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Well here is some info about our situation. I am 17 f from Canada, he is 17 m from Usa. We met on the site omegle and ever since have been talking everyday for almost 13 months. We have never met in person. we only see eachother on skype from cam and voice. We have been planning for him to come up and meet me this summer. But...we are still waiting to see if his parents are going to allow him to or not. But there is also an issue of us getting jobs in the summer as well as him gettin the money to come here. Passport and wat not he has 2 get, but hes parents havent said if he is allowed to or not yet. so 4 or 5 months we are thinking a bout meeting. Dunno if its gonna happen though, weve been waiting for an answer for 13 months pretty much. I love him. He loves me. I know we are 17, but we are capable of love and it is my decision if i love some one or not. so please dont say i dont know wat love is. Yes everything is over the computer...you can still fall in love.

Well...i was talking to my cousin lastnit at a hockey game, and she was really talking to me about my whole long distance thing. ALot of wat she said made sense, and i have actually thought about them for months now. the idea that say he couldnt make it to come see me...what do we do then? still sit on the computer everyday and hope hell come next year? I love him so much, but my cousin said that ill regret not dating and doing stuff because im waiting for him. which is true, i feel that way. We both think that no one is going to come our way and that we are the ones for eachother. My cousin also said how his gonna be in college for 4 years...in that 4 years how many times is he gonna see me? which i tihnk is going to be very low not to metion its going to be harder because well only b able to see eachother for like 2 wks then he goes bk. There is alot more things on my mind, but i cant put them into words.

What i am asking is...should we still talk to eachother, but we can still date other people, as long as they know about the whole situation? should we try and do this because our love is so strong for eachother...in the mean while we have no clue how we are gonna be in person because its completly differnt? Should we end it and only b friends, but the thought of that makes me sick...cause we are so simular, he makes me so happy, he makes me laugh, he cares for me so much and does so much for me and hes always here for me. Iv never had a bf before...never kissed or had any physical contact with a guy ever. There is a guy i have been talkint to that wanted to hang out sometime...but id want my first date with Jake (the guy frm usa i talk to), my first kiss with him etc cause it means so much to the both of us, i just dont wanna do that for just anyone one.

There is alot on my mind at this point, it is extremely hard to do this, i cry at points because i just want to feel him or know how he smells or kisses ect. We are young, we do understand the positive and negative parts of this realtionship.

I just dont want us to regret dating within that 4 years or missing out on potential experenices. I dont want us to waste our lives on the computer when we could b in a real relationship with that physical intimacy. but we are perfect for eachother just no in the perfect situation. I cant see myself being with another guy besides him cause he has everything i want and need.

What do you think? Are you in the same situation?
what do you think we should do? Sorry for this being really long...i just have alot on my mind lol.

Ps. He is going to college next year...where there will me tons of new people and girls...so i think in ways us talking to eachother but we can still date is a good way...but he doesnt like it. he doesnt want to loose me. He was on verge of tears lastnit cause he doesnt want me to be with another guy. this is really hard decision...i just need some adive? thank you so much for your time and effort, i really appreciate it! thank you

I'm in a long distance relationship too i think you
two should continue to talk if you feel so strongly about him and you truely can't see yourself with another boy that isn't him if you end it then you
could end up regretting it and you might not be able
to find another boy that has everything you want and
need like he does seeing as every boy is different
i think you should give it a shot there's no harm in
you continuing to talk to him so your relationship progresses in the end the only thing that truely matters is that your happy you've got to do what you think is right i don't think you should date
other people i think you two belong together it's
clear that you both can't live without one another
if your happy with the relationship and him then
continue it why ruin a good thing? :)

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(Rating: 5) thank you so much. that actually cleared up alot of things on my mind. THANKS!!!! times a millon!

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