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Hi, I'm Courtney. I want to become a pre-school teacher :] and I've been though a whole heck of a lot, so feel free to ask me anything, i'll do my best to help ! xxo."i refuse to sink."
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So my bestfriend just got a new boyfriend. When they first started going out they really didn't talk much and now he is her whole life. Which means she has forgotten about everyone else including me. We used to hang out all the time but I've only hung out with her twice this summer and both times she has blown me off for her boyfriend. He also isn't very nice to her and will ignore her and stuff. So i just want a nice way to tell her that her friends matter too but I don't want her to get mad at me. So any advice helps. Thank you!
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Alright, this is a tough situation, but you haveta understand that if you don't speak up, you'll never be heard. So take it from me [since i've been on both sides of this equation] that you have to talk about it, no matter how mad you think she'll get afterwards. If you take a nice approach to it, she shouldn't get mad. In your postion, being her really good friend, she'll want to hear what you think, but you can't just be like, "uhm, have you forgotten abot your friends? what the hell." you should say something like, "hey girl ! It's been forever, you like dissapeared off the face of the earth ! haha come back into my life :] lets hang out with the girls on [pick a date] at [pick a place] :]" if you talk to her about it in a nice way and a fun way like carefree, she won't react in a negative way. she'll feel wanted and missed. and feel free to tell her that you miss her and that you want to spend more time with her hahaa you could even say, "geeze girl ! your boyfriend is hogging you ! I want some of your time too, tell him you're with me all day on [pick a date] at [pick a place]" hahaa it's those kinda ways you say it that make the difference on how the conversation will go. and if that doesnt work, talk to her seriously about it, tell her EXACTLY what you told us on advicenators and that you dont want her to be mad but that you really mss your friend :[ yuh know ?
Hope I helped ! tell me how it goes, good luck :] and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me ! xxo.
(Rating: 5) Hey thank you this really helped! I took your advice and we are gonna hang out this week. So thank you so much! =)