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Hey, I'm Melody! I've been giving advice on and off since 2003. I'm a 23 year old military wife, expecting a baby boy in August, and working on my Bachelor's degree. :)
Oh, and ask me anything!
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okay so if i wanted to make my down stairs tighter and like smaller..
a) is that possible?
b) is there any exercises to do this?
c) no i'm not a slut by the way.
Thank you everyone for you help!
If you are not a virgin, you will never be a virgin again; hence you won't have the vagina of a virgin.
However there are actually exercises out their to make child birth easier, can prevent uturine prolapse, can make sex more pleasurable, and I suppose, in a sense, make vaginas tighter. They are called Kegal exercises.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kegel_exercise
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well lately i've been watching like lesbian porn. ones with just females in it or just one female herself. & I enjoy it! A LOT. thing is though I absolutely love MALES! like everything about them . well not everything about them. yeah though . like sometimes it freaks me out about dating a female but if it freaks me out why do I like lesbian porn?
sorry if this confuses . i'm just saying what's in my head
What turns you on doesn't neccessarily determine what you are. Just because watching girls makes your horny doesn't make you a lesbian. It just means you are comfortable enough with your sexuality to admit certian things turn you on.
If you wanted to try stuff with other girls, that may make you bi-sexual, but definitely not lesbian if you love guys.
But don't label yourself. It doesn't matter what you call yourself, all that matters is that you are with what you want to be with. So don't stress out.
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okay so im new to this whole sex thing. i've heard girls talk about when they "explode" or something related to that.im just wondering what this means, how it happens, etc. also after your done having sex i read that a lot of people cuddle with each other, or go to sleep but i was just wondering, since the girl usually gets wet, isn't like the sheets going to be all wet and gross and doesn't the girl feel gross afterwards? how can people just like lay there after they are all wet? maybe im thinking totally wrong but i just don't have a clue so if you guys could give some advice i'd really appreciate it!
I think you are referring to 'squirting.' I have never heard of it called exploding, but I guess that makes since. It's basically female ejaculation. If you want to know what it means, how it happens, and anything and everything you could possibly want to know, go to this link:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Squirting
If has fabulous information. Very informative.
Sex can get messy. If there is a lot of ejaculation involved [for the man & the woman] than yes, it can get uncomfortable just laying there. You will not get the entire bed messy, but it's 100 percent possible to get some ejaculate on the bed and it most likely will happen. Usually the only time it becomes unbearably messy is if the boy ejaculated in you. In that case, you will most likely want to run to the bathroom to clean up. You can always come back and cuddle afterward. It won't be as messy.
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im planning on having sex for the first time in a couple weeks, of course with my boyfriend of a year who i love very much. anyways i have my bellybutton pierced and i was just wondering if i should take it out while having sex? like could it interfere with anything, get caught on something? is there also anything else i should know other than it's going to hurt!! :|
It's really up to you. I'm sure if you keep it in nothing to dreadful will happen. However, if it will make you more comfortable, then take it out.
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Can anyone tell me some famous groups of 4? Me and 3 of my friends have to dress up like that for Halloween.
(other than the beatles) (and other than sex and th city...we loveeeed that idea...but it was already taken)
THANKS!
You could be the Wizard of Oz characters. That shouldn't be to hard. You can be Dorothy, The Scarecrow, The Tin Man, and the Cowardly Lion. Of course, you would fight over who was Dorothy ;]
You could maybe be Clue characters. But that would be a little harder. The outfits sure would be cute though. You can choose from:
Mrs. White; french maid outfit.
Mrs. Peacock; long blue dress with a feather hat.
Miss Scarlett; sexy red dress with a long cigar.
Col. Mustard; yellow shirt, safari suit.
Prof. Plum; purple suit, glasses, top hat
Mr. Green; green suit
If you google it, you will get tons of results.
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I was just curious to know, who you want to win the election '08?
My mom and i want obama, but literally the rest of my family wants mccain. I just would like to see how many people want obama, and how many want mccain.
All answers will help :]
Thanks!
I don't really believe what Mccain did in bed is any of the voter's business. Same goes for Clinton. Great president, not so great husband. The two don't really go hand in hand.
