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Hey, I'm Melody! I've been giving advice on and off since 2003. I'm a 23 year old military wife, expecting a baby boy in August, and working on my Bachelor's degree. :)
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my cervix is really low i can touch it. how will i have sex
First and foremost, the most important advice I, or anyone else for that matter can give you is to get to your OB/GYN. No one here can tell you why your cervix is low, or if it's dangerous.
All vaginas are shaped differently though, so it could just be the way yours is set. It shouldn't interfere with you having sex, but your OB/GYN may tell you differently, so listen to her/him.
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well lastnight, me and my boyfriend had sex, but he didnt have a condom so he promised me he'd pull it out before he came. well after we were finished he asked me when my last period was, like he had accidentally came inside me. he denied that and said he had taken it out before then. today my breasts hurt and i dont feel very good, but im not completely sure ( i had a drink lastnight )im just wondering if it's just nothing, just a hangover, or if i could possibly be pregnant.
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please help!
The stomache ache you are experiencing is probably from the drink. There is no way you would be experiencing pregnant symptoms this soon.
I doubt you are pregnant. Don't stress. If you stress your period may come late. Which means even more worrying. Next time, use protection. Guys don't have self control.
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me and my boyfriend have been together for a little over a year and sex is starting to get old. we dont really have any fore play at all anymore. just a few kisses and then straight to sex and then like 5 minutes later he ejaculates and goodnight. are there any new things we could try to spice things up or just to get his attention. btw, i already talked to him about it and he agreed that we need to figure out new stuff. 23/f. thanks
Wikipedia.
Type in "spicy sex" or something along those lines and the results will suprise you.
Foreplay is by far the best thing you can do. Start by kissing and then move to masturbation, oral, and the big finally. Ask him to hold his orgasms too. Longer sex will be new to the both of you, which should make for some interesting fun.
Have you considered different positions? This could be a good change. Type in "sex positions" on wikipedia (yeah i'm obsessed with the site) and you'll be in heaven!.
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I am young and I am considering having sex. Is there any way i can avoid getting my popped?
If you are willing to have sex, you should be willing to have your hymen ripped. That simple.
And to answer your question, no.
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okay so my soon to be boyfriend and i want to have sex. but theres one thing thats holding me back. he has a thick long penis. i dk how he is going to be able to get it in.. please help me =) thank you.
& also is there like a nair kind of thing i can use for "down there"? id get it waxed but its not much and i think that im too young.. am i wrong?
& what would be good to make bumps go away bc whenever i shave i get these bumps.
His size is natural, and sadly there isn't anything we can do except suck it up and get over it. Make sure to use a lot of lubricant. (KY Jelly is good). If you can't get your hands on some, have him eat you out before having sex so you become more naturally lubricated.
You can get a bikini wax at any age, but I wouldn't. Don't use nair on your vagina. Just shave it. As for the goosebumps, use a lot of baby oil while in the shower, and then pat dry with a towel. Apply a little bit of baby powder before dressing, and then apply a small amount of baby lotion. Your soon to be won't mind if you have goose bumps, because i'm sure he knows it's normal.
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How much drugs and alcohol can you drink and take before your sperm starts to become weaker or get a lower sperm count? And do you always get morning sickness when you're pregnant? Thank you :)
No. You don't always get morning sickness when your pregnant.
And I don't think drugs & alcohol lower your sperm count. I think it just makes it harder for you to 'get up'.
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how do you know when you like someone enough to actually have sex with them
You aren't ready. If you were, you would know.
Which brings me to my next point; You just know.
There isn't a right or wrong answer for this, that's just how it is.
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I have been in a serious relationship with my boyfriend for 4 monthes now. I think I am ready to have sex with him, the problem is, I am very self-concious of my body. I hate being naked, and I never am with him. I won't even take off my top. Even though I think i am considered "thin" (I am critical of myself, especially the flab on my stomach) and I am 5'9, I am just so self-concious and I don't think I will ever be comfortable being naked around him. Is there a way to get more comfortable with myself, naked?
4 months isn't a long time, but time isn't an issue when you know your in love. So i'm not judging.
I as well am self consious of my body, but my boyfriend loves it. (Most likely yours will too). If you want to get more comfortable with yourself in general, walk around your room naked, examine yourself from head to toe, pick out all the good things about yourself, and eventually you'll get used to the idea of being naked in general. As for getting comfortable around him, you just have to. Just strip down naked in front of him. That's the only true way to get over your fear.
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ok so im going to have sex with my boyfriend. we tried last Saturday but it hurt bad and well, it just didnt fully happen (like everything is still in tact). im just wondering when i do do it, and if i bleed alot, how do i take care of that? i mean, i dont want to do it on my bed if im bleeding 'cause everyone knows thats a pain to wash out and i dont want to do it on the floor like we were doing so what do i do after? does it stop bleeding after a while? how long after? help people, asap
It didn't fully happen because you weren't relaxed and lubricated enough. Either get wet, or buy some KY Jelly. If you aren't lubricated, sex is damn near impossible. Trust me.
