Awww, I know how you feel. Granted, my college wasn't that far away, but I still changed cities and people. None of my friends from HS went to the college I chose.

Talk to your mom on the phone at least once a day. It helps - if you're close, you can tell her about your day, and she'll be a part of your life that way, and you won't feel so separated from her. Call your friends, too. Leave your instant messenger service on so they can leave you messages, and you can talk to them when you get a chance. At some point, travel out to go see your friends, or have them come up to see you.

This isn't the last time you're going to see the people you care about. They're not GONE, and neither are you. You're just away for awhile. I know it's tough to be alone in an unfamiliar place, but if you can stop crying for awhile, go knock on your neighbors' doors and introduce yourself. I'm sure the last thing you want to do right now is meet people, but the sooner you start to make friends, the sooner you start to feel less alone. =)

Go out to your local on-campus cafe with your textbooks and study for awhile. Just being out among other people might make you feel a little better. And hey, if all else fails, notice someone's book and ask what class they're studying for.

I do strongly suggest getting to know the people around you, though. Introduce yourself to your resident assistant, too. He/she might be your best advocate and could be a good friend. Strike up conversations with people in your classes. I'm sure some people are in a similar situation; you're really not as alone as you feel.

As far as not having the strength, yes you do. You're doing something great, you're furthering your education. You HAVE to force yourself to keep going. Listen to your brain - you're feeling depressed and alone. Therefore, the best thing to do is to not allow yourself to actually BE alone.

Branch out, reach out. Just because you feel something doesn't mean it's the reality. Feeling alone and depressed doesn't always mean BEING alone and depressed...and you can control that.

Chin up, things will get better. Dry your eyes and smile at someone. =)

Siren

thanks that helped alot.... i met a few people today and am feeling a little better. great advice!

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I have made the decision to dedicate my life and career to helping others. I am here to do just that.

I've been a member since 2004, and since I signed up, I've gone through quite a lot and learned quite a lot from it. I'm here to give guidance where I had none; no one should have to go through the difficulties I went through alone.

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