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i know this is kinda long but if you help me out thank you soo much.
18/f
so me and my ex broke up about 2 months ago (we dated 3 months). he just blew up at me and made me feel like shit so i said i don't need this and ended things with him. a few weeks later he messeged me telling me that he can't stop thinking about me and cried over me and really wants to get back with me and blahblah. i won't get back with him for a few reasons: 1. i can't forget the reason why we broke up and how miserable he made me feel. 2. he doesn't drive and he doesn't have a job so he never can afford to take me anywhere, i don't even think we've been on an actually date. and i have to drive EVERYWHERE 3. he's a year younger than me (i know this is a bad reason but i just feel that the maturity level is different) 4. i have a bad past about giving second chances to guys. i told him that i wouldn't get back with him because i rushed into a relationship with him too soon that i wasn't ready for. however, we've still been talking and hooking up, he's been alot better since we broke up, but i have a feeling he's the kind of guy that wants what he can't have. i like hooking up with him, like he's really cute and everything but i can't picture myself with him.

now i just met this guy at my friends party. he is everything i want in a relationship. he has a job, a license, a car, an amazing personality, athletic, he knows how to have a good time and i just think everything about him is attractive. i really want to date him but what do i tell my ex? i can always just stop talking to my ex but i like him as a friend and i wanna stay good friends so i don't wanna go down that path. soo any advice about this whole situation? thanks soo much

I wouldn't stop talking to your ex completely seeing
as that could hurt him more then he already is i would just tell him that you like him as a friend and you want to continue to be friends with him tell him the truth you'd be giving him a explaination which he deserves i think you should
choose the boy who you met at the party seeing as
you seem confident about him and your ex you seem
unsure and not comfortable with him you've got to do
what makes you happy that's the main thing that counts in the end is your happiness also who you can
see yourself with and who you'd get along with better and have more in common with do what's right
for you(:

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(Rating: 5) thanks you're right. i just hate breaking up with people because i know what its like:/ but i gotta do it.

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