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Long story short, I'm from Los Angeles, went to an amazing school, left the US and moved to the Middle East. I've been backpacking around Europe and the Middle East on and off since August 2013. Would you like to converse? Here's my Forum
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I'm 15 and my friends(a little older than me) have been dating all that stuff.
I'm homechooled,and I live in a really small town so I don't really know any guys, and I really don't have much of a desire to date.
My family is Christian(I even live across the street from my church) and conservative.
I was wondering about when I have a boyfriend. I would have no idea what to do since I've never dated before, And considering that my freinds have already done sexual things, I'm worried he'd pressure me.
I would much rather wait to lose my virginity(preferably till marrage),I don't want a relationship to be all about sex and making out and stuff, I want it to be like we're best friends and all I really need is a guy who is nice, has a sense of humor, and treats me well.
I don't know...I guess I'm just afraid that when I do get a boyfriend he'll try to pressure me to do stuff I'm not ready for and I might not be able to say no... I'm really shy and I just don't know how to talk to guys either...
To add to what the other person said, don't feel obligated to do things just because your friends are doing them. I know that sounds like social suicide of sorts, but it's not. People develop at different rates, sure, but there are also lots of external factors that affect our individual priorities.
With my group of friends from high school, one lost her virginity extremely early and another is already married. Two very different scenarios from my own life, but that doesn't mean that those girls aren't still my friends.
As far as a relationship being all about sex, I would argue that most relationships eventually go there. That doesn't mean that yours would have to go there anytime soon. There are lots of other aspects to a relationship. Anyone who tries to pressure you doesn't have your best interests at heart, and that's not the type of significant other you want.
If you're worried about not being able to express your boundaries, I would agree that you're also not ready to put yourself into situations in which your boundaries would need to be expressed. Communication is the most important thing in a relationship.
Don't worry and speak your mind.
Amy
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