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Hey, I'm Melody! I've been giving advice on and off since 2003. I'm a 23 year old military wife, expecting a baby boy in August, and working on my Bachelor's degree. :)
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I just found out today that I have genital herpes. I'm only 15, and it was my second time having sex with the same person. Don't tell me I'm too young or whatever. I know I was ready, and we've been together for a really long time. I'm really scared though. I'm having a hard time like, dealing with it. He thought he didn't have anything, but, I guess he did. I wasn't his first, but he was mine. My mom thinks he cheated on me, because, both her and my doctor said if he had it before the second time we had sex, I would've most likely gotten it sooner. What do you guys think? I'm so scared. Please help. I also just need ideas to help me cope with this. Wow. Who thought just one stupid mistake could mess my life up forever?
It's always better to use condoms, but that doesn't mean that they are 100% fool proof from pregnancy, or STDS. As you have already figured out.
This is a tough thing to deal with, but it is possible to do. Your mom knows, and you have a doctor taking care of you. You are in good hands. That's one less thing you have to put up with.
You are not the only person going through this, i'm sure. Find a support group online or somewhere else. Talk to your mom about it. What's done is done, and it's time to move past it.
One thing you need to do if you haven't already is tell your boyfriend. You personally couldn't pay me to stay with a boy who gave me a social disease, but it's up to you whether or not you want to forgive him. Either way around, you need to let him know so he can protect himself from other sexual partners he may have in the future.
You can get through this, it isn't the end of the world. You aren't the first person to get an STD, and you won't be the last. Don't beat yourself up over this.
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im on day 9 with being clean i took the 5 day now im working on the 10 day then 20 and uping it till i get to day 100
That's so wonderful =]
Be sure to congratulate yourself in someway.
Keep me udated in my email:
melody.boggs@yahoo.com
I check it almost every day, so leave anything you would like to leave me there. Ok?
Congratulations again.
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I constantly hear that most guys don't like girls with short hair. Especially as in a boyish haircut. And I agree- it's hard to look/feel "pretty" with boring hair. But I am so dreadfully sick of my long hair. (Mine is several inches past my armpits.) I hate showering because of having to dry it. And on top of everything, it curls in the most unflattering ways. I look so stupid. I feel like the only escape from the annoying body of my hair is to get it short short short. Yet I know I'll still hate the way it looks because there will be nothing there. What on earth should I do?
(P.S. Semi-short is hardly an option because the curls are even worse and uncontrolable. And it's not kinky... just wavy and loopy. Especially my bangs. Ugh!!!)
I had extremely long hair as well.. up until 2 days ago. I was having the same problems as you. I dreaded taking showers, because it took over an hour to dry, and I felt I couldn't do anything with it. Mine was super straight though, not curly. However I had problems with that, because it always looked so stringy. I felt like a 12 year old with my hair.
So I got so fed up I went and chopped it off. It now sits on my shoulders. I got dressed up this morning, and my hair only took about 15 minutes to dry, and it looked so good after being styled. My boyfriend freaked out at first when he seen it, but now he loves it as well. If your hair is curly, but a straightening iron. Short hair is in at my school right now, and a bunch of my friends just use straightening serum, and straighten it in the morning.
In general I love my hair now. The only down side is i'm not used to my bangs being shorter (They start at my eyebrow) so they are constantly in my face if my hair isn't styled. Also it kind of sucked when I couldn't put it into my signature high ponytail. Haha =] But other than that I really like my hair.
I would suggest cutting yours.
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I can't decide on which Vera Bradley purse to get. They're a bit pricey, so I can't get both. Which do you guys like best?
http://www.verabradley.com/Site/Store/ProductDetail.aspx?sku=152:2
http://www.verabradley.com/Site/Store/ProductDetail.aspx?dept=7&sku=151%3a58
Thanks in advance!
I'm a VB fan as well =] I own a zillion.
They're both gorgeous. The first one is a newer print, so if you would like a newer purse, go with that one. The second one is more springy though, so if I were you I would get that one.
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Hi I am junior in high school and right now I drive a 1997 Grand Prix and every one in my family has a GM car and I want to get a Mazda 6. I also live in Nebraska so there aren't a lot of dealers around, but are they good dependable cars or do they have a lot of break downs??
Mazda's in general are great cars.
I thought about getting one, but didn't have the cash. =\
My friend has a Mazda, and I love it a super lot. Look on the internet for a quote, you can find a dealership close to you through the internet as well.
