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Hi, I'm Courtney. I want to become a pre-school teacher :] and I've been though a whole heck of a lot, so feel free to ask me anything, i'll do my best to help ! xxo."i refuse to sink."
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Hey :)
okay. I have been with my wonderful boyfriend for 2 months now. We are very close but i am still a virgin as i don't want to rush things. He has admitted to me that he wants to go further but is very caring and patient :) recently we got into a conversation about what would happen if i ever got pregnant,and when i asked him if he would stand by me, i was shocked at how hesitant he was to reply. He came out with things like, 'i'd probably jump off a cliff' and 'i don't know'.
I think it's an honourable thing for a man to stick by his baby's mama and even though i'm not planning on losing my virginity or getting pregnant any time soon, it still bums me out to hear him say that :( should i let it pass as a joke or doubt his character?
nonono, my boyfriend says that too ! and im still a virgin.. proud of it :] haha.
its normal to ask that question, but sometimes, when you catch your guy off guard, he doesnt know how to react.
its perfectly normal that he said i dont know and id probably jump off a cliff because they arent thinking that it will happen. if hes caring with you and treats you the way you deserve to be treated, then that shows his character, not by some question he answers.
most boys dont think about stuff like that, and us girls, we tend to overthink things. boys are more rational and im completely certain that he didnt mean he wouldnt stick by you if you got pregnant, its just not something hes ever really put thought into.
its like this: when i ask my boyfriend what he would want to name his kids if he ever had any and he replies with, "i dont know." ... it doesnt mean he never wants kids, yuh know ? it just means he hasnt really put any thought into it.
and im sure if you asked your boyfriend again, and you were like, "seriously. would you stay with me?" .. hed give you an honest answer :]
but dont worry ! im sure hes a good guy, just let it pass for now.. then bring it up again sometime in the future. and remember, how he treats you is how he would most likely treat his kids, if he ever had any.
good luck ! hope i helped ! if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me, xxo.
(Rating: 5) Wow, you're right, girls do overthinkthings, we really do! I know it was such a stupid question to ask and i'm probably gunna delete it haha, it's just that i'm a bit insecure atm, and i really need him in my life...but thanks for your advice :) xxx