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Hi, I'm Courtney. I want to become a pre-school teacher :] and I've been though a whole heck of a lot, so feel free to ask me anything, i'll do my best to help ! xxo.
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Okay so there is this real close friend of mine.We are classmates. And we had this sleepover, a couple of us, guys and girls. I just broke up two months back with my bf who cheated..so i am still getting over it...And my friend broke up a few days ago. We ended up chatting throughout the night, and i dont know what happened but we ended up kissing each other too..it was not our intention of doing ANYTHING like that. we pretty much have feelings for our ex's and not each other. i dont know why and how it happened.
we have promised not to tell this to anyone. and that this incident will stay a secret between the two of us forever. but i feel weird about it, i feel disgusted for doing such a stupid thing now. do you think things will change because of this? i am scared he would tell someone which i really dont want.HELP. how should i handle this?

you were both vulnerable.. which is why you both kissed eachother. parts of you probably wanted to prove to yourselves that just because someone broke up with you or you broke up with someone, it doesnt mean you cant have fun or be with someone else. sometimes things just happen.. sometimes theyre meant to happen.. you both just acted on your impulses, its okay. youre both single. so neither of you were cheating.
dont be disgusted with yourself. people make mistakes. its not the end of the world. it happened. now its time to deal with it and move on from it. a couple months from now, itll be funny to you :] dont worry.
and things will only change because of this IF you want them to or if dwell over what happened. its your choice.
also, talk to the guy. tell him how you feel and that you really dont want anyone to find out. and that you dont want what happened to ruin anything, even the friendship that you both have. communication is key, and if you express that you want this to never be spoken about, im sure he'll agree.. he agreed before.
just be calm, cool and collected. if you spaz about this or obsess over it, people will find out. just pretend it never happened and go from there, because nothing did happen.. it was just a kiss. thats it. nothing major. youre both single, and nothing bad happened. youre fine.
good luck ! hope i helped, my inbox is always open ! xxo.

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