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well i been heartbroken over this guy named josiah for 4-5 years, we were close and almost dated. he led me on and used me til didnt need me anymore, and is my first love, kiss who lost virginity to etc. we ent from talking alot flirting etc to all sudden it stopped. idk why still, and foundout from someone that is married now. i tried sending a friend request on facebook, playing it off as dont have these feelings still, but denied request but didnt block. want talk to him so badly, as did have a miscarriage of his child and never griefed properly as kept it from my family cause they lecture me about having feelings for him tho thats not something i can help , tried everything i could think of to move on, and now in a relationship with lance, who treats me like queen do care for just not as much as do josiah. he knows had thing for him in past, as told him how he hurted me badly emotionally dont think it was intentional tho cuase he's best guy i ever knew before lance. what should i do? and want make my current relationship work though im just settling for lance since cannot have josiah like we were... (link)
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First off, I know what it's like to have a first love haunt you for years. You keep thinking about the good memories, the plans you had and your good experiences. Those are good to remember.. But you must also think about all the bad times.. the times he made you feel crappy. Or the times he didn't treat you very well. The times he made you feel like you weren't worth it. And then you can look back on your relationship correctly. It is true that you will always remember your first love. But at some point we all have to come to realizing that sometimes first, second, orthird loves just don't work. It is not based on anything you or he/she may have done, other than it's just not meant to be.
I think Lance is a great catch! And it's not that your settling. Because your not. It could be that you need to heal your past wounds first. If Lance makes u have butterlies in your stomach; And if you get excited to talk to Lance or see him than that's a great sign! But you may be feeling not ready to put yourself 100% into the relationship then maybe work yourself a bit..
I found a program online that has helped me several times. Its called healmybrokenheart.com. I have never paid for the service but have used the online resources/materials and email subscriptions. I recommend you trying it out.
And just remember.. It does get easier. And you can Be happy. You are worth it.
Jasmine**
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thank you jsamine! will check the website out willing try to rid these feelings since i assume itll never happen between me and josiah ever again.and lance is a good guy...
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