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Hi, I'm Courtney. I want to become a pre-school teacher :] and I've been though a whole heck of a lot, so feel free to ask me anything, i'll do my best to help ! xxo."i refuse to sink."
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I'm 19 and a virgin. All of my friends have many partners and I'm still a virgin. Don't get me wrong, I'm no prude, I've done my share of things with guys and have had 2 long-term serious relationships and many opportunities to have sex. I feel like the reason why I'm still a virgin is because I'm afraid I'm going to get too close to that person. I guess I'm just one of those people who always have their guards up. But I feel like whenever I go to parties and we play never have i ever NOBODY is a virgin, and i mean nobody. People have made fun of me before saying things like "she's 19 and still a virgin!" and "i hope she loses it this summer"...but to be honest I don't want to until I know I have the right person. One of my "friends" always brings it up that I'm still a virgin at parties and I feel like its not necessary to just flat out tell people about my sex life. She has slept with 40 guys and I don't tell people that...I'm tired of being made fun of and looked down upon. How would you handle this?
im 18, and im still a virgin. and ive had and am in a long term relationship right now.
honestly. you just have to not care about what people think. you have morals and youre the girl guys are going to want to bring home to their moms.
you can do all of three things:
- brush it off and let it go [ignore it].
- stand up for yourself.
- let it get to you and peer pressure you into being like them.
and i KNOW youre not going to do the third option :] which im proud of you for. but i stand up for myself. im PROUD to be who i am and im proud ot be a virgin. im not a prude either, but i have no problem admitting im a virgin. im just waiting for the right time, the right guy, and someone who i know i can trust and who wont just leave me, because i am also afraid of getting close to people. and honestly.. losing your virginity is something that is very meanigful.. and for the girls who just give it away, dont respect themselves. at least you can say your clean and that you respect your body/morals. because the people who make fun of you are only trying to make themselves feel better.
i always tell myself that kind of stuff when people make fun of me, im almost 19.. i can think for myself, i dont need anyone else's opinions on how i choose to live my life. if someone has different views, fine. and if they wish to share their views with me WHILE making fun of me, ill go right back at them and stuck up for myself. it shuts them up real quick. you just have to be confident with yourself :] and i believe that you are.
dont let assholes get to you. i know how you feel, completely.
good luck ! i hope i helped, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me. xxo.
(Rating: 5) thanks :)