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Hey, I'm Melody! I've been giving advice on and off since 2003. I'm a 23 year old military wife, expecting a baby boy in August, and working on my Bachelor's degree. :)
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I'm 17 and have been having trouble finding a job in the real world so I'm turning to the cyberweb. Does anyone know of any reliable, non-scam survey websites or e-mail reading websites that pay well? I know that a lot of the survey websites out there are scams which is why I'm asking you.
cashcrate.com
I did it for a little while. I never received any money, because you have to make at lease 20 dollars before they will send you a check. Each survey you take is only worth 25 cents at the most. It got tiring and I am still getting junk mail from it all.
Just be weary about which surveys you take. Some will try to scam you, but the Cash crate site itself won't.
I severely suggest you get a real job, because you won't make enough money to support yourself doing this. Trust me!
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I have coldsores sometimes but usually only when I've been sick. Well, I have this boyfriend I've been making out with every weekend and it seems like I always keep getting coldsores after we make out! WHY?! My lips get all swollen and weird after we're finished and when I wake up the next day I have a cold sore. I'm getting tired of this. What can I do to stop these cold sores from making out?!
If it was herpes I doubt it would only occur after making out. Usually people get cold sores when their lips are chapped and raw, and that's what happens when you kiss. I'd say that's where your problem is coming from. Be sure to keep chapstick on your lips as much as possible, and that should help.
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Hey guys,
I'm curious to know if any of you know some great teen (ish) books that are about romance, any that include sex, relationships, etc. I've read plenty, but I'm still looking for more. Any help is much appreciated :) the ones I read are more PG 13, so I'm looking for books that go into more detail.
Thanks!
The Luxe Series by Anne Godbersen is good. It's got teen romance in it, but it is also full of lies, deceit, cheating, and all sorts of good stuff.
I think you would like any Sarah Dessen novels. I sort of got bored with them after a while, but you may like them. I think you would especially enjoy This Lullaby
Of course I am going to say Twilight as well. Hey! You did ask for a teen love story and it doesn't get much more lovey dovey then that. But you might also like The Host as well. It's Stephenie Meyer's other novel and even though it's a little sci-fi, it's got a romantic undertone to it.
If you like them, let me know in my inbox and I will suggest some more! :)
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My first son I didnt pack anything to go to the hospital because he came a month earlier. Went to my doctor appt and I was 4 cm already. I am now pregnant with my second child. What are we supose to pack? If I have her vaginally itll be one night and a c section is two nights in the hospital unless there are complications.
http://www.babycenter.com/packing-for-the-hospital-or-birth-center
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Hello im 19 and my boyfriend who is 21 wants to join the army/military. Not full blown army but like working with computers and such. He asked me what i thought yesterday and it was kind of a shock. He said him and one of his friends were talking about joining and he convinced him to go. He basically is just waiting my "approval" but i want him to do what makes him happy. He said after he goes for basic training he will only have to leave one weekend out of the month for like 2 years. Im not really sure how anything works. He just brought this upon me yesterday. The only downfall is that he will be gone for 10 months touring afghanistan or something. We've been together for about 2 years now and 10 months is a long time and i dont think we can go without seeing each other that long. He is basically only going into the army for the money. We are very serious and he said when he comes back he'll have money so we can plan a wedding and maybe some other big stuff. If he goes i dont know how im going to cope with him being gone we see each other every day! Any ideas or suggestions? I do rate!
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First of all, I just want to say that WittyUsernameHere's answer is just as cynical and harsh as loveisforever's answer is unrealistic and overly romantic.
No one on this website is able to tell you if your relationship can handle this. We don't know anything about you, your boyfriend, or your relationship. WittyUsername is right in assuming you and your boyfriend are both going to change a lot over that ten months. You will both grow and change, and your boyfriend will see things you could only dream up in your nightmares. More than likely it will have a negative effect on him. Those are just the facts. That is just how it is. My step father was a soldier in Desert Storm, and that was almost twenty years ago. He has PTSD now, and it still effects him to this day.