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ok well im 14/f and live in small town USA I have been SI'ing for like 4-5 years now and i really wanna stop i am really wating to get closer to God ad this is just holdig me back from living the life i want to. See i started becuse it felt good it feel something other than emotions? idk how to word it but my father was abusive i was never touched but i saw what he did to my sisters and my brother and well i dont know if that has anything to contribute to it. Now that Im away from him and have been for a while i relized i want to change. I dont know how so I guess thats what im asking. HOW CAN I CHANGE AND STOP SELF INJURING???? That includes cutting and stuff like that anything that causes me pain.
Before you ask I never wanted attention and well am asking on here so i dont get the wrong type.
Allie
The first step in quitting is wanting to quit. I know that sounds silly, but a lot of people who say they want to quit cutting, never really actually commmit to it. It's difficult to stop, but commitment and self-love will get you there eventually.
You have to talk to someone. As strong as you may be, cutting is a powerful addiction, and you can't do it by yourself. Talk to a school councelor, or a friend. You'll feel so much better knowing you are not alone. Because you are NEVER alone if you have enough courage to ask for help. Someone out there will give it to you. Here are some tips to help with cutting, some may work. Some, maybe not. Just don't give up. You'll eventually find something that works for you:
Distract yourself. Color, draw, write, get online, do homework, read. Just do something. If you like the feeling you get when you cut, wear a rubber band around your wrist and flick it when you get the urge. If you like the way your arm looks after cutting, take a red marker or pen, and make marks on your arm.
The best advice I can give you is to take the 100 day challenge. Or 30, 20, or 10 day challenge. Just keep working your way up on the days. This is how you do it:
Get a calender, and tell yourself you aren't going to cut for however many days. Once you reach your end mark, you can reward yourself with something. Throughout the days, you can write in a notebook each time you get an urge to cut. Talk about why you want to cut, how you are going to distract yourself from it, etc. It helps some people, but can make it worse for others. Try it and if it helps, do it. If writing makes it worse, do something different to distract yourself. If you slip up, don't beat yourself up over it. You can always start over.
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Well...Ive been doing drugs for the past 2 or3 years. So it makes me kinda spacey and paranoid over nothing. Well,in early march. I got messed up and had sex with my ex boyfriend. He told me he didnt nut...my friend melissa told me he didnt nut. SO im like okay i should be fine and from what i remember he didnt nut. And we only had sex off and on for about 20-30 minutes because he was drunk and high on pills,and he couldnt get hard. So its now april...ive missed my periods before...would i know if i was preganent by now? would i have grown ne? I thinks its due to stress its happened b4 ne advice is helpful =] Thanks.
If you had sex with this boy, regardless of whether he ejaculated or not, you could be pregnant. Besides, you can't always trust boys on telling you whether they got off or not. Especially if they are as "high on pills" as you are making him out to be. And how the hell would your friend Melissa know if he got off? Use your head.
Drugs + Teens + Sex = Pregnancy
Doing drugs does not make you cool, it makes you stupid. Popping pills is not only dangerous, but it's near suicidal. Don't be a stereotype for other teenage girls out there. For a poor baby's sake, I hope to God you aren't pregnant. Getting pregnant in highschool is not smart. Doing drugs is just stupid. So what does that make you? Pathetic.
Do you honestly hate yourself so bad that you could do this to yourself? I honestly never judge anyone on this site, and if I have something negative to say to them, I keep it to myself. But hopefully I will cyber-slap some since into your head.
I'm sure you are a smart girl. Maybe if you weren't so screwed up on drugs, you would know how to spell pregnancy, before, and any. Use your head and stop doing drugs. I promise they don't make you look cooler. They make you look like a skank.
FYI: Stress does cause periods to come late, but if you had sex that month, take a pregnancy test. Hopefully you can spare $7 on one since you can obviously afford pills. If you were pregnant you would not be any bigger yet.
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youre not supposed to wash your hair everyday, but what if you exercise every day?
Some people do wash their hair everyday, and it's perfectly fine.
I have extremely oily hair, and if I don't wash it every single day, it gets incredibly gross. Only people with extremely dry, straw-like hair can avoid washing their hair for days, and it look perfectly normal.
If you feel more comfortable washing your hair everyday because of exercise, or for whatever reason, then go ahead and wash it. If you are worried about washing it everyday, just don't use conditioner.