It won't bleed much at all. The most you will get is a little stain in your underwear once you put them back on. Unless he just rips you to pieces, which I doubt will be the case, you shouldn't have to worry about the bleeding. A towel isn't even really neccessary. Just make sure to go to the bathroom right afterwards. And you can do it on the bed, it will be much more comfortable.
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What is everyone's favorite songs?
I need to add more songs to my ipod, since it was stolen. List about 5 of your favorite songs, with teh artist. please? Thanks!
I'm not a huge fan of music, but I do know a lot of great bands. I'll list the band and some of my favorite songs by them, but you should seriously check out others by them too.
Pink Spiders;
-Modern Swinger
-Hollywood Fix
-Little Razorblade
-Teenage Graffitti
Red Jumpsuit Apparatus;
-17 is Just a Test
-Your Guardian Angel
Avenged Sevenfold;
-Unholy Confessions
-Bat Country
The Used;
-I'm a Fake
-Let it Bleed
-Taste of Ink
-I Caught Fire
The Spill Canvas;
-Sunsets & Carcrashes
-Staplegunned
-The Tide
-Caterpillars
Hawthorne Heights;
-Niki FM
-Until Her Heart Stops
-Ohio is For Lovers
Nirvana;
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14/f
This is a lame question. Buuut.
Okay for a long time my boyfriend and I have done stuff like fingering and that but he's gone away to Europe for 2 months. I keep getting sexual urges.
Okay. sooo. what are the best ways of masturbating. like if you dont have a vibrator. just wondering.
thankies.
I don't find fingering myself to be enjoyable, but I do find that flicking my clitoris and rubbing it feels nice. A lot better than any other masturbatin technique i've ever used. Not much, but a good idea.
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hi.
im 13 and im like the youngist in my group of friends.
everyone else is like 14 or 15.
all my freinds but my have had sex already and i just started masterbaiting.
i strted my period about 7 monthe ago and i just got off my period yesterday.my friend said i need to learn to have an orgasm and let me borrow her vibrator.
when i used it, it made me start bleeding agin..
why is that?
Sharing sex toys probably isn't a good idea. If she's having sex, there's always the possibility of an STD no matter how minor the disease may be. In the future, put a condom on the vibrator just to be safe. You don't really have to, but it's probably in your best interest.
There are two main reasons as to why you probably started bleeding again. You either ripped your hymen (popped your cherry) or you weren't lubricated well enough, and the vibrator caused friction against your skin causing you to bleed. Either way, both are normal. Just make sure you are well lubricated next time. Ok?
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hi...
i have rectal bleeding due to gay sex with my partner...the last time we had sex was a week ago but the bleeding doesnt seem to stop...is their any home remedy i can do make it stop cuz i dnt wana discuss it with my parents or go to the hospital...
You can't really do anything at home about your bleeding except to sustain from having sex for a little while. I'm sure rectal bleeding after anal sex is normal, but i'm not so sure it's normal to be bleeding this long afterwards. If the bleeding doesn't stop in a few days, talk to your partner. The two of you can go to a health department clinic together, and they can give you an examination without your parents having to know what you ever did.
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do guys like get disgusted when you bleed when you have sex for the first time? i mean doesnt that get blood on there "parts" and stuff?
It depends on the guy. Some guys get grossed out when a girl gets wet, so of course some are going to get grossed out when you bleed.
The majority of guys probably won't care though. My boyfriend doesn't. As long as a guy is having sex, anything else is completely irrelevant at that point in time. For his sake and to save your embarrasment, lay a towel down and make him wear a condom (even if you usually don't). That way blood won't actually get on his penis, so he'll most likely be relieved by that.
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ok....my friends dad died last night. my friend is 14. i have never met him in person i met him over the internet. i want to send him some flowers for his dad's funeral but i don't have the much money. please, does anyone have ay ideas of what i can do? how much does flowers cost? any ideas would be appreciated.
It's a wonderful idea you are doing this for your friend and her dad, i'm sure she appreciates it, and i'm sure he would. Depending on what kind of flowers you want to get him, they can range anywhere from $5 to $60 dollars for a bouquet of daisies or roses.
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I really don't know what to do. A lot of guys have tried to finger me and I just can't have an orgasm, ever. I masturabte a lot and always have an orgasm by myself. I try to help the guys and show them what to do, but it doesnt even feel good at all. Do u think maybe me masturabting a lot has affected this? am i ever going to be able to have an orgasm with someone else? please help, im really worried.
it's harder for guys to find the right spot to touch (no matter how many times you show/tell them) then it is for you to find that special spot yourself. It's normal, promise. A lot of girls can't get off at all while being fingered period. You are fine. And I assure you it has nothing to do with the fact that you masturbate regularly.
