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Im sorry for making this long but i would REALLY REALLY appreciate your help
Ok well im 17 and my girlfriend was 15. She broke up with me because she's to scared to lose me. She said when were together she feels like nothing can go wrong. But we don't get to see eachother as much as we want to and she starts missing me. She thinks alot and it always ends up ending what we have (its happened before). I love her but she says she wont be able to handle it when i leave for college. Which is only a couple of miles away, but we wont be seeing eachother at school. I tried to convince her that everything would be alright but she wont trust me. She said she wants to be friends so nothing will go wrong and she wont have to worry.
We see things very differently. She wants to be close friends and i dont. I see it as im looking at someone who i care about more then a friend but cant have. And she sees it as someone that she had a good relationship with.
I dont know what we are or what we are going to be. But i want us to be together, i want her to trust me. But i dont think thats going to happen. I dont know if this would change anything but she said that she's unhappy that i dont talk to her family alot.
My question is what do you think about this? What do you recommend that i do? And how is she feeling?
We broke up a couple of days ago and i think it was on the 3rd day that i agreed to being friends. Which i usually do after we break up. There's alot more to this question, ive been writing to vent. And i realized that she really doesnt love me. When we were together i was happy but it took us breaking up and me having the time to think about our relationship to see that.
Some of the reasons
. She would do stuff that would bother me even though they would bother her if i did them (such as talking to her ex which she's used as a excuse to breaking up with me)
. Push me to changing things about myself (being more talkative to other people, gaining more weight). I know it doesn't sound bad, but she said she wasn't happy with me not having those things.
I know she doesn't love me but i still miss her. Like i told you ive been writing alot. If she were to say she wanted to get back together do you think i should bring up my writings even if they might be hurtful? Or just forgive and try to forget? (link)
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Honestly she is only 15, From what you've written above it sounds like she doesn't exactly know what she wants just yet. Dumping someone because you are afraid you are going to loose them or don't want to loose them isn't really a good enough reason to leave someone if you ask me. In every relationship there is always a risk of loosing someone and it not working out. If that was truely the reason she would of stayed friends instead of trying in the first place. It could be that she put it in a nice way but wants to see other people (Just guessing don't chew my head off) Try talking to her about it, If she just wants to stay friends after that and she is dead set on it then maybe that is what it should be. However if you do don't try to get sympathy out of her as sometimes that only makes the other person walk away even more. If you don't think you should be friends than tell her that.
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Rating: 5
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I dont think your right about her wanting to see other people since she's given me this reason a couple of times. But whether she wants to or not i guess the best thing would be to get over her. Thanks for your advice
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