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Hello.... My name is Sara. Im 22 F.....I guess my question story is this.... I was in a relationship with my ex for five years. We were highschool sweethearts...It had been a rocky road for us and we had our breaks and break ups...but we always got better and ended up with eachother in the end. I loved him in every way I could...with everything I had. A few years ago, while I was living in another city (only 2 hours away) for college, he confessed to me that he had sent graphic nude, and explicit images of himself to his then 13 year old step sister....and she had sent them back. He was 21.
I had never cried so hard in my life, and even though it was probably stupid of me, I loved him, and took him back. its been almost 3 years since then. And over this valentines day, he proposed. I said yes. Life was amazing ya know? well...3 months into the engagement, I came across some old emails between his step sister and him that just were "off"....and it lead me to question him. Well, as it turns out, while we were on a break, he had sent and recieved pictures from her again, used them as pornography, and talked to her about how badly he wanted to be physical with her. this was when she was 15...he was 22. He was trying to hide it from me and never planned on telling me what he had done with her agian. And 2 months before our wedding, i had found out.....
Funny thing is, I wanted to go to counciling. I wanted to hold off on the wedding and work on us. He showed nearly no remorse for what he did. Never really talked to me when I was crying, never really held me...not the way you should when you see the person you are saposed to love that hurt. and you are the one who hurt them....and he left.
Its been a couple months...I am seeing an AMAZING man, who treats me so well, and in all fairness to him does know EVERYTHING, and is helping me get through this. But I recently found out that my ex is now dating his step sister. living in the same house with her and their whole family...the family is ok with it....she is 16 he is 23....and it is disgusting. I cant just cut off all ties with him because he is in the same click of friends that I am...his best friends are my best friends....and I am having en extremely hard time coming to terms with this. He has cussed me out for telling him I think he is disgusting, and finally coming clean with our friends as to the REAL reason our marriage failed, as to what lies he was telling them, and has told me he hopes I die...he has called me an F'ing Bitch, a chicken shit and F'ing puss(because I would ignore his multiple calls)and the C word. I cant take this. and I dont know how to handel it. Do does anyone have advice?? ANyone know of any support groups for such a thing? Or even just someone to talk to, or has been through something similar. Im drowning in my own hate...and I am not this girl.....I am falling for the man I am with, but he deserves more than to put up with this bullshit. Im not selfish like that. any advice??? (link)
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Okay honestly not only does this guy have some serious issues, but his STEPSISTER? Also, It is illegal for anyone over the age of 18 to be having a sexual relationship with someone who is a minor or any relationship that is inappropriate for that matter. If I were you I would report it, It is illegal and for someone to even THINK of a family member in that way is just clearly wrong..and whether they are blood related or not it's called "incest". Girl, Do what is right and turn that damn idiot in.
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Rating: 5
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Thank you for your input. Its really great advice. I know I should turn him in...Im going to talk to the police and see if there is anything I can even do because there is no proof...They will all lie to cover their own asses....I know that familt all too well....thank you so much for your help! It really means alot to me.
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