We don't know if your relationship can handle that kind of stress. It will be more difficult than you can probably imagine right now. You shouldn't stop him from going if this is what he wants to do though. My advice is to take a break during that ten month period. That doesn't mean to break up or see other people, it just means you should take that time to focus on you. Work on going to school and focusing on your future and your friends. Is there something you have been wanting to try but have been afraid to pursue since you are in a long term relationship? If so, go for it now! Your boyfriend is doing what he thinks is best for him, and that means you can too. Take full advantage of the situation.
Support him. Support his decisions. Focus on yourself. And then worry about your relationship.
Good luck!! :)
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I got my second hole (on my ear) pierced last summer. Since then I've changed my earrings about 3 times, but every time i take an earring out of my right ear it bleeds a little.. then i looked in the mirror and there's this tiny pimple-looking bump next to the piercing and it's red. what could this be? there's no pain on the piercing, and only bleeds when i take the earring out. i did have really tight earrings on before, so maybe it's a blister. any ideas?
ANY advice is appreciated :)
You may be allergic to nickel. My mom is the same way and she can only wear hypoallerginic jewelry. It's not that expensive, so try only wearing that kind for a while. If it doesn't get better, ask your piercer or a doctor.
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In February, we have music this semester! Our music teacher tells us to sing alone. Individual singing. I'm really scared. I'm a girl whose very very shy too! Last year, when I sang alone, my legs were shivering and I had tears in my eyes. My voice gets stuck and I cannot bear how everyone stares at me. I need to get through this. I need to become more confident. I try everything. But I can't. I have one more month left..so please give me a good advice and I will be very thankful to you!.
I know what you are going through. I took chorus my Junior year of high school. I have no idea what I was thinking, because I am an awful singer. Anyways I didn't know we had to sing by ourselves in the class, and when I found out I flipped. I was extrememly pissed off and scared to death. There were so many people in the class and I didn't want to make a fool of myself. I had to do it though, or the teacher would fail me. I sucked it up, but on a straight face, and got it over with as fast as I could. It was over before I knew it, and no one even paid attention to me. Just do it. That's the best advice I can give you. Don't think about what you are doing, and try not to make it into a big deal.
You will be fine. Think about it. What's the worst that could happen?
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i just got my belly button pierced on wednesday and it didnt hurt at all. later that night it was a little sore. when i woke up the next morning i had the worst abdominal pains ever. its not infected but it is red and extremely sore but thats how it should be. its now saturday and my stomach pains keep getting worse and no matter what type of medicine i take it makes no difference. can anyone tell me how long my stomach is goin to hurt for? not my belly button my actual stomach.
That's not normal. Getting your belly button pierced shouldn't cause internal stomach pains. I am not convinced it has something to do with you getting a piercing at all. It may be something else.
Regardless you need to get to the doctor as soon as you can. It could be serious.
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this is the third day i have missed my period, i was supposed to have it between december 29 - january 5. i took a pregnancy test on january 3 at night, it came out negative. then i took it january 6 when i woke up the next morning and it still came out negative. my boyfriend was also 100% positive that i wasn't pregnant. i don't feel bloated, i haven't been eating a lot, my boobs aren't tender. what is possibly going on?
There are so many things that could potentially be going on here.
Of course if you are having unprotected sex there is always a chance of pregnancy. If your period is only three days late you may have taken the test to early. Women constantly misinterpret home pregnancy tests when they are taken early because the amount of the pregnancy hormone, HGC is so small. If you still haven't started in a couple of weeks, take another test.
If you are on birth control you probably aren't pregnant. It's common to miss periods when you take birth control. If you are stressed out it could be causing your period to delay.
Your best bet is to retest in a few weeks if you don't start. :)
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I'm 18, and I'm pregnant. My fiance, he's happy I just told him not to long ago and he went from being a total creep to me, to being the perfect guy. Why? I don't know. He's just amazing. My Dad on the other hand..... Not so much, remember that saying your dad always told you when you were little. "I'll always have your back not matter what." Well what the heck happened to that? Me and my dad used to be really close. But now it seems that he can't stand to be around me. He keeps dropping hints that he wants me out, but for right now I don't have any where to go, or I would get out. I wish I knew what to do, I guess that is why I'm resulting to this. And not I'm not asking if I should keep my baby, I'm going to keep my baby. Deffinately. I love my child already. And so does the father of my child. My question is what the hell do I do about my dad?
Your father is probably just scared. You are his baby and now his baby is having a baby. It's a scary thought, and I am sure it will take him a while to get used to the idea of being a grandpa.