Actually though, I'm really undecided. I've watched most of the debates, and I am still unsure. If I was eligible to vote, I would probably vote for Obama though. Like me, the rest of my family is still unsure of who they want to vote for. However, the majority say they will probably vote for Obama.
The reason I say I would vote for Obama is partially due to the vice presidents. If something happened to Mccain while he was in office, Sara Palin would be the president. Now, the lady is sweet and funny as can be, but she's definitely not the sharpest tool in the box. If she happened to become president, I would be worried for the U.S. because I'm not so sure she could handle it. As for Obama, if something happened to him, I am confident that Biden would be a good president, regardless of his sometimes condescending behavior.
I am fully aware that basing my would-be vote on the unfortunate event of something happening to the candidtates is weird and morbid, but unfortunately that's all I really have to go on.
I fully support [most] of Obama's ideas, however I sometimes think he talks a little to smooth to be the "real thing". So that worries me a little.
But there is my answer. If I could vote, I would choose Obama.
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Hey, I've been a bit overwhelmed with my school schedule and work. I'm sleeping an average of 3-4 hours a night. Which really isn't that bad, but it adds up, ya know?
I was thinking about investing in cocaine. I was just wondering how you go about purchasing it. How much would it cost? Is it really addictive?
I don't want to use it all the time. I just want to take some every now and then to give me an extra boost. What would you suggest? If cocaine is no good, what are some other ways to give me energy in these sleepless days?
As someone below me said, procrastination is your problem. I understand that things can get really hectic, especially at this time in your life (working & going to school) But that's no excuse for not getting it done. The majority of my friends are going to college and working part time. If they can do it, so can you. I'm not sure if you are in high school or college, but:
*College isn't cheap. Even with student loans, financial aid, and scholarships, going to college can still take A LOT of money from your pockets. Add car & insurance payments, gas, and all other things you need, and getting a job becomes quite neccessary. However, if the job you are currently at isn't good at working around your schedule, it is time to search for a new job. If you can, ask your boss for a few days off just to get your head on straight. Tell him you need just a small break to get everything sorted out and to have some time to rest. Hopefully he will understand.
*If you are only in high school, and working isn't really neccessary, then maybe it is time to take some time just for school work. That's completely understandable, if needed. High school also shouldn't be taking that much time from your schedule, regardless of your classes.
So, you need to work on a neat little schedule to get everything done, and still have some time to sleep at night. First of all, know what you have to do before the week starts. Get your work schedule as soon as possible so you can do your home/class work around it. In your spare time, get your school work done. That's the most important thing here. Any time you have a small break at school, do homework. At your lunch break at work when you are usually just sitting around and eating for 15 minutes, study. If you get that strange 20 minute break somewhere in your day, don't watch tv. Take a cat nap. You really need to get your priorities straight. Getting a good night's sleep should definitely be at the top of your list.
1. Sleeping
2. Schoolwork
3. Working
4. Anything else
Watching TV, hanging out with friends, and relaxing is great, but this point in your life doesn't allow for that. That's just how school is sometimes. If you happen to be out all night with friends, call it in early and SLEEP. If you want energy, that's the best thing you can do. Taking cocaine is the worst.
Not only will cocaine only help your energy problem temporarily, it will end up making it worse in the end. Accompanying that short burst of energy will come a "crash". You will feel ten times worse than you felt before, no doubt.
You may not want to use it all the time, but you WILL end up using it all the time. It IS highly addictive. You COULD be tricked by a shady drug dealer. And it IS extremely expensive. If you are having to work to go to school, I can almost guarentee you can't afford cocaine.
COCAINE WILL RUIN YOUR LIFE.
Point blank.
"Nationwide, wholesale cocaine prices ranged from $12,000 to $35,000 per kilogram."
-http://crack-cocaine.org/cocaine-prices.htm
Short-term cocaine effects include:
Increased blood pressure
Constricted blood vessels
Dilated pupils
Mental alertness
Increased energy
Increased heart rate
Decreased appetite
Increased temperature
Long-term cocaine effects include:
Addiction
Paranoia
Irritability
Restlessness
Auditory hallucinations
Mood disturbances
"this addiction can lead to insanity and death."
