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Hi, I'm Courtney. I want to become a pre-school teacher :] and I've been though a whole heck of a lot, so feel free to ask me anything, i'll do my best to help ! xxo."i refuse to sink."
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Hi! Im Gracie and Im 13 years old. I have an older brother named Matt(16) and a twin sister called (Lissa). Our dad is a single parent. Hes 36, he and my mom had kids really young. Hes 2 years older than mom. Dad says my mom had depression, I think it was Post Partnum depression. Anyway, My mom left a few months after we were born. Me and Lissa were 8 wks early so we had to stay in the hospital longer than most babies. Mom left a few months after we got out. The thing is, Ive been feelin a little upset lately and Ive been thinkin about my mom alot. I love my dad, he's the best dad in the world but I really wish my mom were around. Dad doesnt get things like boys and periods and hair and make-up. Its embarassing when I have to talk to my friends mom about periods and what to take for pain and its kinda annoying when I have to come on this website and ask people I dont even know about things that my mom should have been here to tell me (although I am grateful for the advice everyone here on advicenators give me, I didnt mean to be offensive guys). I just see other girls with their moms hanging out or going to school stuff and its not fair. Everyone tells me that I shouldnt get upset about something I cant change, but I cant help it. I try to get over it but I cant. Its stupid but I miss my mom even though I never got to know her. I guess I want to know how to stop feeling so bad about my mom, and how to get over it? Ive spent my whole life thinking about my mom and how great it would be if she came home and how awesome it would be to have a mom around like all my friends do. But Im soo sick of thinking about stuff that'll never happen but I STILL cant stop wondering, why did she leave? Why didnt she love me enough to stay? I really wanna forget about it, and stop caring because If she cared about me at all she would be here,right? Anyway, sorry for rambling and venting soo much, I sound pathetic lol. Any advice?
nono, you dont sound pathetic at all ! anybody in your position would feel the same way. and i cant say that i know how you feel, but i understand why you feel the way you do.
have you ever thought about talking to a therapist ? maybe a counselor in your school ? sometimes, talking to a professional really helps with what you have to deal with because what youre going through is not easy.
but you have to remember how many people in your life love and care about you. you have your dad, your brother, your siser, your friends.. a lot of people care about you. and i know it sucks that your mom just up and left your family, but you still have a family and thats not going to change.
i also know it sucks to have to ask about your personal stuff with people you dont know or people who dont really know you.. maybe you could talk to an aunt you have or a grandma. but if you dont have those people in your life either, you always have your friends, and your friend's moms and your dad. you ALWAYS have them. even though it might not be who you want, but theyre always going to be here for you.
you just have to look on the bright side. you have your health, your family, love, friends, the future... you cant dwell on the past. yes, your mom left.. but she left for her own reasons, you have to be stronger than she was. show everyone how strong you are, because you ARE strong.
youll never forget what happened, and that your mom left.. but you can use that memory to strenghten you instead of weaken you. let it be the motivation to not be like your mom, and to help yourself. talk to people. vent. see a therapist, and everything will get better. time is key.
maybe write about how you feel [poems, stories, songs.. etc] or sing, or draw.. anything to get your feelings out. involve yourself in a sport or a hobby, maybe even volunteer work to busy yourself with. hang out with your friends. just try to be happy and occupy your brain :] youll be okay, i promise.
i hope i helped ! good luck and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me, xxo.
(Rating: 5) Thanks alot! Your really nice and you made me feel alot better about everything. And it does suck but your right I still have an awesome dad, my bro and sis are okay and I have great friends and thats all that matters. And Im not too sure about the therapist thing, Im not sure how to get one. I knida dont want my freinds to know I see a therapist, Im not crazy or anything. Besides, Im not good with talking to people about personal stuff in person, you know? Im not shy but I guess its just hard for me to talk to people about it. But anyway Thanks again, you really helped me feel better about everything. Your awesome. :)
~Gracie~