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My boyfriend says that we haven't been together long enough to be married and I don't understand. He and i met each other when i was 16 and he was 17. He always told me that once we graduated from college that we could get married. We were in programs in college that didn't allow us to get married or we'd get kicked out. Now that I'm 23 and he's 24. He still hasn't proposed after 7 years.After all of the family christmases, sex and 'i love you's'... It hurts. Do you think we haven't been together long enough?
Yes, For you I think you've been together plenty long enough. Men are a different story. Sometimes I think my boyfriend is... well... clueless. But we still love our men through all the crap they do.
Now as for your boyfriend I would just keep quiet, let him make his move. BUT give him a time frame ( don't tell him this though). Let's say by the time he you are 25-26 if he hasn't proposed you should start giving him not so subtle hints, or boldly tell him. Now I don't know if you are willing to wait that long but sometimes men are slow and , idk.... its like they have to take certain things slower or they will mess up. Sort of like how we have a plan of our future, husband, house, job, kids... all that is planned out. But for men... they know that they want or don't want those things but they really don't have any sort of plan or order for it. So they don't have a plan of when things will happen but that they will just know. I know this sounds really complicated and I did just drink a large black coffee... but I hope that makes sense. Give him a little more time, THEN hint if he is still being slow. Also some men want to be stable before they bring marriage into the picture, with a job and a way to financially support them as well as their wife. So maybe that's the case, I don't know, but you do. Be patient, this will not be the last time that he is dragging his feet on something. I wish you the best of luck.
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Thanks but no way am i waiting until im 26
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