-http://www.cocaine-effects.com/
Does that seem good to you? If so, that's your choice. However I can guarentee the results will be the opposite of what you are hoping for.
Like I said, if you want to boost your energy, get your priorites straight, and get some sleep whenever you can.
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I just found out yesterday that I'm a carrier for Staph infection.
Can anyone give me information about this?
I know I carry the germ in my nose, anything else?
You need to know that it's highly contagious. If you haven't been to the hospital/doctor yet, you need to go. My cousin got staph in her throat once, and was hospitalized for about two weeks. It's vital that you see someone about this. There was also an outbreak of staph at a school close to ours, from their football team. Sharing towels, being in the locker room together, and tackling is close contact, which is how it is spread.
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I have bad allergies and my symptoms are like a lot of drainage and burning in my throat. Well usually I wake up and my throat hurts from the draining but today I woke up and it hurt as usual and so I went to school but it did not go away. Can allergies cause like an infection or something? Becuase it still hurts and now I have other symptoms like nausea (although that may be from the drainage) but there are spots on my throat but I don't know if they are just mucus spots or like infection spots...
any help please? I'm still up because I feel awful and I have SATS tomorrow...
Thanks
If you are ever unsure of what something is, you should go to the doctor. Your allergies seem to be effecting your life, so if anything, you should go for that. Your doctor can give you some medicine for your allergies, and also check you for an infection. Go as soon as you can.
Try your best to get a good night's sleep for your SAT. Take you some cold medicine, and eat a big breakfast. If you have any, be sure to take a claritin or other over the counter allergy medicine you may have.
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Well you see. i have a group of friends. there's 3 of us and at some stage one of us will feel left out which is pretty annoying BUT the worst bit is that we have so so so many fights.. atleat once a day if we're lucky we might have one 2 times a week but when we do its always gang up 2 against one im usualy left fighting for myself. but i dont know what to do. should i leave the group and find new friends or not? if i do they might start bitching about me or something stupid like that. but i probably should add that the main reason we fight is beacause of another girl that im friends with and they hate and well THEY CANT STAND ME HAVING DIFFERENT FRIENDS!
If that makes any sence.. please help me !!
Perfect sense.
I had 2 girls that I hung out with forever. And like you, I was always the one that got left out. For a long time it bothered me, but I got to the point where I just didn't care anymore. I had other friends that I hung out with outside of school (because they never wanted to do anything with me) and it seemed that they could find something wrong with every single one of them. I got to the point where I just didn't like hanging out with them anymore. It wasn't anything in particular that they did, I just decided one day it was time for me to make new friends and stop relying on them. So I did, and I have never been happier. I wish that we could still be friendly toward each other, but of course there are bitter feelings. I haven't talked to them in forever, and since it is our senior year, I'm hoping maybe that will change. But for now, I have new friends and it was the best decision I have ever made.
If you like these girls, then of course you should hang out with them. But if you get like me, you will probably one day realize you are ready to make new friends. You can explain this to them or not, it's your choice. Just realize they may not be to forgiving about your choice.
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how long will it take for a hickey to go away?
Days, weeks, sometimes months.
Hickeys are pretty much bruises. The worse the bruise, the longer it takes to heal. Directly after getting one, put ice or a cold spoon on it to reduce swelling. I am not sure how this helps, but apparently it does. I wouldn't suggest wearing make-up over it. I think it would just draw more attention to it. Just wear your hair down around your neck so people won't see it.
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hey alright well lately it seems like im super self conscious about EVERYTHING i say and do. im kind of hard on myself, to the point where i analyze every word, every motion, every tone in my voice to make sure i sound.. i guess "socially correct", or "cool" would be the word.
even with text messages, it can take me 5 minutes to decide how to say a one or two word answer. every character is crucial.
so you can imagine how lost i am when it comes to real-time conversations. instead of sounding confident i stutter sometimes and other times i cant think about what i want to say.
when i remember every time i "mess up" i cringe...it feels terrible inside
i want to sound confident b/c i feel confident. but then i start worrying about whether i sound confident which makes me mess up, i guess.
opinions?
If you feel you need to see a psychologist, then maybe you should. It certainly can't hurt. You can maybe talk to a councelor/therapist. They can be very helpful, so consider it.
