Maybe she is just wanting to grow up with the makeup.. and thinks she is smarting than everyone else.. assure her that she's not the only one that's got her period, and isn't the only one growing up.. You can be what you want to be, wear what you want to wear.. and you shouldn't have to hear any bullshit about it from one of your supposed 'best friend'.
hey i am going to formal soon and i got a dress and its really long down to the floor and stuff but soo pretty. and so then i find out everyone is wearing like shorter drsses like to their shins but mien is past the floor so wat do i do? i dont wanna be over dressed but i love this dress... wat wud u do
do you feel the need to be like everyone else? I mean seriously, if you like the dress so much why not wear it? Oh yea, just so you can fit in? Have some backbone and stand out for a change. You'll probably get compliments on your dress and other people will be kicking themselves for not getting on just like it.
Ok, heres my story, im always getting yelled at, my brother and sister are always being obnoxious and screaming, my friends and my boyfriend are makin me choose who to be friends with, my mom wont get off my damn case about everything, especially school work, and im really stressed. Idk what 2 do.. im really sick of life. Is there anything I can do to be happy and be more independant at my house?? I dread weekends cuz i hate bing home nad im only 13
sounds like the normal teenage drama.. this happens to everyone believe me. Annoying siblings, parents that won't leave you alone, and school work is always a drag. But really, your life could be worse. tell your boyfriend and friends that they shouldn't make you choose, that you like your other friends just as much as them and that it isn't fair to you for them to make you choose between them. Then, for your little siblings, turn up your headphone music, sit down and do school work. Your parents will get off your back, you can listen to some good music, and you won't hear your little brother and sitster's whiny little annoying voices in the background.
I suggest listening to some good old My Chemical Romance.. or Greenday.. Simple Plan has a lot of lyrics that have to do with parents, so you can always get your parent anger out on that.