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Hi, I'm Courtney. I want to become a pre-school teacher :] and I've been though a whole heck of a lot, so feel free to ask me anything, i'll do my best to help ! xxo."i refuse to sink."
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I need you guys to help me.I have a boyfriend who I love very much;he's my baby and the reason I'm happy everyday. Then,why do I feel attracted to other men as well?Since me and my boyfriend have very good sex.Last week,I was at my best friend's house and when he approached me to hug me,I felt sexually aroused when he pressed his body against mine:( This isn't correct.I know it,but I just don't know how to make it stop.Help?Thanks!!
Just because you love your boyfriend, doesnt mean that being in a relationship right now with him is the best thing for you. If you're thinking about having sex with other guys, especially a friend of yours that you have physical contact with, than you need to re-evalutae what you want right now. I know that you WANT to want your boyfriend, but you cant force your feelings towards other guys to just go away. You might need to just go on a break for now, and test out the waters with other people, get it out of your system, really get to know yourself and explore other options or other feelings you are having. because lets put it this way, if your boyfriend was in your position and he had these feelings towards one of his female friends or any girl in general, you wouldnt be happy.. but you also wouldnt know, and i think thats the part that would hurt you the most. You need to be honest with him, because im sure thats how you expect him to be with you, right ? and if you love him, youll love him enough to do this for him.. maybe even love him enough to let him go. Putting yourself in his shoes, its probably in his best interest if you just break it off for now.. not saying that it has to be concrete, but wandering eyes and feelings are never a good thing in a relationship, especially keeping it a secret because sooner or later it will surface, and then everything will be a big mess. You definitely dont want that.
Maybe you could even talk to him about it, or talk about your feelings. maybe hes not pleasuring you in a physical way anymore.. so you could try different things in that respect (and talk to him about this)
there is no quick fix to this, you really have to sit down, take a deep breath, and think about why youre thinking these things about other guys. youre not a horrible person, and youre not TRYING to hurt him, because I can tell its hurting you that youre even thinking these thoughts. just dont act upon them unless youre single. you could wait a couple weeks to see if these feelings just go away and it was a temporary phase, but if not, I would definitely talk to your boyfriend about how youre feeling or just ask for a break. theres not much else you can do sweetie, i know its rough, but youve got to do whats right for not only you, but your boyfriend too.
good luck ! xxo.
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