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what does "i cant feel my face mean"
does it have to do with something when your high?
meaning please?
I don't think it's an actual phrase.
Like the person below me said, it could mean anything. As in being cold or something of the sort.
As far as being high goes; If you inhale dangerous drugs, then you become numb, and sometimes you literally can't feel your face.
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ok im not even close to being sexually active but i have always been wondering HOW do you have a 'fake' orgasm???
like how do you fake it and make your partner think you orgasmed. in the even the girl is faking cause boys dont have a problem orgasming for the most part haha thanks :)
When I guy orgasms, it's a pretty obvious thing, of course. But when girls orgasm, for the most part it's more subtle.
A girl can moan, groan, and act like she's orgasming, but if she's really not, then she's just acting, basically. A guy usually can't tell when a girl orgasms, or when she's just 'wet' from sex.
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Hey, ok, so I was wondering, like, I'm on birth control, and I know you should use a condom every time (and I do) but, ok, lets say that hypothetically we didn't have one for a few minutes (I wouldn't anyways, because I'm too paranoid) but he put one on later (before he came), what are the chances I could get pregnant? Like, does anyone have personal expiriences or anything? (Please, don't say anything like, it's stupid not to use one, or anything.I always use one, and it's just a curious question) Thanks!
Assuming you are both STD free, you are fine.
Birth control is 99% effective when used correctly, with or without a condom. Of course it is ALWAYS better to use a condom, but even if you don't (and he doesn't ejaculate) then the chances of you being pregnant are slim to none.
Always take your birth control correctly, and you should be fine.
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16/f. ok so i have this event tomorrow and i need to be superrr tan. well, at least not neon-white like i am. so anyways, does anyone know any ways to get get about 5-7 shades darker overnight?? i have tanning lotions like jergens, vasaline, etc. can i layer them or apply them numerous times tonight?? any info wud be appriciated..and spray tan arent an option right now..everyplace is closed. thanks!!
Without getting a spray tan (like someone below has said) getting 5-7 shades darker is next to impossible.
Applying jergens, vasaline, or anything for that matter in excess, isn't going to make you tanner, it's going to make you look greasy & gross.
The best thing you can do is apply jergens twice a day. Once in the morning and once before you go to bed. When you wake up in the morning, apply jergens again, and then once before you leave to wherever you are going.
Also keep a lot of moisturizing lotion on your skin. If your sking is really smooth & moisturized, then your skin will appear darker.
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in the past week.
me and my boyfriend have had sex like 3 times.
and we have used a condom all of those times.
and well. it never really hurt when we had it.
and yeah he was my first.
and i never bled.
but i usually start my period around the twentyseventh every month.
and i havent started yet.
am i pregnant?
It's only the 28th. If you aren't on birth control (or even if you are & are a teen) then your period is going to be irregular and come at different times.
If you used a condom every single time correctly, you probably aren't pregnant. But the truth is, if you have sex there is always that possibility.
Personal experience tells me that if you have sex before you are supposed to start your period, then it may come late or at a different time.
If you still haven't started in about 3 weeks, take a test. =] Cheap ones are only like, 7 bucks.
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why do my breasts get so tender before my period, and how do i make it stop?
Hormones.
You can't make it stop, but getting put on birth control can stop some period symtoms and make them not as severe.
Midol will also help.
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I'm on birth control and I've had some issues with spotting before but not when I'm nowhere close to my period. I had sex without a condom a week ago. I took my birth control on time. 2 days later i took it 40 minutes late on accident.
is spotting a sign of pregnancy?
I know..get a pregnancy test...but I thought i'd ask before i spend $10.
i just want facts. i do not want a lecture.
I've spotted on birth control once before too. But it was actually worse. I bled like I was literally on my period, right in the middle of my pack.
I went to the health clinic to see what they had to say, and they told me what I was experiencing was called "Breakthrough Bleeding."
It can be a sign of pregnancy, but that's not always the case. It could also be some kind of an STD, or it could just be your body doing something that you just can't explain. They tested me for pregnancy/STDS, and both came up negative. (Though I could have told them that). They never really told me why I experienced that, but just to take my pills every single day, and not to skip any, because my hormones/body would react weird, hence the spot bleeding.
Minutes or even hours don't really make a difference on the effectivness of birth control. The pill pack and the doctor just tell you that because it's easier to remember to take them if you take them at the same time everyday. As long as you didn't forget to take it at all, you are fine.
