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Hey, I'm Melody! I've been giving advice on and off since 2003. I'm a 23 year old military wife, expecting a baby boy in August, and working on my Bachelor's degree. :)
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I am about 23 weeks pregnant. My boyfriend just got me a rabbit, to keep in my apartment because i am usally there alone. i was wondering if there is anything i should be catious about with the rabbit so i dont harm my baby. Thank You
The rabbit shoulnd't harm your baby at all unless you are allergic to it. I'm sure you are fine. If you have any other concerns about the subject, google it or ask your doctor.
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Do you think if A guy had sex with you [and used you]
must have liked you at one point?
Or thought you were pretty at least??
this didnt happen to me, i was wondering because it happend to my friend.
If you would have asked this question without the [and used you part] I may have said yes, he could have liked you at one point. However if he used you; he was just another guy who wanted a piece of ass and score. I'm sorry if this is a little to upfront of an anwer for you, but it's the truth. Could he have thought you were pretty? Sure. Who would be attracted to someone enough to have sex with them if they didn't find them pretty? But does this mean anything at all? No. It doesn't.
You're friend was used, and I don't think he liked her. Maybe as a friend, but not enough to start a relationship. Which is mainly what sex is about. Sorry.
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everyone always says that you should be totally comfortable before you have sex, and that if youre nervous youre not ready.. but then people always say youre gonna be nervous your first time. so how can you tell?
You should be totally comfortable with the PERSON you are going to have sex with. Not the idea of having sex in general. No one is ready for something bigger than a .. hotdog to go into the vagina for the first time. NO 0NE. Most people just get used to the idea. Usually girls are going to be nervous about having sex the first time. However you should be totally comfortable and not have any second thoughts about the person you are going to have sex with.
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Has anybody here ever had a yeast infection? I'm afraid that I might... I'm 17 and I haven't ever experienced one. I have a very small, round bump on my vulva (imagine what a really round pimple feels like). It feels a little sore but I think that's because it started out as a little cut. Might it just be an infected cut? I don't want to do anything without being sure... and I absolutely am terrified of hospitals and I'm not too interested in telling parentals anyway. So... advice? Thoughts?
I've had a yeast infection before. I was younger, but from what I can remember, it doesn't sound like that's what's wrong with you. I'm pretty sure the "round pimple" symptom is not a sign of a yeast infection. You say you aren't to apt to telling your parents, but unless someone else gives you a better and more accurate answer than I do, you may have to. I honestly can't think of anything that it could be besides an STD and i'm not really wanting to go as far as telling you that's what it is.
Go get it checked out, you may not want to, but in the end it's the best thing you can do.
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hey i always hear men and stuff always talking about hott girls they had sex with and stuff and how they were shaven and everything...well do junior high boys and around that age really care if a girl shaves down there? because i know people my age are having sex now.
guys are guys no matter what age they are.
all guys have different preferances about girl's vaginas. some like them shaven while others like them closey trimmed. then there is a select few that like them untouched (eg, completely and totally hairy) it doesn't matter if you are a man or a boy. it's personal taste.
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How soon after you have sex can you test for pregnancy. I think i may be pregant. I should get my period in another week or two? Should i test in a couple of days or should i wait untill i actually miss a period?
EPT tests will tell you 5 days before your missed period. if i were you though, i'd wait until i actually missed my period. it would be cheaper because you can't tell one way or another if you are pregnant before your missed period.
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i am haveing sex and i am on the pill and have been for almost to years and im not sure how long this has been goingon but whenever i get my period ( i get it for 3 days) on the 1st and 2nd day it is usualy brown not red and it hurts really bad i never used to have cramps but now i get them terriably is this bad or is it normal idki just need help.
it's normal for the blood to be brown. when you got put on the pill, they nurse should have explained that to you. if not, now you know. the pill is supposed to make cramps hurt less, but i'm not so sure why your's are worse. the pill can be quite complex. for some, it makes the period lighter and for others, heavier. same with the duration of your period and losing or gaining weight. it has different effects on different people. who knows? maybe it just made your cramps worse for some reason.
if they get to unbearable, tell your mom.
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ok well i was wondering if you have sex while your on you period if the chances of getting pregnant are greater than when your not on it.
thanks =]
the chances of you getting pregnant while you are on your period exist; but it's not likely.
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me and my boyfriend waited 9 months before we had sex .. now WHENEVER we hang out we do it like 5 times .. i dont want it to get old .. and i think we do it too much .. he feels differently but im not sure how to talk to him .. please help =[
tell him exactly what you asked in this question. if he doesn't understand; make him. if he gets mad at you; dump him. if he's ok with it; problem solved.
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ok i have a question. I heard if you dont get ur cherry popped during sex then you cant have kids. Is that true? And another thing. I also heard if you dont get ur cherry popped you are still a virgin. Is that true?
You can get pregnant even if you're cherry isn't popped. Promise ;)
Everyone looks at virginity differently. Some people think if you do anything at all sexual [mutual masturbation, oral sex, et cetera] then you aren't a virgin. While others think that you have to have actual intercourse before you can be considered 'non-virginal'. lol - And then there's the others who think you are a virgin until your cherry has been popped. You get to choose for yourself which you believe. I personally think that you are a virgin if you have never had intercourse. I think you are no longer a virgin if you have sex whether your cherry pops or not.
Blah.
