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Hi, I'm Courtney. I want to become a pre-school teacher :] and I've been though a whole heck of a lot, so feel free to ask me anything, i'll do my best to help ! xxo."i refuse to sink."
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ALRIGHTYY! So I'm dating this guy, and he's pretty cool. It's only been like two weeks that we've started dating. I just have this really iffy questionable feeling about this whole thing. He has a real good personality....buuut i'm really not that physically attracted to him. I know people say "looks aren't everything" but in my opinion that is complete bull shit, because hell they matter to everyone at my age! (16.) We've hung out like four times, we've done like everything "sexual" to do except sex and oral. That doesn't matter. But I don't know,when he left my house last night and my brother told me he looked like a rat, I really quickly thought i'd break up with him. I know, sounds so terrible! He's a real cool guy, a good personality. It's just I have other guys talking to me, and I feel at this age I shouldn't be tied down to someone that I have an iffy feeling about in the first place! But then again, I'm worried If I break up withh him the next day I'll totally be regretting it. I don't know, so confused! Can anyone help me out here?
Just because someone calls your boyfriend a rat, doesn't mean you have to break up with him. I think you're looking too much into this, to be honest. I mean, people say things about my byfriend to me all of the time. and they say stuff about me too. But that doesn't chnage our opinion on one of eachother. Despite the fact that I'm in love with him, it wouldn't change my opinion of him anyways what people, say because in the end, it how YOU see him.
If you weren't physically attracted to him you wouldn't have done everything but sex and oral, just face it. You like him. and i think that scares you because yeah, maybe he's not the most gorgeous guy ever, and maybe not everyone is going to be jealous of him, but they will be jealous of your relationship if you have a good one. Because if you like his personality and he's "really cool" then why break up with him ?
Although, I think that if you don't want to be tied down right now, then don't keep him hanging on. Because it's just not fair to him. He's a person to, with feelings, and if you're not feeling it, then you need to end it. Maybe in the future, when you're older, you can have something more serious with him, when you're ready but he might not be there when you actually WANT him.
so think about this..
- if you end it, are you gonna still be friends?
- if you end it, are you gonna miss doing "sexual" things with him?
- if you end it, are you gonna immediatley get with another guy?
- are you thinking about other guys now?
- are you thinking about other guys when you're with him ?
andswer those questions, and you'll know the answer to stay with him or not. you have to do what's best for you. think about what you really want, and not what anyone else wants. this is YOUR life, live it the way you want with who you want. good luck, hope i helped, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me :] ! xxo.
(Rating: 5) best advice ever given to me, thanks so much.