I wouldn't say it's extremely serious, but if it bothers you to the point where it's effecting everyday life, then you should do something about it.
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Ok, so my mom had had (mind you, i told her to get checked) shes had diarhea for about a year now...and today she pooped a whole toilete full of blood, any idea of what it might be?
Thank you.
Very serious and needs to be checked out ASAP. No joke, she needs to go the doctor. Blood in the bowels is a symptom of cancer, and I'm sure many other serious problems. Regardless of what it is, bloody stool is NEVER a good sign.
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is it wrong to want to be popular (in the High School popularity sense of the term)? is it wrong to want to fit in?
i think it's not wrong to want to conform. that is just human nature, and its part of the societal contract that you will HAVE to conform to SOME society's rules if you hope to be accepted in society (ex: dont rape kids, dont go out of the house naked). but it's wrong to change yourself to fit in.
but what happens when you're different in the first place AND you want to be popular?
how do you conform & become epicly popular, if you dont want to change yourself?
im conflicted inside. it hurts.
i really want your opinion on this.
It is not wrong to want to be popular and well liked. You are right, it is human nature, and deep inside everyone feels some since of wanting to belong.
I do think changing yourself (especially in high school, when many teens do not even know who they are yet anyways) is wrong. You should never change yourself to meet someone else's standards. Even though it sounds tacky and cliche, always 'try' to be yourself. I say try, because like you said, it is normal to want to conform to other's standards.
For example, I have many different friends. There are a lot of cliches/groups at my school, but I really do not fit in to any of them. I do have a group of girls that I am with most of the time, but I am extremely friendly with everyone at my school. And even though I am all about being yourself, I find myself acting differently with different groups of people. I do not see it as me neccessarily trying to "fit in," it is just the way I am. (And how many others are from what I can tell)
The key to popularity in my experience as a high school student is a combination of confidence and a friendly personality. If you are a friendly person, people will be friendly back. In return, more friends-- which consitutes popularity. =]
Never purposely change yourself for a group of people, but remember that in high school, people are constantly changing. That is not neccessarily a bad thing. Embrace it, but do not do it simply for popularity.
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My brother is 18 years old and works at the same place as i do. (I'm 16). Long story, very short, he and his friends easily steal money. My bosses have no clue, have no cameras, and are not very on the ball. I'm talking grand theft. He's stolen approximately 5,000 dollars I'd say. It's extremely horrible. I've SEEN him steal some money, and I've heard from a couple of his friends that he confides in tell me that he does this. My brother is basically a straight A, seemingly nice kid, and my parents are too stupid to piece together that he's a thief. He bought half of a 15, 000 dollar car, and my parents thought nothing of it. They were pleased with his "savings and hard work ethic". I work the same damn job as he does and I've saved up maybe 1500 dollars, if that. My grandma asked me how he got such a nice car, and I was THIS close from telling her about everything. I don't know what to do.
On one hand, if you do not want to rat out your brother, that is your choice and completely understandable. On the other, it is your duty as an employee to put this to an end.
Maybe you should consider talking to your brother about it first. Explain to him how it's morally and ethically wrong, and firmly tell him he should stop. I wouldn't say threaten him, but explain to him that if you see it happen again, you will be forced to tell your boss.
If talking with him does not help, you need to talk to your boss. If you do not want anyone to know that you told, but still feel SOMETHING needs to be done, tell your boss you want to tell him something anonymously. Then explain the situation. I am sure that him/her will understand why you want to keep your name out of it.
This is a serious problem that needs to be dealt with, no matter how you go about doing this, you need to do it. Your brother needs help, and you need to stop it before it becomes more serious.
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can u get any sexual diseases from masterbating cuz ive been doing it lately and ive notice a bump and some white dots and ive never had sex before
From masturbating? No.
As long as you haven't touched anyone else with a disease, or someone with a disease hasn't touched you, then you cannot have an STD.
The bumps and dots are probably from you touching yourself so much. It's most likely raw and needs to be left alone for about a week ;) Then you can go on masturbating.
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17/f
I missed 2 days of my birth control (I take Lutera) and so I took 3 pills today at my scheduled time. I know I'm not uppose to take more than 2 but I didn't think it would matter that much...