I am sure it's not that he wants you out of the house. If he wanted you out of the house he would kick you out. You are 18 years old, and a legal adult. He is not longer legally obligated to take care of you. If he is a smart guy he understands that you will have a tough time being a parent. Maybe he thinks it would be ideal for you to get your own place? It actually is. If you stay with your dad you will be tempted to allow him to do all of the parenting. He has had all the children he wants. More than likely he doesn't want to raise anymore.
If you don't already, you should consider watching the MTV show, "Teen Moms". It's a wake up call to girls like me that being a teenage mother is not easy, and it is always best to wait. However that's not saying you won't be an amazing mom. It can be done, and you can do it. Maybe the show will give you an idea on how your life will be from now on.
Get a job if you don't already have one. If you do have a job, start a savings plan. You will also need to invest in a car as soon as possible. You won't be able to get the car of your dreams, but as long as it's reliable that's all that matters. Get to the doctor if you aren't going already. Look into some income based apartments. Some are actually quite nice and will make sure the apartment is affordable for you. Always keep your child's best interest at heart, and right now getting a stable home and income is what's best.
Talk to your father. Explain your plans to him and be sure to tell him you don't expect any help from him, though some would be greatly appreciated. He should find comfort in knowing you are prepared as you can be. Let him know you are exited. Just because this situation isn't ideal doesn't mean a baby isn't a blessing regradless of the timing. Get him exited. Ask him to come to your ultrasounds with you.
Don't just tell him. Show him you are going to be responsible through action. Start cooking the meals, start looking for a job and an apartment, and start cleaning up after yourself. After you have the baby I can almost guarentee he will be exited!
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hey there is a couple of girls in my school that dont like me.. i seriously dont know why,today i whent with my friend to get a lunch and they were just starring at me..but i didnt stare at them back..i pretended i didnt see them ...it really bothers me when people dont like me because i never done anything bad to them ,and this girl when i pass by her she stares at me,,and no i dont have the guts to go up to her and confront er about this because i know this would just start a fight and am not up for this..so can you please tell me what to do ? thannks
Girls are girls. They are mean, catty, and bitchy. We just have to learn to deal with it. You have three options.
The first is my favorite. It's what I always do when I am in the situation; If someone is staring at you, stare back. Eventually they will get so uncomfortable at the situation that they look away. It's quite hilarious actually :)
The second option you have is to ignore them. Let them stare, let them do whatever they want. If it doesn't bother you, they will eventually give it a rest.
You obviously don't want to do the third, but it doesn't have to result in a fight. Be mature about the situation, and next time you catch them staring walk over to them, sit down and say hey. Tell them you are getting a bad vibe and want to know if you have offended them in some kind of way. If they say yes, deal with the situation and try to resolve it. If they say no, say something along the lines of, "That's cool. I see you glancing my way a lot, so anytime you want to talk feel free :)" Say it seriously, say it like a smart ass. Either way they will shut up from then on out.
Good luck :)
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Ok so I live with my best friend, and for the most part she is a decent and good friend, but this girl is sooooo insanely attached to her boy friend. Let me start out by describing their relationship. They have been together for over 2 years and neither of them have ever been with anyone else. She drops everything for him all the time. She'll make plans with me and then not show up because he called and she 'forgot' our plans. She cry's if she cant see him for a day, she is constantly txting him, calls him for an hour every night. I live with her and we share a bed room and he is here almost everyday. I just feel like she puts him before her own life, and she's constantly upsetting our friendship because of him and I am at my wits end. I dont want to tell her 'Hey, your adicted to your boyfriend and I cannot stand that you put him before me all the time!' because this would end in an emotional spout. So please someone give me advice as to what to before I smother her in her sleep lol jk.
This is classic. The boyfriend/bestfriend jealousy debate is never ending, and there is never an ending solution that leaves everyone happy. And unfortunately, it's usually the friend that gets the short end of the deal.
Unless this relationship is abusive or unhealthy, it's best for you not to tell your friend she spends all of her time with her boyfriend. This will leave her on the defensive and will only turn into a fight. Instead, sit her down and tell her you want to have a girl's night. Make it very clear how important this is to you. Have her tell her boyfriend in advance, pick a day, and make it a rule that neither of you can call or text boyfriends. Then you can mention your concern without sounding jealous.