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hi, ok well i was just wondering... i was just talking to my bf and im 14 and hes 16 and we have been best friends for like 2 years and everything and he and i makeout a lot whenever we see each other (like once a week) and i was asking him how far we would go right now in our relationship (3 months) he said 2nd (touching a girl's breast) and we have gotten close he has touched me through my bra once and my shirt one other time but im very protective of that one of the two times he did without asking and he said he was very sorry and promised not to again. anyway im moving in June so i asked what about when i leave how far? our relationship would be about 5 months. he said a hj. i was very surprised because ya hes horny like very other guy but he tries really hard to be good. he has set limits and wont put himself in a position like being home alone with me because he doesnt trust himself. hes very responcible. but hes also a 16 yr old guy. well he would be-hes turning 16 in May. yay he turns 16 and gets a hj lol
so first off if i wanted to give him a hj is that normal (i kno everyone says do what your comfortable with but would u say most 16 yr old guys have gotten a hj) the thing is im only 14 tho. a freshman. hes also a freshman but hes much older im younger and hes older. he and i are deeply in love tho so it wont be like i do that with every guy or w/e.
it would both of our firsts. he said yes because it would be somthing to remember each other by.
also dont worry cause i know i wont because im not comfortable with that. my bf doesnt know that i wont but i do. i just had some questions about if i did want to.
and i know i dont have to i mean he didnt even ask i said how far would you let us go.
thanks :)
That's the same age difference between my boyfriend and I. I lost my virginity to him when he was sixteen and I was fourteen. Awfully young I know, but I really don't regret doing it. I loved him, he loved me, and that still hasn't changed to this day. He's nineteen, and I will be seventeen soon.
What I'm trying to tell you, is that it's perfectly normal for him to want a handjob, and if you WANT to do it, then that's perfectly normal too. If you don't want to, that's also fine. You aren't ready, and there is nothing wrong with that.
I personally don't suggest doing it though, if you are going to break up after this. Seeing as how you are moving, and might not ever see him again, doing something that might possibly get you attached to him even more, is a bad idea if you ask me.
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ohk so i was just wondering if people could tell me some things to expect or to not expect the first time you have sex, personal stories would be helpful but i would really just like to know generally is normal and what isn't normal to happen the first time, thanks in advance, i'll rate : )
Expect it to hurt.
Don't expect to enjoy yourself.
Your first time is never anything special, as opposed to what tv/movies make you want to think. Most likely it will be uncomfortable and pretty awkward for the most part.
Personal story?
It took about 3 months after deciding I was ready, to physically do it because I wasn't comfortable enough. Losing your virginity is a very vulnerable thing, I was scared of being that vulnerable. I wasn't comfortable, which in return meant that I just couldn't do it.
It eventually happened though, and I personally don't regret the decision at all. I lost my virginity almost 3 years ago, and me and my boyfriend are still together.
But unless you are 100% ready and comfortable, I suggest waiting.
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okay.
now..
Does everyone moan when they have sex? i don't really get it. What if i don't automatically moan, should i fake it? how load.
idk
someone please help.
Don't fake it.
Sex is supposed to feel good. Which in return means you may make noises to express how good it feels.
Do what feels right, hopefully you'll be to caught up in the moment when you do do it, that you won't be thinking to hard about what kind of noises you are making.
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so my bf is very experienced and in a way that makes me feel better, but in a way it doesn't. he's ready to have sex with me and i love him alot and i do want him to be my first but i just don't know if i'm ready. the only things i've really done is kiss.. i did make out by the guy forced himself of me so it doesn't really count. i wanna go all the way with him cuz i completely trust him and i want my first time to be with someone experienced so they don't expect much from me. should i wait or just do it? i'm so confused. please help!!! =]
much appreciation, Chelsea
Here's the deal; If you love him, there is no since in rushing the decision. You can take all the time in the world you need until you decide, for sure, that you are ready. Whether it be a week, a month, or even a few years, if he loves you he'll still be there waiting for you when it's time.
Unless you know 100% in your heart that this is the guy you love, want to spend the rest of your life with, and the guy you are willing to give up everything for, then you aren't ready. And if you are second guessing yourself, and aren't completely sure, then you aren't ready.
You should wait.
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once your ears are gauged can you ... ungauge them???
Like make them go down to their normal gauge.
Eventually they will grow up if you don't keep anything in them.
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