Well I had my period, and it ended last sunday. An hour after taking the 3 pills I got my period {or at least some brownish clots w/ blood)
what does this mean? Did I mess up my body??? If I did is it severe? or is this seemingly normal??????????? I have no idea! I can't go to the gyno, my mom doesn't know I'm on bc
Birth control is hormones. Your body can do strange things when your hormones get out wack, (which is what happened when you took three pills.)
Once before, I lost a BC pill, [dropped it] and I had no clue what to do, so I just continued taking it like normal. I also started bleeding in like, the middle of my pack. I went to the health clinic, and they told me it was called "break-through bleeding" They didn't really do anything about it, except for giving me an STD and pregnancy test. (Which can also be two factors that cause irregular bleeding) You really need to go the health clinic. You don't have to go with your mom. You can get a friend or someone to take you.
If you absolutely cannot go to the health clinic, take your pills like normal, and just deal with the period. Be sure to get back on track on your next pack, and use a backup method of birth control this month.
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i can't decide which one of the new ipod nano colors i like the best. i think i've narrowed it down to purple, orange, and red. i just need some opinions to maybe sway mine, haha. here's the link if you haven't seen them:
http://www.apple.com/ipodnano/
I want the pink, green, or purple one =]
So of course I would say the purple one.
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I am a freshman in college, and there is this guy in two of my classes who absolutely confuses me, and I have never dealt w/ or heard of anyone quite like him before. I have to deal with him some b/c one of the classes we're in together does a lot of group work.
He's older, like 27 and he's been in college once, got bad grades, and came back. Some of the faculty in my dept. said he got bad grades b/c he partied too much, slept around, and took a lot of drugs, but I've heard rumors around campus that he got kicked out for being a stalker. But in class, he's really stand-offish to me and every other girl, but me especially because I said something in class about being a Christian. Like he'll talk to the guys in the class, but not the girls. When I asked him if he had a problem w/ me being a Christian, he said "Look, I only want to get along w/ you well enough to pass this class; I don't want to know you once this class ends b/c Christian chicks and I never work out as friends." A lot of the people who've known him from when he was here before go on and on about how nice and smart he is, and he seems to be-to the guys. Since I'm a theater major, sex comes up a lot, and this guy has proclaimed him "post-sexual" (whatev that means) and says that he'll never have sex again. Since when do guys say that?
From everything I've described, what on earth is up w/ this guy, do you think?
I think he sounds fine. Everyone has different personalities, and apparently so does he.
There is nothing wrong with coming back to college. If at first you don't succeed, try again ;) Whether he was kicked out or dropped out really isn't any of your (or anyone else's) business. If the stalking rumors are true [which I doubt], then unless/until it becomes a personal problem or threat to you, don't concern yourself with it.
What he does or has done in bed isn't really anything to concern yourself with. Maybe he is an attention-seeker. Which is why he says things that he does. If it bothers you, you don't have to talk to him. You can do what he says, and just get along with him as much as needed for school. Why he doesn't get along with Christian girls is beyone me. But maybe he has just had some bad experiences with overly preachy girls. If that's the case, and you really care enough to prove him otherwise, don't bring up religion. Maybe he just doesn't believe in the same things you do, and there isn't anything wrong with that.
I think unless you are wanting to start a friendship with this guy, you should't worry about it. People are different, and unless it's effecting you, the reason for his odd behavior shouldn't really matter.
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so i'm a tomboy. well this is the first year i'm going to go trick or treating with guys. i don't wanna wear something like slutty. but not totally modest either. like something in between. something that would make me look good. like my friends being a mouse, the others a flight attendant. i really have no clue what i'm going to be. i need ideas!!!
You're a tomboy, and that's cool. But Halloween is all about dressing up as someone you normally aren't. I think there is a big difference between wearing something sexy and cute, and dresssing like a complete slut with a set of bunny ears. So keep it tasteful.
Wal-mart has really cute costumes for any person. You can dress scary or you can dress cute. It's really up to you. I seen one cute costume at Wal-mart that was half angel half devil. The dress was cut down the middle with one red, and one white. And one side the head piece was a halo, and on the other side, a devil horn. You could get really creative with that. Be scary looking on one side of your face, and cute on the other.
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