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so i just realized i love to read. haha. i used to hate it but i never really gave it a chance. soo does anyone know some good books? i lovee mitch albom hes probably my favorite author and i'm 17/f.
thankss (:
Only read Hopkins or Sebold novels if you have a strong stomach. These authors, especially Hopkins, don't sugar coat anything. Their books are raw almost to the point of being disturbing. They are amazingly written though, and have a lot of real emotion behind them.
While we are on the subject of disurbing books, Go Ask Alice is pretty good. It's by an anonymous author and is written in the POV of a teenage girl addicted to drugs. Perks of Being a Wallflower was one of the first novels I read in high school and it's pretty great. It was a little overly hyped up at my school, but it's still a good coming of age story.
Sarah Dessen is a good author. Her books are much lighter and usually revolve around love of some sort. This Lullaby and Just Listen are two of my favorites by her.
Anne Godbersen's Luxe series is very good. I haven't gotten a chance to read the last book yet, but the first three books were great.
Jodi Picoult is one of my favorite authors. Her books are always interesting, and will 9 times out of 10 have a twist at the end, so be prepared! Harvesting the Heart, 19 Minutes, Vanishing Acts, and Plain Truth are some of her best, in my opinion.
Stephenie Meyer is good. Unless you have been hiding under a rock somewhere, I am sure you knew this one was coming. The Twilight Saga is a series of books that are really easy reads and are a love story anyone can eat up. The Host is also great though. In fact, I sort of like it better than the Twilight books.
I have to mention J.K Rowling as well. The Harry Potter novels are amazing. I started reading Harry Potter when I was only twelve years old and it is what started my love for reading novels in the first place.
If you have read Pride and Prejudice or Sense and Sensibility you might enjoy the lighter, more comical version of the classics; P&P & Zombies and S&S & Seamonsters.
Anyways, I love reading. If you are looking for a specfic genre or a follow up with more books let me know :)
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im 15 years old and in the 9th grade ive been best friend with this girl named rebecca, we've been best friends since 6th grade and we were pretty much inseperable! we hung out every chance we could, she's slowly starting to change though and now its like she doesnt even want to hangout with me anymore. everytime i ask her to hang out with me shes always like ''i cant im grounded'' or ''my moms being gay and wont let me do anything'' and then like 20 minutes later on myspace she'll post her status as hanging out with so and so! when she just told me she was grounded. why would she lie to me? i mean i understand shes going to have other friends but that doesnt mean she has to get rid of all of her old ones.i'd rather her tell me the truth then lie to me, if she doesnt want to hangout with me i'd rather her just tell me instead of her just making some lame excuse! i mean why would she tell me shes grounded and then post that on myspace when not only is she my friend on there but i was online too! im her only true friend and she treats me like dirt, she doesnt even talk to me at school she just walks past me and looks at me. she took me off her top and everytime i try taking to her shes really short with me expecially when shes with her other friends. i even bought her something for christmas i messaged her on myspace saying that i got her a gift and that if she wanted me to i would bring it by after my mom gets off. all she replied back with is i have a friend over and then she signed off! i still havent been able to give her gift, because she still has no time for me. i want to confront her about it but i have no idea what to say i dont want her to hate me because she is my best friend i just dont know what to do. i actually care about our friendship and is willing to do anything i can to fix it so any advice will help!
You are not alone, as you probably can already tell from the advice you have received. I too went through the same thing. It's heartbreaking, so I can understand how you must be feeling.
You guys are growing up, and as you grow up you will find yourself growing apart from many of your old friends, but you will also get closer to many new ones. When the same thing happened to me I just stopped trying. Why would I want to hang out with someone who didn't want to hang out with me? I made new friends. It was the hardest thing I ever had to do. High school is hard enough without having to make new friends, but I did. You can too.
Make peace with the situation. I didn't do that, and spent the next four years of my life at odds with this girl. She obviously disliked me for ignoring her and making new friends, and I disliked her for ditching me in the first place. We talked shortly after graduation, and even hung out once. We haven't spoken since, but I feel better knowing we don't hate each other. It's nice knowing it doesn't have to end like that.