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I hear a lot of bad stuff about first time sex for a girl, so what do you think, is it better to do it yourself, I mean first masturbate and use some smaller dildo, and later have sex with a guy, or do you think it's better to do it with a guy first?
It's not as bad as most girls make it out to be. These days prepuberesent, frightened girls the size of my pinky are having sex with a full grown man. Of course it's going to hurt them. They aren't ready, they aren't naturally lubricated, and they're nervous as heck. They will tighten up, and it will end up with the girls being in excruciating pain.
On the other hand, if you are ready, well lubricated, and relaxed, it won't hurt as bad. If your hymen hasn't been ripped yet, you may feel a little pain for a few seconds
(maybe accompanied with a little blood), but besides that all you will feel is a little pressure. I won't lie, you may be sore a few days afterwards, considering nothing besides maybe a tampon or a finger has been up there before, but nothing terrible.
If your first time is special, and the guy isn't so exited that he can't ease himself in you without hurting you, then masturbating to loosen yourself up isn't actually required. It's basically up to you. It may hurt a little, considering it's the first thing that big that's ever been up there, but I assure you that you'll be fine.
If you are a small girl that hasn't ever been fingered, or used a tampon, or had anything up there before, maybe masurbate a little. Not to much, but enough to get your body used to the idea. On the otherhand, if you are a wideset girl that has been at least touched up there, then don't worry about it unless it's for your personal security. In the end though, the choice is completely up to you.
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Ok. So there's this guy (I know I know I can just hear you all sighing and going "yeah yeah yeah"). And we have a history. You see, it all started when my best friend, we'll call her Quin, wanted to take pictures of me and this guy, we'll call him Persey, for her photography project. Well in the pictures she wanted to do a strip (a series of pictures) and in the strip she had us kiss each other on the cheek. A couple of weeks after that, he asked her for my AIM name. We started talking. We flirted online for about two weeks and it seemed to be going pretty well...but then my best friend, who had had a crush on this guy for like 3 months before we even took the pictures, decided to totally tell him that I liked him. We had a very awkward conversation online in which he said "im ok with it really" and we kinda flirted some more. But the thing is, I'm not sure if he had been flirting with Quin as well over the past few weeks. Ok this was last Tuesday. Wednesday he was sick from school and wasnt online, and same thing with Thursday and Friday. Last night I'm pretty sure he went to Winter Formal with this other chick who is totally preppy and under all definitions fits the word "Abercrombiotch". I'm not positive they went together, but I couldnt go to formal and I dont know for sure. But I know if they went together they must have fallen in love, it was in this old barn and it was raining and it was all romantic. I cant get on AIM right now so I can't even talk to him and I have no friggin idea what's going on, but I had a dream he and Abercrombiotch got married and it was horrible. And now my best friend is jsut like "oh dont worry I dont like him now so there's nothing standing in your way" and its just like uhm hello! I'm just afraid he and Abercrombiotch are fucking in love. (Meaning they are currently fucking, and in love.) And at school all I have ever gotten from him is a few casual conversations. God I'm so pathetic. Anybody got any advice? Words of consolation? Anything?!
Abercrombiotch gets on my nerves, and I don't even know her. Hrmm. Screw her. Don't let her get to you, please?
School dances are never as romantic as you might think. For all you know the romantic rain was a downpour that was filling in through the cracks drenching Abercombiotch from head to toe making her look like a wet rat. And a barn? Seems romantic maybe, but i'd say a bunch of spiders nested in her hair, or but the fxck out of her. HAHAHA. I'm laughing just thinking about it.
If this guy seems to like you, then don't stop talking to him. You aren't officially together, so the fact he talks to other girls is irrelevant. Don't pay it any mind.
As for the dream, try to forget about it. I have had dreams in the past that hurt me, and I continue thinking about them to present day. But you have to remember, they're just dreams. Don't let them get to you.
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FredFlare has really cute iPod hoodies. [for iPods] But they are sold out.
Anyone know what site sells them? Thanks.
ebay. seriously, it's the best. you can get great bargains & they never run out of anything.
x3. it's the best.
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where cani find a good pair of uggs for cheap? (im looking for the beige short ones) not the ultra short ones though. but i live in ma and im not sure where to find them bc i want them for christmas but i odnt know where to tell my parents that htey can find them.
ebay --> seriously. you can find just about anything on this website, & im not kidding.
abercrombie --> these will probably be a littl more expensive than ebay.
hollister --> same as abercrombie.
try just about any store in the mall.
walmart --> they may not be authentic, but they look identical & since when did namebrand shit matter anyways? their ten times cheaper too, and last just as long.
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