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So i gave my boyfriend a hangjob and i got some cum on my finger but i wipped it off on his shirt... gross i know but we were hugging and then about 40 mins later i masterbated. can i be pregnant. i dont ahve to feeling that i am but im suppose to get my period soon so hopefully i will know. please answer back!
no. you aren't pregnant. not if that's all that happened and in no other way could semen have been penetrated into you. anyways, i'm sure if you waited 40 minutes, the sperm died. no, sperm doesn't die as soon as it hits the air, so don't fall for that. but it does eventually die after so long. don't worry.
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how long does a girl hurt for after shes had sex?
usually no longer than an hour or 2 at most the first time. maybe a little sore the next day. not much.
throughout all sexual encounters, depending on how tight you are, 30 minutes at most.
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I'm 16, and some of my friends from our school football team go out drinking after the games and stuff. What could happen to them if they get caught?
If they are caught they'll get charged on multiple accounts. First of all, they are underage. So there's the first big no-no. Second, they will be kicked off the football team. Third, they could get there lisence/permit taken away. I'm sure the trouble could be more or less depending on where you live; but basically that's it.
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K this is a serious question but my periods ALWAYS beeen messed up but like 2 monthes ago i slept with this guy and he asked me if i was on birth controll and i said no .. and he didnt wear a condom .. but he pulled out in time .. and he said he even did .. but i havnt yet got my period and im a little freaked out weather im pregnant or not .. and I dont have money to buy a pregnancy test ? .. do you think im pregnant just from those sings and is it possible that i could be pregnant if he pulled out but he still wasnt wearing a condom ??? please help me ASAP????
if you had sex without protection, it doesn't matter if he pulled out or not. that is the least reliable method of birth control, and i personally don't even think it should be considered a 'method'.
if you don't have the money to buy a pregnancy test, go to a clinic. they will let you take a pregnancy test there; and if you are pregnant, they will take care of you. [get you a doctor, help tell your parents, tell you your options, ect].
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I saw a commercial for like, a birth control ring or something? The ring was quite large, so how do you put that in? Does it go in your vagina? How does it work.
Thanks.
yea, it goes in your vagina. you insert it like you would a tampon, and it works just like a condom only for a girl.
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I am 16/f considering going on the Pill. I read today that it can cause birth defects and I don't want to put my children at risk in the future. I googled a few sites and from what I can gather it is a myth. One site said your only at risk of birth defects if you were on the Pill at the time of getting pregnant. I take it this means if you left it a while before trying to concieve you would be ok. I just don't know about condoms; are they really that reliable? I know they have a 85-98% success rate but they just look so thin and like you'd tear them so easy! thanks!
you are completely right, birth defects from using the pill is just a myth. they wouldn't be able to sell them if that was the case.
as for condoms, they are 95% effective, and work really well. but you are right, they can rip; but not as easily as you are making it out to be. if you apply the condom correctly, and follow the directions that come with it, you will be fine.
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I get really REALLY bad cramps on the first day of my period. It's just so bad sometimes I don't know how I don't faint from pain. I've thrown up a couple of times when it's been really bad. I was wondering whether taking the Pill would stop these cramps? Or stop them happening so badly...Anyone with experience??? Thanks.
taking the pill does help with cramps, but it won't make them go completely away. they will still suck, & it honestly won't make that big of a difference. try taking ibuprofin or another pain killer & lie down with a heating pad. take a nap, and don't eat greasy foods.
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last night when me and my boyfriend got home we got @ my house @ like 9:30, but he didnt have to be home till around 10:30 so we just stayed outside on my porch and he gave me my birthday present, then we started kissing, touching, making out, ect. but then 10:30 rolled around he left, i went inside and went to the bathroom and (this is weird) my vagina was like swelled up like twice the normal size,w/e i dont know why. it's not like we have never done any of that before ya know. i just need to know what happened, since this never happened before. but maybe it's becausewe were standing and making out? like for so long?
you were probably just horny.
don't worry, it happens to everyone.
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Im 13, and im a Chathlioc [sp?] Cristian. Well, in school, we went to Confessing. I told the preist all my sins, but one. I masturbate. I did'nt wanna just be flat out, I maturbate, because the priest is friends with my family. Is this wrong. As much as I love God and Jesus, I just can't say I maturbate. Is it a sin anyway?
FYI; it's "Catholic, Christian, & Confession". Just so you know. :]
that's not my religion so i'm not really sure in what they believe in. i'm pretty sure though, that for all kinds of christians, masturbation is a sin. i don't see anything wrong with it though, but i'm not going to through my opinions in your face. but catholics HAVE to confess their sins during confession. it's part of the religion in general. if you can't bring yourself to do this, then maybe it's not the right religion for you.
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im in 8th grade, and please dont tell me that it is too young to be having sex--I KNOW!! i am a christian, and it's just that i live in a really small town, and so everybody just seems to know when you've lost your virginity, and i dont know, its just that there is quite a bit of pressure put on having sex. but my question is, is that ive heard that you have a less chance of getting pregnant while on your period. i would just die if i decided to have sex and ended up getting pregnant!! but the problem is, is that i dont know if guys will have sex if a girl is on her period. is that gross to them??
don't listen to any rumors. you can get pregnant while you are on your period. you can get pregnant anytime. it's just less common for girls to get pregnant while being on their periods. if you don't want to have sex, then don't. wait until you find someone you love, because if you lose it now to just some kid, you'll regret it very much when you finally find someone you love very much.
my boyfriend doesn't think it's gross to have sex while i'm on my period. but some guys do. it's a personal preferance. just ask them.
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