If you feel up to it, confront her. Don't ask to go to her house, just do it. Be polite, but let her know how you feel. Explain your hurt and call her out on being a coward. Then tell her you have no desire to be friends with someone who doesn't care about you. Wish her well, and then leave. Meet new people, make new friends. You can do it with a little self esteem :)
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In the story:
Beware of the Dog BY ROALD DAHL;
1. What is the setting for this story?
2. Who are the central characters? What details, or lack of details, does the author provide to develop these characters?
3. From whose point of view is the story told?
4. Briefly summarize the plot.
5. What is the climax of the story?
6. How does the author create suspense in the tale?
7. What is the irony in this story?
8. As a reader, how satisfied are you with the conclusion of this story? Explain your reasoning.
The person below me already told you we don't do homework. However if you are having problems reading the story, go to sparknotes. They have plot overviews, symbols, character lists, everything.
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I have a free response question im having a lot of trouble with:
Angeosperms (flowering plants) and vertebraes obtain nutrients from their environment in different ways:
(A) Discuss the type of nutrition and the nutritional requirements of angeosperms and vertebraes.
(B) Describe 2 structural adaptions in angersperms for obtaining nutrients from the environment. relate structure to function.
(C) Interdependence in nature is evident in symbiosis. Explain 2 symbiotic relationships that aid in nutrient uptake, using examples from angiosperms and/or vertebrates.
need asap
anything will help, will rate 5.
thanks!
For future reference, sparknotes is always a very helpful site.
When I had biology last sememster, google was my best friend. Has Cux has already shown you, you can find just about anything on the internet. Type in key words or the question and you will find it with a little hunting. :)
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If i have non-infectious vaginitis or a possible allergic reaction down there and i am applying Vagisil anti-itch creme how long will it take for the itching to finally dissipate?
If you are using a cream and still experiencing symptoms after a week, you should probably go to the doctor. You could have a yeast infection. If that is the case you can buy an over the counter medication and you should be cured within three days. Monistat actually has an overnight treatment as well.
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My Boyfriend of 4 months and I just had sex for the first time. Although this was my first time ever, it wasn't his, he's been with other girls of all shapes and sizes. He's very confident in his... sexual abilities. Anyway, we tried it a couple different times, and he just could not hold an erection. He said Its the first time that's ever happened to him, and he didn't know why he couldn't cum. He kept reassuring me that it wasn't me, and that he was interested, but he just couldn't stay hard. I Don't know of any other reasons why this problem would occur if he's done it so much before. is there anything I could do, or are there any other reasons why this could be happening? Thanks guys..
Sincerly, First time Failure.
Did he drink any alcohol that day? That could always play a part in him being unable to hold an erection. First times are never great, and are usually always akward. I doubt it has anything to do with not being attracted to you. He was probably just nervous about having sex with you for the first time.
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So ii am currently 14 ;; going to turn 15 in September of 2010 ;; ii had a job last summer && it was great pay && everything but they got a replacement for me since i didnt want to work over school time ;; ii am currently looking for a job for the summer time ;; ii have experience in all sorts of office work such as filing, computer work, scanning, pulling files, etc. I have some experience with microsoft word, excel, & powerpoint. I would love to earn $300+ for 2 weeks with a full time position ;; full time/part time doesnt matter to me. I really want a job to support my family. Any suggestions? Must be around North Hollywood [[91605]] OR Glendale [[91204]]!!! Thanks!
I had a summer job at Subway right before my junior year of high school. I made minimum wage (which at the time was 6.50) and worked full time. I made about 200 dollars every two weeks.
Now that minimum wage has increased you should be able to make that much working full time at any summer job. Don't expect to get a job working in an office or anything. More than likely you will end up working in food. Mcdonalds is always hiring, and at your age that's about all you will find. It's great that you have experience in that kind of stuff though. It will look great on all of your applications.
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Do Crest whitening strips actually work?
I can't exactly trust an ad for this information, so if you have actually used the Crest whitening strips, could you tell me whether or not they worked for you?
I just want to know if they're worth getting.
They do work. I have used them in the past, and could tell a difference in just two uses. I think they come with 50 strips, and if you use one everyday you will notice a dramatic change.
Don't use them all the time though. If you want whiter teeth, use the strips to get the desired look. But be weary that the bleach wears off enamel, and that's something you can never get back.
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